15 Things Every Guy Should Know And Understand About Girls, But Somehow NEVER Do

15 Things Every Guy Should Know And Understand About Girls, But Somehow NEVER Do

In an attempt to make girls less confusing to the guys of the world.

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I've heard (either from my friends or overhearing) guys talking to other guys about how confusing girls are. "Why do they go to the bathroom together?" "How do I know if she likes me or not?" "How do I approach the girl I like?"

As a girl, I think we're pretty straightforward and that guys are a lot more confusing, but I'm here to demystify the female population. Here are 15 things guys should know about girls:

1. Chivalry isn't dead...

Being gentlemanly can get you so far. Don't underestimate how much politeness matters.

2. ...But don't be afraid to let us reciprocate.

Guys can get defensive when a girl wants to hold the door for them or pick up the check. We view those things as a sign of respect and interest, and we want to show you we appreciate you.

3. Girls go to the bathroom in groups.

This is just a fact of life—no matter where we are or what we're doing. Either we're sketched out by the place we're in, or we just need a break from the craziness of the situation. Sometimes we crack jokes and just talk to our friends, or we decide whether or not we're staying.

4. Remember the little things.

If we tell you in a random conversation that we like a certain movie, kind of music, food, etc. and you find a way to talk about it or incorporate it into our time with you somewhere down the line, it can mean so much more than you being nice in another way. It shows us that you listen, remember what we say, and care about making us happy.

5. Intelligence is attractive.

Acting like a bonehead in hopes that we notice will get you the wrong kind of attention. Seeing when someone knows what they're talking about and aren't afraid to show it can be a game-changer.

6. Don't be afraid to have real conversations.

When we talk to you, we want to know the real you. Don't make a joke out of every topic of conversation. Give real answers and be genuine. We notice.

7. It's nice for you to dress up every once in a while.

When you put effort into your appearance it shows that you have self-respect and take care of yourself. You'll also get more positive attention. There's a reason "Best Dressed" is a classic yearbook superlative.

8. Cockiness will get you nowhere.

A lot of people confuse confidence with cockiness. Confidence can be extremely attractive, but when it gets into the territory of excessively boasting, bragging, or acting as if you are the greatest thing to ever walk the earth, it becomes a turn-off.

9. Be yourself when you meet our friends and family.

People close to us know pretty much everything about you already, and they want to see how great you are with their own eyes. They can tell when you're trying too hard or acting like someone you're not. The best way to make a good first impression is to not over-think everything.

10. Slow and steady wins the race.

This classic piece of advice seems to be applicable in so many scenarios. Don't try to rush into anything right off the bat. Take it slowly, and don't show interest in anyone else while we're trying to get to know you. Trust us, we're worth it in the end.

11. The idea that girls don't want nice guys isn't true.

I don't know who told you this, but they lied to you. We might be initially attracted to the "bad boy," but when thinking long-term, we want someone we can depend on and we know will build us up. Kindness and showing the soft side of yourself makes such a difference.

12. Treat us like you'd want your sister's boyfriend to treat her.

If you don't have a sister, picture your cousin or best girl friend. If you wouldn't want to see a guy be a jerk to her, don't be a jerk to a girl. It's that simple.

13. Things don't need to be expensive to impress us or make us happy.

Sometimes it really is the thought that counts the most.

14. Don't be afraid to show interest.

Half the time we can't tell how you feel about us. Don't be afraid to tell us you're interested. If we don't think you're interested, we might not act like we're interested. If you want to talk to us or get to know us, put your foot in the door and give it a chance.

15. Don't point out our flaws or insecurities.

These are things we hope no one notices, and you pointing them out will only make us more insecure about them. If it's not something we can immediately fix (like something in our teeth or in our hair) don't say anything about it.

When it comes to girls, just relax and don't stress too much. Be upfront and honest, and just be a good guy. We can tell which ones are worth keeping around.

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I Am A Hopeless Romantic Living In A World Where One-Night Stands Are The Norm

It's the little things.

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In today's society, it can certainly start to feel like no one takes love seriously anymore.

Whether it's that one couple who has broken up and gotten back together more times than you can count, the two friends-with-benefits no one can figure out, your local womanizer, or just hookups in general, love and lust are a huge part of specifically college life and culture.

As a hopeless romantic, being part of a generation that "just wants to have fun" can be really frustrating, especially when you just want to find something real. It is so easy for people to put on a fake act just to get what they want and sometimes this can be extremely hard to see through. I'm sure we've all had some kind of incident with someone who played nice but had ulterior motives and the sad truth is that it can be impossible to recognize a person's artificiality.

I am a hopeless romantic.

I have always classified myself as such, and it has remained true. Sure, I can make the most of the freedoms I have as a single college woman, but deep down I just want to find my person.

I've had my fair share of letdowns, and I think we all have, but being a hopeless romantic makes it that much more difficult to get past the "what ifs" and fantasies that come along with starting something with someone new. We may already have our hearts set on a person when they decide they've gotten what they wanted and leave.

For me, I find myself caught up in the little things that someone does. I have always been someone who picks up on small details in situations, and sometimes this works against me.

I pick up on the small facial expressions that he may not even realize he is making; the ones that tell you when their guard has been let down, even just for a split second.

I pick up on the way he sits our two cellphones side by side on the nightstand, taking care to line them up perfectly as if that's just their spot.

I pick up on the short moments of laughter where he actually lets himself laugh and forgets about the act.

I pick up on things, and sometimes I end up hurting because of it.

When it comes down to it, though, I wouldn't change the way that I am. I wouldn't change the fact that I find myself in the search for more in a society that mostly only offers me less.

The trait that tends to hurt me most is also the one that I value most. Even if noticing all the little things is something that contributes to my own heartache, I love those moments. There is something beautiful about those tiny things shared by two people, even if the connection ends there.

Sure, it can be hard. But so can everything.

It's just a matter of finding the beauty.

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Dedicate Your Summer To Bettering Yourself For Yourself, Not Your Ex

Why waste energy on an ex who doesn't care about you anymore?

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I'm single for the summer (yet again, no shock there) but this summer there's something in the air that just feels different. It's the feeling of true acceptance of my single status.

Last summer I was single when I really didn't want to be. My heart with still holding out for a guy who wasn't interested in anything more than my friendship. It took me from late March all the way until Halloween to get over those feelings. However, while working through those tough feelings that summer, I came to enjoy my time on my own and not talking to anyone except my best friends. I didn't have to worry about when I'd get a text back, or if I'd be left on read, or who he'd be out with since I wasn't around. The only thing I needed to worry about was my paychecks and tan lines.

Sometimes after breaking things off with someone who you put so much effort into, whether it was a boyfriend, an almost relationship, or even a friend with benefits, it's easy to want to show off on social media and make them regret ever hurting you or ending things. Why? It's a nice little ego boost, sure, but after those few seconds of glee from the fact that you know they've seen and maybe even liked your picture or your tweet, or saw your story on Snapchat, do you still feel happy? No, you go right back to feeling like crap, whether you want to admit it or not. Stop making yourself all about them when that ship has sailed and start being all about you.

Your ex is off doing their own thing, maybe thinking about you, but obviously not enough to want you back in their life the way you used to be. They are probably out there finding a new person to take your spot because they don't have you at their beck and call anymore. If they're also showing off to show you how much better they are without you or to make you jealous...why are you still following them or still participating in this sick little game for attention? Grow up and block them so you don't have to keep seeing their posts, or be adult enough to stop if you're doing the same as well. If it's only you posting, chances are you just look stupid, so stop before you really embarrass yourself. I was that person, and I know first hand how embarrassed I am for acting the way I did.

Summer is synonymous for doing whatever the hell you want. Wear what you want, say what you want, and be the best version of yourself that only a high dose of Vitamin D can bring out. Your ex is an ex for many reasons. You have to set aside the summer for you and what benefits you only. Don't concern yourself with an ex who doesn't care in the least about you anymore. Coming from someone who posted thirst traps aimed at a specific person along with countless shady AF stories on Snap and Insta in the hopes that this one person and their friends would see it, just stop and save yourself the energy as well as regret.

We're all adults, it's time to stop the petty posts and photos. Post your thirst trap for yourself because you're a sexy queen who doesn't need anyone but herself. Once you start focusing on yourself this summer, instead of your ex, you'll realize just have great it feels to truly be free.

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