Society has either made dating too glorified or hated among young men and women. Honestly, I can say that I was one of those girls who looked at a couple and said to my BFF, "Ugh, never ever let me get like that". It's so true what they say, you don't understand until you're in their shoes. So, from a fellow girlfriend to fellow BFFs and even strangers, please stop saying these things. It's super annoying. *Eye roll*
1. "You're with him too much."
Uh, duh? He's my boyfriend? So, I choose a kid that I like being around and is fun to be around? Why would I not want to spend time with my fun-ass boyfriend? Also, what I do with my time is my business--and I'm having fun. I hope you are too.
2. "Why do you let your boyfriend control your life?"
I absolutely, positively do not let him or anyone else, for that matter control my life. I let him know where I'm going and who I am with for a reason--respect. I maturely think, how would I like it if he never told me. R E S P E C T. If he honestly doesn't think it's a good idea, I'll respect his gut feeling and probably go with it.
3. "You're literally so whipped."
I'm sorry, what? Because I do what he asks of me, and he does the same? It's also another respect thing. Obviously, if the request is absurd, you'll hear me saying absolutely not. But, as my boyfriend. He would never ask something of me that makes me feel uncomfortable.
4. "Do you honestly think that you're going to stay together for long?"
I mean that sort of why we're dating- because I can see myself marrying him? I mean, isn't that the whole point of dating? I've met so many high school sweethearts, college lovers, and even people that fell in love within 6 months. Love doesn't have a time limit, color or gender. Love is love, ladies and gents--it's 2017.
5. "Aren't you sick of him?"
Do you ever get sick of yourself? I mean, whoever says it feels it right? I mean, no. I'm dating him right? Am I committed to just be with him for the long run? Do you know how relationships wooorrrrrkkk??
6. "You're too young to be tied down already, you're missing out."
I'm super proud of young men and women who choose to be alone, and have fun with themselves, I mean that's great. But please realized that just like I can have fun with my boyfriend, I can have fun with my family, friends and myself. I think that I'm more mature realizing that the world is so much bigger than yourself and I'm learning how to manage myself between the three.
7. "I don't need a man to make me happy!"
Awesome, good for you--seriously! It's not that I need him to be happy. Does he make me happy? 110%. But being with him also taught me how to make myself happy.
8. "Aw, you're still in the honeymoon stage--just wait until you get through that."
People have made up these stupid ass stages that define what part of the relationship you are in. "You don't even know each other's flaws yet"... BRUH, PUH-LEASE. Stop trying to understand what we have or define what my relationship is.
9. "Ew..."
My bad y'all. I just showed affection to my boyfriend. I know it's so totally gross, but seriously get over it. What are we 12? We're not getting hot and heavy in front of you. Showing affection to your loved one is totally normal. Your comments, however, are totally out of line.
10. "I was going to invite you but I figured you'd be with your boyfriend anyway!"
I mean, like, you threw a banger at your house, you couldn't have just thrown out an invite to the both of us? If it's a girls' night, why couldn't you just let me know? It's seriously simple nowadays. Just send a text. There is literally no reason not to invite someone just because of their relationship status.
Do you get it now?
Thank you!