13 Realistic Ways To Land You A Boyfriend By Summer

13 Realistic Ways To Land You A Boyfriend By Summer

Be true to yourself and accept that what will happen, will happen.

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It's almost spring and I'm still single. Am I mad? No. I'm determined. I've just been through a brutal ghosting that has left me feeling very betrayed and vulnerable, and I've grown tremendously from it. We have to go through the hard shit to get to the good shit! Dating is nothing short of a marathon in 2019, but if you work hard and pace yourself, you'll find yourself a winner by the summer.

Being single in college totally sucks, trust me I get it, but we can't let that hold us down or define us. Get up, get out and get moving girl!

1. Be 100% ready to be vulnerable. Stop trying to avoid the "bad" ones.

This I've struggled with because getting hurt sucks and keeping walls up to prevent yourself from really feeling anything seems like a quick solution. WRONG. You have to meet the wrong guys to find the right one. Trust me I went through a spell of horrible guys and met a great one (the one that got away basically) so I'm repeating the cycle now. Yes, it's tough, but it's a part of dating you need to embrace if you ever want to get anywhere.

2. Be open to different types of guys, not just the usual you think is what you want.

Being open is super important. Maybe a guy you're talking to is a bit nerdier looking than you usually like to go for. Who cares? Give yourself the chance to experience talking to new people outside of your usual "type" or else you're going to have very limited options that likely aren't what you want.

3. Listen to your gut and go for who and what you want. Other people are great as sounding boards, but it's not them in the relationship—it's you.

Your friends are great as confidants and can help you get your thoughts together on how you feel about who you're talking to. However, you are the one seeing this person, not them, and you have to decide for yourself whether this person is right or wrong for you. Your gut knows whether you're into someone or trust them, so trust what you feel while considering advice from friends.

4. Don't be afraid to set boundaries.

Voice how you feel about things, like bedroom activities or even just little things that bother you that you need this person to know. You don't like when someone holds your hand in public? Let them know. Being vocal early on will prevent issues springing up later because you were afraid to make your voice heard.

5. Just be open in general. Being closed off will prevent any real relationship from forming.

Be open to trying some new foods with him, or do a new activity like rock climbing! Don't be closed off and keep things from him either. Opening up to someone shows you care and want to share yourself with them without fear, and they will do the same. You can't bond with anyone without being vulnerable.

6. Be unapologetically you. You won't find a good boyfriend by acting like someone you're nothing like.

Don't act fake. He's going to see through it the same way everyone else can. He will fall for the 100% real you if he's a good guy and you need to harness how amazing you are. If you lack confidence in yourself, I highly suggest taking a massive break from dating until you build up that self-confidence and self-love.

7. It's not all about you, and if you think that way, good luck dating yourself.

Get over yourself. The world doesn't revolve around you and how you feel. Being concerned only about yourself and what benefits you will never let you form a genuine relationship with anyone, let alone a boyfriend. People like this are someone you need to stay away from in all aspects of your life, especially in terms of dating.

8. Relax. Take your time. Oh, and don't complain about being single!

Complaining about being single offsets your vibe completely. Yes, it sucks I'll be the first to admit it, but if I go into dating complaining about being single, how am I ever supposed to truly find someone? Don't rush onto five different dating apps and make your entire life revolve around finding yourself the perfect man because it won't happen. Chill out girl, he's out there!

9. Set time aside for yourself. Self-love is essential.

Read a book you love, do a face mask, or buy something cute for yourself every once and a while. Do what makes you happy while you're single but even more so when you're in a relationship. Be happy with yourself and be happy alone, because if you cannot be happy alone, you can't truly be happy with anyone else because you'll rely on them to make you happy and feel loved. Don't wedge yourself into that position.

10. Get yo' flirt on!

Embrace flirtation with open arms and don't be afraid to brush his arm or throw some little inuendos at him. Flirtation is as important in relationships as well as forming them, and if you don't have that chemistry, you're doomed from the start.

11. Don't have sex with a guy immediately — they love the chase.

On one hand, sex early on does help you figure out if there is going to be that chemistry in a relationship. On the other hand, if you hold off, you'll build a relationship on more than just lust. Everyone has different opinions on this, so I would say go with what you think feels right.

12. DTR ASAP. Don't waste your time on the unknown and unpredictable.

I've wasted so much time on fuckboys because I was too scared to DTR. Don't be like me. Have that talk sooner rather than later because you don't deserve to be strung around.

13. Don't go on a prowl, let them come to you.

Hunt the men like they're gazelle and you're a lion. Let the gazelle come close and then snatch them up. Don't rip them apart and eat them or anything, just smother them with your greatness.

At the end of the day, what happens will happen. Don't stress and keep your chin up. What doesn't kill you makes you stronger.

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If You Loved The Wrong Person That Much, Imagine How Much You Could Love The Right Person

You fell in love with the wrong person, sweetie. But, it isn't the end of your love story — this is only the beginning.

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Love.

We all crave, wish, hope, and pray for it.

If you're like me, you've been planning your wedding from a young age. I've always imagined what it would be like when my "Prince Charming" finally waltzed his way into my life. Eventually, he did, or at least I thought he did.

I fell in love with whom I believed was my "Prince Charming," Ross to my Rachel, Augustus Waters to my Hazel Grace, Jim to my Pam. You name it, I believed it. I truly saw myself spending the rest of my life with this man. I loved him with every piece of me. I trusted him with my heart, but he broke all of that. I truly believed he put the stars in the sky.

Sadly, I was wrong. So. Wrong.

I, of course, would have done anything for this man. I was head over heels in love and just wanted to make him happy. I loved him so much. However, after he broke the trust that we had built and decided that he no longer loved me, that all vanished. I was left questioning what I did wrong? What did I do to deserve this? All I did was give you love and shower you with it. I did everything for you.

Then, the answer hit me. I didn't do anything wrong. In fact, I did everything right.

See, the thing is, when you are loving the person who you think you are supposed to be with at the end of the day, all you are doing is wasting your time. The person that you are meant to be with will look past your flaws and fall in love with them. You won't have to ask the person that you are supposed to be with for him/her to spend time with you, to prioritize you, to act like they truly want to be in your life. You won't have to ask the person that you are supposed to be with to love you, because they will do it unconditionally, just like how you did with the wrong person.

When you love the wrong person wholeheartedly, you never seem to win. You are always doing something wrong in the end. It's always your fault, isn't it? No matter how hard you try, how many kisses you shower them with, how much time you devote to them out of your schedule, it's still not enough. But why can't you win when you sacrifice so much for this one person? Aren't you supposed to be in love? Yes, YOU love them with your entire heart, but why can't you receive the same love and respect back?

Because you are not meant to be.

Those that you are not meant to be with will never see your worth. They will never appreciate you for the amazing, independent, strong, beautiful, and courageous person that you are. However, the person that you are meant to love wholeheartedly will, and they will do whatever it takes to show you your worth. They will love you for you and never make you question why you always seem to love more than your significant other does.

So, trust me, sweetheart, when I say you're meant to be will find their way to you. Maybe they already have and you don't even know it. Just have patience and love yourself, because when you fall in love with yourself, you will have so much more love to give to the right person.

Your right person is out there. We all have and deserve a Ross to our Rachel, an Augustus Waters to our Hazel Grace, a Jim to our Pam. So, straighten your head and hold it up high because your crown is tilting.

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Subtle Ways You May Be Disrespecting Your Friend's Relationship

If they make your friend happy, you shouldn't be doing these things.

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No ones significant other wants to tell them they don't like their friends. And trying to tell anyone not to hang out with the people they're closest too is a disaster waiting to happen.

Some people really just don't like their friend's partner, but others have no idea the damage they may be doing to the relationship. If you are more aware of some things to avoid, hopefully, you, your friend, and their partner can all get along in peace.

1. When you see your friend, make sure to acknowledge their partner.

To be honest, this is a basic courtesy. If you go to say hi to anyone in a group of people, it is polite to greet, or at least acknowledge, everyone there. If you completely ignore that your friend's partner is even there, it will make them feel awkward and neglected. Just say hi.

2. Don't be overly touchy-feely with your friend, especially around their partner.

Obviously, this mostly applies to friends of the opposite sex (for heterosexual couples). Look, there is nothing wrong with having friends of the opposite sex but just know your boundaries. You may think your friend's partner is being jealous for no reason, but are you doing anything that might make them uncomfortable?

You don't need to always have your arm around them or be leaned up against them. It is really inappropriate to kiss them on the cheek or give them super long hugs, even if that is something you did before they had a partner, and even if it is completely platonic.

You can still hug and be close to your friend, just be respectful of their boundaries. If you don't give their partner any reason to be jealous then they will have no basis to dislike you.

3. If you invite your friend somewhere, it is polite to also invite their partner.

Even if you assume your friend's partner is going to come, it is nice to make them feel welcomed. And if you don't want their partner to come, make sure they are not together or planning to be together when you invite your friend.

You don't have to always have their partner around, but don't make it a habit of not inviting them. If they don't feel welcomed around their partner's friends, then they probably won't feel as confident in their relationship.

4. Don't ever bring up your friend's past relationships, especially around their partner.

Even if they are on good terms. Even if you are still friends with their ex. Just don't bring them up. No one wants to hear about their partner's past relationships or flings. It is embarrassing and uncomfortable to have to hear about your partner's exes.

5. If you are all out together, don't try to separate your friend from their partner.

There is a good chance that if you are out with your friend and their partner, their partner does not know many people there. If that is the case, don't try to separate your friend from their partner.

There may be an exception if their partner has friends around too, or if they are outgoing and can talk to anybody easily, but otherwise, it is really awkward to be in that situation alone. They are with their partner for a reason, and it is nice to make their partner feel included as well.

Just don't make it a habit to always pull your friend away.

6. Don't put your friend in any awkward or risky situations.

If your friend is a cheater, that is not really any fault of yours. But don't be the friend who is known for putting your partnered friend in risky situations.

There is nothing wrong with going out occasionally with your friends, but it does not need to be a regular occurrence, especially if it makes their partner uncomfortable.

Along the same lines, if you know an ex-partner or fling will be there, you don't need to put your friend in that awkward situation. Just be aware of the situation and how it might make their partner feel.

To wrap up, you don't need to completely change your relationship with your friend just to make their partner happy; just make sure to be polite and respectful of their partner and their relationship.

These are some subtle things you may be doing that are hurting your friend's relationship that you don't even realize have negative consequences. Simply be more aware of some of these situations and how they could potentially make your friend's partner feel. After all, the best relationships are the ones where your partner's friends also become your friends.

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