10 Things You're Tired Of Hearing If You're Dating Long Distance

10 Things You're Tired Of Hearing If You're Dating Long Distance

10. Do you miss him?

When I left for college, I left my first love behind. I was heartbroken and super emotional for a long time. Now, distance has become a norm for us. Yes, it is hard and I would much rather be with him physically all the time, but that's just not how it's going right now.

Throughout the first semester of college, and even before I left, I have had many people commenting on and giving me their thoughts on my relationship. I am all for hearing advice and listening to other people, but sometimes I wonder why things are even said. Some things are even said so many times I can't take it anymore.

Here are 10 things I, and I am sure many others, are tired of hearing about their long-distance relationship.

1. It will never work

Your lack of faith does not bother me. If it is meant to be it will be. I don't need you raining on my parade.

2. I could never do that

And that is exactly why you aren't doing it. Sorry, you can't do it, it isn't for everyone. No need to state the obvious.

3. Aren't you worried he is cheating?

There is little thing called trust. It is key to every relationship, especially long distance. I actually trust my boyfriend and he trusts me. It makes this whole distance thing SO much easier.

4. How can you love someone who you can't see/hug/kiss every day?

First off, I spent nearly a year of seeing him every day my last year of high school. If anything the distance has made me love him more.

5. That must be hard

Once again, no need to state the obvious. Yes, it is hard, but the goodbyes are so worth the hellos.

6. Do you cry a lot?

Well, would YOU cry?? I don't really care to share that information, but if you must know, some days are harder than others. I don't cry 24/7, I still enjoy life and get out and do things.

7. I would hate to put in all that effort just to have it end

If you really love someone it doesn't matter. Putting in the work isn't a chore. I wouldn't even consider it work. It's LOVE. It is loving someone no matter what.

8. How long do you think you'll be able to keep doing it?

Refer to number 7. This isn't a job or a chore. This is a relationship that I intend on keeping.

9. You can't even know if he is cheating

Once again, TRUST. It should be in every relationship - distance or no distance.

10. Do you miss him?

This one actually makes me laugh more than anything. Like, honestly. Do I miss him? I only get to see him, two maybe three times a year if I am lucky. OF COURSE, I miss him.

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Being Far Away From My Boyfriend Actually Strengthened Our Relationship Instead Of Forcing It Apart

While we were apart, we became closer.


Before I really start this article, I just want to say that my relationship isn't truly a long distance relationship. We are both college students at the same university eight months out of the year, but the other four months we live quite a distance apart. Even during those four months, we are only about 150 miles from each other as the bird flies, but really about three hours from each other.

Being in a relationship where I'm not able to see my boyfriend every day or even every week has been a real challenge. But it's been a good challenge. It hasn't been a challenge because I've felt unfaithful or fallen out of love with him in any way. It's challenging because I miss him. We both work jobs and our schedules aren't the same and oftentimes we aren't able to talk to each other unless it's early in the morning or late at night. There are times when all I want to do is talk to him and tell him about how my day went and get a big bear hug from him. Unfortunately, I'm not really able to do this.

I firmly believe that being apart from each other for days, weeks, or even months have brought us closer than we could've ever imagined. We knew that this would be difficult, and we knew that there would be bad days, but we decided to power through it. It has made each time that we are able to see each other so much more special and meaningful.

Seeing each other has become more of spending time with each other than just laying around on the couch playing around on our phones. It's become really getting to know each other better and catching up on all the things we had missed. It's become a time for us to simply be in each other's presence and enjoy being able to talk face to face without a phone in the middle of us. We go on more adventurous dates, we take more pictures, and I think we would both easily say that we fall more and more in love with each other after each opportunity we have to spend time together.

Spending time together is no longer a daily activity, but it has become a right to be earned through hard work and several paychecks as travel can become expensive. We no longer take opportunities to see each other for granted, and it has made us grow closer because we aren't able to spend time together often. We look forward to the days when we won't have to worry about being apart but know that this is only a stepping stone in our relationship.

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It’s Harder FINDING Someone Who Wants To Be In A Relationship Than Actually Being In One

Oh millennials, we have made a mess of the dating scene...


I got super lucky once.

I wasn't looking for a guy, but I happened to find the exact one who wanted a long relationship. It's always when you least suspect it, isn't it? I'm newly single, but not quite ready to mingle.

Sure, there are plenty of new fish in the sea, but even they aren't sure if they are ready to sink or swim yet.

No, it doesn't have to be hard to have a relationship. I did long-distance on-and-off for four years, but we pushed through it because we cared about the relationship.

People can make it really tough on themselves to find that perfect person. It makes sense, we all want the right person that fits all of our needs and checks all of our boxes. But I think we as a society are a little more flawed than that. We also have needs of our own and those needs can really get in the way of our time together.

Say you find a person you could see yourself really being with. They will be there for your crying sessions, when you fail a test, when a loved one dies. But will they be there to also lift you up in your darkest moments and laugh together at every free moment? It seems a lot to ask of somebody, but in reality, it's just living.

Avril Lavigne was right, "why do you have to go and makes things so complicated?" In the long run, you'll always be upset if you keep up a checklist that no one can master. I'm finding out myself that not everyone is able to fulfill the basic requirements of a fun loving and easygoing boyfriend, but there is hope that one day, someone will.

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