12 Ways To Fully Embrace Dating In 2018

12 Ways To Fully Embrace Dating In 2018

Out with the old and in with the new! A new year, new possibilities!
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Do you ever have one of those, “I don't know what the hell I'm doing with my life and why I'm still single" moments? Singleness seems to be the anthem of your life as you stare at all those pictures of your exes in their blissful new relationships that seem to possess whatever you didn't.

It kind of takes over and you can't decide between being angry or crying, so you settle for both…along with a tasty wine habit.

Surviving another year of dating seems pretty bleak at this point, but perhaps you need new rules.

Here are some new rules to help you embrace dating this year!

1. Stop social media stalking your exes

Nothing good ever comes from learning about your old partner's life. It pulls you in the wrong direction and keeps you thinking about old stuff. Do not let yourself go down that rabbit hole.

2. It's OK to not be exclusive

How on Earth do you know what you want if you don't go on dates and talk to people? Maybe you want to go on a date on Friday, but someone else asks you to go on Tuesday.It's not wrong to want to explore. The more dates you have, the more likely you are to narrow down exactly what you want from someone. And let's face it, going on dates is fun! Why limit yourself? It's like shopping around for the right car. Do you ever just want to test drive a few before you settle in on one?

3. Online dating can be worth trying


It is hard to meet people sometimes, and online dating can match you up with people you actually have something in common with. Get rid of that old stigma in your head about it. There are so many people out there with the potential to be your soulmate that you may never run across in your daily life. Give it a shot! You may really find someone perfect for you!

4. Never feel bad for saying no

Someone offers you a cheeseburger, but you're not hungry, do you eat it anyway? If you don't want to go out with someone or you want to stop dating someone, tell them. Don't worry about their feelings and feel guilty. Be honest about what you want. You can let them down gently and be true to your own needs at the same time.

5. Stop talking to your exes

Some might innocently pop up and want to know how you're doing or maybe you even maintained a friendship along the way. No matter what, cutting ties is the healthiest way to let go and move on. The more you entertain those conversations and respond, the more you drag yourself backward. Don't do that to your heart. Miss them. Be sad. But don't text back.


6. If you like them, tell them

What is it about the need to be elusive? What does that do for you? Don't waste time. Put it out there. If they reject you, move on. Be brave. You'll make it. I promise.

7. Take more pictures



It's always kind of awkward to try and take a photo with someone you just met or even a relationship that's been going on for a month or so. Nevertheless, you'll for sure be thankful later that you documented those first dates. It doesn't mean you have to share it on social media, but it's definitely nice to have! Don't overthink it or let yourself feel insecure. Embrace the moment and say cheese!

8. Stop fearing being tagged on social media by your SO

Sometimes people shy away from having relationships on Facebook in fear of breaking up some day. While it's good to have boundaries, it's also OK to enjoy your life and show people what you're up to. So what if you break up down the road? If the relationship means something to you at the time, it will always have meaning to your life. Why hide it?

9. Don't chase people

If someone leaves you, let them leave. Do not ever ask for second chances or ask people to stay with you. The ones worth staying are not the ones you will ever need to ask. Let them go so the right one can come along.

10. Don't force yourself to move on before you're ready

Sometimes you might feel like pushing yourself into a new relationship will get you over the last one, and while that might work at times, it can also hurt the new person. Make sure you give your heart the space it needs before trying to start again. Let it mend, then get back up again.

11. Find your confidence


The only way to handle a new relationship or to start dating again is to truly understand your worth and what you have to offer. Pay attention to your inner beauty as well as the rockstar appearance you have. Be proud of who you are. Other people liked you, and the new ones will too. At the end of the day, just be you.

12. Being single is ALWAYS OK!

While it's good to get back out there and try to find love, it's always perfectly OK to let yourself be single. Go out with your friends, relish in it. Enjoy the time to yourself! There is absolutely no timeline for marriage, nor do you even HAVE to get married. Just be comfortable with who you are and let the rest follow. Being single is fun. Don't let anyone ruin it for you!

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Sorry Boys, But I Won’t Be That Girl Who Waits Around For You Anymore

Just because I know my worth doesn't mean I should have to wait around for you to realize it too.

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I'm like most girls. I am such a hopeless romantic when it comes to dating and all that jazz. With that being said, I have also been the type of girl who has waited around for that guy once or twice (OK let's be real, one too many times).

I am a nice person and a lot of my friends know that I have a kind heart. You can do me dirty and I will forgive you. When it came to guys they could have led me on or ghosted me and later on came back out of nowhere and apologized, more than likely I would have given them a second chance at redemption.

I waited around for that guy to either realize how great we would be together or realize how great of a girl I was. All of my friends would tell me how great I was and how worthy I was but in the end, they weren't the ones I wanted to hear that from. Which was why I waited around and thought up of an excuse to defend the guy I was waiting around for.

The older I got the more I realized how silly I was for waiting around for a guy who probably did not appreciate me the way I should have been appreciated. I realized that I was much better than that and I made a promise that I would stop waiting around. Of course, I did slip up here and there (I mean, I am only human after all).

It wasn't until I was beyond over the male species that I realize how ridiculous I was being for crying over someone who stopped talking to me without rhyme or reason. That was the moment that I realized how worthy I was of a great relationship. A relationship that you see in movies or see in old couples who have been married for 65 years.

I decided I was no longer going to be THAT girl who waited around for a guy. I was no longer going to defend him when my friends asked me why I was still talking to him. I was no longer going to wait around for him to realize how worthy I was. Ever since I promised myself that I was going to live MY best life I have been beyond happy.

Yeah sometimes I say to myself "he was different" but then I remind myself that if he truly cared for me the way I cared for him then I would not have to wait around. He would not only pursue me but also my heart.

So ladies, realize your worth. Stop waiting around for that guy to come to the conclusion how amazing you are. You are a queen and if he can't see that right off the bat, he is NOT worth your time. Wear your crown with your head held high, live your best life, and slay the day away, queen.

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You’re Not Going To Meet Someone On Your Couch Watching Netflix, So Get Your Ass Up

Dating isn't easy, but getting off the couch shouldn't be too hard.

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I don't mean to come off as harsh.

The words are directed at me just as much as they are anyone else. Dating isn't easy, especially when most of us have been out of practice. Even as an extroverted person, the idea of striking up a conversation with an attractive guy makes me anxious. If you are fine with being single then this article isn't for you but for the rest of us who want to change our stagnant relationship status, keep on reading.

Dating has changed drastically since our parents' days. In-person conversations have shifted to words on screens, while dinners and drive-in movie theaters have turned into "Netflix and chill." While some of us might be OK with these casual meetings, others want to be wooed. No matter what kind of relationship you're looking for, I can tell you that you aren't going to find it while laying on your couch. Starting something new is stressful and nerve-wracking, but you have to start somewhere. Sometimes we need to get out of our comfort zones in order to put ourselves in a situation to meet someone new. Whether it's a house party, a nice night out with your girls, or maybe even an invite to study with a new group of friends, these all have the possibility of you putting yourself out there.

There is the potential to meet someone new anywhere: the library, the grocery store, or even in class. While it's important to put yourself out there, don't put so much pressure on everyone you meet. Some people are meant to just be friends, while others have the possibility to be so much more. If you try and it doesn't work out with one person, don't beat yourself up — maybe it wasn't meant to be, or the timing just wasn't right. All I'm trying to say is that you will never know what's out there if you don't get off the couch. I've had a lot of heartbreak in my life and sometimes I think that stops me from trying something new. It's hard to come to terms with that you might be what's stopping you from having a relationship with somebody. We need to remind ourselves that we deserve to be loved and be happy, and a healthy romantic relationship can give us that, we just have to be willing to try.

So strike up a conversation with the cute guy in your English class. Text the boy who you've always wondered "what if." Flirt with the guy who you make eye contact with across the bar. Or don't. The choice is yours. Sitting on the couch hasn't been working for you though, so you might as well try something new.

If you're truly content with being single, I'm happy for you. Keep watching Netflix on your couch, don't let me stop you. But for everyone else who wants to change their relationship status, pause the show, close the laptop or turn off the TV. Try something new, even though it's scary. I'm not saying a boyfriend will just fall into your lap, but it certainly doesn't hurt to try.

Someone could be out there waiting for you, all you have to do is get off the damn couch.

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