4 Things To Remember BEFORE Thinking That Jumping Into A Relationship Will Solve All of Your Problems
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4 Things To Remember BEFORE Thinking That Jumping Into A Relationship Will Solve All of Your Problems

Contrary to the popular belief.

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4 Things To Remember BEFORE Thinking That Jumping Into A Relationship Will Solve All of Your Problems

Let me start out by saying, I LOVE my boyfriend. He truly is one of the best things that has ever happened to me, and I couldn't imagine my life without him. However, when my single friends come to me complaining about how badly they want to be in a relationship because it will "take all of their problems away", I wish I could explain to them that the reality of being in a relationship just isn't that simple.

1. You can't dump all of your problems on them.

Nor should you! Your significant other is a person with a life, not just a person to rant to all of the time. There will be times when you want to talk to them and they're busy with things going on in their own life, and that's okay. But you shouldn't think that being in a relationship with someone means your problems become their problems.

2. There are some things they can't fix, even if they wanted to.

So maybe you failed an exam and you're really upset about it. Or someone in your family is sick and you're worried about them. Or one of your friends was mean to you and you're mad at them. As much as your significant other might WANT to help, they aren't your fairy godmother. They can give you a big hug and tell you it's all going to be okay, but there are times when that just won't be enough.

3. You are bringing another person into your life.

Having a significant other is like bringing another best friend into your already hectic life. On top of trying to balance all of the relationships you already have, this adds an entire new layer to your life. If you're already overwhelmed and stressed, getting into a relationship might make things even harder on yourself.

4. Your significant other has their own problems.

Your significant other will bring an entirely new set of problems into your relationship, and while they aren't your own, you'll want to support them and be there for them. This means give and take on both ends of the relationship, and sometimes one person has to put in more effort than the other.

In the end, finding a boyfriend or girlfriend can't be the answer to all of your problems. I love my boyfriend and I am so glad he's a part of my life, but unfortunately I've realized that life has it's challenges with or without him by my side. I'm not saying you have to take my word for it, but if you're looking for a relationship that's going to make all of your problems disappear, you might be in it for the wrong reasons.

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