5 Ways My Boyfriend Has Undeniably Made Me A Better Human, Inside And Out

5 Ways My Boyfriend Has Undeniably Made Me A Better Human, Inside And Out

That's the thing with high school sweethearts, we grow and learn with one another.
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I know what you're thinking. You've seen posts like this before, but I'm being serious when I say that my boyfriend has undeniably made me a better person. After a few years of dating, some couples get accustomed to doing the same routine, say the same things, and sometimes fall into not the most pleasant of habits.

For my relationship, as a couple, my boyfriend and I strive to make life exciting together, grow together and learn. Learning from one another is how I've shaped into an overall better human. These 5 reasons are a mere glimpse of how my boyfriend has made me more wonderful as a person... I mean it.

1. Patience, patience, patience.

I'm confident when I say my boyfriend is one of the most patient men I know. He's kind-hearted, soft-spoken (for the most part), and is always happy to be around people. I, on the other hand, am loud, rowdy, burst of energy and I can admit sometimes I will let my temper get the best of me. Opposites attract, right? He's seen me on the worst days and the ugliest of all sides of me. With my temper, he has given me patience in return. He's taught me how to use my words softly rather than cramming all my feeling inside till I burst. I have learned to address an issue civilly as an adult, and for patience alone, I couldn't thank him enough for showing me that patience truly is key in any situation.

2. Living my best life, day-to-day.

OK, I'll admit it. I'm a planner. I love planning ahead for days, weeks, and sometimes I can even plan for months ahead. My boyfriend, on the other hand, wakes up and decides how his day will go and what he'll accomplish organically. He makes no plans; he is the plan. I have always stressed about days ahead of the one I'm living right now and he's taught me over time that it's OK to not have a plan. He's proven that you can still be productive without making a schedule to follow, which is how I've become less stressed and learned to enjoy the moment rather than worrying ahead of time.

3. You don't need money to have fun.

I know this concept maybe be easy to grasp for some people, but hear me out. I'm an extremely hard working person and I work hard for my money, as many others do. Sometimes I want to go to a movie, maybe dinner, or something else fun and out of the ordinary. Then comes paying bills, grocery shopping, and other necessities and then there's no money for fun and that used to bring me down. My boyfriend, though, always keeps things fun and brightens up the night. Between making dinner together as a team, playing mindless board games, watching our new series of a show on Netflix together, who needs money to have fun now? I have learned that you don't need money for fun, the people around you are the fun, thanks to my boyfriend.

4. I'm a beautiful human.

Have you ever been amazed at the way a certain person looks at you? I haven't until I met my boyfriend. I mean, this guy looks at me like I'm a supermodel or a literal angel from heaven. As flattering as that is, I'm not the first person to handle compliments well by any means. My boyfriend has taught me that I am beautiful and to accept when he says it or if others compliment me. This may sound silly, but I know I'm not alone at the fact that I handle compliments horribly. Although, over time, I have gotten better at accepting compliments and truly know that I'm beautiful. I think a lot of women who don't believe or take compliments well needs someone to tell them they are... because it's true.

5. Insecurities are personal, not everyone sees what you see in yourself.

I think I can speak for everyone when I say everyone has insecurities about themselves. Although this is common and perfectly normal, it can bring people down at times. My boyfriend has proven and taught me that just because you personally notice your insecurities, it isn't usually reciprocated by others. Insecurities are in fact personal and I have learned through my boyfriend to focus on qualities or physical features about myself that I love. Not only has this allowed me to be happier and more confident, but it's allowed me to not even worry about negativity and insecurities I used to have. The only thing these insecurities do for a person is bring them down emotionally and blinds them from their true beauty.

Thank you, boyfriend, for seeing the beauty inside and out and making me better because of it.

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An Open Letter To The Girl In A Toxic Relationship Who Doesn't See The Signs To Let Go

"it took letting go to realize that I was holding onto nothing" -R.H Sin

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Dear you,

I hope you're doing well. I once thought I was too. I once thought that if he would just change, for me, everything would work. However, my sweet girl, you should not have to change people, you should not have to push people to be better, for you. You cannot help anyone, that does not want to help themselves.

In the movies, we learn to love a bad boy that needs changing. However, it isn't always your job to be boys saving grace. However, his shaming and emotional abuse is not just something you should put up with so that you can love him. That is not loving.

Love is not a constant competition of who could belittle the other one first. Love is not asking for a hug and being told no. Love does not make you feel stupid for bringing up things that hurt your feelings.

Love does not grow angry because you talk to your mom about your feelings. Love does not body shame. Love does not constantly change the passcode to their phone.

Love does not laugh when you find out they're unfaithful. Love does not tell you that you are not smart enough to accomplish anything. Love does not force their hand up your thigh when the words "no" slip out of your mouth.

Love is the warmth of a hand on your cheek when you get anxious. Love is getting your backpack out the car for you. Love is turning around when you need them. Love compromises.

Love is encouraging. Love is proud. Love is forgiving. Love sees you for who you are. Love knows you are worthy.

God is your Father and you are His daughter, so do not believe for one second that this abuse is the love you think you deserve.

Love will not always be easy. Love will be challenging and a constant prayer to not anger so quickly.

However, do not mix up challenging with the abuse. If you are losing the good pieces of yourself, then it isn't love. I know that you put a lot of time and effort into this relationship, but it is no good, you are holding on to someone whose heart is not in the right place to love you.

I connected with a poem from R. H. Sin, once I left my toxic relationship which reads, "it took letting go to realize that I was holding onto nothing."

Darling girl, you are so loved by so many people, do not let this relationship hold you back or make you feel less worthy than you are. I have always been the girl with her nose stuck up in the air smelling for smoke, to follow the trail to a burning house to find a boy that needed saving, but it is more than likely a boy that lit the fire in the first place and needs changing.

So, do not be me, be better. Be the girl that lights her own world on fire, for her work, for her family, for God. You are you and you are amazing, so do not fear being without him.

You will feel as if you have come up for air after drowning in an ocean that you had no idea you were swimming in.

The emotional abuse that this boy has put you through and maybe even physical abuse will leave you building walls around your heart. It will make other relationships hard, but you are so so strong.

You will meet someone that makes you so happy and feel so easy to love, you will never understand how you stuck around with the one that hurt you for so long.

You deserve to grow from this, and I promise you will.

Let go.

xoxo,

The girl who learned from a toxic relationship

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Being Far Away From My Boyfriend Actually Strengthened Our Relationship Instead Of Forcing It Apart

While we were apart, we became closer.

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Before I really start this article, I just want to say that my relationship isn't truly a long distance relationship. We are both college students at the same university eight months out of the year, but the other four months we live quite a distance apart. Even during those four months, we are only about 150 miles from each other as the bird flies, but really about three hours from each other.

Being in a relationship where I'm not able to see my boyfriend every day or even every week has been a real challenge. But it's been a good challenge. It hasn't been a challenge because I've felt unfaithful or fallen out of love with him in any way. It's challenging because I miss him. We both work jobs and our schedules aren't the same and oftentimes we aren't able to talk to each other unless it's early in the morning or late at night. There are times when all I want to do is talk to him and tell him about how my day went and get a big bear hug from him. Unfortunately, I'm not really able to do this.

I firmly believe that being apart from each other for days, weeks, or even months have brought us closer than we could've ever imagined. We knew that this would be difficult, and we knew that there would be bad days, but we decided to power through it. It has made each time that we are able to see each other so much more special and meaningful.

Seeing each other has become more of spending time with each other than just laying around on the couch playing around on our phones. It's become really getting to know each other better and catching up on all the things we had missed. It's become a time for us to simply be in each other's presence and enjoy being able to talk face to face without a phone in the middle of us. We go on more adventurous dates, we take more pictures, and I think we would both easily say that we fall more and more in love with each other after each opportunity we have to spend time together.

Spending time together is no longer a daily activity, but it has become a right to be earned through hard work and several paychecks as travel can become expensive. We no longer take opportunities to see each other for granted, and it has made us grow closer because we aren't able to spend time together often. We look forward to the days when we won't have to worry about being apart but know that this is only a stepping stone in our relationship.

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