10 Qualities I Want In Myself As A Future Wife

10 Qualities I Want In Myself As A Future Wife

If we make lists about our expectations for husbands, shouldn't we do the same for ourselves?

Whether it is limited to dressing up as a child or extends into an adulthood obsession with Pinterest planning, every girl has dreamed about a magical wedding day. It comes with a lot of expectations, especially for the bride, and you can never start preparing too soon, right? Some of those expectations, though, aren’t just for that one day, but are for that one man who will be waiting at the other end of the aisle. I made a list of things I would not compromise on in future relationships (if I ever had any) when I was 12. I have been incredibly blessed with a boyfriend who easily met every one of my requirements and has far surpassed any expectations I had. And while I’m so very thankful for that, I’ve been challenged recently to create a different list of expectations. This time, instead of writing down what I want in a husband, I’ve written down what I want in myself as a future wife. If I have expectations for him, I should hold myself to the same standards, right?

This is my list of 10 things I’m going to start praying for in myself as a future wife. As a side note, the first item on my list is first for a reason, but the others I rank as having mostly equal importance. So they are not ordered by how important I find them, but more as just a flow of my thoughts.

1. God-focused.

As a Christian, I fully believe that I need no one but God. While I love my boyfriend, I don’t need him. I love my friends and family, but I don’t need them either. Clothes, money, food, shelter…everything the world’s standards say I need, I truly don’t. As long as I have God, I’m set. For if I have God, he’ll provide what I need, though it may not necessarily be what I want. That doesn’t mean I can shirk all responsibility and expect him to hand me my next rent check, but it does mean that I am ultimately dependent on him and him alone.

2. Faithful.

Ultimately, I want to always be faithful to God, and by default I will always be faithful to my husband. I know that there will be days when we will both be frustrated and hurt and confused, but marriage is an eternal vow and commitment. There’s no going back. And with God’s faithfulness to love us, I know we can be faithful to love each other even when we don’t necessarily like each other.

3. Respectful.

I’m stubborn. I always have been, and I probably always will be. It can be hard for me to let things I want go, but I pray that I will be a wife that respects her husbands decisions (as long as they are respectful ones), and is faithful to love him even when I don’t agree.

4. Peaceable.

When we argue, and we will argue, I want to have a heart that is full of God’s peace, a heart that does not get easily angered or frustrated. I want a heart that will fight to love, not love to fight.

5. Communicative and honest.

I’ve combined these two because honesty is an essential part of communication and communication is essential to any relationship. A marriage without communication will fail. A marriage without honesty will fail. So I pray that my words will be often, easy and true.

6. Wise.

Wisdom is something I’ve started constantly praying for. As Proverbs 9:10 says, The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom, and the knowledge of the Holy One is insight.” I pray that I will be wise not by the world’s standards or my standards or any other standards but God’s. Sometimes wisdom means being practical, and sometimes wisdom means going with your gut and following your dreams. It’s not about head knowledge or facts. Wisdom is discernment of what to do with that knowledge. It’s being attuned to God’s heart.

7. Patient

Patience is a virtue…a virtue I don’t have. Too often I dwell on future possibilities, hopes and dreams, which results in present discontent. Too often I get frustrated by having to wait for something or by the stupidity of the world in general. I want to be a wife who can sit still and listen, someone who knows when to keep quiet and when to speak. I want to be a wife who can wait without worrying. I want to be a wife who is patient, who is full of God’s settling peace.

8. Joyful

I can be a pessimistic person. It’s my default. And knowing it’s my default, I know that finding joy in God is something I have to fight for. As a future wife, I want to be a woman whose joy reflects the heart of God and encourages my husband to have the same hope I do in our unfailing Creator.

9. Flexible.

Not physically. I don’t think I’ll ever be physically flexible. I want to be a person who makes plans (because that’s part of my nature), but is easily able to give them up in favor of something else, if need be (because that’s not part of my nature). My boyfriend has no trouble making plans on the fly, going with the flow. I, however, constantly fear getting caught up in that flow and dragged under by the current. I pray that I would be a woman who is not afraid of uncertainty, but rather sees the freedom and opportunity in lack of or change in plans.

10. Strong.

I have never been and likely never will be very physically strong. Injury is my constant companion. But, I pray I am a wife who is strong of character. I don’t mean bossy. I mean strong of heart and mind, full of the strength of spirit that can only come from God. Truly, I have no strength of my own. It is all from him and only him. I pray for his sustaining strength in all my constant weaknesses of heart, mind and flesh. I pray that I will not look for fulfillment in my husband. No, my husband will be just as broken and bent as I am. While he can support and encourage me, only God can fully satisfy.

This is not a perfect list because I’m not a perfect person. These are my desires, and you might have very different ones. And I know I will never meet all of these expectations for myself. I am human. But I pray that my desire for these qualities will teach me to pursue God first and my future husband second, to give myself grace when I mess up and to find my worth in my Creator, not myself or anyone else.

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16 Wedding Gifts Under $50 That'll Have Any Wedding Guest Say 'I Do'

Because being on a budget doesn't mean you have to arrive at a wedding empty-handed.


If you're on a budget but have a wedding to go to, it can be hard to find an affordable wedding gift you can buy for the bride and groom. You don't want to show up empty-handed, but you also don't want to spend an arm and a leg on a gift when there are plenty of other people attending who are better off affording certain items. (A good rule of thumb? Always try to "pay for your plate" — or the cost of what the bride and groom likely paid for you to be there.)

Most of the time, there are lots of things you can find on a registry under $50. Whether it be towels, a waffle maker or oven mitts, you can usually find SOMETHING in your price range. If not, this list is for you.

Brides-to-be: Here is a list of things to add to your wedding registry for your broke AF friends.

Broke friends: Here is a list of things to get if everything on your friend's list is way out of your price range.

1. Personalized cutting board

Personalized Cutting Board, 12 Designs & 3 Sizes, Bamboo Cutting Board, Wedding Gifts for Couple, Housewarming Gift & Kitchen Sign - Butcher Block Inlay Board #G

2. Cookbook

The Complete Cooking for Two Cookbook, Gift Edition: 650 Recipes for Everything You'll Ever Want to Make

3. Meat and cheese board

Bamboo Cheese Board and Knife Set - Charcuterie Board Set for Cheese Platter. Wood Serving Tray For Wine, Meat, Appetizers, Snacks - Entertaining Kitchenware Gift Ideas for Wedding and Housewarming

4. Handheld vacuum

Handheld Vacuum Cordless, HUNLEE 5KPA Powerful Suction Hand Vacuum Cordless Cleaner Rechargeable Hand Vac with 2.5h Quick Charge, Lightweight Hand Held Vacuum Cordless for Home and Car Cleaning

5. Carry on

COOLIFE Luggage Expandable(only 28") Suitcase PC+ABS Spinner 20in 24in 28in Carry on (White Grid New, S(20in)_Carry on)

6. Blender

NutriBullet NBR-1201 12-Piece High-Speed Blender/Mixer System, Gray (600 Watts)

7. Crock-Pot

Crock-Pot SCCPVL610-S-A 6-Quart Cook & Carry Programmable Slow Cooker with Digital Timer Stainless Steel

8. Bathroom towels

Luxury Hotel & Spa Bath Towel 100% Genuine Turkish Cotton, 27" x 54", Set of 4, White

9. Waffle maker

Cuisinart WAF-F10 Belgian Waffle Maker, Stainless Steel

10. Tools

DEKOPRO 128 Piece Tool Set-General Household Hand Tool Kit, Auto Repair Tool Set, with Plastic Toolbox Storage Case

11. Kitchen tools

Stainless Steel Kitchen Utensil Set - 29 Cooking Utensils - Nonstick Kitchen Utensils Cookware Set with Spatula - Best Kitchen Gadgets Kitchen Tool Set Gift by HomeHero

12. Baking dishes

Staub Ceramic 2-pc Rectangular Baking Dish Set - Rustic Red

13. Kitchen Towels

The Weaver's Blend Set of 3 Kitchen Towels + 3 Dish Cloths, Basket Weave, 100% Cotton, Absorbent, Size 28"x18" and 12'x12", Yellow Stripe, Kitchen Towels and Dish Cloths

14. Cute AF oven mitts

RED LMLDETA Oven Mitts Set of 2 with Transparent Clear Silicone Shell and Nice Dog Printing Cotton Lining, Heat Resistant to 500 F Kitchen Oven Gloves Pot Holder for Cooking (Blue)

15. Kitchen knife

J.A. Henckels International CLASSIC 8" Chef's Knife

16. Pizza cutter

16" Pizza Cutter by Kitchenstar | Sharp Stainless Steel Slicer Knife - Rocker Style w Blade Cover | Chop and Slices Perfect Portions + Dishwasher Safe - Premium Pizza Accessories

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10 Bible Quotes For The Engaged Couple That Can't Wait To Say 'I Do'

Make some room for Jesus in your head that's full of wedding bells.


Getting engaged is one of the most exciting experiences in a person's life. The whole world finally has more of an understanding of how deep and unconditional your love is for each other. After all, you have officially promised to spend the rest of eternity with that special person!

For many Christians, getting engaged is also a time for the couple to seek religious guidance.

Here are 10 Bible quotes that any couple anxious to say "I Do" should read.

1. 2 Corinthians 4:18

"So we fix our eyes not on what is seen, but on what is unseen, since what is seen is temporary, but what is unseen is eternal."

2. 1 Corinthians 13: 4-5

"Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs."

3. Isaiah 62:5

"As a young man marries a young woman, so will your Builder marry you; as a bridegroom rejoices over his bride, so will your God rejoice over you."

4. Matthew 19:6

"What God has joined together let no man put asunder."

5. Romans 12:9-10

"Love must be sincere. Hate what is evil; cling to what is good. Be devoted to one another in love. Honour one another above yourselves."

6. Proverbs 31:10-11

"An excellent wife who can find? She is far more precious than jewels. The heart of her husband trusts in her, and he will have no lack of gain."

7. John 15:12

"My command is this: Love each other as I have loved you."

8. Mark 10:7-8

"For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh. So they are no longer two, but one flesh."

9. Proverbs 18:22

"He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favour from the Lord."

10. Ecclesiastes 4:9-10

"Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor: If either of them falls down, one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up."

Congratulations on your engagement, and remember to keep God close by for every step of the way.

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