13 Realistic Ways To Land You A Boyfriend By Summer

13 Realistic Ways To Land You A Boyfriend By Summer

Be true to yourself and accept that what will happen, will happen.

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It's almost spring and I'm still single. Am I mad? No. I'm determined. I've just been through a brutal ghosting that has left me feeling very betrayed and vulnerable, and I've grown tremendously from it. We have to go through the hard shit to get to the good shit! Dating is nothing short of a marathon in 2019, but if you work hard and pace yourself, you'll find yourself a winner by the summer.

Being single in college totally sucks, trust me I get it, but we can't let that hold us down or define us. Get up, get out and get moving girl!

1. Be 100% ready to be vulnerable. Stop trying to avoid the "bad" ones.

This I've struggled with because getting hurt sucks and keeping walls up to prevent yourself from really feeling anything seems like a quick solution. WRONG. You have to meet the wrong guys to find the right one. Trust me I went through a spell of horrible guys and met a great one (the one that got away basically) so I'm repeating the cycle now. Yes, it's tough, but it's a part of dating you need to embrace if you ever want to get anywhere.

2. Be open to different types of guys, not just the usual you think is what you want.

Being open is super important. Maybe a guy you're talking to is a bit nerdier looking than you usually like to go for. Who cares? Give yourself the chance to experience talking to new people outside of your usual "type" or else you're going to have very limited options that likely aren't what you want.

3. Listen to your gut and go for who and what you want. Other people are great as sounding boards, but it's not them in the relationship—it's you.

Your friends are great as confidants and can help you get your thoughts together on how you feel about who you're talking to. However, you are the one seeing this person, not them, and you have to decide for yourself whether this person is right or wrong for you. Your gut knows whether you're into someone or trust them, so trust what you feel while considering advice from friends.

4. Don't be afraid to set boundaries.

Voice how you feel about things, like bedroom activities or even just little things that bother you that you need this person to know. You don't like when someone holds your hand in public? Let them know. Being vocal early on will prevent issues springing up later because you were afraid to make your voice heard.

5. Just be open in general. Being closed off will prevent any real relationship from forming.

Be open to trying some new foods with him, or do a new activity like rock climbing! Don't be closed off and keep things from him either. Opening up to someone shows you care and want to share yourself with them without fear, and they will do the same. You can't bond with anyone without being vulnerable.

6. Be unapologetically you. You won't find a good boyfriend by acting like someone you're nothing like.

Don't act fake. He's going to see through it the same way everyone else can. He will fall for the 100% real you if he's a good guy and you need to harness how amazing you are. If you lack confidence in yourself, I highly suggest taking a massive break from dating until you build up that self-confidence and self-love.

7. It's not all about you, and if you think that way, good luck dating yourself.

Get over yourself. The world doesn't revolve around you and how you feel. Being concerned only about yourself and what benefits you will never let you form a genuine relationship with anyone, let alone a boyfriend. People like this are someone you need to stay away from in all aspects of your life, especially in terms of dating.

8. Relax. Take your time. Oh, and don't complain about being single!

Complaining about being single offsets your vibe completely. Yes, it sucks I'll be the first to admit it, but if I go into dating complaining about being single, how am I ever supposed to truly find someone? Don't rush onto five different dating apps and make your entire life revolve around finding yourself the perfect man because it won't happen. Chill out girl, he's out there!

9. Set time aside for yourself. Self-love is essential.

Read a book you love, do a face mask, or buy something cute for yourself every once and a while. Do what makes you happy while you're single but even more so when you're in a relationship. Be happy with yourself and be happy alone, because if you cannot be happy alone, you can't truly be happy with anyone else because you'll rely on them to make you happy and feel loved. Don't wedge yourself into that position.

10. Get yo' flirt on!

Embrace flirtation with open arms and don't be afraid to brush his arm or throw some little inuendos at him. Flirtation is as important in relationships as well as forming them, and if you don't have that chemistry, you're doomed from the start.

11. Don't have sex with a guy immediately — they love the chase.

On one hand, sex early on does help you figure out if there is going to be that chemistry in a relationship. On the other hand, if you hold off, you'll build a relationship on more than just lust. Everyone has different opinions on this, so I would say go with what you think feels right.

12. DTR ASAP. Don't waste your time on the unknown and unpredictable.

I've wasted so much time on fuckboys because I was too scared to DTR. Don't be like me. Have that talk sooner rather than later because you don't deserve to be strung around.

13. Don't go on a prowl, let them come to you.

Hunt the men like they're gazelle and you're a lion. Let the gazelle come close and then snatch them up. Don't rip them apart and eat them or anything, just smother them with your greatness.

At the end of the day, what happens will happen. Don't stress and keep your chin up. What doesn't kill you makes you stronger.

Literally, so hot RN

Literally, so hot RN

12 Things To Know Before Dating A Girl Who Loves Country Singers More Than She Loves You

They’re just as important as you, babe.

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If you're about to fall for a girl who falls for country singers, prepare yourself by knowing the following:

1. The playlist 

My playlist will go from Luke Combs to Blake Shelton and you'll have to deal with it. Your playlists are not an option. I will go on and on about how beautiful their voice is, but don't get jealous.

2. Releases

I will set alarms for new releases like Luke Combs "The Prequel" and you HAVE to be as excited as I am. I will be more excited about these releases than I am about anything else in life, but suck it up buttercup.

3. Concerts

I will give up time with you to go see my favorite singers and you’ll just have to understand. You can either join or not, but the plans aren’t changing.

4. Lyrics

You will hear me quote their lyrics more than I’ll say I love you, but just know I still love you.

5. Car rides

Every car ride will include country music, while it will most likely be Luke Combs or Adam Doleac blaring on the radio, you better enjoy every bit of it.

6. I will talk about how beautiful they are.

You’ll hear about their looks often, wether it be Luke Combs eyes or Luke Bryan’s voice, the looks will be brought up. Don’t get jealous, you’re just as handsome.

7. Their voices

Their voices are BEAUTIFUL. While I personally favor Luke Combs, just know I love yours too.

8. Phone backgrounds 

My phone background is most likely some country singer and not a picture of us, but you’re important, I promise.

9. Home Decor 

I will have pictures of Faren Rachels and I up before I have some of us, but realize I have plenty of pictures of us and one with her.

10. Awards

Whenever any awards are on, they’re number one priority compared to your Braves games. You can always watch recaps.

11. Singing 

I will randomly start singing any song by them and probably interrupt any story you're telling, sorry they're on my mind.

12. Dates

I will make sure any release dates for new songs, albums, or concerts are on my calendar; however, I will probably forget our anniversaries.

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I Asked 10 Brides What They Wish They Had Done Differently While Wedding Planning And Their Responses Ring True

When the engagement celebration sets in and the wedding planning begins, 10 brides give their advice on how to plan a kick-ass wedding.

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Maybe it's just me, but I was almost in a state of denial after our engagement. I was on this cloud and I didn't want to start thinking about what's next. But a week later we started thinking about possible dates, venues, and budgets and that when the stress began— which wasn't fun.

It's hard not comparing one's wedding and planning processes to those of the movies and other friends. But every wedding is as different as the couple themselves are; that's what makes a wedding spectacular and amazing! So with wedding planning, I have found some of the best advice I have received has been from first-hand experience. These 10 Brides have something to say when asked the question, "What is one thing you wish you hadn't stressed so much when planning your wedding?"

1. Too much pressure on the event.

"Putting too much emphasis on the event, rather than the reason for being there. Make a commitment to God and each other to make it through the good and the bad times. That's what really matters!" Denise, married December 24th, 1994

2. Take in the moment and live it!

"About the wedding day being perfect, it's gonna go how it's gonna go. Don't stress about it, just take in the moment and live it. Oh and don't be a bridezilla. Ruins the day and the mood." Kayla, married December 9th, 2016

3. Do only what you want to do!

"Worrying about everyone else! It's YOUR DAY! Do only what you want to do!" Ashleigh, June 7th, 2017

4. Don't stress the small stuff!

" Planning wasn't that stressful for me! But when it came to the actual day, there were so many things that I was like, 'this literally doesn't matter.' Such as the flowers or decorations or the little details. Of course they were all great and everything looked amazing. But little details you don't even notice on your wedding day. For me, the day went by SOOO fast! Everything was so fast paced and so I didn't even have time to glance at the decorations table or card table. Don't stress the small stuff! Because on your actual day, it'll be the last thing on your mind! Because you'll just wanna see your groom so bad that nothing else matters!" Kelsie, married August 19th, 2018

5. Too many little details that nobody else cared about.

"Too many little details that nobody else cared about that I cared about too much! So much time went into it which I loved, but it's more about spending time with all the people that you love in your life! They don't care how much money you spend on the day or if everything goes perfectly. They just want you to have a good day and they want to celebrate you and your love and marriage!" Savannah, married October 1st, 2017

6. It's about you and your spouse.

"How much other people thought things are important to them. Dang this is my day and what's important to me and my spouse is what matters. It's about us." Denise, married July 28th, 2007.

7. Having the "perfect picture" like everyone else in my mind had.

"Definitely all the details that you don't really notice, like the seating chart at the reception. Don't stress about getting things done the week of the wedding, if it doesn't get done then it doesn't get done. You're going to get married regardless and no one will even notice it. I also had to keep reminding myself, it's about the marriage, not the wedding. Pictures/video were a big thing I stressed about because I wanted it all to be "perfect" pictures like everyone else in my mind had...I spent so much time finding pictures and trying to match those pictures that I didn't enjoy the picture finding process. I would also say that the night before the wedding don't stress too much about all the details that you hadn't gotten to because it's going to be beautiful and you need sleep, especially if you are going on your honeymoon right away because then you wind up sick...
One big one I stressed about a lot was how well all the pinks in my wedding matched (I'm OCD) Cloth napkins, table runners, the bridesmaid dresses, to the decorations." Presley, married August 18th, 2018

8. The guest list

"Honestly I stressed about the guest list the most and still do even now. Since my fiance and I are both from a small town and both have big families, it took us quite a while to get the guest list figured out. Our wedding budget was also a factor in determining how many people we wanted to have as well. At the wedding you want people there that are an influence on your life and it's hard looking back thinking of all the people that have been a part of it over the last many years. Once that was figured out it was a big relief, but it has also been fun planning everything. Even the guest list." -Morgan, getting married in June of 2019.

9. Thinking too much about making it different or comparable to other weddings.

"I'm a people-pleaser by nature. And because we are young I worried about people looking at our wedding and judging based on what we didn't have. I compared it too much to my other friends' weddings, YouTuber's weddings, and the stuff you see in the movies. And finances were a big stress in the early stages as well. But once we took a step back to just process what our wedding meant to us as a couple and what we want our marriage to be, we were able to lighten up a lot and have more fun! Yes, we had to refocus our finances and savings, but really we just kept reminding one another that this was one day to the rest of our lives together as husband and wife. The best is yet to come. - Megan (Me) Getting married in September of 2019!


It's easy to get into the mindset that your wedding has to be "perfect" and it has to look like weddings in the movies or in the pictures of other people. But that's what's amazing about weddings. They are uniquely yours. If you have a hard time getting out of this mindset like I do a lot of the time, just think about your fiance. Remember that you are committing forever to the one you love. Marriage is more than just one day.

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