4 Things To Remember BEFORE Thinking That Jumping Into A Relationship Will Solve All of Your Problems
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Let me start out by saying, I LOVE my boyfriend. He truly is one of the best things that has ever happened to me, and I couldn't imagine my life without him. However, when my single friends come to me complaining about how badly they want to be in a relationship because it will "take all of their problems away", I wish I could explain to them that the reality of being in a relationship just isn't that simple.

1. You can't dump all of your problems on them.

Nor should you! Your significant other is a person with a life, not just a person to rant to all of the time. There will be times when you want to talk to them and they're busy with things going on in their own life, and that's okay. But you shouldn't think that being in a relationship with someone means your problems become their problems.

2. There are some things they can't fix, even if they wanted to.

So maybe you failed an exam and you're really upset about it. Or someone in your family is sick and you're worried about them. Or one of your friends was mean to you and you're mad at them. As much as your significant other might WANT to help, they aren't your fairy godmother. They can give you a big hug and tell you it's all going to be okay, but there are times when that just won't be enough.

3. You are bringing another person into your life.

Having a significant other is like bringing another best friend into your already hectic life. On top of trying to balance all of the relationships you already have, this adds an entire new layer to your life. If you're already overwhelmed and stressed, getting into a relationship might make things even harder on yourself.

4. Your significant other has their own problems.

Your significant other will bring an entirely new set of problems into your relationship, and while they aren't your own, you'll want to support them and be there for them. This means give and take on both ends of the relationship, and sometimes one person has to put in more effort than the other.

In the end, finding a boyfriend or girlfriend can't be the answer to all of your problems. I love my boyfriend and I am so glad he's a part of my life, but unfortunately I've realized that life has it's challenges with or without him by my side. I'm not saying you have to take my word for it, but if you're looking for a relationship that's going to make all of your problems disappear, you might be in it for the wrong reasons.

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5 Questions To Ask Yourself When You're On The Fence With A Guy

Is he worth it?

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Whether you're contemplating if you want to continue your fling with a guy or contemplating breaking up with your boyfriend, there are always questions we're asking ourselves. Ranging from "is this right of me?" to "is this what will make me happy?" But if you are really sitting on the fence and don't know what to do next, check out these five questions you need to ask yourself if you're torn on what to do.

1. Do I want long term or short term?

This is a huge question to ask. If you're looking to settle down for a while, your guy may not want that. And it could always be the other way around as well. Make sure to decipher this with him so you both know what you want and no one gets a broken heart.

2. Can I see myself marrying this person?

I know this is a bold question to ask, especially if you're not dating. But really thinking about if you can see yourself with them for a long time can make it or break it. But say you're dating and you're on the fence of deciding you want to break up with them or not, think about if you can see yourself saying "I do" to them, and if you can't, let him go.

3. Can I see myself living with them/how do they live?

I've seen many people get engaged and move in together and later call it quits due to the way their partner lived. If you've been getting to know your guy for a while now and notices he lives like a pig, you may have to wonder if you'd be cleaning up those messes in the future.

4. How do they make me feel?

This question in a no brainer. If they make you feel bad, why even question continuing into the relationship.

5. Are they worth it?

Is he worth it? I know I have had some experiences when I was on the fence with a couple of guys and I've had to ask myself the same question. And when I'd question if he was worth it or not, my gut feeling always came out right. If you're looking to keep him around, always ask yourself if he's worth it.

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Stop Saying Your Friend 'Chose' Her Boyfriend Over You, The Pity Party Is Over

Your inability to be happy for others is getting old.

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First, let me start by saying that SOMETIMES this is what happens and you do get booted. However, most of the time when that happens your friend is in an unhealthy relationship and is being cut off from friends and family. If that is the case, you should get over yourself and be more concerned about your friends' safety and health than if you got “chosen" or not. If your friend has an awesome boyfriend and still outright disregards you and your feelings and chooses her boyfriend over you, then she was not your friend in the first place.

Now that that's cleared up, let's talk about how we as people should be kind and supportive and genuinely happy for those we claim to love.

So your friend that you do everything with got a boyfriend, things are going to change.

It's part of growing up. Your friendship dynamic is going to change. Instead of spending all weekend from Friday night to Sunday night together binge-watching Netflix and eating junk food you might only get a Saturday lunch and movie, a mani/pedi sometime during the week, or a late night hour-long phone call. Don't be bitter, don't try and make your friend feel guilty or even try to cut your friend out of your life just because you're not getting the attention that you want. Your friend cherishes your friendship and the guilt trip can make her feel so terrible about the fact she loves a boy and wants to spend time with him.

When you guilt your friend for spending time with her boyfriend, you become the one who chooses someone else over the friendship. You choose your own personal selfishness over the happiness of your friend.

You break your friend's heart when you give them this guilt trip.

She thought you wanted her to be happy, but now she feels miserable. She wants to be there for you but your angry, selfish bitterness is pushing her away, and the sad part is she feels it's her fault. Don't make your friend feel this way.

Your friend still wants to be your friend, she just now has someone she loves differently than she's ever loved someone before.

This person, her boyfriend, holds an extremely special part of her heart and has the potential to be her forever person, her future husband. Give them the space and peace of mind, knowing that you're supporting her through it all, to discover this!

The truth is, your friend wants to choose you both but you're the one who is not allowing her to do that. Examine your actions and thoughts and how you're treating your friend before you exclaim she was the one who ended the friendship.

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