5 Perfect Replies To Send To The Guy Who Ghosted You

5 Perfect Replies To Send To The Guy Who Ghosted You

When he tries to come back to haunt you, hit him with one of these lines.
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Say hello to every girl's worst nightmare and for some reason a favorite tactic for men in modern dating: ghosting. I'm sure most—if not all—of you out there have experienced it at some point, and are now feeling your blood begin to boil at the memory, but for those who are unfamiliar with the term, let me clarify.

"Ghosting" is when, instead of being straight forward and simply texting something like "Hey I don't think this is going to work out" or "Sorry but I'm not interested" or basically texting anything... He just disappears. No more likes on IG, no more Snapchats, no more texts—just the haunting reminder of their presence through their contact in your phone or name in your followers.

If none of this sounds familiar, you're one of the lucky ones.

Now, what happens when your ghost suddenly decides to reappear? Unfortunately, this ghosting tactic serves a double purpose: to show disinterest without having to hurt your feelings up front, but also keeping the door open for a possible reconnection in the future.

So, too often, these ghosts come back to haunt you. Sometimes it's through some infrequent likes, but other times more directly - through a text or message.

Ladies, you don't need a ghost in your life. If he didn't have the time for you then, he's not going to have time for you now. Do NOT let him linger in the land of the living that is YOUR brilliant, radiant, action-filled life! Here are some cutthroat, little bit petty, and well-deserved responses to your ghost.

1. Um, I'm sorry, who is this?

Yes, you may still actually have his number and know exactly who it is when that message pops up, but don't let him know that. Pro tip: for a more savage reply, change up the vernacular for "New phone, who dis?" Trust me, he'll get the message.

2. One second... Do me a favor and listen to this song.

Pop songs always put it more eloquently. And pettier.

3. GIFs. Just GIFs.

You know the kind. Judge Judy rolling her eyes. Beyonce's "boy bye." Stephen Colbert giving the finger. Any sassy, clearly "I'm so done with your bullsh*t" kind.

4. The automated message response including the phrase "I am sorry, this number no longer accepts messages from people qualifying as a**holes."

Classic.

5. YOU'RE ALIVE???

Take advantage of the ghosting thing literally and pretend you thought they were dead. Throw in a few crying emojis even. Then cut to the chase with an "Idgaf" follow-up.

Now, a lot of these are perfect to handle the situation with a bit of sass or humor. However, ladies, the best response ever is to not respond. Save face and dignity and don't give that ghost a second chance.

Literally, so hot RN

Literally, so hot RN

The 5 Differences Between Physical and Emotional Cheating Every College Girl Should Know

Regardless of their differences, they're still equally awful.

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Cheating can be a violation of another partner's physical and mental health when it occurs and is often a dealbreaker in a relationship. While cheating of any sort is often traumatic and upsetting for a partner, there exist a variety of ways in which their partner might cheat. Of the many ways in which infidelity can occur, the way a person cheats falls under the categories of physical or emotional cheating.

While overlap can occur between the two within a relationship, there exist a few differences between physical and emotional cheating that often differentiate the two.

1. Physical cheating requires  a physical relationship, whereas emotional cheating doesn't

This is the most self-explanatory difference between physical and emotional cheating. When someone physically cheats on their partner, that means they've decided to engage in sexual acts without the knowledge or consent of their partner. Emotional intimacy involves emotional contact without the partner's consent, such as intimate conversations, extensive flirting and doting behaviors practiced outside the context of the couple's relationship.

2. Physical cheating may not involve feelings or emotional intimacy, whereas emotional cheating does

Physical cheating can involve long-term sexual relations with one person or involve sporadic incidences with multiple people. The archetype of physical cheating is cheating without feelings attached, where people have sex without attachment. While attachment can occur within physical relationships, the assumption is that physical cheating is sex-based.

Emotional cheating, however, is based on forming a strong bond and romantic attachment to someone in a way that's meant to be reserved for their partner. For emotional cheating, the cheater is deliberately seeking validation and affection through non-sexual contact and communication with someone else.

3. Physical cheating involves in person contact, whereas emotional cheating can exist in person or digitally

Physical cheating involves a formed sexual relationship, which can only occur in person. Emotional cheating, however, can include both in-person contact or extensive online communication with a non-partner. For example, a partner could be emotionally cheating through the extensive use of a dating app, wherein said partner channels their affection and emotions into the digital person instead of their partner.

4. Physical cheating is secretive, whereas emotional cheating might not be

In monogamous, non-open relationships, it is expected that each person in the relationship is only sexually active with their partner. For a partner that chooses to cheat, it is imperative they keep their new, sexual partner (or partners) under wraps to prevent sabotaging their relationship. Emotional cheating, however, can manifest gradually without being under wraps.

For example, it's possible one's partner could become romantically and emotionally involved with a friend over time, where time spent with a said friend or acquaintance grows. The investment and growth of the new relationship could occur within social circles that allow one partner to witness the new relationship grow over time. This gradual growth could be masked as a new colleague, friend or contact.

If a partner who's cheating exploits their current partner's trust, they could disguise their new relationship until they decide to leave or break up with the current partner.

5. Physical cheating can cause bodily harm to your partner, while emotional cheating doesn't

While both physical and emotional cheating can result in plenty of hurt, there exist potential health complications from physical cheating beyond impacting one's mental health. If one partner is having sex with one or more people outside their relationship, they risk transmitting STI's to their partner.

Certain STI's manifest in men's and women's bodies differently. Gonorrhea, for instance, doesn't always present with symptoms in women, similarly to chlamydia in men. Untreated STI's can lead to severe infections or infertility, or even cancer or chronic illness if a partner contracts HPV, HIV, syphilis or herpes. So if you and your partner were monogamous and you break that pact, you can put yourself and them at serious risk for health complications.

So if you didn't think cheating on your partner was bad enough, passing on a preventable STI makes you even more of an inconsiderate asshole.

Collectively, physical and emotional cheating are two broad categories of cheating that describe hurtful envelope behaviors within relationships. While both types of cheating often have behaviors that intersect, it's important to recognize what they are to protect yourself in the event they happen.

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8 Signs Of Cheating That Every College Girl Should Know How To Spot

The tell-tale signs that the person you're with is absolute garbage

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You may not realize it, but there are quite a few tell-tale signs that the person you're with is absolute garbage. Whether it's signs they have a side bae or signs that they're being unfaithful to you in other ways, everyone should know how to spot these red flags:

1. They won't let you anywhere near their phone

It's not cool to pry through every single message on your S.O.'s phone, but if they've been acting secretive about who they're been talking to, or what the notifications on their lock screen are, there's something they don't want you to see.

2. They ask you to do things and be things that you aren't

Are they suddenly asking you to fulfill some crazy fantasy? Or dress a certain way that's completely out of your style? Red flag.

3. They're on Tinder

Pretty self-explanatory. Nothing is more awkward than one of your friends matching with them.

4. They've become increasingly disinterested in you

Even though this doesn't for sure signal cheating (it could be your relationship dying, or a host of other reasons), it's important to pay attention to where their attention is—or isn't—in your relationship.

5. Lies have been adding up

Even if they're little white lies, a constant habit of lying from you or keeping things from you is a major red flag. It shows that your partner is accustomed to deceiving you.

6. They're really secretive or vague about their plans

Not sure what they've been doing after class or on the weekends lately? And they won't tell you? Hmm.

7. They stop posting about you completely on social media or untag themselves in your posts

Not everyone is big on social media, but if your boo is and has been throughout your relationship, and suddenly stops, that's sus.

8. There's a general sense that you aren't close anymore, for no apparent reason

Pretty broad, but if your gut is telling you that something's up, and you can't think of a good reason why, it's probably time to confront your S.O. about it.

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