9 Things You Should Tell Your Best Friend Right Now

9 Things You Should Tell Your Best Friend Right Now

I will always be your wing woman

1. You're my person.

We are the same person. We complain about the same things, love the same movies, cry over the same books and laugh at the same moments. Whatever we don't have in common, we try our best to love it anyway. If you tell me that a movie is awesome, I will trust your judgment, watch it, and bet you $10 that I'll love it, too. We are the perfect match. You're my person.

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2. Keep your head up.

Life's a beach, and we all know it. You will have bad days, but don't let that get you down. You're a good person who deserves everything good this world has to offer. Don't ever be discouraged about anything because you're the one I go to when I need a smile.

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3. You're not alone.

Had a rough day? Being the same person, I probably did, too. You're not alone. I may not always be able to relate to your trials in life, but I will always be here to listen and do my best to help you. Don't ever feel isolated because I will always find a way to be by your side.

4. You're beautiful.

Don't let anyone tell you otherwise. You're beautiful inside and out, and you should know it. I will always be your wing woman, even if it goes downhill faster than we can run. Don't let a stupid person make you feel lesser than what you really are.

5. Make good choices.

You are too awesome of a person to get tripped up by the negatives of this world. Make good choices and be even better than you are now. And if you make bad choices, make sure I'm there so we can laugh about it later.

6. Don't forget our embarrassing moments.

No one else will laugh as much as we did when it happened, so don't forget it. Now this doesn't mean we can tell other people, but we can always cherish a good laugh.

7. Laugh it out.

If we have an argument or misunderstanding, laugh it out. We are too good of friends to let this one thing (which won't even matter in two weeks) ruin our friendship.

8. I love you.

My mom always told me to tell your loved ones you love them because you may not ever get another chance. So, I love you. You are seriously such an awesome person, and I am more than lucky to have you in my life. You understand me like no one else, and that is true talent. You are the exact fit, my missing piece.

9. Thank you.

Thank you so much for being my best friend. You have devoted so much time to be there for me, and I can never repay you for everything you have done. Thank you for making me realize the things I need to work on and the things I do well. You are always making sure I am being my best self, and you stand up for me whenever necessary. I honestly couldn't live without you.

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The Friend You Like Romantically Doesn't Owe You Anything

The friend-zone can be escaped, but not in the way you might want

We've all heard the story of the "friend-zone." Boy is in love with his best friend, she dates all the wrong guys and fails to notice how perfect he is, then eventually realizes how wrong she was and they live happily ever after.

I used to think that the friend-zone was a myth that lonely men created to feel better about themselves. But then I got friend-zoned myself.

Yes, it sucked, but the second I realized I had feelings for a friend (that I knew had no such feelings for me), I decided to suppress the feelings. When that wasn't enough, I cut them off for a bit, then, slowly, I felt OK. I could communicate with them without having unwanted romantic feelings pop up. I had escaped the friend-zone.

Having gone through that, I had more sympathy for someone I had to friend-zone a little while later. I had been friends with this guy for a few months. I didn't have many college friends yet and I was really lonely, so having his company really meant a lot at the time.

This caused me to not be able to see what should have been clear: he had a crush on me. When I finally made the realization, I immediately let him know that I didn't feel that way about him. He said it was OK, but I could tell it wasn't.

We didn't talk at all over the summer and when we came back for the fall semester, he would barely look at me. I had started dating his friend, which caused an even bigger rift between us.

Though I understand where he's coming from, I was also really mad at him for a long time.

It was as if he was only nice to me because he wanted romance in return. But people are not vending machines. You can't put in your "nice guy" coins and expect love, sex, or whatever the hell it is you want in return.

It hurt me to know that he only wanted romance and once that was off the table, he no longer wanted anything to do with me.

But then I thought back to the friend that had friend-zoned me. Unrequited affections really suck, especially when they're for someone that you spend a lot of time with. But the key is to work to escape it.

Yes, liking someone you're friends with and them not liking you back is a real thing, but people tend to treat the friend-zone like this mythic hell dimension that can never be escaped. But you can escape. Just maybe not in the way you'd like to.

Now there are three ways you can escape the friend-zone:

The first option is to confess your feelings and try to win them over. Now, this isn't completely unheard of. I've had friends that have dated people who had previously friend-zoned them, but it's extremely rare and risky. You have to risk your entire friendship in order to do this. If it doesn't work out, it could strain the friendship or sometimes break it beyond repair.

You can also do what my ex-friend did and completely cut the person off. If you're being a love-zombie and only doing nice things for the friend because you expect romance in return, leaving the situation might be the most healthy decision for you. I understand now that my friend might have stopped talking to me out of self-preservation. But it still hurts the people involved.

The third and final option is to just get over it. It's harsh, but it's real. Why try something you know is going to fail and cause pain to both sides? Yes, getting over crushes can be really difficult, but getting a normal friendship back rather than being stuck a love-zombie for them is worth the pain.

Whichever one you choose, just remember this: Your friends do not owe you any romantic affection. The work you put into making them happy should just come out of the goodness of your own heart. If you expect romance in return, you're not being a good friend to them. If you really care about them, don't put that kind of pressure on them. They don't want a mindless love-zombie that does their bidding for the hope that they'll get a tiny love kernel out of it. They just want a friend.

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Yes, I Am Friends With My Ex-Boyfriend, And No, It's Not Weird

Even my current boyfriend is OK with it.

In high school, I met one of my very best friends. He had just transferred to a new school our sophomore year, and we had seen each other a few times in the hallway, but we never really talked to one another. One day, he decided maybe we should just become friends since we see each other all the time anyway (plus, he probably thought I was cute, so he had to slide into my messages). Anyway, he messaged me on Facebook one day and decided to wish me a Merry Christmas. From then on, we became really close.

We talked all the time and hung out as much as we could. We both were in and out of relationships and helped each other with break-ups, when someone needed advice, etc. This went on for about a year before we decided we could possibly be a couple. We both worked well together, and it just seemed right. In June of 2015, we decided to make it official.

By this point, we had just finished our junior year of high school, and everything was great. We spent that summer, our senior year of high school, and almost our entire freshman year of college together. I went away to college while he stayed at a community college. The distance was hard, but we decided we should probably call it quits April of 2017.

Our relationship was starting to fall apart. We couldn't stop arguing, and honestly, I was tired of trying to make our relationship work. I started to give up, and he knew that. We didn't want to jeopardize a friendship that was so important to us, so we remained friends as best as we could. It's hard staying friends with someone you dated for almost two years, but we knew it would hurt worse. Besides, we ended our relationship on good terms.

A few months later, I came home from college for summer vacation. It was a little weird to be around each other again, but we picked things up where we left off with our friendship. We spent that summer like we used to. We hung out all the time, went places, and just acted normal. We were still best friends, and neither one of us wanted that to change.

Two years later, we're still very good friends. I am still in college, and he has since enlisted in the Navy. Before leaving for the Navy, he would come to my house and visit my mother, and even house and dog sit when we weren't home. I'm pretty sure he still has a key to my house. I even went to see him when he swore into the Navy and left for boot camp.

Both of us get asked all the time if it is weird to be around one another, and they seem really confused when we say it's not. Our families don't really understand how we've remained friends, but I do. He and I always acted like friends more than we did a couple. Our friendship often times came before our relationship, and we didn't want to mess that up; it was important to both of us.

So, no, being friends with my ex is not weird, and it isn't for him either.

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