10 Things You Shouldn't Get Mad At Your Boyfriend For

10 Things You Shouldn't Get Mad At Your Boyfriend For

Give your mind and your man a break! Don't be a push over, but don't overreact.
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Ladies, let's be honest, we have the tendency to overreact or jump to conclusions.

We're all guilty of overthinking things, getting emotional and we're almost almost always "hangry."

Unfortunately, men often suffer the consequences of these traits that women were so graciously blessed with. This doesn't mean you have to be a total pushover. They are no where near perfect, and neither are we! You are your own person and you are entitled to your thoughts and feelings. You're totally allowed to interpret things in your own way and if something hurts your feelings or bothers you, by all means, speak up for yourself. A man who truly loves you will respect the fact that you have a backbone and aren't afraid to be open with your feelings and upfront.

In fact, it makes their life easier when they don't have to sit there and play the guessing game with you trying to figure out what's really wrong behind the "nothing" answer you keep offering. My main point of this is not to encourage women to allow themselves to be walked all over. My point is to offer reasons not to overreact. Before you start blasting the entire "Lemonade" album start to finish, hear me out.

From one woman to another, give your mind and your man a break! Don't get mad at him for:


1. Having a "Guys" night.


First of all, guys NEED this time to well, do what guys do. You can't get mad at him for spending time with his friends, just like he doesn't have the right to get mad at you for hanging out with your friends in return. Every hour of his free time doesn't have to be dedicated to you. You guys both need to have that time with your friends. Just because he's spending time with his friends grabbing a few drinks or watching the game doesn't mean that he doesn't want to hang out with you. He's not choosing them over you. There needs to be a balance in a relationship. You can't isolate yourself as a couple, your friends are just as important. Don't forget to have time with your friends too! It's so healthy to have a little space or hang out in big groups.


2. Not texting you during the day.

Women have somehow interpreted this as a guy not putting enough effort into their relationship, or that they aren't making them feel special. Did I mention we tend to overthink things? Please keep in mind that he has a life. He works, might go to school, he has things he needs to get done. It doesn't mean he doesn't think of you, and it doesn't mean you're any less important to him. His texting habits aren't always a reflection of his feelings for you or the effort he puts in to the relationship itself. Don't jump to conclusions. Also, remember that you need to be out there doing your thing too. You don't have to be glued to your phone either. Get out in the world and conquer your day, and encourage your man to do the same. Be a power couple.


3. "Liking" another girl's picture on social media.

It's just a "like." It doesn't mean that he likes the girl, or that he is talking to her in an inappropriate manner. It could be a friend he has had since before you even knew each other. It could simply be because it's a cool picture. Don't allow yourself to be threatened over this. Obviously, there are certain people's pictures that he probably shouldn't be liking, like his ex, or a girl that you guys have had issues with in the past, I get that. You should obviously always be respectful of your significant other's feelings. Other than that, be easy on the guy. It's just a "like."


4. Going out without you.

I get that him going to a bar without you can be a little worrisome. Your imagination gets the best of you, and you can get anxious as you make up little scenarios in your head. Relax. You should be dating someone you trust completely. If you're in a healthy relationship, you should have no problem with them going out and doing their thing. They can go out and have beers with the guys and not do wrong by you. Try not to overthink things, and trust the guy you're with. They shouldn't be expected to stay in if you can't go out with them, and vice versa. It's a two way street, try to overcome that double-standard we tend to have. You should expect to be trusted enough to go out without him, and you should trust him enough in return. If he wants to abuse your trust and do wrong by you and your relationship, then you will know that he isn't worthy of being your man. Otherwise, have faith, people.


5. Having friends that are girls.

He had a life full of friends before you came into the picture, and that shouldn't change. He's allowed to have friends. Of course, he needs to be respectful. He shouldn't be buddy-buddy with an ex, and he should probably keep the overly persistent girl with ulterior motives at a distance, but again, trust him. Try not to be so possessive. Have faith that he will do right by you, don't overreact.


6. Opening your snap and not replying.

This doesn't mean he's ignoring you. This could mean a number of things. Maybe he didn't know what to say. I mean, what is he supposed to respond with when you send him a selfie with the classic dog filter/duck face combo. He could be busy and not able to snap a picture back. Just because he opens it and doesn't respond doesn't mean he's rejecting you or neglecting you.


7. Making fun of you.

This is honestly one of the most fun parts of a relationship. You need to be able to take a joke. A healthy relationship needs to have that open line of communication where you are free to laugh and be yourselves without having to walk on eggshells with each other. Be easy going and have the ability to laugh at yourself. Give it right back to him! Of course, there is a line that he shouldn't cross, and if he does cross that line you have the right to be offended. For the most part, have an open mind and have a sense of humor. You guys should keep each other laughing. Let loose!


8. Not being into PDA.

Just because your man doesn't shower you with affection in front of his friends or the public doesn't mean he isn't crazy about you. He could be shy, he could like to keep the kissing for private settings. As long he makes you feel loved in other ways, respect his comfort zone as he should respect yours in return.

9. Being "short" with you via text.

We can't get anxious over those two-worded responses. His, "yeah, sure" doesn't mean he's being short or having an attitude with you. Guys don't put a lot of thought into texts, and they shouldn't always be expected to. Maybe he's busy and was trying to reply to you quickly, or maybe that response answered your question. He shouldn't have to type a paragraph to satisfy you. You're not a teacher grading his paper, you're not his mother who has the right to question his attitude, you're his girlfriend. Don't be so hard on him. His "sure" in no way, shape, or form meant "shut up, stop bothering me, I don't care." Don't read too much into things, and don't jump to conclusions. It's just a text.

10. For being busy.

"He never makes time for me anymore," is a classic line that's thrown around by annoyed girlfriends who haven't seen their man in a couple of days. You guys don't have to spend every day together. You should be so crazy about each other that you want to spend a lot of time together, but you don't have to devote every waking minute to each other. He should have his own ambitions and you should too. Go out and get your studying done, pick up an extra shift, hang out with your friends. It's good to be busy, it's productive. You don't want your man to lay around at home waiting for you. You should both be motivated and push each other to uphold responsibilities and support each other for getting out there and working hard. I repeat, it's all about balance. A healthy relationship needs time for friends, alone time, and time to accomplish goals both separate and together.

I'm not saying you can never get mad at your boyfriend. We're all human here. You're bound to get annoyed with him, and he's bound to get mad at you in return. It's natural and honestly healthy. If you don't have a strong enough relationship where you can't be open with your partner and tell them when something bothers you, then you shouldn't be together. But you should also keep in mind that you can't always overreact and overthink things. Sometimes, we really do expect too much of them. They can't be expected to read our minds, be overly sensitive and glued to their phones anticipating our every text or phone call, and have their world revolve around us. I am in no way saying to be a doormat. If something bothers you, speak up for yourself! Embrace your feelings and have the integrity to be upfront. In the same breath, trust the person your with and have faith in his loyalty to you. Try not to over think things and don't sweat the small stuff.

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My Boyfriend Is Deaf, But He's Still A Great Listener

This is what dating my deaf boyfriend has taught me.

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I have heard countless complaints over the years resembling the statement, "My boyfriend is a terrible listener."

Women say this simply to describe how irritating it is when their boyfriends zone out as they are talking about their day or when they simply stare off into space as they try and ask whether they wanna order pizza or Chinese. They may use phrases such as "selective hearing" or compare the likeness of talking to their boyfriend to "talking to a wall."

I must say that I can relate to these women but in a much different way.

My boyfriend is deaf.

I have to say that my boyfriend's deafness has never once been a roadblock for me. If anything, it made me more interested in him. I had zero experience when it came to his deafness. I had many misconceptions of his hearing ability in the beginning. But, overall, it was something that just increased my interest in this kind-hearted, goofy guy. As I started to date this person that sometimes can't help but not listen to me, I realized that his deafness had zero effect on how much I cared for him and how well we worked together.

Unlike some other members of the deaf community, my boyfriend has two cochlear implants. Fun fact: cochlear implants are actually frowned upon throughout the deaf community a lot of times. They are said to remove the individuality that comes with the deaf community and its members. However, and I will admit I am biased, I do not agree and neither does my boyfriend. Cochlear implants assist him in living his life, but that does not mean that every deaf person needs or wants them to live theirs—which is OK. They benefit this person that is very important to me, and that is all that matters in my mind.

While all cases of deafness and implant-users are unique to the individual, my boyfriend had his first implant surgery when he was just 2-years-old. Then, his second when he was 10. I knew cochlear implants existed before I met him, but I had no idea how they worked, which was soon very apparent to myself and him.

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So, basically in the simplest terms possible, there are two magnetic receivers implanted in his skull. Then, there is the outer part that holds a circular magnet, a transmitter, and a microphone that magnetizes through his skull and to his actual implant. This, somehow, gives him the ability to hear, and to be fully honest I do not understand how they work. I probably never will. All I know is that he can hear me, which I did not know would necessarily be the case when we first met...

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When we first started going out with each other, I definitely had many misconceptions about my boyfriend's hearing, misconceptions that he will tease me about to this day. For example, I thought that I had to look directly at him whenever I spoke. My mistaken logic was that he would have to read my lips in order to understand me. False. Wrong. His implants allow him to hear exactly what I am saying the majority of the time, depending on if he actually is paying attention and how loud I am talking. He can, however, read lips though, which he has to do any time he is not wearing his implants, or like when I knock them out of his head on accident... Woops.

I also, at first, had this hilarious belief that he wouldn't be able to talk to me on the phone. I thought this even after I knew he could hear me in person with practically zero difficulties. It wasn't until he was over at my place visiting me, and I came out of my room to see that he was talking to his mom. On the phone. Because he can, perfectly well. To this day, I cannot explain why I thought he wouldn't be able to speak on the phone. It was my stupid, stupid mistake, and my boyfriend still finds my naivete when it came to his hearing oh so amusing.

All of this comes to show that I had no idea what I was getting myself into. I have confessed to my boyfriend that I was self-conscious at times, simply because I didn't understand. I was terrified to ask the wrong questions and upset him, but then I came to find out that he makes deaf jokes that make me cringe, not him. I was afraid of yanking one of his implants out of his head on accident. I have multiple times now, and it has never once been a big deal. I was self-conscious about hitting a nerve, about something that not only impairs his hearing but his life as a whole.

There was one night, at the beginning of our relationship, where we just sat asking each other questions as new couples commonly do. The question was, "What is your biggest insecurity?"

His answer was his hearing. My answer was my body.

I discovered that there are always times where he will feel insecure because he isn't able to hear like everyone else. However, I love the fact that he isn't like everyone else. I sincerely hope that he realizes that.

But no, I will never be able to truly understand what it is like to be deaf, to have this life-changing impairment, and that's OK.

What I do know is that by dating my boyfriend I have learned this—everybody is insecure about something. Some are insecure about something as superficial as their looks like I am. Then some are insecure about something that affects their entire life, such as my boyfriend with his hearing. It has occurred to me that if my boyfriend can overcome something as life-altering as his deafness then I can overcome body insecurity and many other obstacles in my life now, thanks to him.

I have never met a guy as willing to listen to me and my minuscule problems as my boyfriend. I have never experienced problems in my life as severe as his deafness, but he always makes my problems, thoughts, insecurities, etc. feel validated. He is understanding and considerate. He is reassuring and has a heart of gold, and I continue to be amazed by him each day that we spend together.

So, yes, my boyfriend is deaf, but he most definitely is not a terrible listener. Not at all.

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The 7 Best Restaurants For Valentine's Day Dates In Springfield, Missouri

No matter what you and your date are feeling, the Queen City has something for you.

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Love may be in the air, but so are the smells of some delicious restaurants. Springfield, Missouri is a place I have been lucky to call home for the past three years. And it's full of restaurants of all varieties, perfect for any Valentine—even the pickiest of eaters.

From casual dining to the finer side, Springfield has what you're looking for. By knowing some options besides Olive Garden, you can add a little variety to your dining experience and ensure a happy and romantic evening.

Take a look, build your appetite, and make your reservations early (if you can) so you can treat your date to the evening they deserve.

1. Aviary Cafe & Creperie

The Aviary Cafe is a Springfield favorite. This restaurant is open late, has a full bar, and serves sweet and savory crepes along with other traditional bistro items. The Aviary allows you to make reservations for Valentine's Day and even has a unique menu specifically for the holiday, which includes a pan-seared pork chop, pommes frites, and New York cheesecake made fresh in the bakery.

2. Flame Steakhouse

Flame is a great place to go for a more upscale and expensive Valentine's Day dinner if you're in the mood to wine and dine your date. Rated three dollar signs our of four on Yelp, this steakhouse and wine bar has everything from Alaskan King Crab legs to fresh flash-fried calamari to a dry aged 24 oz Porterhouse steak. This restaurant will no doubt be packed on Valentine's Day, so be sure to make your reservation as soon as possible.

3. Bambinos Italian Cafe

Bambinos Italian Cafe has some of the best Italian food in the Springfield area. Rated "Best Date-Night Dinner" by Missouri State University's newspaper The Standard in 2017 and Best Italian Dining in 2018 by 417 Magazine, this cafe proves it can back up that claim, too. This quaint Italian restaurant has some of the best food the city has to offer from crab cakes and pasta to tiramisu to some house pastas that are to die for. With vegan options, Bambinos is the place for everyone.

4. Druff's

If you're looking for more casual of a dining experience, look no further. Druff's is known for it's incredibly tasty and different sandwiches and soups. For Valentine's Day, though, things are getting a little spiced up at this downtown hot spot. For just $45, you and your Valentine can experience the magic of Druff's with an appetizer, some sandwiches, soups, and a dessert. Make your reservation now, because it's going to be a busy night on Valentine's Day!

5. Metropolitan Grill

On the more expensive side, Metropolitan Grill is sure to make this Valentine's Day a romantic one. If you and your date come here for your evening, be sure to dress the part that this upscale restaurant expects. From pasta to steak to surf and turf, there's plenty of food to choose from. This fine dining experience is a great way to show your Valentine just how much they mean to you.

6. Nakato Japanese Restaurant

Nakato is a Japanese steakhouse and sushi bar that will leave you and your date wanting to come back again and again. With a full bar and a hibachi grill experience like no other, you can have a great evening with food cooked just the way both you and your Valentine like it. Whether you're a sushi fanatic or experiencing it for the first time, Nakato is sure to provide a fun and interactive Valentine's Day experience.

7. Black Sheep Burgers & Shakes

Who says Valentine's Day needs to be steak and wine? Known for their fun alcoholic shakes and crazy burgers, Black Sheep is also filled with some yummy food. If fine dining isn't your style, relax this Valentine's Day with a nice decadent burger and a shake or beer. You don't have to go all out for Valentine's Day to make it a great one, and Black Sheep's burgers won't disappoint.

From burgers to steaks to grilled cheese, Springfield is known for all kinds of foods. With seemingly unending options for your Valentine's Day date, it's fair to say this list is not at all the only restaurants to consider.

The most important thing to remember is that no matter where you and your Valentine go out to eat, make your date special. With the right person, it doesn't even matter if you're eating at Steak 'N Shake or Applebee's. There's a lot of pressure to make Valentine's Day special and perfect, but as long as you think the person you're with is both of those things, you're set.

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