10 Things You Shouldn't Get Mad At Your Boyfriend For

10 Things You Shouldn't Get Mad At Your Boyfriend For

Give your mind and your man a break! Don't be a push over, but don't overreact.
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Ladies, let's be honest, we have the tendency to overreact or jump to conclusions.

We're all guilty of overthinking things, getting emotional and we're almost almost always "hangry."

Unfortunately, men often suffer the consequences of these traits that women were so graciously blessed with. This doesn't mean you have to be a total pushover. They are no where near perfect, and neither are we! You are your own person and you are entitled to your thoughts and feelings. You're totally allowed to interpret things in your own way and if something hurts your feelings or bothers you, by all means, speak up for yourself. A man who truly loves you will respect the fact that you have a backbone and aren't afraid to be open with your feelings and upfront.

In fact, it makes their life easier when they don't have to sit there and play the guessing game with you trying to figure out what's really wrong behind the "nothing" answer you keep offering. My main point of this is not to encourage women to allow themselves to be walked all over. My point is to offer reasons not to overreact. Before you start blasting the entire "Lemonade" album start to finish, hear me out.

From one woman to another, give your mind and your man a break! Don't get mad at him for:


1. Having a "Guys" night.


First of all, guys NEED this time to well, do what guys do. You can't get mad at him for spending time with his friends, just like he doesn't have the right to get mad at you for hanging out with your friends in return. Every hour of his free time doesn't have to be dedicated to you. You guys both need to have that time with your friends. Just because he's spending time with his friends grabbing a few drinks or watching the game doesn't mean that he doesn't want to hang out with you. He's not choosing them over you. There needs to be a balance in a relationship. You can't isolate yourself as a couple, your friends are just as important. Don't forget to have time with your friends too! It's so healthy to have a little space or hang out in big groups.


2. Not texting you during the day.

Women have somehow interpreted this as a guy not putting enough effort into their relationship, or that they aren't making them feel special. Did I mention we tend to overthink things? Please keep in mind that he has a life. He works, might go to school, he has things he needs to get done. It doesn't mean he doesn't think of you, and it doesn't mean you're any less important to him. His texting habits aren't always a reflection of his feelings for you or the effort he puts in to the relationship itself. Don't jump to conclusions. Also, remember that you need to be out there doing your thing too. You don't have to be glued to your phone either. Get out in the world and conquer your day, and encourage your man to do the same. Be a power couple.


3. "Liking" another girl's picture on social media.

It's just a "like." It doesn't mean that he likes the girl, or that he is talking to her in an inappropriate manner. It could be a friend he has had since before you even knew each other. It could simply be because it's a cool picture. Don't allow yourself to be threatened over this. Obviously, there are certain people's pictures that he probably shouldn't be liking, like his ex, or a girl that you guys have had issues with in the past, I get that. You should obviously always be respectful of your significant other's feelings. Other than that, be easy on the guy. It's just a "like."


4. Going out without you.

I get that him going to a bar without you can be a little worrisome. Your imagination gets the best of you, and you can get anxious as you make up little scenarios in your head. Relax. You should be dating someone you trust completely. If you're in a healthy relationship, you should have no problem with them going out and doing their thing. They can go out and have beers with the guys and not do wrong by you. Try not to overthink things, and trust the guy you're with. They shouldn't be expected to stay in if you can't go out with them, and vice versa. It's a two way street, try to overcome that double-standard we tend to have. You should expect to be trusted enough to go out without him, and you should trust him enough in return. If he wants to abuse your trust and do wrong by you and your relationship, then you will know that he isn't worthy of being your man. Otherwise, have faith, people.


5. Having friends that are girls.

He had a life full of friends before you came into the picture, and that shouldn't change. He's allowed to have friends. Of course, he needs to be respectful. He shouldn't be buddy-buddy with an ex, and he should probably keep the overly persistent girl with ulterior motives at a distance, but again, trust him. Try not to be so possessive. Have faith that he will do right by you, don't overreact.


6. Opening your snap and not replying.

This doesn't mean he's ignoring you. This could mean a number of things. Maybe he didn't know what to say. I mean, what is he supposed to respond with when you send him a selfie with the classic dog filter/duck face combo. He could be busy and not able to snap a picture back. Just because he opens it and doesn't respond doesn't mean he's rejecting you or neglecting you.


7. Making fun of you.

This is honestly one of the most fun parts of a relationship. You need to be able to take a joke. A healthy relationship needs to have that open line of communication where you are free to laugh and be yourselves without having to walk on eggshells with each other. Be easy going and have the ability to laugh at yourself. Give it right back to him! Of course, there is a line that he shouldn't cross, and if he does cross that line you have the right to be offended. For the most part, have an open mind and have a sense of humor. You guys should keep each other laughing. Let loose!


8. Not being into PDA.

Just because your man doesn't shower you with affection in front of his friends or the public doesn't mean he isn't crazy about you. He could be shy, he could like to keep the kissing for private settings. As long he makes you feel loved in other ways, respect his comfort zone as he should respect yours in return.

9. Being "short" with you via text.

We can't get anxious over those two-worded responses. His, "yeah, sure" doesn't mean he's being short or having an attitude with you. Guys don't put a lot of thought into texts, and they shouldn't always be expected to. Maybe he's busy and was trying to reply to you quickly, or maybe that response answered your question. He shouldn't have to type a paragraph to satisfy you. You're not a teacher grading his paper, you're not his mother who has the right to question his attitude, you're his girlfriend. Don't be so hard on him. His "sure" in no way, shape, or form meant "shut up, stop bothering me, I don't care." Don't read too much into things, and don't jump to conclusions. It's just a text.

10. For being busy.

"He never makes time for me anymore," is a classic line that's thrown around by annoyed girlfriends who haven't seen their man in a couple of days. You guys don't have to spend every day together. You should be so crazy about each other that you want to spend a lot of time together, but you don't have to devote every waking minute to each other. He should have his own ambitions and you should too. Go out and get your studying done, pick up an extra shift, hang out with your friends. It's good to be busy, it's productive. You don't want your man to lay around at home waiting for you. You should both be motivated and push each other to uphold responsibilities and support each other for getting out there and working hard. I repeat, it's all about balance. A healthy relationship needs time for friends, alone time, and time to accomplish goals both separate and together.

I'm not saying you can never get mad at your boyfriend. We're all human here. You're bound to get annoyed with him, and he's bound to get mad at you in return. It's natural and honestly healthy. If you don't have a strong enough relationship where you can't be open with your partner and tell them when something bothers you, then you shouldn't be together. But you should also keep in mind that you can't always overreact and overthink things. Sometimes, we really do expect too much of them. They can't be expected to read our minds, be overly sensitive and glued to their phones anticipating our every text or phone call, and have their world revolve around us. I am in no way saying to be a doormat. If something bothers you, speak up for yourself! Embrace your feelings and have the integrity to be upfront. In the same breath, trust the person your with and have faith in his loyalty to you. Try not to over think things and don't sweat the small stuff.

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10 Things My Significant Other MUST Do In Order To Earn The Privilege Of Meeting My Mom

I say "Hakuna Matata" on the daily, but you really need to say it when you prepare to meet my mom.

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Besides getting married, meeting the parents can be the most stressful time in any relationship. Your boyfriend could be freaking out because he doesn't want to sound like a loon in front of your dad or your mom may be chopping the vegetables a little too loudly making your girlfriend seem uncomfortable in the presence of a knife. Stressing for days (maybe even weeks) up until the day arrives is apart of being in love because you want your parents to love your significant other just as much as you do and when the dinner is finally over, you can breathe again. My family is a little different and my boyfriend has to do these things to be able to meet my mom and my brother (may as well add my cousins into the mix, too because they're my older siblings).

1. Pass the "Best Friends Test"

I have 6 best friends and each one of them has a unique personality. There's the momma friend, the crazy friend, the questionable friend, the laid back friend, the turnt friend, and the friend who just wants me to be happy. If they don't like you, I'll talk to them to figure out why they don't like you. Either way, if you hurt me, they'll hurt you.

2. Prove that stability is your main priority five years from now, even if I'm not in your plan

Things happen and we can't predict everything. We can be together now, break up in a year, and then get back together. It's part of being a teenager/young adult. We deal with a lot, I mean, we're in college, but the older we get, the more stressful life gets, so I want you to show me that you can handle whatever stresses come your way. I want you to be stable on your own before adding a girlfriend into the mix.

3. Deal with my "Hunger Fits"

Let's face it, I can be a brat, but I'm only a brat on three occasions.

1. I'm sleepy.

2. You didn't let me get my way.

3. I'm hungry.

If you eat without me or go get food without me, I might cry and pout like a two-year-old, so you have to be able to handle it. Pro-tip, have snacks with you whenever we go somewhere.

4. Be okay with getting roasted

My cousins are the funniest people you'll ever meet, but they aren't afraid to talk about you while you sit in front of them, so I need to know that you're okay with being roasted. They're not doing it to be mean (trust me, they aren't), but they're doing it because they're my family and they care about me as if I were their little sister.

5. Be able to hold an intelligent conversation for more than 5 minutes

Good conversation is an essential part of a relationship and I love talking about things that are happening in the world today and because my mom is super knowledgeable on a lot of things, you have to be able to talk for more than 5 minutes about something that's engaging.

6. Remain calm in the face of a difficult conversation

I know when it came to certain topics, I used to go off like a volcano, but I've had to grow out of exploding on people just because they don't agree with me. It takes months, maybe even years to master that type of patience and self-restraint, but I grew up fast, so I needed to learn in less than a year how to hold my tongue. I need to know that if you and I (or someone in my family) were to be in a serious conversation, you'd remain calm. I won't blow up on you, so please don't blow up on me (or my family) because then it might not end so well.

7. State your opinion, no matter how mad I might get

Following up with number six, this is a must! I'm a writer, so I deal with a lot of written opinions on the daily. I'm also involved in a lot of organizations where open dialogue is encouraged, so I deal with a lot of verbal opinions, too. People are going to say what they want to say no matter what and I want you to be able to tell me what's on your mind no matter how severe it may be. I'm here for you and I want you to know that you can trust me with your opinions. I might not agree with them, but I can deal with them.

8. Be able to sit and talk about sports and video games with my brother

You'll for sure meet my older brother before you meet my mom only because he acts just like my late grandfather; calm and laid back. He goes with the flow and doesn't get upset unless I get upset, so you don't have to worry about the big bad overprotective brother (but he is very big and very overprotective). He'd much rather sit and talk about "fork-knife" or a basketball game than grill you. It's just how he is. Also, don't be offended if he engages in conversation with you for like ten minutes before he loses interest in talking to you and goes back to playing his game.

9. Be okay and open to the possibility of a long distance relationship

I don't plan on staying down South for long. I actually won't stay here after I graduate from college. Long distance relationships don't work for 40% of all couples, but I want us to not be a statistic. I believe that we could make it, so I would need to know that you'd be okay with me being a thousand miles away; and of course, if you were halfway across the country, I would learn to be okay with it, too.

10. Love your family as much as you love me

Family is a big deal for me. It's always been me, my older brother, and my mom. You may come from a household where it's you and both of your parents, you and one parent, or you, your parent(s), and your siblings. I love my mom and brother with all of my heart and would drop anything (and I have dropped things) to be with them. I want to see that you love your family with the same amount of love that you give me. A man who loves the family he is born into will love the family he marries into.

My family's triangle has never been broken before, so this is new territory for all of us. Don't feel like an outsider, though! These may seem extensive and extra, but it's the things that matter to me. Aside from the apparent trustworthiness, loyalty, wanting three pets, having a sense of humor, and education that I look for in a guy, you have to do these ten things to meet my mom.

If you pass all of these, then you get to meet her. Don't stress about it though because if she doesn't like you at the first meeting, she'll come around by the next because she loves me and she'll see that I love you.

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To The Parents Who Raised The Man Of My Dreams, It Paid Off

You did a phenomenal job.

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As a parent, you always wonder if you're doing it right. Parenting doesn't come with instructions. You're not told how to punish your children in every situation or what to do whenever they accomplish something. You're not completely prepared for it. However, for someone without instructions, you did a phenomenal job.

You raised the man of my dreams.

I've dated throughout my teens and every guy seemed to be the same, but with your son everything was different. Your son is everything I've ever wanted. He is perfect. He is such a gentleman. I want you to know everything you taught him like holding the door and paying for dates, it worked.

I want you to know he doesn't show anger towards me. I'm sure I aggravate him and make him angry, but I want you to know I'll never know when I've done so because he doesn't show it. He gets mad with football games and after he gets done yelling, he apologizes.

He makes me feel beautiful. He has seen me at my absolute worse. He has seen me right when I wake up in the morning with no makeup and my hair is a mess and he tells me I'm beautiful. Whenever so get dressed up, he notices. He makes sure to let me know I look beautiful. He pays attention to detail like that my hair is curled or I have a new nose ring in and he adds them in with the compliments.

He is always supportive. Whenever I started back to school, he was so proud of me. When I started writing for The Odyssey, he shared my articles. He will tell me how proud he is of me. When I make good grades on assignments, he tells me good job.

He is so loving. He comforts me whenever I'm sick. When I had the stomach bug, he got my medicine, trashcans, and played with my hair to comfort me. He brushes and straightens my hair for me whenever I don't feel like it because he wants it to look good.

Thanks to you I have found someone who treats me wonderful. If it wasn't for you, he wouldn't know how to treat a lady. It is because of you that he turned out to be nice and respectful man he is today. I want you to know you did an amazing job raising him. He's everything I've ever wanted. Thank you for raising him to be such a gentleman. Thank you for raising him to be everything I've ever dreamed of.

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