10 Signs That Your Boyfriend Is Actually Your Best Friend

10 Signs That Your Boyfriend Is Actually Your Best Friend

Just as Hannah Montana said, "You get the best of both worlds"
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Before I was in a relationship, I found it so weird that girls and guys found their SO their best friend. Now that I am in one for almost a year I realized that I look at my boyfriend as more than just my boyfriend. He's my absolute best friend, I figured that out so quickly into the relationship.

1. You call him with all of your "girl drama"

He could honestly probably care less about what you and your girlfriends are fighting about today, but he'll listen because he loves you. He'll probably give you some cute advice that will make you smile because he's just so "cute" when he tries to help. It's nice to always have someone on your side. (Hint: It's always nice to have a boyfriend to tell because he's a boy and won't tell your friends about anything because again, he probably could care less.)


2. You let one loose around him.

You know exactly what I'm talking about- a FART. Farting is probably the most anticipated event in a relationship (besides the first kiss). But, take it from me, letting the first one go is always the most awkward but once you fart, you never go back. You'll probably find your inner first grader and crack up every time you hear a "toot".


3. He's your ideal shopping partner!

You always call your boo to come to the mall with you to help you find the perfect outfit for the weekend. He's always the first one, to be honest about what outfits he likes best or just talk you into buying all three!! He wouldn't want his baby walking around looking a mess!


4. He's basically a part of your family!

Remember when you were 12 and you were allowed to bring a friend on vacation and such, and you always picked your best friend? Well, now that you're older you always pick him in accompanying you and your family on vacation or at dinner. Your family loves him, and at family parties, he's always seen dancing the night away with your mom and dad!


5. You'd prefer hanging out with him doing absolutely nothing rather than doing anything else.



You love when he invites you to his house or offers to spend the night at yours because it's probably the purest form of fun ever. You always have fun together no matter what it is. And of course, when it's time to part your ways you're found tugging on his leg in tears begging him not to go.


6. You don't always have to look "flawless" in front of him during those preferred hangouts.

End up having a sleep over? Waking up with no makeup on doesn't even phase you both. Even just hanging out in each other houses doesn't call for an hour of makeup. You simply just walk out the door and he'll make you feel absolutely flawless either way.


7. You're so comfortable with each other's weirdness that embarrassment isn't a thing.


I mean he's your best friend, nothing that you can possibly say or do is embarrassing and you never feel judged when you're around him. Whether you're just cracking stupid jokes or dancing like a weirdo, you can always expect him to join or tell you you're stupid and laugh anyway.


8. You don't need words to judge people


You simply just look at each other and chances are that you're thinking exactly what each other is thinking.


9. He brings out the best in you.

He literally can change your mood from a 0 to 100 so quick. He can make you feel better when your sick with just a kiss on the cheek or being there when you need him. He gives the best advice and cuddles on your worst days.


10. Your fights are probably over picking a place to eat or what to watch.

...and you can get over them in seconds. You're the king and queen of compromises and talking things out. Like going to Wendy's for dinner so you don't have to get dressed up or pay too much.



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8 Qualities That Still Hold Up When Looking For The 'Perfect Guy' In 2019

He hasn't come along yet, but I'll know him when I see him.

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Ah, the mythical "perfect guy." Technically, he doesn't exist.

But there are guys that seem perfect to the people who love them despite their flaws. Over the years, I've compiled a mental list of things I look for in a guy. The list has changed over the years as different things became important to me. It's probably as complex and comprehensive now as it'll ever get, but I can't be sure.

The following are in order of importance, at least for me. Here are the best qualities to look for in a man in 2019:

1. Having strong faith.

This is crucial! I'm Christian, so for me, that means if he's not a Christian, it's a dealbreaker. My morals and beliefs are very strongly linked to my faith in God, and I just can't be with someone who doesn't share that conviction. I wouldn't marry a man who's not a Christian, so why even bother dating one?

"Imagine a man so focused on God that the only reason he looked up to see you is because he heard God say, 'That's her.'"

2. Kind

This is also very important! I've liked guys in the past who had some of the other qualities I looked for I but weren't kind. A relationship without kindness is toxic. Everyone deserves someone who treats them well, but that person should treat everyone well. They shouldn't discriminate with their kindness.

3. Funny

I need a guy who can make me laugh! He also needs to be able to understand my sense of humor, which is mostly sarcasm. I find a lot of things funny: jokes, puns, memes, no matter how seemingly stupid. If you've got those, you're golden.

4. Smart

Intelligence is attractive. It's true. I want a guy who's smart but isn't conceited. He knows he knows a lot but he doesn't think he's better than everyone else. He doesn't have to be a genius. He could be really smart in one subject, or kind of smart in many subjects. I just want him to know a thing or two about a thing or two.

5. Hardworking

My guy needs to be ambitious. He needs to have goals that he works toward. He can't be lazy. I believe that it is primarily the man's duty to financially support his woman. This is most applicable in marriage, but it works in dating relationships, too. I don't want someone who is unable to provide for me. In order to do that, he needs to be able to provide for himself.

6. Cute

You knew I'd get to this! I'm not blind, after all. Trust me, I think it's important for a guy to be attractive. But it's not as important as everything listed above this. I've been told I have weird taste in guys in terms of looks. What I see as cute doesn't always line up with society's definition. The important thing is that I'm attracted to him. Physical attraction is important in a relationship. To be picky: I don't like facial hair or too much muscle. I do like chest hair and back muscles.

7. Creative

This can mean a lot of different things. He could draw, paint, write, sing, play an instrument, etc. As long as it shows that he's inclined to use the right side of his brain. I'm a writer, so I'm naturally more drawn to people who prefer creativity over logic.

8. Interested in Me

Despite being last, this is extremely important! Without this, none of the other things matter. It's just like every other crush I've ever had. Nothing different. Nothing special. While I've been able to find guys who exhibit the first seven qualities, the eighth has been much harder to come by. I've never been in a relationship, so I imagine it will be really wonderful when I eventually find someone who reciprocates my feelings.


Some people may think my standards are too high, but I refuse to lower them. I believe that God has someone out there for me who lives up to these standards and even exceeds them. I just have to be patient and trust His timing.

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The Friend You Like Romantically Doesn't Owe You Anything

The friend-zone can be escaped, but not in the way you might want
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We've all heard the story of the "friend-zone." Boy is in love with his best friend, she dates all the wrong guys and fails to notice how perfect he is, then eventually realizes how wrong she was and they live happily ever after.

I used to think that the friend-zone was a myth that lonely men created to feel better about themselves. But then I got friend-zoned myself.

Yes, it sucked, but the second I realized I had feelings for a friend (that I knew had no such feelings for me), I decided to suppress the feelings. When that wasn't enough, I cut them off for a bit, then, slowly, I felt OK. I could communicate with them without having unwanted romantic feelings pop up. I had escaped the friend-zone.

Having gone through that, I had more sympathy for someone I had to friend-zone a little while later. I had been friends with this guy for a few months. I didn't have many college friends yet and I was really lonely, so having his company really meant a lot at the time.

This caused me to not be able to see what should have been clear: he had a crush on me. When I finally made the realization, I immediately let him know that I didn't feel that way about him. He said it was OK, but I could tell it wasn't.

We didn't talk at all over the summer and when we came back for the fall semester, he would barely look at me. I had started dating his friend, which caused an even bigger rift between us.

Though I understand where he's coming from, I was also really mad at him for a long time.

It was as if he was only nice to me because he wanted romance in return. But people are not vending machines. You can't put in your "nice guy" coins and expect love, sex, or whatever the hell it is you want in return.

It hurt me to know that he only wanted romance and once that was off the table, he no longer wanted anything to do with me.

But then I thought back to the friend that had friend-zoned me. Unrequited affections really suck, especially when they're for someone that you spend a lot of time with. But the key is to work to escape it.

Yes, liking someone you're friends with and them not liking you back is a real thing, but people tend to treat the friend-zone like this mythic hell dimension that can never be escaped. But you can escape. Just maybe not in the way you'd like to.

Now there are three ways you can escape the friend-zone:

The first option is to confess your feelings and try to win them over. Now, this isn't completely unheard of. I've had friends that have dated people who had previously friend-zoned them, but it's extremely rare and risky. You have to risk your entire friendship in order to do this. If it doesn't work out, it could strain the friendship or sometimes break it beyond repair.

You can also do what my ex-friend did and completely cut the person off. If you're being a love-zombie and only doing nice things for the friend because you expect romance in return, leaving the situation might be the most healthy decision for you. I understand now that my friend might have stopped talking to me out of self-preservation. But it still hurts the people involved.

The third and final option is to just get over it. It's harsh, but it's real. Why try something you know is going to fail and cause pain to both sides? Yes, getting over crushes can be really difficult, but getting a normal friendship back rather than being stuck a love-zombie for them is worth the pain.

Whichever one you choose, just remember this: Your friends do not owe you any romantic affection. The work you put into making them happy should just come out of the goodness of your own heart. If you expect romance in return, you're not being a good friend to them. If you really care about them, don't put that kind of pressure on them. They don't want a mindless love-zombie that does their bidding for the hope that they'll get a tiny love kernel out of it. They just want a friend.

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