10 Things To Know About The Girl Who Says Yes To Everyone

10 Things To Know About The Girl Who Says Yes To Everyone

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I try to please everyone I can because I hate the look of disappoint on someone's face. It sends chills to my core, and with everything in me, I can't shake the feeling of knowing I let another person down. But just like the people I say yes to, we all have a story.

10 Things You Need To Know About The Girl Who Always Says Yes

1.) Sometimes she just wants someone to say yes to her.

I don't normally expect things in return. Every one in awhile though, I can't tell you I don't hope to hear a yes. Yes, I can help you...or Yes, I'll take care of it. It surely would be quite the thing to hear after always hearing requests.

2.) The people always saying yes, normally have the highest amount of anxiety.

I think this is a big one because personally, it couldn't be more accurate to my story. I fear saying no will make other people think less of me. Meanwhile I can't count how many favors I have done for those I worry about thinking negatively of me. That's the thing about people who always do for others, that's ultimately all they truly care about.

3.) Sometimes she wants to say no

Read her. Read me. Read them. Whoever you are constantly asking the favors to, just look at their face. See if they're okay too. Maybe right now isn't the best time to be asking for another favor. Maybe she wants you to say no for her.

4.) We're tired.

Tired of saying yes. Tired of feeling like the end result of our helping is just to be asked another favor the very next day. We're just tired of feeling used.

5.) We want to know you're there for us too

I do a lot of favors for a lot of people. Not because I expect something in return, but I want to know that I have someone in my life who would do for me all I do for them. It's nice to know you can rely on someone, and another soul has your best interest in mind. So when I do these favors, I'm not expecting some done in return, I'm more just hoping the person I'm doing the favors for, would bend over backwards for me, like I would them.

6.) The girl who is always saying yes, is often insecure

I have struggled with my own insecurities since I was very young. Sometimes it helps me to help others because I know that at least there is one thing I'm doing right in this world. If other people can see that too, maybe I'll get somewhere.

7.) It's not easy for us to say no

Sometimes I get asked- "Why don't you just say no? You're allowed to! It's your own fault you have so many obligations." Saying no to people is the same way someone with test anxiety feels about taking a test or how the anorexic girl feels about eating. I'm afraid to say no, and I'm not good at. It takes a lot more for me to say no, than it does for me to say yes. So maybe I do result to the easier solution, but don't we all sometimes?

8.) She cries too

We have real life problems. Some that seem so big we couldn't possibly handle it on our own. Notice we didn't come to you expecting you'd say yes, but instead we handled it ourselves knowing no one would care if we didn't. We cry, just like you. Life gets to be more than we can handle, but where is our person who always says yes? Oh right, we are that person.

9.) You're not the only person she is saying yes to.

Understand this because not many do. If you're constantly asking the same person for favors (who you know will never refuse) she probably also is saying yes to others. Making her plate all the more full. Sometimes, it's all about perspective.

10.) One day we won't say yes.

One day I will be more secure and comfortable with myself to allow the words "no" to exit my mouth. And she will too. You'll have to find someone else to ask then because we'll be too content to always say yes.

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People With Anxiety Deserve Love, Even If They Don't Always Believe They Do

We may have abnormal anxious quirks, but we deserve love all the same.
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Both my sister and I have anxiety. She has social anxiety and I have generalized anxiety that sometimes comes in the form of a panic attack. Two of my best friends have anxiety, too. It is much more common than people think. Most of the time depression and anxiety go hand in hand, but luckily, I have not had to experience that first hand.

Mental health has been a topic of discussion recently, and for most of us, this acknowledgment that yes, we have something abnormal going on with us, but that does mean we are broken. It means we need help, but we are the same as everyone else and deserve the help we need as well as the love everyone else gets.

The love may be different than with others without anxiety, but we still deserve it, crave it, and need it.

My sister has progressively gotten better. I have always been involved in theatre, and never expected her to be comfortable enough in that realm with her anxiety but she blossomed when she took theatre freshman year. I was so proud of her getting up in front of people and performing her heart out. She met a lot of people and didn't seem overwhelmed. Little things still get under her skin, such as ordering food, talking on the phone, or asking for something extra in a restaurant. I personally don't know what she uses to combat her anxiety since I don't live at home anymore, but it seems as if whatever she uses, works.

Last semester, my anxiety was at an all-time high. I am not a perfect student, but I do pride myself on being an honors student. I was taking biology, and science is not my strong suit although I do love it. I got very stressed and began having panic attacks when it seemed I would make no better than a 'C.' I called my mom crying because I was so scared she would be disappointed in me although I tried my hardest.

That was the stupidest thought that could have crossed my mind. She loves me and knew I was trying my hardest in that class, and that college is hard. My anxiety took over and completely controlled that situation to where I full-heartedly believed she would love me less because I was going to get a 'C' in a class that doesn't even matter for my major.

My anxiety comes out mostly when I get stressed of academics or get into tiny spats with Austin, my fiance. My anxiety is constantly telling me that the problems in my relationships are my fault because I'm not good enough, and never will be. Whenever we have our "fights," I almost always end up having to tell myself to breathe because my chest gets tight and I'm afraid I screwed up and he'll leave, although he's never once said any of these things.

Although it constantly tells me otherwise, I know I deserve the love I get from my family and friends.

Venting to my friend Jaelyn does wonders for me - it elevates my stress, if only a little bit. Having a fiance who fully understands what I'm going through because he's been with me for so long really helps me and makes me want to strive to get better. I know my anxiety will never go away, but the least I can do is use tools available to me to let some of the symptoms subside.

I tried "Mindfulness" for a while and have the book "I am here now" created by The Mindfulness Project, and it really helped when I used it. It comes with an online resource with a guided meditation that helps. "Mindfulness" is this new way of combating anxiety but only living in the now and trying to put any and all thoughts of the future and the past behind you (I did not even mean to make that pun).

It is really hard, especially for people with anxiety like me whose minds are constantly racing, but it forces you to let your worries cease. Aromatherapy has also helped me a little, and I hope to try other things. Yoga, the relaxation yoga - not work out yoga - also helps me meditate.

I will never tell others with anxiety what to do to combat it because, for every person who has it, their journeys are different, but please feel welcome to check out what has helped me and not to be afraid to ask for help. Know that you deserve love and that you are good enough. If no one else gives you the love you deserve because "you're difficult to love," know that you have someone in your corner right here, writing this article for you.

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