8 Promises About F*ckboys We Should All Try Our Hardest To Keep But Will Likely Break In The New Year

8 Promises About F*ckboys We Should All Try Our Hardest To Keep But Will Likely Break In The New Year

It's the thought that counts, right?
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I don't believe in New Year's resolutions. If you want to see change in your life, why do you need to wait for the beginning of a new year?

However, with the start of my final semester of undergrad coinciding with the start of 2018, I figured now is the best time to make a few promises to myself.

1. I'll stop waiting for texts that will never come

You know how it goes. You make plans earlier that night and are waiting for confirmation that they're still planning on coming or are on their way over. They get your hopes up either to eventually ghost you or drunkenly call and wake you at 3 AM. Either way, no boy is worth the lack of sleep anymore.

2. I'll be wearier about what he says and how he says it

F*ckboys know a thing or two about sweet talking and ambiguity. No matter your level of expertise when it comes to dealing with these types of guys, we all fall victim to their initial charm. Be careful, and realize when he's playing you so you can call him on his bullsh*t.

3. I'll gain the courage to go out on dates rather than give excuses to avoid them

Now just because they take you out on a date doesn't mean they're not still f*ckboys; trust me. However, if he's willing to put in the effort to get to know you mentally and emotionally rather than just physically, there's a chance he's at least somewhat decent.

4. I won't annoy my friends about my f*ckboy problems when I put myself in those situations

Shout out to everyone who's had to listen to my ridiculously dumb problems, many of which I put myself into. I'll try to be better about it this year.

5. I won't tell my friends about any new boys unless they last longer than one month

Let's just save some time and a few dozen texts to ten different people about a boy who will ghost me after a week, yeah?

6. Similarly, I won't get attached to or idealize any new boys unless they last longer than one month

Most f*ckboys drop like flies after week 3, so I really don't understand why I idealize them before that point. You'd think after all this time I'd know better.

7. I'll stop putting a f*ckboy's needs and happiness before mine

One more time for the people in the back (AKA me because I'll need to be reminded of this like every day). Like my mom, I often strive to make others' lives easier and brighter even if it makes mine harder. Over the years, I've put immense effort into people who wouldn't do the same for me. This year, that changes.

8. I'll stop seeing f*ckboys

HAHAHA OK, I know this one is kind of unrealistic, but it's the thought that counts, right?

Here's to potential success in keeping these promises this coming year! Odds I can keep them for longer than one month?

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To The Girl ‘Falls In Love Too Fast,’ Nothing Is Wrong With You, You Just Know What You Want

If it were as easy for everyone else, life would be a little less unfair.

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You meet someone, and suddenly you fall in love, and they are the one. You have felt this way many times, about many different people, and you will never understand why. You will never know why you imagine a life together in your head when you have only known each other for a couple of weeks and have been on maybe four dates. It is hard because you've heard too many people make fun of those women, the ones that fall in love too fast. People say that they are easy, that they are crazy, that they do not know what love is.

But you know what love is, right? Just because you fall faster than most doesn't mean you are weird, right? It has never been explained to you, and it definitely should have been, but what you need to know is that you are not alone.

There are other women on this earth—heck, there are millions of women on this earth—that feel emotions as strongly as you do.

Once you feel a connection, you run with it; you grab onto it with both hands, and you don't let it go because how can you let a good thing like that slip through your fingers? Why would you pass up any chance to find love?

You are the girl who gets too attached, you are the girl who falls too quickly, you are the girl who loves too hard, and it is bizarre. Not to you, of course, never to you, this is how you have always been.

But to others…

You see the way they look at you, and you know better than to say the L word sooner than is socially acceptable because you have learned. It does not matter how strongly you might feel it, you know what people will say.

It has ruined you because, according to the world, there is a time limit on love.

They treat love as if it is a grenade; if it is handled wrong, it can blow up in your face, if it is set off too quickly, it will never be effective.

They think love is a war and dating is the battlefield, and you are their enemy. As if love is something to be measured in time and in victories.

You know better.

You have learned that who you make people uncomfortable, and you have taught yourself to hide this basic, primal, essential part of you, and that isn't fair at all.

But love for you is easy, and maybe if it were as easy for everyone else, life would be a little less unfair.

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7 Autumn Things You Should Do Before Cuffing Season, Whether You're Cuffed Or Not

News flash: You don't need to have a boyfriend to go hard at the pumpkin patch.

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Welcome to the best part of the year! From now until the end of December, may all your days be filled with pumpkin patches, haunted houses, Christmas lights and festive movies.

If you know me at all, you know I go hard during the holidays. The thing I never understand is when people think they can't do cute, fun fall things because they're not in a relationship. Whoever came up with that mentality, you're canceled.

Life is way too short. Are you really going to miss out on doing fun things because you don't have a boyfriend or girlfriend to do them with? No.

Here are some cute and fun fall things you should do this year, whether you're single or in a relationship:

1. Go to the pumpkin patch

Grab some girlfriends, go to a pumpkin patch and take cute pictures. You don't need a boyfriend to take pictures with. Girls know how to pose better anyway, and they won't complain about how many pictures you want to take.

Keep that Instagram aesthetic up, baby.

2. Paint pumpkins

After you come home from the pumpkin patch, grab your friends or younger siblings and paint those pumpkins! It's way less messy than carving, and it's easier. Plus, there are a lot of opportunities to get creative.

They also last longer without rotting that way.

3. Three words: Target's dollar section

If you've never been to the Target dollar section, it is the closest you'll get to heaven before dying. It's the fastest — and cheapest — way to decorate your house or dorm for any holiday. Grab your roommates and ball out. #spookyszn.

4. Watch childhood Halloween movies

I'm talking "Halloweentown," "Twitches," "Hocus Pocus" — all the good stuff. While you're watching, make sure to make those cookies with the pumpkins and ghosts on them. (You know the ones I'm talking about.)

5. Bake with your family

If you go home for Thanksgiving, really cherish that time with them. They miss you! Make old family recipes and listen to their childhood stories.

6. Sweater shopping

Did I feel it drop below 80 degrees? Bust out the sweaters.

We love good fall fashion. And if you go sweater shopping with your friends, you won't even have to convince them to tag along. Break the bank and pick out some cozy sweaters for each other.

7. Go to a haunted house

You're really going to tell me that you're not going to go to a haunted house because you don't have a boy's hand to hold?

Not only do your friends have hands, but so do you. Hold each other's hands and embrace the high-pitched screams. Go through that haunted house like a champ! (Or, if you're really too scared, dress like a boy. They'll scare you less.)

All jokes aside, whether you're single or in a relationship, that's good for you. Just don't let these times pass you by. You won't get these days back.

It's the best time of the year, so enjoy it with the people around you!

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