10 Things You're Tired Of Hearing If You're Dating Long Distance

10 Things You're Tired Of Hearing If You're Dating Long Distance

10. Do you miss him?
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When I left for college, I left my first love behind. I was heartbroken and super emotional for a long time. Now, distance has become a norm for us. Yes, it is hard and I would much rather be with him physically all the time, but that's just not how it's going right now.

Throughout the first semester of college, and even before I left, I have had many people commenting on and giving me their thoughts on my relationship. I am all for hearing advice and listening to other people, but sometimes I wonder why things are even said. Some things are even said so many times I can't take it anymore.

Here are 10 things I, and I am sure many others, are tired of hearing about their long-distance relationship.

1. It will never work

Your lack of faith does not bother me. If it is meant to be it will be. I don't need you raining on my parade.

2. I could never do that

And that is exactly why you aren't doing it. Sorry, you can't do it, it isn't for everyone. No need to state the obvious.

3. Aren't you worried he is cheating?

There is little thing called trust. It is key to every relationship, especially long distance. I actually trust my boyfriend and he trusts me. It makes this whole distance thing SO much easier.

4. How can you love someone who you can't see/hug/kiss every day?

First off, I spent nearly a year of seeing him every day my last year of high school. If anything the distance has made me love him more.

5. That must be hard

Once again, no need to state the obvious. Yes, it is hard, but the goodbyes are so worth the hellos.

6. Do you cry a lot?

Well, would YOU cry?? I don't really care to share that information, but if you must know, some days are harder than others. I don't cry 24/7, I still enjoy life and get out and do things.

7. I would hate to put in all that effort just to have it end

If you really love someone it doesn't matter. Putting in the work isn't a chore. I wouldn't even consider it work. It's LOVE. It is loving someone no matter what.

8. How long do you think you'll be able to keep doing it?

Refer to number 7. This isn't a job or a chore. This is a relationship that I intend on keeping.

9. You can't even know if he is cheating

Once again, TRUST. It should be in every relationship - distance or no distance.

10. Do you miss him?

This one actually makes me laugh more than anything. Like, honestly. Do I miss him? I only get to see him, two maybe three times a year if I am lucky. OF COURSE, I miss him.

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To The Woman Who Needs To Be Wanted, Don’t Let Men Be Your Vice

It will only make you begin to despise yourself.
Cai Parks
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By definition, a vice is a habitual or trivial defect... a shortcoming. Everyone has a vice.

Mine was men.

I always felt abandoned by the men in my life. I always clung to the opinions and attention of the boys around me...fighting for it in any way I could.

When I was younger, it was easy to get the attention of the boys my age by just dressing cute and having a bubbly personality.

As I got older though, I noticed that I was having to work harder and harder for their attention. Eventually, it turned into me feeling like I had to give myself to them in any way they asked to get their attention.

So that’s what I did.

I used my body as a way to fill some kind of void that I thought could be filled with the love of a man.

As the years went on, I felt myself clinging to not their love, but their lust.

I no longer cared about their love.

I just wanted to hear them call me hot, sexy, or beautiful. I knew they were using me.

I didn’t care.

I needed them to want me.

I needed them to beg.

I needed to feel needed.

For any woman who might feel as though a man’s lust for you can fill that deep void in your heart, take a step back. Trivial, temporary things like that will only make your heart heavier.

It will only make you begin to despise yourself.

There’s nothing wrong with living life the way you want or with who you want, but don’t use that lifestyle simply as a way to make you feel wanted.

Because my Prince Charming came into my life and I no longer needed any other man.

I finally felt truly loved and he helped me to learn that even without him, I would be more than a body.

He helped me see that I was a body, face, brain, smile, laugh, personality, and everything in between.

I am a strong woman now that I know my worth.

You are a strong woman.

Show your strength.

Know your worth.

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Everything You Should Know Before Dating A Fitness Instructor

Sex, weights, cheat meal dates.

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As a fitness trainer, I know how much we love our job. How much we love the people we help and encourage. How much we never want to stop doing what we do. Yet, it's not all sunshine and rainbows. My boyfriend has to put up with some things that probably, kinda sorta are unconventional. But, he's living his dream (his words).

No matter what they teach, personal training, yoga, pilates, barre, HIIT, I could go on and on, but either way, they are passionate about the people they work with. This fire follows them throughout their life and will most definitely influence you.

1. Constant practicing

Don't be alarmed if you wake up to find her up and about practicing her routines for a class/client.

2. Gushing about a client who has been killing it 

No matter how much of a tough cookie we are, clients touch our hearts.

3. She's flexible

You. Are. Welcome. My best friends always introduce me to guys with, "She's really flexible ;)"

4. There's a routine, stick to it

We may be flexible, but don't come between her and her schedule. She is supported by her routine.

5. You are now a fitness class guinea pig

She needs you to help her rehearse. Approach her practice tests with enthusiasm and just have fun.

6. She'll never judge you

Don't ever feel pressured or intimidated. We love you for you. And, news flash, we are not perfect.

7. Always learning

Learning never ends. Learning new routines, learning new people, learning new emotions, learning new approaches to life.

8. And always eating

Teaching a few classes a day is tough on the body. We need our snacks. All. The. Time.

9. Stretches before bed... every night

No matter how tiring and long the day was, she will make sure to fit it a quick bend and no break.

10. The funny things that happened during class

Story time: One time I taught and my pants ripped. Only made the class more fun!

11. Shaker bottle vases

There's no need for vases, when shaker bottles do you justice. The first time my boyfriend brought home roses, I didn't have a vase so we improvised and used a shaker bottle. Now, that's the only vase we will ever need.

12. Free personal training

It's your dream come true. Fitness is at your right hand at all times. Plus, we will be pumped to start talking to you about our passion.

13. She talks endlessly about how well/not well your class went

Sometimes we kill it and sometimes... we fall a little short.

14.  Chugging water

We need to stay hydrated! Plus, she'll be your water tracker as she bugs you to drink with her. Shots! Shots! Shots (of water)!

15. Team work makes the dream work

There is no "I" in team and fitness instructors know the strength of collaboration and support. No one can go through journey a journey alone.

16. She wakes you up early to go on a run

Let's take a jog to the beach and watch the sunrise!

17. Protein, protein, and more protein

She doesn't have to be a weight lifter to assure that she nourishes her body with enough protein (from any source you prefer). My cupboard is always stocked with lentils and chickpeas.

18. Watching her watch fitness videos to get ideas

While you're reading the news, scrolling through Instagram, or just chilling out, she'll be watching workout videos or saving posts from fitness accounts.

19. Goes to bed super early

We need at least eight hours of beauty sleep and, let's be real, we are grandpas.

20.  She lives off of Spotify playlists

Wait, do you hear that song? What's it called, I need to add it to my workout playlist. Plus, she loves to sing (even if she isn't that good).

21.  Pulse 2, 3, 4

While she does chores, she'll start reciting her catchphrases and mantras.

22.  She's your forever cheerleader

Getting out of bed? If you don't squeeze it, no one else will! Washing the dishes? Let's go, you've got this! Running to the bathroom? One more minute! 30 more seconds! Mowing the lawn? You better feel it tomorrow!

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