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What It's Like Being A 20-Year-Old Virgin In The 21st Century

For now, I wait. And that is perfectly okay.
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Sex. The topic we only spoke of in hushed tones in the past has quickly become a part of our everyday interactions. It seems to be the center of our motivations, thoughts, actions, and feelings. This is the reason I don't feel uncomfortable dedicating this week's article to the subject. Now, mom and dad, if you're reading this, I won't be offended if you stop. I'd actually be quite happy. Everybody else, do me a favor and ask yourself this:

What does it mean to be a virgin in today's society?

There is a social stigma associated with being a virgin. We're all prudes, are mega-religious, and have never even thought about what it would be like to share a night with Ryan Gosling. Right? Wrong. I promise you the majority of virgins you'll meet are virgins by choice - not because their moms have them chained to a metal post with their legs strapped shut. I've been racking my brain about questions and concerns and the million-dollar-question I have for y'all is: If it's no big deal to have sex, then why is it a big deal not to have sex? I mean really, whose business is it anyway?

I feel the criticism from my own doctor at times. She'd ask, "Are you sexually active?" I'd respond with a lightening fast "No", which she'd follow with a quick sigh and an even quicker response, "Have you ever been sexually active?" Unreal.

In a culture so consumed by "Netflix and chill" and the infamous right swipe, it's hard not to constantly wonder when (and with who) my time will come. It's almost like we're racing against the clock of chastity. I wonder if Marie Curie, Rosa Parks, or Amelia Earhart worried about who'd swipe their V-card as much as I do? Probably not, they were too busy making the world a better place.

I can't go a day without hearing about sex, talking about sex, or honestly... thinking about sex (sorry, dad). I remember a time when it was "shocking" to discover anybody was having sex and now it's "shocking" to discover anybody isn't. The reactions I get when people discover I still hold the key to my innocence aren't only mildly insulting but sad. When did it become shameful to be a virgin? I'm only 20 years old. I've only lived 1/4 of my life and in no means do I feel rushed to get down and dirty.

Don't get me wrong, I didn't plan for my life to go this way. Shocker, but my Magic 8-Ball didn't prepare me for this. I am a huge supporter of doing what you want, when you want, and with whom you want to do it with. Hell, half of my friends aren't virgins and I'm happy for them. They were with someone they loved (or at least liked) and made a choice. I've made a choice too. I am evolving with the world around me and taking life one wine bottle at a time. I don't want to settle for less than I deserve. I want somebody who loves me, respects me, and understands where I'm coming from.

I'm prepared to deal with the douchebags and the nobody losers who can't deal with the decision I've made equally as much as I'm prepared to meet the guy who can.

For now, I wait. And that is perfectly okay.

Cover Image Credit: Bustle

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To The Person Who Showed Me Not Settling Was Absolutely Worth The Wait

There comes a time where you meet the person who lights your soul with fire and love and it shows you why you didn't settle for less.

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To The Person Who Showed Me Not Settling Was Absolutely Worth It,

You came into my life and you've given me a lot of things - more than I could ever name off in this article, but a lot nonetheless.

You showed me no matter how many times people have showed me that I'm hard to love, that loving me to you is easy. You showed me that despite my insecurities about myself, that it's possible to find a person who embraces those things I hate about myself, and makes me forget them and sometimes even love them.

You showed me, among so many other things, that I could meet my sunshine in a person - the person who makes me forget all the bad things I've gone through. The person who has shown me that there's sunshine on the other side and that you can show me all your light and help light my dark too.

You showed me that there are people who WILL cherish the things I do for them.

That there are people who don't and won't get angry or upset at my successes but who will share my excitement with me and who will encourage me to keep going in order to achieve more and do what I've always wanted to do.

You showed me there are people who want the encouragement that I've had to give and those who want to grow in personal successes with me. You showed me that there's someone who wants to be with me, wants to love me like I deserve to be loved, wants to spend time with me, wants to be there for the dark times, and so much more.

You showed me all the good things, and although I know there will eventually be rough moments, you give me the faith and hope that working through them is the best choice, and giving up isn't an option.

You showed me loyalty, love, kindness, and so much more. You showed me that there are still people out there who are full of light no matter how many times life has shown them it's dark sides - this reminding me of myself, as I always try to stay positive through the darkest times.

All these things you've brought to me - love, faith, encouragement, light, and everything else you've given, if I had settled I would've never met you and at this point, having to imagine a point without you is a point I don't want to reach.

I adore you and love the fire and sunshine in your soul - thank you for showing me all these things. Here's to our time together to grow in love, but no matter where life takes us, I'll always be thankful for the things you've showed me.

Love, me.

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