12 Ways To Fully Embrace Dating In 2018

12 Ways To Fully Embrace Dating In 2018

Out with the old and in with the new! A new year, new possibilities!

Do you ever have one of those, “I don't know what the hell I'm doing with my life and why I'm still single" moments? Singleness seems to be the anthem of your life as you stare at all those pictures of your exes in their blissful new relationships that seem to possess whatever you didn't.

It kind of takes over and you can't decide between being angry or crying, so you settle for both…along with a tasty wine habit.

Surviving another year of dating seems pretty bleak at this point, but perhaps you need new rules.

Here are some new rules to help you embrace dating this year!

1. Stop social media stalking your exes

Nothing good ever comes from learning about your old partner's life. It pulls you in the wrong direction and keeps you thinking about old stuff. Do not let yourself go down that rabbit hole.

2. It's OK to not be exclusive

How on Earth do you know what you want if you don't go on dates and talk to people? Maybe you want to go on a date on Friday, but someone else asks you to go on Tuesday.It's not wrong to want to explore. The more dates you have, the more likely you are to narrow down exactly what you want from someone. And let's face it, going on dates is fun! Why limit yourself? It's like shopping around for the right car. Do you ever just want to test drive a few before you settle in on one?

3. Online dating can be worth trying

It is hard to meet people sometimes, and online dating can match you up with people you actually have something in common with. Get rid of that old stigma in your head about it. There are so many people out there with the potential to be your soulmate that you may never run across in your daily life. Give it a shot! You may really find someone perfect for you!

4. Never feel bad for saying no

Someone offers you a cheeseburger, but you're not hungry, do you eat it anyway? If you don't want to go out with someone or you want to stop dating someone, tell them. Don't worry about their feelings and feel guilty. Be honest about what you want. You can let them down gently and be true to your own needs at the same time.

5. Stop talking to your exes

Some might innocently pop up and want to know how you're doing or maybe you even maintained a friendship along the way. No matter what, cutting ties is the healthiest way to let go and move on. The more you entertain those conversations and respond, the more you drag yourself backward. Don't do that to your heart. Miss them. Be sad. But don't text back.

6. If you like them, tell them

What is it about the need to be elusive? What does that do for you? Don't waste time. Put it out there. If they reject you, move on. Be brave. You'll make it. I promise.

7. Take more pictures

It's always kind of awkward to try and take a photo with someone you just met or even a relationship that's been going on for a month or so. Nevertheless, you'll for sure be thankful later that you documented those first dates. It doesn't mean you have to share it on social media, but it's definitely nice to have! Don't overthink it or let yourself feel insecure. Embrace the moment and say cheese!

8. Stop fearing being tagged on social media by your SO

Sometimes people shy away from having relationships on Facebook in fear of breaking up some day. While it's good to have boundaries, it's also OK to enjoy your life and show people what you're up to. So what if you break up down the road? If the relationship means something to you at the time, it will always have meaning to your life. Why hide it?

9. Don't chase people

If someone leaves you, let them leave. Do not ever ask for second chances or ask people to stay with you. The ones worth staying are not the ones you will ever need to ask. Let them go so the right one can come along.

10. Don't force yourself to move on before you're ready

Sometimes you might feel like pushing yourself into a new relationship will get you over the last one, and while that might work at times, it can also hurt the new person. Make sure you give your heart the space it needs before trying to start again. Let it mend, then get back up again.

11. Find your confidence

The only way to handle a new relationship or to start dating again is to truly understand your worth and what you have to offer. Pay attention to your inner beauty as well as the rockstar appearance you have. Be proud of who you are. Other people liked you, and the new ones will too. At the end of the day, just be you.

12. Being single is ALWAYS OK!

While it's good to get back out there and try to find love, it's always perfectly OK to let yourself be single. Go out with your friends, relish in it. Enjoy the time to yourself! There is absolutely no timeline for marriage, nor do you even HAVE to get married. Just be comfortable with who you are and let the rest follow. Being single is fun. Don't let anyone ruin it for you!

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I Asked 11 Strong Independent College Girls Why They Plan On Staying Single Alllllll 2019

We don't all need a man to be happy.


Listen. Not every college girl wants a ring by spring or really even cares about finding a man. With the popularity of going to college just to walk out with a Mrs. Degree, all the confident and single ladies tend to get overlooked.

Well, ladies, in case you haven't caught on to 2019's biggest dating trend, I'll share it with you—it's loving yourself and staying single. Here what these 11 strong, independent, college girls say about their plans to stay single alllll 2019.

1. Boys are dumb. Simple as that.

"The male species literally is incapable of using their brain at 20-years-old, I'm going to wait until 30s so maybe they will know how to use their common sense. Sorry boys." - Shelby, 20

2. I want to grow on my own.

"I want to focus on learning more about myself and challenging myself. Also, relationships are complicated so I'd rather spend that time worrying about or focusing on school." - Molly, 18

3. Self-love is the best love.

"I need to learn to love myself more than I have been the past two years. I just got out of a two-year relationship (which I am still severely heartbroken over) but I am actually excited to be living life for me." - Caitlin, 20

4. The time spent on focusing on gaining someone else's love will now be spent on finding love within myself.

"It's not that I plan on staying single, I'm just not going to actively put myself out there and fine tune myself. I have spent the past couple of years doing everything I could to find a guy, dating apps, blind dates, letting my friends run my dating apps, socializing a little extra and it just makes me so tired. I want to focus more on myself and what I like to do. Take myself out for a nice dinner and spend time with me. Not watching Netflix but actually getting to know who I am and love myself again, because how you can expect somebody to love you and know you if you don't even know or love yourself?" - Leah, 23

5. Time for some power moves, sister.

"I'm achieving my career dreams without any man holding me back or making me second guess myself or my decisions!" - Jenny, 21

6. Someone print this on a damn t-shirt or something.

"I'm trying to get A's, not Baes." - Holly, 20

7. Well, to put it simply...

"Men are trash." - Bobette, 22

8. Your potential should not be defined by a relationship.

"I've found there's more to life then having a boyfriend. Right now, I'm transitioning from being a college student to my career and I think the last thing I need is to worry about starting a relationship. I'm going to focus on loving myself this year." - Sarah, 21

9. So much time has already been wasted...

"I plan on staying single because boys have been too much of a waste of my time already." - Erin, 21

10. What's the move in 2019? Self love. That's the move in 2019.

"For myself, honestly. I just want to focus on me." - Lex, 19

11. I'm the best me when I'm single.

"I just function better when I'm by myself. There's no extra stress and no need to please or impress anyone." - Jordyn, 20

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11 Thoughts Single College Girls Experience On Valentine's Day

All the mixed emotions single girls feel on Valentine's Day

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Other than my junior year, any Valentine's Day that came across during my college years were filled with a wide range of emotions. Part of me was salty because I wanted the gifts and attention others were getting. Part of me was relieved that I didn't have to plan anything and could focus on classes the next day. Most of the time though Valentines Days were filled with anticipation for the "Fifty Shades of Grey" trilogy.

I've always wondered how my personal mixed emotions seemed to line up with the general population and research shows that it's complicated for many. Although singles aren't necessarily devastated by it, our thoughts about Valentines Day depend on many situational factors.

And if you're a single college girl, you may be thinking these 11 things on Valentine's Day:

1. “I wish I had a boyfriend just for the day.”

This is what some girls are thinking if they’ve been single for a while and they don’t necessarily miss being in a long-term relationship, but they just want completely undivided attention for the day and a romantic candlelight dinner.

2. “I’m glad I don’t have a boyfriend. I don’t need a man.”

This is what usually goes on through girl's heads if they're the independent type who don't place that much value on relationships. They might still scroll through Instagram out of pure nosiness, but if anything, they're probably thinking about how happy they are in the relationship they have with themselves.

3. “I wonder if he’ll send me a happy Valentine’s Day text...or maybe it’s too early for that.”

Valentines Day is already hyped up enough when you’re in a relationship and it’s to be expected that you probably won’t be doing anything romantic if you’re single on that day. But what about those who are in a situationship? Yes, it’s that awkward phase when an official title isn’t there, but that doesn’t mean Valentines Day can’t be brought up at all. Don’t you secretly hope that the person you’re involved with will at least send you a “Happy Valentines” text or stop by and give you a rose?

4. “Wait, they’re actually together?”

On Valentine's Day, the timeline on Instagram is similar to the Oprah Winfrey meme “You get a car! You get a car!" except it's with boyfriends instead. This girl has a boyfriend! *gasp* and this girl has a boyfriend too! *gasp*

5. “Wait...didn’t she just key his car and slash his tires after he hooked up with her best friend last week?”

This exact thought might be a tad bit of an overexaggeration, but it's still the most awkward thing when you see a picture of a couple looking as happy as can be, but deep down everyone knows that their relationship is nothing but drama behind closed doors.

6. “I’ll just hang out with my girl friends, eat pizza, and gossip.”

Girls who enjoy the company of their closest friends more than anyone else will most likely be thinking of hosting a Galentine's Day party rather than a Valentine's Day party. Besides, romantic love isn't the only love that exists.

7. “I’ll treat myself with chocolate.”

Let's be real. Valentine's Day is the perfect time to take a break from the diet and splurge on candy and chocolate.

8. “I’ll treat myself with wine.”

Other than candy and chocolate, wine would be the third option as a substitute for having someone special for Valentine’s Day.

9. “I can’t believe I got dumped.”

Believe it or not, the time of February is peak breakup time. A Facebook study showed that around the time of Valentine’s Day is usually when you’ll notice breakups start to happen in a more recurring manner.

10. “It’s literally no different than any other day.”

Then finally, there are the people who really don't give a damn about Valentine's Day at all because ultimately, it's just another day.

11. “Maybe this wouldn't be so bad if I wasn't dick deprived.”

Sometimes Valentine's Day doesn't have people thinking about intimacy and romance. Sometimes it's just a reminder of the sexual drought you've been going through for a while.

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