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8 Lessons Being Newly Single Taught Me About Life And Love In Just A Few Months

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Lexi Schroeder

Jul 26, 2019

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8 Lessons Being Newly Single Taught Me About Life And Love In Just A Few Months

Lexi Schroeder

I would say I am the type of girl who likes to be in relationships because it's always nice to have someone to lean on and be with. For the last three months, though, I have been single and I have already learned so much about myself. Especially since I basically have not been single since my sophomore year of high school. I was taken most of high school and then was single for a couple of months before jumping into another relationship.

But, this time around it is a little different. I like being single... I enjoy the time I have to myself and all the fun I can have throughout summer when I'm not working. Even though it's been a few short months, I can surely say I've matured and it's allowed me to learn quite a bit about myself. Here are the 8 lessons I've learned about relationships, myself, and family:

1. If it's too good to be true, it most likely is.

When I moved on, I thought I found who would have potentially been my next boyfriend. Everything was going great and I really started to fall for the guy. Turns out in the end, we both wanted different things because of miscommunication. We've all fallen in the trap of the cute boy who sweeps us off of our feet thinking he's going to fall in love with us but really doesn't.

2. Getting played is not your fault.

It's how dating life goes... being played is bound to happen at least once. And it will hurt, especially if you were catching feelings.

3. Spending time with family should always be a priority.

I've spent a lot more time with my mom now that I'm single and I know she appreciates that since I'm away at school for nine months out of the year.

4. People who like you will give you their time.

I learned if someone actually wants to get to know me like that, they'll put effort in too.

5. Motivation is key.

I have three part-time jobs this summer. We're all adults here so I push myself to work more so it will better me in the future. I have no one waiting for me at home so why not push myself to become more successful?

6. Being single is a blast.

I know I said I'm the type of person who loves having someone, but I've truly gained an appreciation for being single. I can hang out with whoever I want and go on dates to enjoy myself and get to know someone and it's quite fun.

7. Confidence comes from within.

I've struggled with some body images in the past and once I was single and realized how much I am worth, the confidence came back. And always remember that confidence is key.

8. It's only the beginning.

I'm only 20-years-old... I have my whole life ahead of me to find someone. I'm in college pursuing my career as well as holding multiple jobs. Sometimes I need to tell myself to sit back and enjoy myself because this is only just the beginning.

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8 Lessons Being Newly Single Taught Me About Life And Love In Just A Few Months

I'm young and there's still so much ahead of me.

1. If it's too good to be true, it most likely is.

2. Getting played is not your fault.

3. Spending time with family should always be a priority.

4. People who like you will give you their time.

5. Motivation is key.

6. Being single is a blast.

7. Confidence comes from within.

8. It's only the beginning.

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And in the end, the love you take is equal to the love you make

The sun is up, the sky is blue, it's beautiful and so are you

Love is old, love is new, love is all, love is you

There's nowhere you can be that isn't where you're meant to be

Life is very short, and there's no time for fussing and fighting, my friend

He say, "I know you, you know me", One thing I can tell you is you got to be free

Oh please, say to me, You'll let me be your man. And please say to me, You'll let me hold your hand

It was twenty years ago today, Sgt. Pepper taught the band to play. They've been going in and out of style, but they're guaranteed to raise a smile

Living is easy with eyes closed, misunderstanding all you see

Can you hear me? When it rains and shine, it's just a state of mind

Little darling, it's been long cold lonely winter. Little darling, it feels like years since it' s been here. Here comes the sun, Here comes the sun, and I say it's alright

We danced through the night and we held each other tight, and before too long I fell in love with her. Now, I'll never dance with another when I saw her standing there

I love you, I love you, I love you, that's all I want to say

You say you want a revolution. Well you know, we all want to change the world

All the lonely people, where do they all come from. All the lonely people, where do they all belong

Oh, I get by with a little help from my friends

Hey Jude, don't make it bad. Take a sad song and make it better

Yesterday, all my troubles seemed so far away. Now it looks as though they're here to stay. Oh, I believe in yesterday

And when the brokenhearted people, living in the world agree, there will be an answer, let it be.

And anytime you feel the pain, Hey Jude, refrain. Don't carry the world upon your shoulders

I'll give you all I got to give if you say you'll love me too. I may not have a lot to give but what I got I'll give to you. I don't care too much for money. Money can't buy me love

All you need is love, love is all you need

Whisper words of wisdom, let it be

Blackbird singing in the dead of night, Take these broken wings and learn to fly. All your life, You were only waiting for this moment to arise

Though I know I'll never lose affection, for people and things that went before. I know I'll often stop and think about them. In my life, I love you more

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There have been many lessons learned.

1. The importance of traditions.

2. How to be thankful for family and friends.

3. How to give back.

4. What the word "community" really means.

5. That it isn't about the destination, but the journey.

6. The consequences of making bad choices.

7. To trust people, until you have a reason not to.

8. To be welcoming and accepting of everyone.

9. How to be my own, individual person.

10. How to work for what I want.

11. How to be great at giving directions.

12. How to be humble.

13. To be well-rounded.

14. How to be great at conflict resolution.

15. The beauty of getting outside and exploring.

16. To be prepared for anything.

17. That you don't always have to do it alone.

18. How to be creative.

19. To brush off gossip.

I have never been so thankful to know you.

Dealing with the inevitable realities of college life.

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Email the professor

Attend the first class

Keep attending class

Have a backup plan

Remember that everything works out at the end

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