7 Reasons Closing Yourself Off From Dating Is The Wrong Move

7 Reasons Closing Yourself Off From Dating Is The Wrong Move

Dating can be hard sometimes, but there are some advantages to it.
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Look, I get that sometimes dipping into the dating world can be extremely nerve-racking and challenging, but sometimes it can be worth it.

I personally have closed myself off to the idea of dating many times, but here are some reasons why you shouldn't completely cut yourself off.

1. It can lead to more

I know in college most of us aren't looking for our future husband or wife just yet, but dating can always lead to more if you open your heart up to the idea of it.

2. Dating can sometimes be fun

Contrary to popular beliefs, going on dates can sometimes be worth it.

Think about it, you're meeting different people and just having a casual conversation.

Sometimes the dates can be terrible but at least you'll get a great story out of it.

3. Figure out what you like

You don't really know what type of man or women you like until you've dated around. Dating has taught me that I definitely don't want a gamer, partier or a man with no direction in life.

4. Social Skills

OK, we all know people that need to date to develop their social skills.

Dating is a great way to do that because it allows for you to work on those skills and figure out what is and isn't acceptable to talk about on dates. For example, you probably shouldn't be bringing up ex-relationships on your first date with a future mate.

5. Learn to flirt

Listen, I'm not a girl who's good at flirting but dating has allowed for me to learn how to be better at it.

I used to be the girl that would blush just when a semi-cute man would look my way, but now I can keep a flirty conversation going without getting red like a tomato... sometimes.

6. New Adventures

Sometimes when you decide to go on a date with someone they might surprise you and take you to a cool place, like a museum you've never been to or a fun park.

You should always be open to exploring on dates because you can really get to know a person when they show you their favorite adventures.

7. Isn't the one? That's ok

Maybe this person isn't the one but he or she is part of the journey to the one and those people count too. Before finding the person who you're meant to be with, you will encounter many other people first but they're also part of that journey and shouldn't be forgotten either.

I personally have shut down dating entirely lately, but thanks to some pretty amazing friends, I've realized that dating is important. Yeah you're going to stumble upon some pretty awful people while dating but one day it'll all work out, you just have to open your heart and know these things take time.

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I’ve Been Both 8 Hours And 8 Minutes Away From My Boyfriend, And Trust Me, Distance Sucks

Distance truly does make the heart grow fonder... and work harder.

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In the two and a half years that I've been with my boyfriend, we've done our fair share of distance including living eight hours away from each other, living one hour away from each other, and living exactly 10 minutes down the road from each other (eight minutes if you manage to hit every light on green).

Because we've literally done it all and know it first hand, I assumed that everyone else was on the same page as we were: the longer the distance, the harder things are. Apparently, I was mistaken as I stumbled upon this article, claiming that people who are in short distance relationships have it just as hard as people in long relationships.

I'm sorry... what?

First of all, let me say that if you have never been in a relationship with a significant amount of distance between you and your partner (and I'm talking more than an hour), you definitely don't get it. You definitely do not understand having so spend either a full day in the car or a full paycheck on airfare to see your significant other. You don't understand having to account for the time difference between you two when calling each other. You don't understand the feeling of knowing that the person who means the most to you is creating memories every day that you'll never be included in.

And I'm not even going to get into the amount of trust that you need to have...

I understand that even in short distance no matter how close you live to one another, you will never be with each other 24/7 (at least you shouldn't be, because you both need space) and you will inevitably miss each other the second one of you leaves. Missing somebody even after a few minutes and miles between the two of you is a valid feeling. And yes, missing somebody is incredibly hard, even if it is just in a short distance relationship.


The difference is that you'll likely see your significant other again in a day or two. When you say goodbye you know that it's only temporary and that missing them will be over within a few days when you're reunited. In a short distance relationship, you don't have to experience the agony that comes along with missing someone for weeks upon weeks on end and spending each day obsessively checking your mental countdown until you get to see your other half again.


By no means does long distance make the love more real and by no means does short distance mean that you two have a stronger bond by being able to see each other every day. Both types of relationships require real love and real feelings of missing each other. But don't you dare belittle my long distance relationship by saying you have it just as hard and miss your boyfriend just as much. Until you have experienced living hours away and no longer having the luxury of being with each other whenever you want, you'll never understand how distance truly does make the heart grow fonder and work harder.

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Take Note from Ari and Pete’s Breakup: You Can’t Rush Timing In Relationships

Sometimes in relationships, timing is everything.

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According to TMZ, Ariana Grande and Pete Davidson have officially split, and sadly I can't say that I didn't see this coming.

It seems as though ever since they announced their engagement in June, there has been a whirlwind of controversy surrounding their abrupt relationship. At first people were head over heels in love with the pairing because of Pete's big dick energy. Then things quickly went downhill not too long after his joke about the Manchester bombings at Ariana's concert last year resurfaced. I could easily talk about all the questionable things Pete has said or done that may have caused their breakup—but I think there's a more important lesson we could take into consideration from this. Sometimes in relationships, timing is everything.

Not much has been reported about their breakup other than the fact that it was supposedly "not the right time" for their relationship to continue, but can you blame them? Besides, it usually takes several months before you can truly say you know someone. Even then it's still hard to tell who a person truly is until you've been living with them for a while. Considering they practically got engaged within weeks of casually dating, I'd say that their relationship escalated pretty quickly. I can't judge their decision and say it was stupid, but part of me feels like maybe Ariana didn't truly know what she was getting herself into when they got engaged so fast.

For starters, she had already just gotten out of a long-term relationship with late Mac Miller which she described as a "toxic" relationship. Maybe she could have used more time to heal after that breakup. Also, maybe if she and Pete had waited a little longer before getting so serious then she would have reacted differently to some red flags of Pete's immature tendencies and very obscene humor. Part of me wants to give him the benefit of the doubt because he's a comedian and therefore most likely uses jokes as a way to cope with serious stuff. However, when it gets to the point that Ariana has a mental breakdown via Twitter after being publicly groped at a funeral by a pastor and not even a full week later has to deal with thousands of people blaming her for the death of her ex-boyfriend then that's when you know she needs a rock to lean for a boyfriend rather than a goofball.

But like I said before, this isn't one of those situations where we can go through a list of Pete's shortcomings and blame him for the downfall of the relationship. Relationships are a lot like flowers. Even when they seem like the most beautiful thing on earth, they still need a solid foundation to grow upon, and that solid foundation starts with ideal timing. If you truly want to find the one you're meant to be with, it's not something you can rush into.

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