16 Things Good Girlfriends Do For Their Boyfriends

16 Things Good Girlfriends Do For Their Boyfriends

These are a few things I would hope good girlfriends do for their boyfriends.
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I have been seriously dating the same guy for almost two years now. I may not know everything about relationships, and I am not an expert by any means, but I have heard many stories, read many books, and witnessed many relationships. I like to think I know what a good girlfriend does for her boyfriend.

1. She respects her boyfriend.

There are boundaries in every relationship. There is a level of respect that is different for everyone when it comes to phones, plans, talking, and sharing secrets.

2. She reminds him how important he is.

This seems like such a simple thing. It seems like girls always need reassurance, but it is nice to remind your significant other how important they are to you and the world. Everyone deserves to feel wanted and important.

3. She supports him in all his goals, hobbies and dreams.

Whether he plays recreational sports, climbing the corporate ladder, or has a traveling bucket list, she always supports him! Supporting one another is such an important aspect of a relationship!

4. She takes the time to learn his favorites and interests.

What is his favorite color? Does he like peanut butter? Who is his idol? What is his favorite pass time? Being compatible comes with having common interests!

5. She surprises him.

Those silly tweets we see of boyfriends surprising their girlfriends with bags Victoria Secret are nice, but what about him? It's not always material items, sometimes it's a surprise date or a surprise party. Keeping him on his toes just like he keeps her on her toes.

6. She laughs at his bad jokes.

Lol. Yeahhhhhhhhh.

7. She understands "guys night" is "guys night."

Just like she needs "girls night," he needs "guys night."

8. She doesn't hover.

He doesn't need two moms. He just needs one mom and one awesome girlfriend.

9. She gives great back rubs!

After a long day of work, she still has enough energy to make sure he is comfortable. Besides, it's better than a masseuse!

10. She respects the other girls that are FRIENDS with him. (I am not talking about those sketchy DM girls but real friends)

Sometimes guys have girl best friends. Chances are, these girls were around before the girlfriend. If these girl-friends wanted to do him, they would've before the girlfriend entered the frame. No worries.

11. She is equal.

She is a princess and he is a prince. They are equal in their relationship, not one on top of the other.

12. She serenades him with radio karaoke!

Oh come on, he know it's adorable when she sings in the wrong key.

13. She listens to him.

Guys have to rant too. Guy shave problems too. Sometimes guys just have a bad day. She cares enough to be silent and be all ears. She may also have some solutions or back rubs!

14. She pushes him to be a better man.

She changes him for the better and he loves her for that. He isn't the same man he was when they started dating, he is even better.

15. She forgives.

We are all human. It takes a mature lady to accept mistakes and forgive them, big or small.

16. She loves him.

No matter the disagreements, the difficult situations, the flaws, the mistakes, she still loves him no matter what. Who could ask for a better girlfriend?

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An Open Letter To The Girl In A Toxic Relationship Who Doesn't See The Signs To Let Go

"it took letting go to realize that I was holding onto nothing" -R.H Sin

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Dear you,

I hope you're doing well. I once thought I was too. I once thought that if he would just change, for me, everything would work. However, my sweet girl, you should not have to change people, you should not have to push people to be better, for you. You cannot help anyone, that does not want to help themselves.

In the movies, we learn to love a bad boy that needs changing. However, it isn't always your job to be boys saving grace. However, his shaming and emotional abuse is not just something you should put up with so that you can love him. That is not loving.

Love is not a constant competition of who could belittle the other one first. Love is not asking for a hug and being told no. Love does not make you feel stupid for bringing up things that hurt your feelings.

Love does not grow angry because you talk to your mom about your feelings. Love does not body shame. Love does not constantly change the passcode to their phone.

Love does not laugh when you find out they're unfaithful. Love does not tell you that you are not smart enough to accomplish anything. Love does not force their hand up your thigh when the words "no" slip out of your mouth.

Love is the warmth of a hand on your cheek when you get anxious. Love is getting your backpack out the car for you. Love is turning around when you need them. Love compromises.

Love is encouraging. Love is proud. Love is forgiving. Love sees you for who you are. Love knows you are worthy.

God is your Father and you are His daughter, so do not believe for one second that this abuse is the love you think you deserve.

Love will not always be easy. Love will be challenging and a constant prayer to not anger so quickly.

However, do not mix up challenging with the abuse. If you are losing the good pieces of yourself, then it isn't love. I know that you put a lot of time and effort into this relationship, but it is no good, you are holding on to someone whose heart is not in the right place to love you.

I connected with a poem from R. H. Sin, once I left my toxic relationship which reads, "it took letting go to realize that I was holding onto nothing."

Darling girl, you are so loved by so many people, do not let this relationship hold you back or make you feel less worthy than you are. I have always been the girl with her nose stuck up in the air smelling for smoke, to follow the trail to a burning house to find a boy that needed saving, but it is more than likely a boy that lit the fire in the first place and needs changing.

So, do not be me, be better. Be the girl that lights her own world on fire, for her work, for her family, for God. You are you and you are amazing, so do not fear being without him.

You will feel as if you have come up for air after drowning in an ocean that you had no idea you were swimming in.

The emotional abuse that this boy has put you through and maybe even physical abuse will leave you building walls around your heart. It will make other relationships hard, but you are so so strong.

You will meet someone that makes you so happy and feel so easy to love, you will never understand how you stuck around with the one that hurt you for so long.

You deserve to grow from this, and I promise you will.

Let go.

xoxo,

The girl who learned from a toxic relationship

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Being Far Away From My Boyfriend Actually Strengthened Our Relationship Instead Of Forcing It Apart

While we were apart, we became closer.

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Before I really start this article, I just want to say that my relationship isn't truly a long distance relationship. We are both college students at the same university eight months out of the year, but the other four months we live quite a distance apart. Even during those four months, we are only about 150 miles from each other as the bird flies, but really about three hours from each other.

Being in a relationship where I'm not able to see my boyfriend every day or even every week has been a real challenge. But it's been a good challenge. It hasn't been a challenge because I've felt unfaithful or fallen out of love with him in any way. It's challenging because I miss him. We both work jobs and our schedules aren't the same and oftentimes we aren't able to talk to each other unless it's early in the morning or late at night. There are times when all I want to do is talk to him and tell him about how my day went and get a big bear hug from him. Unfortunately, I'm not really able to do this.

I firmly believe that being apart from each other for days, weeks, or even months have brought us closer than we could've ever imagined. We knew that this would be difficult, and we knew that there would be bad days, but we decided to power through it. It has made each time that we are able to see each other so much more special and meaningful.

Seeing each other has become more of spending time with each other than just laying around on the couch playing around on our phones. It's become really getting to know each other better and catching up on all the things we had missed. It's become a time for us to simply be in each other's presence and enjoy being able to talk face to face without a phone in the middle of us. We go on more adventurous dates, we take more pictures, and I think we would both easily say that we fall more and more in love with each other after each opportunity we have to spend time together.

Spending time together is no longer a daily activity, but it has become a right to be earned through hard work and several paychecks as travel can become expensive. We no longer take opportunities to see each other for granted, and it has made us grow closer because we aren't able to spend time together often. We look forward to the days when we won't have to worry about being apart but know that this is only a stepping stone in our relationship.

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