5 Ways My Boyfriend Has Undeniably Made Me A Better Human, Inside And Out

5 Ways My Boyfriend Has Undeniably Made Me A Better Human, Inside And Out

That's the thing with high school sweethearts, we grow and learn with one another.
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I know what you're thinking. You've seen posts like this before, but I'm being serious when I say that my boyfriend has undeniably made me a better person. After a few years of dating, some couples get accustomed to doing the same routine, say the same things, and sometimes fall into not the most pleasant of habits.

For my relationship, as a couple, my boyfriend and I strive to make life exciting together, grow together and learn. Learning from one another is how I've shaped into an overall better human. These 5 reasons are a mere glimpse of how my boyfriend has made me more wonderful as a person... I mean it.

1. Patience, patience, patience.

I'm confident when I say my boyfriend is one of the most patient men I know. He's kind-hearted, soft-spoken (for the most part), and is always happy to be around people. I, on the other hand, am loud, rowdy, burst of energy and I can admit sometimes I will let my temper get the best of me. Opposites attract, right? He's seen me on the worst days and the ugliest of all sides of me. With my temper, he has given me patience in return. He's taught me how to use my words softly rather than cramming all my feeling inside till I burst. I have learned to address an issue civilly as an adult, and for patience alone, I couldn't thank him enough for showing me that patience truly is key in any situation.

2. Living my best life, day-to-day.

OK, I'll admit it. I'm a planner. I love planning ahead for days, weeks, and sometimes I can even plan for months ahead. My boyfriend, on the other hand, wakes up and decides how his day will go and what he'll accomplish organically. He makes no plans; he is the plan. I have always stressed about days ahead of the one I'm living right now and he's taught me over time that it's OK to not have a plan. He's proven that you can still be productive without making a schedule to follow, which is how I've become less stressed and learned to enjoy the moment rather than worrying ahead of time.

3. You don't need money to have fun.

I know this concept maybe be easy to grasp for some people, but hear me out. I'm an extremely hard working person and I work hard for my money, as many others do. Sometimes I want to go to a movie, maybe dinner, or something else fun and out of the ordinary. Then comes paying bills, grocery shopping, and other necessities and then there's no money for fun and that used to bring me down. My boyfriend, though, always keeps things fun and brightens up the night. Between making dinner together as a team, playing mindless board games, watching our new series of a show on Netflix together, who needs money to have fun now? I have learned that you don't need money for fun, the people around you are the fun, thanks to my boyfriend.

4. I'm a beautiful human.

Have you ever been amazed at the way a certain person looks at you? I haven't until I met my boyfriend. I mean, this guy looks at me like I'm a supermodel or a literal angel from heaven. As flattering as that is, I'm not the first person to handle compliments well by any means. My boyfriend has taught me that I am beautiful and to accept when he says it or if others compliment me. This may sound silly, but I know I'm not alone at the fact that I handle compliments horribly. Although, over time, I have gotten better at accepting compliments and truly know that I'm beautiful. I think a lot of women who don't believe or take compliments well needs someone to tell them they are... because it's true.

5. Insecurities are personal, not everyone sees what you see in yourself.

I think I can speak for everyone when I say everyone has insecurities about themselves. Although this is common and perfectly normal, it can bring people down at times. My boyfriend has proven and taught me that just because you personally notice your insecurities, it isn't usually reciprocated by others. Insecurities are in fact personal and I have learned through my boyfriend to focus on qualities or physical features about myself that I love. Not only has this allowed me to be happier and more confident, but it's allowed me to not even worry about negativity and insecurities I used to have. The only thing these insecurities do for a person is bring them down emotionally and blinds them from their true beauty.

Thank you, boyfriend, for seeing the beauty inside and out and making me better because of it.

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11 Things The Man You Love Should Do For You, No Questions Asked

Sometimes it's just the simple things in life that mean a lot.

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Every girl feels special when the guy she's dating does simple things for her that not everyone thinks about. Here's a list of 10 things that every girl genuinely appreciates.

1. Open/Hold the door

I feel like this one is really simple because everyone has to walk through doors. Chivalry isn't dead, let him open the door for you. He's not trying to prove that you can't do it for yourself, but he's trying to be polite and show you that he cares for you.

2. Give you really big hugs

Everyone has bad days, and sometimes you just need a really big hug. Whether it be a bear hug or the hug where he picks you up and spins you around, it will make you feel better in the long run.

3. Buy you really small gifts

One of the best things my boyfriend has ever done for me is simply bringing me a Dr. Pepper when he knows I'm tired from a long hard day full of exams or work. Sonic slushes will also make my day in a heartbeat.

4. Text/Call you just to tell you he loves you

This is pretty simple. It takes less than 10 seconds to text, and only a few minutes to call. Sometimes you get these texts right at the perfect moment, and it makes you feel so much better.

5. Come see you when you're sick

Everyone hates being sick. But seeing your friends and family while you're sick can make you feel so much better. Having your boyfriend come to see you and possibly even take care of you just makes being sick that much easier.

6. Respect your decisions

You're not married yet, so your decisions are up to you! He should respect the decisions you make and support you, even if it's not what he thinks is the best decision. After all, you know yourself better than anyone else!

7. Give you a shoulder to cry on

We all have bad days, and sometimes you just can't stop the tears from coming. Even if he's not good with crying, he should give you hugs and love to help you get through it.

8. Compliment you

Even if you look horrible and know so, hopefully, he'll still tell you that you look good. Even if the clothes you're wearing aren't his style, he should still tell you that they look good on you and that you are beautiful each and every day.

9. Call you when you're away or he's away

If you're like me, I miss my boyfriend after being away for about three hours, so when we're apart for more than a couple days, I love getting random calls from him when he knows I'm not busy. It's definitely better than a text.

10. Deal with all your annoying quirks

So if you're anything like me, you enjoy screaming music as loudly and horribly as you can in the car and making a complete fool of yourself, but he should love you for that anyway. I also love to take really stupid pictures, and he should put up with that too. He shouldn't be annoyed by your quirks, he should love them and laugh along with you.

11. Love you no matter what

I honestly feel like this goes without saying, but I put it on here so that the girls who don't feel like they're being loved no matter what can realize. He should want to work out problems with you instead of calling it quits and holding a grudge. He should want you to be happy and support you in every decision you make in life. When he loves you unconditionally, he will do all of the above things and more.

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If You View Being In A Relationship As 'Losing Your Freedom,' You’re In The Wrong Relationship

Someone had to say it.

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Relationships are about being the best possible version of yourself separate and together. They're about growing with and doing life alongside your partner. They're fun, loving, and granted, they can sometimes be challenging.

Some challenges that frequently come up in relationships are disagreements (which are for sure gonna happen, because you're two individual people!), dealing with stress, and depending on where you're at in life, it could also be financial struggles. Of course, all relationships are going to have problems and everything won't always be “rainbows and butterflies" as Maroon 5 like to put it.

That being said though, one challenge that shouldn't ever be an issue in a relationship is the loss of freedom. Where did this idea come from?

I see it all the time, people talking about not wanting to get into a relationship because they don't want to "lose their freedom".

If you are in a relationship which causes you to lose your freedom, you are 100% in the wrong relationship.

Being in a relationship is not synonymous with not being able to be yourself or be able to do what you want. In a good relationship, you will be able to still have your alone time, be your own person, hang out with your friends, the list goes on and on. All of these things are so important. Relationships should never consume your life, they should complement it.

Why is this even a conversation we need to be having? Seriously.

Now obviously if you're referring to losing the option of getting with other people or dating around, then yes, you're right, you absolutely shouldn't get into a relationship... but that doesn't mean relationships mean losing your freedom.

If you are in a relationship with someone you love and respect, getting with other people isn't even going to be on your radar. It truly is that simple.

The trend of hating on relationships, for this reason, has gotten so out of hand in recent years, especially on social media. It's so frustrating, though, because it could not be any more inaccurate.

You should absolutely still have freedom in relationships. You can have it. I for one absolutely have it and do not view my relationship as the loss of freedom, at all. If you don't, maybe evaluate that relationship and realize it's not the best one to be in.

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