The 80/20 Rule Of Relationships

The 80/20 Rule Of Relationships

The most important relationship advice you'll get.

If you don’t know what the 80/20 rule is, you've already made your first mistake. This rule has made me revaluate all the relationships I have been in, as well as the ones I've considered beginning.

We, as humans, are always looking for the next best thing because as we all know, the grass is always greener on the other side, right? Wrong. This is what the 80/20 rule teaches you. Generally, when in a relationship you get about 80 percent of what you want. This sounds pretty good because it's such a high percentage. However, we are also craving that other 20 percent. We fight over it, break up over it and complain about it because as we already went over, we always want what we can’t have.

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Say your boyfriend or girlfriend is SO great—loyal, attentive, supportive, and caring. However, they aren’t as social as you. You always want to go out with friends, go to parties and hang in groups but they would rather hang out at home or Netflix and chill (and actually watch Netflix and actually chill). Instead of focusing on the 80 percent of things you want and are actually receiving, you focus on the 20 percent that shows your significant other being antisocial.

Then comes the day you meet your 20 percent. They’re outgoing, always up to hang out, and never turns down an opportunity to party. They seem perfect. They are that 20 percent you are missing. So what do you do? You naturally think this person is a better match for you and so you break up with your current significant other for this person.

This all seems perfect, now you have everything you want, right? Nope. You will soon realize even though you have that 20 percent, you ONLY have 20 percent. You no longer are getting 80 percent of what you want because you left that for the single aspect that you were missing to begin with.

The 20 percent is dangled in front of your face looking like the ideal option, but you forget when you go after the one thing you were missing, you lose everything you had. You give up 80 percent happiness for only 20 percent. You gave up a caring, respectful, amazing partner for an obnoxious, drunk, party animal because it seemed like everything you wanted at the time.

This rule may seem obvious, but next time you want to complain about your boyfriend or girlfriend, I bet you’ll think twice and remember the 80 percent that you get every day. Forget about the 20 percent that's probably something insignificant anyway.

Appreciate your loved one and always let them know it. Don’t get caught yearning over 20 percent.

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He flew across the country to have a second chance with her.

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Dahlia and Sam

How long they've been together:

"We have been together over a year, but we've been in love for ten years." - Dahlia

How they met:

"We met in sixth grade when he sat behind me in reading class and kicked my chair repeatedly until I talked to him." - Dahlia

The most romantic thing to ever happen to them:

"Sam and I went to different high schools, he went to tech school and I went to public school. He dressed up in his military dress blues and came to my high school's senior prom to confess his love and dance with me, but I was not there.

Later that year, Sam flew from Arizona, where he was living, back home to Connecticut in May 2016. He borrowed a friend's car and drove to my house. He walked to my back door and saw that there were no cars in the driveway, but that my kitchen light was on. He said he knows all Italians leave their kitchen lights on when no one is home, so he drew the conclusion that I was not there, which was true. So he took this as a sign that it wasn't meant to be, and flew back to Arizona without further reaching out to me. I didn't learn about this until we re-connected the following year...

We spent four hours talking in a cafe, and all of a sudden we realized the cafe had been closed and they were cleaning up to go home. So we got in my car and we drove to Miller's Pond State Park in our hometown of Middletown, Connecticut, and I was so nervous that I forgot the way to get there and Sam had to pull it up on GPS so we could get there. It was January and the lake was frozen over, and Sam taught me how to skip rocks on the frozen lake so it makes a sound like birds chirping as the rock skips." - Dahlia

Their favorite memory:

"My favorite memory of us is when we woke up at 4 a.m. and drove to the beach in Rhode Island to watch the sunrise. It was the most beautiful thing I've ever seen or done." - Dahlia

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10 Types Of Couples That Make You Want To Be Single Forever

You know the ones.

Okay so Valentine's Day has passed (congrats single ladies - we made it through another year!!) and we don't have to walk by 3098509843 guys buying flowers and chocolate for their girls until next year... but none of us can forget the types of couples we encountered that day, or any day for that matter. Here is a list of 10 types of couples you see all the time:

1. The Perfect Couple

I mean common.. we all know a couple that is literally perfect. They both have perfect bods, perfect teeth, perfect hair, smart, athletic... you name it, that's them. Honestly, they're so perfect it can get a little weird at times.

2. The "how'd you get together?" Couple

This couple constantly has people wondering how it happened. Do I really have to explain this one? Okay, I guess I will... so basically its the couple that walks by and no one says anything but everyone knows what the others are thinking: "EXCUSE ME WUTTTTTT!?!?"

3. The Exclusive Couple

This couple disappears after they're "official." No one ever hears or sees them anymore because all they do is spend time with each other... GAG.

4. The Long Distance Couple

These are the hardcore soulmate type. They've found the one and no matter how far their partner is, there's no stopping them from holding on. (a.k.a Rose from Titanic saying "I'll never let go Jack." even though he sinks to the bottom of the ocean)

5. The Super Inclusive Couple

The polar opposite of the exclusive couple, this couple leaves people questioning whether or not they're actually dating. Do they even do things just the two of them? Seems like its always a group thing to me..

6. The Social Couple

No matter how hard you try, you will never be able to introduce them to someone new. They know EVERYONE....

7. The Middle School Couple

They celebrated their 10 year anniversary at age 11... HA jokes on them because they have to start over the anniversary count when they FINALLY get married.

8. The "we're on a break" Couple

Every time you ask, their relationship status is different. It's no big deal anymore though because you know it'll change by the end of the week. Honestly, they just leave people wondering why they're still together.

9. The Adventurous Couple

They're never home! Always out doing something amazing (you know, like hiking Mount Everest). You have to make plans with them weeks in advance if you want to get on their calendar.

10. The Wanna-be Couple

Everyone knows this couple is actually a couple except for them. They both wanna be dating the other, but neither of them can just build up the courage to ask the other out...

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