6 Times 'He's Just Not That Into You' Perfectly Described Hookup Culture

6 Times 'He's Just Not That Into You' Perfectly Described Hookup Culture

How stupid is it that a girl has to wait for a guy's call anyway, right?
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Last week, I caught myself talking to one of my friends about how even if I was single, I don't believe that I'd have any interest in participating in today's so-called hookup culture. For those of you who don't know, hookup culture is what has largely replaced dating in college.

Instead of being in a committed relationship, both sides agree to keep things “casual" with “no strings attached," which is ultimately supposed to relieve the stressors brought on by commitment.

When I decided to continue my long-term relationship in college, I knowingly gave up some of the freedoms people long to experience in college, and I'd be lying if I didn't wonder what it would be like if I had chosen otherwise.

However, while at a glance “hooking up" might seem ideal, ultimately, it's pretty unsatisfying and usually, someone ends up getting hurt.

Call me an old-school hopeless romantic, but I want more from a relationship than just a hookup. What I've cherished about my relationship is the incredible bond that has grown over the course of two years, and how I can always depend on my significant other when I need to. If hooking up works for you, hey, that's great.

Regardless of how you choose to date (or not date) here's six times “He's Just Not That Into You" perfectly described hookup culture.

1. Having to constantly check a million different apps just to see if he's interested in you

Remember simpler times, when you didn't have to check Tinder, Instagram, Twitter, and Snapchat just to see if he's swiped right or left you on read? Don't you miss it, even just a little bit?

Nowadays, we're constantly hung up over whether we're being left on read. What if they actually have a decent reason for why they haven't replied to your 17 Snapchats? You'd probably never know because you're too busy checking all your other social media apps.

2. Putting up with f*ckboys

While hooking up is usually a mutual decision, there's still that one f*ckboy who seems to cheat the system one way or another. Whether he likes to have his weekends free or won't text you back regarding anything other than a hookup, hooking up can be chronically unsatisfying for one (or both) parties involved.

3. Secretly wanting more out of your hookup

Along with sometimes putting up with less than you deserve, you might just want more than just a physical connection with someone. However, be wary of calling them in 15-minute intervals. If you think you want more out of a hookup, your best bet is to have a face-to-face conversation about it.

That way, they can hear your concerns and you won't look desperate while blowing up their phone. Hooking up might be fun while it lasts, but it's more than likely that there will come a time where it's no longer as great as it once was.

4. Also secretly knowing that he's not worth your time

If any of these gifs described me as a friend, this would be it. I always have to be the one to tell them when a guy just simply isn't worth their time. For a third party like myself, it's usually pretty easy to see all the red flags surrounding a hookup.

For example, if he says he's going to break up with his girlfriend for an entire semester and still hasn't done anything, he's probably not ever going to. While it may seem harsh, in the end, they usually thankfully for helping them dodge a bullet.

5. Instead of changing your look, you change your profile picture

While changing your profile picture is much cheaper than changing your hair or your clothes, it's just an illusion. In this day and age, anyone can make themselves out to be just about anyone without having to be who they truly are.

That being said, not everyone is who they say they are on the internet. When people went on actual dates with people that they'd met before, at least they knew what they were getting themselves into.

6. Despite all the bulls***, knowing that one day you'll find the right one

Despite dealing with f*ckboys, you know that one day you'll find someone who does want more than a hookup. That being said, when that day comes, you'll have a hell of a story to tell about all the f*ckboys that you met along the way.
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What It's Like Being A 20-Year-Old Virgin In The 21st Century

For now, I wait. And that is perfectly okay.
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Sex. The topic we only spoke of in hushed tones in the past has quickly become a part of our everyday interactions. It seems to be the center of our motivations, thoughts, actions, and feelings. This is the reason I don't feel uncomfortable dedicating this week's article to the subject. Now, mom and dad, if you're reading this, I won't be offended if you stop. I'd actually be quite happy. Everybody else, do me a favor and ask yourself this:

What does it mean to be a virgin in today's society?

There is a social stigma associated with being a virgin. We're all prudes, are mega-religious, and have never even thought about what it would be like to share a night with Ryan Gosling. Right? Wrong. I promise you the majority of virgins you'll meet are virgins by choice - not because their moms have them chained to a metal post with their legs strapped shut. I've been racking my brain about questions and concerns and the million-dollar-question I have for y'all is: If it's no big deal to have sex, then why is it a big deal not to have sex? I mean really, whose business is it anyway?

I feel the criticism from my own doctor at times. She'd ask, "Are you sexually active?" I'd respond with a lightening fast "No", which she'd follow with a quick sigh and an even quicker response, "Have you ever been sexually active?" Unreal.

In a culture so consumed by "Netflix and chill" and the infamous right swipe, it's hard not to constantly wonder when (and with who) my time will come. It's almost like we're racing against the clock of chastity. I wonder if Marie Curie, Rosa Parks, or Amelia Earhart worried about who'd swipe their V-card as much as I do? Probably not, they were too busy making the world a better place.

I can't go a day without hearing about sex, talking about sex, or honestly... thinking about sex (sorry, dad). I remember a time when it was "shocking" to discover anybody was having sex and now it's "shocking" to discover anybody isn't. The reactions I get when people discover I still hold the key to my innocence aren't only mildly insulting but sad. When did it become shameful to be a virgin? I'm only 20 years old. I've only lived 1/4 of my life and in no means do I feel rushed to get down and dirty.

Don't get me wrong, I didn't plan for my life to go this way. Shocker, but my Magic 8-Ball didn't prepare me for this. I am a huge supporter of doing what you want, when you want, and with whom you want to do it with. Hell, half of my friends aren't virgins and I'm happy for them. They were with someone they loved (or at least liked) and made a choice. I've made a choice too. I am evolving with the world around me and taking life one wine bottle at a time. I don't want to settle for less than I deserve. I want somebody who loves me, respects me, and understands where I'm coming from.

I'm prepared to deal with the douchebags and the nobody losers who can't deal with the decision I've made equally as much as I'm prepared to meet the guy who can.

For now, I wait. And that is perfectly okay.

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I Asked People The Weirdest Thing To Happen To Them During Sex And This Is What They Said

Like having certain things blow up in your face.
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I was watching "Friends" and they were asking each other about sex and making fun of each other for weird quirks.

I began to think about what people in this generation would say so I polled them, and boy, the responses were hilarious. Absolutely hilarious.

Of course, names will be left out and you should know that this stuff happens to EVERYONE. It's normal and this is NOT meant to shame anyone. It's for humor and to make others feel comfortable about the weird things that happen during sex.

1. Having certain things blow up in your face.

"He had a funny facial expression and I thought he was well, you know. Then 0.2 seconds later he sneezed on my face."

Nope, not that.

2. In sickness and in health.

"We both came down with a cold. We decided to have sex anyway, and I think we both fell asleep in the middle of it because we woke up in the middle of the night naked and he still had the condom on. Then I'm pretty sure we tried AGAIN and either fell asleep again or just gave up at that point."

I mean, horny is horny.

3. Finding the perfect balance to your relationship.

"We have to move from the bed to the floor a lot right in the middle because both our beds are super squeaky and we both have roommates!"

A bed, sofa, table, or a floor...anywhere is a good place to let your wild side go. But the floor or couch is the best if you have loud sex. Just saying.

4. A moment to release...things.

"Pausing to fart."

Hey! Everyone does it!

5. Taking time to spend quality time together, no matter what (who?) you are doing.

"Stopped to laugh at the emoji movie playing in the background that we turned on so we wouldn't wake his uncle sleeping down the hall."

I mean, the movie was funny. James Corden was in it.

6. Nothing like a tongue punch to the fart box.

"Eating out their butthole and actually enjoying it."

Well, OK then. You never know what you'll like until you, apparently, try it.

7. Remembering to lock your phone from now on.

"Before we started having sex, I was laying down and watching videos on Facebook. One thing led to another and while it was happening, one of us accidentally touched my phone (I didn't lock it when things started up) and random noises started playing from the video I was watching. We both started cracking up and just couldn't go any further. I definitely will remember to lock my phone from now on."

At least she didn't pocket dial her phone and call her mom.

8. The other body fluids during sex.

"Drooling on him during sex."

And that's not the only thing that gets everywhere.

9. Moaning, groaning, and other noises.

"Making weird, comedic noises at each other."

On top of the none comedic ones. I hope no one was home and if they were I hope you explained things to them.

10. Shouting the wrong (or right) name.

"At the moment of climax, I (drunkenly) yelled, 'Prince Zuko' in my best Uncle Iroh voice. 'Prince Zuko' has since become a codeword...for stuff."

This is my personal favorite because it's hilarious and I love "Avatar: The Last Airbender."

11. Trying to staunch the flow and cock block a bit.

"Calling him 'daddy' if he is about to come too quickly (he hates it so it calms him down)."

Hey, you need some orgasms too, and if a word gets him a little soft then I say go for it.

12. Man-splaining at the worst moment, ever.

"He lectured me on piston-cylinder assemblies as we f*cked and differences between male and female orgasms as he came."

Ummm...I hope it was good sex, at least? If not, then at least you learned something new. Guess you really do learn things in the most unlikely of places.

13. The right kind of relationship involves laughing and more noises.

"Burped, its actually hilarious. We just stop and look at each other and start laughing. Ladies, get you a man who doesn't care if you burp during sex."

I support burping during sex.

14. Taking the good kind of break.

"Pausing to have a conversation in the middle."

Hey, everyone needs a few seconds to catch their breath.

15. Wait...before I forget!

"Pausing to remind them about something so you don't forget by the end."

It's usually something dumb or about what happened to you during the day, but it seemed important in the moment!

So just know that the weird things you guys do during a good sex session are totally normal, even if at the time they seem abnormal and embarrassing.

**Responses were edited for clarity and/or length.

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