14 Things Guys DON'T Understand About Independent Women, But Should

14 Things Guys DON'T Understand About Independent Women, But Should

I'm sorry if I'm intimidating the crap out of you, it's just kinda who I am.

Ladies, I think it's about time we acknowledged these things that guys just don't "get" about us.

There have certainly been times where I felt like my independence scared away potential love interests, but it took me awhile to realize that being independent is a huge turn-on. The right guy will appreciate a woman who carries herself so effortlessly.

Gentlemen, feel free to keep reading.

1. We have our shit together.

And we don't have time to listen to your long list of excuses about why you couldn't meet up with us. We are busy women, don't think you can just get away with wasting a second of our precious time.

2. We want to hear about your dreams, no matter how crazy they seem.

Considering my dream as a ten-year-old was to be Lizzie McGuire singing at the Colosseum in Rome, you shouldn't be embarrassed to tell us about your dreams. Even if you haven't got it all figure out yet, that is OK. We want to hear about it so in the case that an opportunity does come along, we can help you get one step closer.

3. As a matter of fact, we LOVE intelligent conversations.

We would love to hear your thoughts on just about anything that isn't totally superficial. Intelligence is sexy, come to us with something amazing you just learned about. We'll definitely be impressed.

4. We know how to go after something we want.

And sometimes that can be the downfall of us, especially when loser, low-ego guys are involved. Bottom line, we don't deserve those guys so don't be one of them. Please.

5. That's right, we set goals and achieve them.

Oh, did your Odyssey team hit ONE MILLION page views in eight months? Didn't think so.

6. We respect the fact that taking care of ourselves comes first.

Don't interrupt my bubble bath, damn it.

7. We already live lives full of love.

We recognize that love is all around us, and we certainly don't need any plain, old guy to prove that to us.

8. We have killer organizational skills.

Don't argue with us about what time we were supposed to meet Friday night. We wrote that shit down five days ago.

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9. We know when to be professional and when to call someone out on their shit.

Some days we dress up and shake hands with business people. Some days we wear sweatpants and stay at home because some guy out there is treating us like a POS. Don't play with us or else you've got something coming in your direction.

10. We recognize that you are just an option.

I know that sounds harsh, but I'm just speaking the truth. I'm not saying we should be talking to three guys at the same time and screw every single one of them over, we will certainly let you know how we feel from the get-go. At the same time, we don't have to be in a relationship with someone. If we want to, we will let you know.

11. We really just don't give a fuck.

We could care less about what other people think. It's nobody else's place to judge your relationship but yours and your S.O.'s.

12. We absolutely avoid drama at all costs.

We may even have more guy friends than girl friends because of it, and so what? Petty drama about what Ashlyn wore to formal is honestly not worth a breath. Neither is the rumor that Sarah hooked up with Katy's boyfriend last night.

13. When you ask us where we want to go out for dinner, we give you an answer. None of that, "It doesn't matter, you pick," bullshit.

If we want cheese fries, WE WILL TELL YOU.

14. If we intimidate the crap out of you, you should probably get lost.

I highly doubt you smell funny, OK.

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I Am A Hopeless Romantic Living In A World Where One-Night Stands Are The Norm

It's the little things.


In today's society, it can certainly start to feel like no one takes love seriously anymore.

Whether it's that one couple who has broken up and gotten back together more times than you can count, the two friends-with-benefits no one can figure out, your local womanizer, or just hookups in general, love and lust are a huge part of specifically college life and culture.

As a hopeless romantic, being part of a generation that "just wants to have fun" can be really frustrating, especially when you just want to find something real. It is so easy for people to put on a fake act just to get what they want and sometimes this can be extremely hard to see through. I'm sure we've all had some kind of incident with someone who played nice but had ulterior motives and the sad truth is that it can be impossible to recognize a person's artificiality.

I am a hopeless romantic.

I have always classified myself as such, and it has remained true. Sure, I can make the most of the freedoms I have as a single college woman, but deep down I just want to find my person.

I've had my fair share of letdowns, and I think we all have, but being a hopeless romantic makes it that much more difficult to get past the "what ifs" and fantasies that come along with starting something with someone new. We may already have our hearts set on a person when they decide they've gotten what they wanted and leave.

For me, I find myself caught up in the little things that someone does. I have always been someone who picks up on small details in situations, and sometimes this works against me.

I pick up on the small facial expressions that he may not even realize he is making; the ones that tell you when their guard has been let down, even just for a split second.

I pick up on the way he sits our two cellphones side by side on the nightstand, taking care to line them up perfectly as if that's just their spot.

I pick up on the short moments of laughter where he actually lets himself laugh and forgets about the act.

I pick up on things, and sometimes I end up hurting because of it.

When it comes down to it, though, I wouldn't change the way that I am. I wouldn't change the fact that I find myself in the search for more in a society that mostly only offers me less.

The trait that tends to hurt me most is also the one that I value most. Even if noticing all the little things is something that contributes to my own heartache, I love those moments. There is something beautiful about those tiny things shared by two people, even if the connection ends there.

Sure, it can be hard. But so can everything.

It's just a matter of finding the beauty.

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Dedicate Your Summer To Bettering Yourself For Yourself, Not Your Ex

Why waste energy on an ex who doesn't care about you anymore?


I'm single for the summer (yet again, no shock there) but this summer there's something in the air that just feels different. It's the feeling of true acceptance of my single status.

Last summer I was single when I really didn't want to be. My heart with still holding out for a guy who wasn't interested in anything more than my friendship. It took me from late March all the way until Halloween to get over those feelings. However, while working through those tough feelings that summer, I came to enjoy my time on my own and not talking to anyone except my best friends. I didn't have to worry about when I'd get a text back, or if I'd be left on read, or who he'd be out with since I wasn't around. The only thing I needed to worry about was my paychecks and tan lines.

Sometimes after breaking things off with someone who you put so much effort into, whether it was a boyfriend, an almost relationship, or even a friend with benefits, it's easy to want to show off on social media and make them regret ever hurting you or ending things. Why? It's a nice little ego boost, sure, but after those few seconds of glee from the fact that you know they've seen and maybe even liked your picture or your tweet, or saw your story on Snapchat, do you still feel happy? No, you go right back to feeling like crap, whether you want to admit it or not. Stop making yourself all about them when that ship has sailed and start being all about you.

Your ex is off doing their own thing, maybe thinking about you, but obviously not enough to want you back in their life the way you used to be. They are probably out there finding a new person to take your spot because they don't have you at their beck and call anymore. If they're also showing off to show you how much better they are without you or to make you jealous...why are you still following them or still participating in this sick little game for attention? Grow up and block them so you don't have to keep seeing their posts, or be adult enough to stop if you're doing the same as well. If it's only you posting, chances are you just look stupid, so stop before you really embarrass yourself. I was that person, and I know first hand how embarrassed I am for acting the way I did.

Summer is synonymous for doing whatever the hell you want. Wear what you want, say what you want, and be the best version of yourself that only a high dose of Vitamin D can bring out. Your ex is an ex for many reasons. You have to set aside the summer for you and what benefits you only. Don't concern yourself with an ex who doesn't care in the least about you anymore. Coming from someone who posted thirst traps aimed at a specific person along with countless shady AF stories on Snap and Insta in the hopes that this one person and their friends would see it, just stop and save yourself the energy as well as regret.

We're all adults, it's time to stop the petty posts and photos. Post your thirst trap for yourself because you're a sexy queen who doesn't need anyone but herself. Once you start focusing on yourself this summer, instead of your ex, you'll realize just have great it feels to truly be free.

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