7 Reasons Closing Yourself Off From Dating Is The Wrong Move

7 Reasons Closing Yourself Off From Dating Is The Wrong Move

Dating can be hard sometimes, but there are some advantages to it.

Look, I get that sometimes dipping into the dating world can be extremely nerve-racking and challenging, but sometimes it can be worth it.

I personally have closed myself off to the idea of dating many times, but here are some reasons why you shouldn't completely cut yourself off.

1. It can lead to more

I know in college most of us aren't looking for our future husband or wife just yet, but dating can always lead to more if you open your heart up to the idea of it.

2. Dating can sometimes be fun

Contrary to popular beliefs, going on dates can sometimes be worth it.

Think about it, you're meeting different people and just having a casual conversation.

Sometimes the dates can be terrible but at least you'll get a great story out of it.

3. Figure out what you like

You don't really know what type of man or women you like until you've dated around. Dating has taught me that I definitely don't want a gamer, partier or a man with no direction in life.

4. Social Skills

OK, we all know people that need to date to develop their social skills.

Dating is a great way to do that because it allows for you to work on those skills and figure out what is and isn't acceptable to talk about on dates. For example, you probably shouldn't be bringing up ex-relationships on your first date with a future mate.

5. Learn to flirt

Listen, I'm not a girl who's good at flirting but dating has allowed for me to learn how to be better at it.

I used to be the girl that would blush just when a semi-cute man would look my way, but now I can keep a flirty conversation going without getting red like a tomato... sometimes.

6. New Adventures

Sometimes when you decide to go on a date with someone they might surprise you and take you to a cool place, like a museum you've never been to or a fun park.

You should always be open to exploring on dates because you can really get to know a person when they show you their favorite adventures.

7. Isn't the one? That's ok

Maybe this person isn't the one but he or she is part of the journey to the one and those people count too. Before finding the person who you're meant to be with, you will encounter many other people first but they're also part of that journey and shouldn't be forgotten either.

I personally have shut down dating entirely lately, but thanks to some pretty amazing friends, I've realized that dating is important. Yeah you're going to stumble upon some pretty awful people while dating but one day it'll all work out, you just have to open your heart and know these things take time.

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My Boyfriend Is 'One Of My Biggest Blessings,' And You're Not Going To Make Me Feel Bad For Saying That

Maybe I have just seen that life isn't always filled with the very best people and to hold onto and appreciate the incredible ones you do find.


As I was catching up with a good friend of mine today, a really mind blowing realization finally fully hit me.

I'm a lucky girl.

We were catching up on what was new and exciting in our lives as we sat on her patio furniture basking in the hot summer sun. I was mid-story, telling her a quick recap of some not-so-wonderful things I have gone through and why I appreciate the person I'm dating today so much. I told her about the endless support I have constantly and genuinely received throughout the duration of our relationship, and how this always made me feel as like he truly considered both myself and my work important.

Without even thinking twice, I out blurted "He'd support me even if I wanted to be a garbage woman for the rest of my life! If he saw that I really loved what it was that I was doing, he'd be all for it."

It took me a quick second to actually processes the complete accuracy of what it was that I just said. It was one of those moments where my mind hadn't quite caught up with the words that had just came out of my mouth.

This made me also think of a time, very recently, where I was at a crossroads in life. I wasn't completely sure what path it was that I wanted to take and whether or not I was just jumping to a quick conclusion based on my feelings in that exact moment. I was then asked, "well what do you think his advice would be?" I quickly replied, "he'd tell me to do it because it's what I love."

That very moment only stayed with me for a split second, until I found myself back in the present, sitting with her on her backyard patio chairs.

I think, sometimes, we grow so used to the way that certain people in life treat us, that it almost becomes too normalized. We seem to forget that being made feel so special and so cared about is in fact a gift, and not just something we endlessly receive. It's a truly beautiful feeling knowing that you are loved to the point where as long as you are following your dreams, you are being fully supported. And not too many people can deem that as true.

So people can refer to me as the girl who is "so obsessed with her boyfriend." And that's fine. Maybe it's completely true. Maybe it's not. Maybe I have just seen that life isn't always filled with the very best people and to hold onto and appreciate the incredible ones you do find. It's good to sit back and realize how good of a thing we have while we still have it. And that's exactly what I'm doing to do; unapologetically.

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