11 Questions To Ask Yourself Before You Text Him Or Her In The Middle Of The Night

11 Questions To Ask Yourself Before You Text Him Or Her In The Middle Of The Night

Sometimes it's more than a "what do I have to lose?" mindset

We are the most vulnerable during the night when we're alone and all is quiet. It is during these hours that we often hit our lowest points. Why? I think it's because there's more time to think. There's more time for thinking negative thoughts and missing people we shouldn't miss. It is during these hours that we often stop caring about what others think of us and stop caring about our own pride.

The day is over, so who cares? The day is almost over, so I might as well. I might as well cry and let it all out, text certain people, or wish for tomorrow to be different. Despite how bad things get at night, it seems as though everything will be completely normal by the morning. In the morning we will be surrounded by others, and many of our thoughts will be stopped by the hustle and bustle of everyday life.

But you can't pretend that the night before never happened. If you sent someone a message, you can't delete it. Yes, we are vulnerable during the night, and it's healthy to let ourselves feel, but we can't lose control during those hours.

So, here are 11 questions to ask yourself before you text him or her in the middle of the night:

1. Will I regret it tomorrow?

2. What's my motive?

3. Would I text this person if it were 2:00 in the afternoon?

4. How does this person make me feel?

5. Do the pros outweigh the cons?

6. What will we talk about?

7. Will I regret it if I DON'T reach out?

8. What are they most likely up to?

9. Would my friends support this?

10. How will I feel if this person doesn't answer?

11. What do I want to get out of the conversation?

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Millennials Need To Get Over The Stigma Behind STDs

They're not as uncommon as you think.

Recently, I had a friend text me in a frenzied panic looking for advice. She'd been going through a typical Saturday when she received a text from a health clinic alerting her that an anonymous sexual partner would like to inform her about putting her at potential risk for a sexually transmitted disease, or STD. Suddenly, her world seemed to close in, and she felt lost in how to proceed.

Only a month before her, I had another friend experience the exact same situation. In fact, throughout my time at college, I have witnessed several friends find themselves worrying about the possibilities of a STD. None of these friends matched the stereotypes of someone with an STD: they didn't sleep around, they did their best to use protection, and they weren't "gross." Yet, the stigma surrounding STDs awakened a feeling of disgust in each of themselves, and they felt like they'd done something wrong.

Some of my friends felt embarrassed to even seek medical treatment, because they thought the nurses and doctors would look down upon them. Other friends pondered the extreme possibilities of their situation: what if it wasn't curable? What if it was AIDS? How would they tell their parents? All these questions, all this fear, stemmed heavily from the social stigma surrounding STDs.

Sure, it can be said that some of the fear of having an undiagnosed STD exists in not knowing what the STD actually is. This uncertainty is undoubtedly scary, but much of the fear actually forms from negativity that surrounds the idea of the STD. People perceive it as dirty, bad, and something caught by only the most promiscuous. However, this notion is false. Unless you are completely abstinent, you put yourself at risk for an STD.

The fact that social stigma pushes so many people to literally dread medical treatment due to anxiety over the perception of an STD speaks to the miseducation of society about these diseases. One in four Americans has an STD, which translates to roughly 110 million people. These 110 million people do not all encounter the same situation. Some people don't have any signs or symptoms. Others don't know any types of STDs beyond syphilis, or herpes, or HIV/AIDS. But each of these 110 million people is afflicted by something and should not possess any uneasiness over seeking medical treatment.

Without medical treatment, STDs can cause heart disease, brain damage, problems with fertility, cancer, or even death. People unknowingly pass them on, and it creates a potential continuous cycle of disease spreading. These diseases have the potential to affect everyone, and it's important to realize the reality of STDs in order to erase the fear people possess over seeking help or talking about the issue at hand.

In order to stop the stigma, people need to acknowledge the facts behind STDs and begin to educate themselves further. Stop associating words like dirty, gross, and bad with STD and start recognizing it as something much more common in the lives of Americans today. Paying attention to stereotypes and dissuading them helps to create a more welcoming environment for those seeking help with an STD. Similarly, offering help to friends worried about their possibility of having an STD lessens the anxiety that surrounds the idea. Stop playing into the stigma; instead, work to destroy it.

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Why I Had A Bilateral Prophylactic Mastectomy At Age 20

I am a pre-survivor, a previvor.

Over eight months ago I discovered a weird growth on my left nipple. I never thought anything of it because it never hurt. Back in December, I randomly woke up with it bleeding, discolored, and my nipple inverted.

I went to the doctor to get this checked out and she had no idea what it could be and referred me to a breast surgeon. The breast surgeon was then prompted to think that it was Paget’s disease (nipple cancer) and performed a wedge biopsy. I had four stitches on my left nipple. The results for this took 11 days and came back benign.

After discovering that both my grandmother and great grandmother had had breast cancer my surgeon decided to have genetic testing done on me. My results were sent to Colorado and were supposed to take 35 days to get back.

I received my results after just eleven days and I came back positive for having a mutation in the BRCA1 gene. After meeting with multiple surgeons and doctors, I decided to have a bilateral prophylactic mastectomy with breast reconstruction done on March 4th, 2017.

I consider myself lucky enough to have caught this when I did and am grateful I took the initiative to combat this problem before it could have killed me in the future. Some people don't realize how fast breast cancer can develop.

I read a story about a women that found herself BRCA1 positive like myself and this women decided to have the same surgery as me done. However, when this lady went in for her surgery she had a blood clot and the surgeons would not perform her surgery. A month later, this women had stage 4 breast cancer and ended up passing away.

I am sharing my story in hopes to raise awareness and hope and pray that by someone reading my story they can take initiative before breast cancer has the opportunity to take their body over down the road. I am extremely blessed and beyond grateful for all of the love and support I have received so far. This has been a rough journey so far without a doubt and will continue to be, but I know that I will push through it to recover better than ever and knowing I will never have to worry about having breast cancer in the future is the greatest feeling ever.

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