7 Reasons Closing Yourself Off From Dating Is The Wrong Move

7 Reasons Closing Yourself Off From Dating Is The Wrong Move

Dating can be hard sometimes, but there are some advantages to it.
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Look, I get that sometimes dipping into the dating world can be extremely nerve-racking and challenging, but sometimes it can be worth it.

I personally have closed myself off to the idea of dating many times, but here are some reasons why you shouldn't completely cut yourself off.

1. It can lead to more

I know in college most of us aren't looking for our future husband or wife just yet, but dating can always lead to more if you open your heart up to the idea of it.

2. Dating can sometimes be fun

Contrary to popular beliefs, going on dates can sometimes be worth it.

Think about it, you're meeting different people and just having a casual conversation.

Sometimes the dates can be terrible but at least you'll get a great story out of it.

3. Figure out what you like

You don't really know what type of man or women you like until you've dated around. Dating has taught me that I definitely don't want a gamer, partier or a man with no direction in life.

4. Social Skills

OK, we all know people that need to date to develop their social skills.

Dating is a great way to do that because it allows for you to work on those skills and figure out what is and isn't acceptable to talk about on dates. For example, you probably shouldn't be bringing up ex-relationships on your first date with a future mate.

5. Learn to flirt

Listen, I'm not a girl who's good at flirting but dating has allowed for me to learn how to be better at it.

I used to be the girl that would blush just when a semi-cute man would look my way, but now I can keep a flirty conversation going without getting red like a tomato... sometimes.

6. New Adventures

Sometimes when you decide to go on a date with someone they might surprise you and take you to a cool place, like a museum you've never been to or a fun park.

You should always be open to exploring on dates because you can really get to know a person when they show you their favorite adventures.

7. Isn't the one? That's ok

Maybe this person isn't the one but he or she is part of the journey to the one and those people count too. Before finding the person who you're meant to be with, you will encounter many other people first but they're also part of that journey and shouldn't be forgotten either.

I personally have shut down dating entirely lately, but thanks to some pretty amazing friends, I've realized that dating is important. Yeah you're going to stumble upon some pretty awful people while dating but one day it'll all work out, you just have to open your heart and know these things take time.

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To The Boyfriend Who Makes It Feel Like Valentine's Day Every Single Day Of The Year

I couldn't ask for better.

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If love is in the air and it's all over your Instagram feed, that can only mean one thing: Valentine's Day is approaching.

When it comes to Valentine's Day, people typically try to go over the top and demonstrate how much love they have for someone else through giving gifts. Whether that's flowers, chocolates, or going out to dinner, the gifts are meant to show that it's a special day that's all about the person they love.

That's not the case for me.

Valentine's Day is just another day to me. The love I receive from my boyfriend on a daily basis makes me feel like a queen every day, so nothing will really change once February 14th rolls around.

To him, I just want to say two things: thank you, and I love you.

Growing up, I never thought I would know a love as wholesome as yours. I sure as hell never thought I would deserve it, either, but you've shown me my worth and what real love feels like.

I used to not know my worth. I used to only know love as something that turned toxic and controlling. You changed all of that once you came into my life. You have shown me a healthy love that was trusting and unconditional, and I'll love you forever because of that.

I don't need Valentine's Day to know how much you love me. I don't need flowers, chocolates, or anything material to know that you see the rest of your life by my side. I know all of these things because you consistently show me that they're true on a daily basis.

You show me love in everything you do, whether that's holding the door open for me when we go out to eat, asking me how my day was, or making sure that my mental health is okay. You always greet me with a hug and a kiss, and you make me feel like I'm the most important person in the entire world.

You don't need to demonstrate a grand gesture to prove to me that you love me because I've never once doubted your feelings for me. You always tell me how beautiful I am and all of the things you love about me. I'm so thankful to be so head over heels for someone who cares about me with all of their heart.

I could never ask for someone better than you to be my partner in crime. You know me better than I know myself and I love every fiber of who you are. I know that in everything you do, you have me in your mind and your heart. You've shown me what it means to truly love someone, and for that, I'm so grateful.

Thank you for showing me what I deserve, and thank you for making every day feel like the most romantic holiday on the calendar. I love you.

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If You're Grossed Out By PDA, Then Don't Look At Me And My Boyfriend Kissing, Easy As That

Building my relationship and showing my boyfriend how much I love him will always be more important than catering to someone's bitterness.

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Whenever I see two people kiss, I always smile to myself briefly before looking away. That may sound weird, but honestly, there's something really heartwarming about knowing that other people are happy and in love. In a world that all too often seems full of hatred, heartbreak, and suffering, I try to value little moments of love. I've always felt this way, regardless of whether I was moody or happy, single or cuffed, and having a good or bad day. But apparently, other people, as I've recently found out, don't feel the same way.

"Do you two ever brush your teeth?"

"Are you picking bugs off of each other?"

*Other various glares and audibly annoyed sounds*

Talk about a mood killer, right?

I'll never get what possesses people to say stuff like that when there's a simple solution to this problem.

Don't like it? Don't look.

No one is forcing you to watch us be affectionate with each other. You can easily turn around, check the notifications on your phone, or talk to whoever you're with instead.

I've kissed my boyfriend in LOADS of places: restaurants, bus stops, school buildings, carnivals, parks, beaches, cars, apartments, social gatherings, and so on... And I can promise you that even when you act disgusted by what we're doing or make a nasty comment about us, we're not going to stop. So there's really no point in wasting your breath or expending energy on overdramatic facial expressions.

Even if just for a brief moment, try to think about why a couple might be showing affection for each other in public. (News flash: They're not doing it to deliberately make you comfortable.) It's more than likely that these two people are making the most of a moment.

They're happy and in love. There's nothing wrong with that.

On the flip side, why are you making such a big deal out of something that doesn't involve you whatsoever? My guess is that you're either unbearably lonely, jealous because your own relationship isn't suiting your needs, or just generally coldhearted. If any of those scenarios are true, I wouldn't be surprised. You chose to be hateful and rude over being civil and staying out of matters that don't personally involve you.

Regardless of the circumstance, it's a you problem that you need to work out on your own time.

Just like communication and effort, affection is an important part of a relationship. I want my boyfriend to know that regardless of where we are or who is around us, I will never be embarrassed or reluctant to kiss him or touch him. His feelings guide my behavior. He's my #1 priority. Building my relationship and showing my boyfriend how much I love him will always be more important than catering to someone's bitterness.

You can't avoid being around happy couples in public (really, we're everywhere), but you can change your reaction to them. And that's that.

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