If you know me then you know I'm not a prude and I fully support getting some. I WILL be your hype man. I just don't feel the need to partake in the actual activity. That's just who I am at this point in my life.
I'm not your typical virgin.
I guess I'm not your typical virgin because generally when someone finds out they're initially in disbelief and sometimes it takes a little convincing until they actually believe me. Which I get, I'm loud, obnoxious, intimidating, and very far from shy. For whatever reason, virgins are portrayed as frail, timid creatures. Well, newsflash — we're not. We look and act like you. Just like that horror movie where there are aliens among the humans and you can't tell who's an actual person. It's like that, you'd never even know.
Not trying to toot my own horn but I've had plenty of opportunities to lose it.
But let's be serious, I don't like losing.
I've been told that once you lose "it" you crave it. Like, you go crazy for it. Let's all just thank the heavens above that that has happened to me yet because I don't have enough time in my day to worry about that.
I'm currently thriving and living my best life.
When I go out with my friends I don't worry about who I'm going home with, I only worry about having a good time with my friends. I don't think about sleeping with every attractive person I see and when I'm looking for a potential mate I don't actually care about the size of their package.
To me, it doesn't matter.
Since I focus on looking for personalities that click with mine I usually have a better time compared to my deflowered friends. Like okay, awesome, the sex was great. That's perfect. But what do you do when you're not fooling around? I appreciate a good conversation.
Now, I'm not saying that's all I'm looking for because let's be honest, how attractive you are to someone does matter, and if you think it doesn't you're lying.
If you think I'm a goody-goody or insecure you should really get to know me.
I'm totally comfortable with my body and my sexuality. I don't hide my truth and if you ask me any questions I'll answer completely honestly. I was lucky enough to be raised by parents who were always honest and answered any questions I could think of. I know not everyone is that lucky. Shoutout to Susan and Darrell.
If you're a virgin and you're reading this, just know I'm right there with you!
If you're waiting for marriage or until you find the love of your life, that's honestly so great. That's not really who I am though, I'm not waiting for a particular person, day, or moment. I'm not afraid to do it, I'm waiting until I really actually want to, and I just haven't found that or felt that yet.
For now, I'll just stick to saying no because let's be honest. It's fun saying no. I never have to say yes until I actually want to. This is something that is 100% mine and I get to choose what I do with it, and that's empowering.
It's so much easier for me to only worry about myself. Selfish, I know. Here I am, a young, selfish, college student and I'm having the time of my life.
For the males in my life that still keep trying, may the odds be ever in your favor.