26 Unexpected Perks Of Having A Boyfriend

26 Unexpected Perks Of Having A Boyfriend

It's not always about the romance.
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I'm pretty sure everyone would agree that there are many perks to having a significant other, such as love, caring, blah, blah, blah. But as I enter my first long-term relationship, I am realizing that there are a lot more perks than what I always hear about. So, here are just some of the unexpected perks that come with having a boyfriend.

1. I have a whole second wardrobe of clothes.

They're so much comfier than mine.

2. I also have a whole second house with a second fridge and a second pantry full of food.

You have dill pickle chips?! We never get those at my house!

3. And a second (set of) dog(s).


Your dog definitely loves me more than she loves you.

4. I always have someone to pop my back for me.

And it's free.

5. I always have someone to make fun of.

But it's even, because you make fun of me, too. Freak.

6. I always have someone to share inside jokes with.

A rose. Hahahahaha. Oh, sorry, you had to be there.

7. I learn a lot about sports.

You should have never introduced me to Cam Newton if you didn't want him to be bae.

7. I always have someone to show funny videos and pictures to.

And you react in the exact way I expect you to.

8. I always have someone to eat with.

If I get this, will you share it with me?

9. I always have someone to tell secrets to.

Even if their not my own, and I wasn’t supposed to tell anyone. Oops…

10. I never have to be cold again.

There are no personal bubbles between us.

11. I always have someone to sing duets with.

I really can't stay–but, baby, it's cold outside.

12. I always have someone to hate the same things I hate.

Which is basically everyone but us.

13. I always have someone to listen to my complaints.

And agree with me about my first-world problems.

14. I always have someone to tell me I don’t suck.

The only time you're not calling me a loser. And the only time you're being serious.

15. I always have someone to play games with.

And I even let you win sometimes.

16. I always have someone who will vouch for me.

Even when I'm wrong. Which is a lot.

17. I always have someone to laugh at my jokes.

So I don’t have to laugh at them myself. Like I always do.

18. I always have someone to be dorky with.

But in a cool way.

19. I always have someone to be there when I fall.

And laugh at me while they wait for me to get up.

20. I always have someone to dab—I mean dance—with.

Any song. Anywhere.

21. I always have someone to share in my bad habits with.

Soda before bed? Don't mind if we do.

22. I always have someone to watch scary movies with.

You: *Gets up to go to the bathroom*

Me: Where are you going? Don't leave me!

23. I always have someone to play Family Feud with.

And we always win.

24. I always have someone to share stuff with/steal stuff from.

What do you mean your water bottle? It's our water bottle.

25. I always have someone that knows me better than anyone else.

And I get to know you in the same way.

26. I always have a best friend.

You are the Jim to my Pam. I love you!


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An Open Letter To The Girl In A Toxic Relationship Who Doesn't See The Signs To Let Go

"it took letting go to realize that I was holding onto nothing" -R.H Sin

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Dear you,

I hope you're doing well. I once thought I was too. I once thought that if he would just change, for me, everything would work. However, my sweet girl, you should not have to change people, you should not have to push people to be better, for you. You cannot help anyone, that does not want to help themselves.

In the movies, we learn to love a bad boy that needs changing. However, it isn't always your job to be boys saving grace. However, his shaming and emotional abuse is not just something you should put up with so that you can love him. That is not loving.

Love is not a constant competition of who could belittle the other one first. Love is not asking for a hug and being told no. Love does not make you feel stupid for bringing up things that hurt your feelings.

Love does not grow angry because you talk to your mom about your feelings. Love does not body shame. Love does not constantly change the passcode to their phone.

Love does not laugh when you find out they're unfaithful. Love does not tell you that you are not smart enough to accomplish anything. Love does not force their hand up your thigh when the words "no" slip out of your mouth.

Love is the warmth of a hand on your cheek when you get anxious. Love is getting your backpack out the car for you. Love is turning around when you need them. Love compromises.

Love is encouraging. Love is proud. Love is forgiving. Love sees you for who you are. Love knows you are worthy.

God is your Father and you are His daughter, so do not believe for one second that this abuse is the love you think you deserve.

Love will not always be easy. Love will be challenging and a constant prayer to not anger so quickly.

However, do not mix up challenging with the abuse. If you are losing the good pieces of yourself, then it isn't love. I know that you put a lot of time and effort into this relationship, but it is no good, you are holding on to someone whose heart is not in the right place to love you.

I connected with a poem from R. H. Sin, once I left my toxic relationship which reads, "it took letting go to realize that I was holding onto nothing."

Darling girl, you are so loved by so many people, do not let this relationship hold you back or make you feel less worthy than you are. I have always been the girl with her nose stuck up in the air smelling for smoke, to follow the trail to a burning house to find a boy that needed saving, but it is more than likely a boy that lit the fire in the first place and needs changing.

So, do not be me, be better. Be the girl that lights her own world on fire, for her work, for her family, for God. You are you and you are amazing, so do not fear being without him.

You will feel as if you have come up for air after drowning in an ocean that you had no idea you were swimming in.

The emotional abuse that this boy has put you through and maybe even physical abuse will leave you building walls around your heart. It will make other relationships hard, but you are so so strong.

You will meet someone that makes you so happy and feel so easy to love, you will never understand how you stuck around with the one that hurt you for so long.

You deserve to grow from this, and I promise you will.

Let go.

xoxo,

The girl who learned from a toxic relationship

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Being Far Away From My Boyfriend Actually Strengthened Our Relationship Instead Of Forcing It Apart

While we were apart, we became closer.

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Before I really start this article, I just want to say that my relationship isn't truly a long distance relationship. We are both college students at the same university eight months out of the year, but the other four months we live quite a distance apart. Even during those four months, we are only about 150 miles from each other as the bird flies, but really about three hours from each other.

Being in a relationship where I'm not able to see my boyfriend every day or even every week has been a real challenge. But it's been a good challenge. It hasn't been a challenge because I've felt unfaithful or fallen out of love with him in any way. It's challenging because I miss him. We both work jobs and our schedules aren't the same and oftentimes we aren't able to talk to each other unless it's early in the morning or late at night. There are times when all I want to do is talk to him and tell him about how my day went and get a big bear hug from him. Unfortunately, I'm not really able to do this.

I firmly believe that being apart from each other for days, weeks, or even months have brought us closer than we could've ever imagined. We knew that this would be difficult, and we knew that there would be bad days, but we decided to power through it. It has made each time that we are able to see each other so much more special and meaningful.

Seeing each other has become more of spending time with each other than just laying around on the couch playing around on our phones. It's become really getting to know each other better and catching up on all the things we had missed. It's become a time for us to simply be in each other's presence and enjoy being able to talk face to face without a phone in the middle of us. We go on more adventurous dates, we take more pictures, and I think we would both easily say that we fall more and more in love with each other after each opportunity we have to spend time together.

Spending time together is no longer a daily activity, but it has become a right to be earned through hard work and several paychecks as travel can become expensive. We no longer take opportunities to see each other for granted, and it has made us grow closer because we aren't able to spend time together often. We look forward to the days when we won't have to worry about being apart but know that this is only a stepping stone in our relationship.

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