Affording A Wedding in College Isn’t as Impossible as You May Think

Affording A Wedding in College Isn’t as Impossible as You May Think

It Doesn't Cost A Single Penny to Create Memories that will Last a Lifetime
Anum Yoon
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It’s common knowledge that weddings today cost a pretty penny – averaging a little over $25,000. Tack on five grand for the honeymoon, and you're looking at a final price tag equivalent to another year's worth of college. To call marriage a life-changing event would be an understatement.


But don't run away from the altar just yet. While a wedding may be one of the costliest life events for some, it doesn't have to drain your savings, too. You're in college, after all — let's not tack another massive expense onto your list of worries.

If you're like most people, you likely don't have $25,000 collecting dust in your savings. In fact, you might not even have a fraction of that amount to spend. Want to know the best part about being a college student? You learn how to get the most out of every dollar.

If you're ready to tie the knot with your special someone, go for it! Having a wedding isn't about how much you spend — it's about creating memories with your closest friends, family, and loved ones as you celebrate the new life journey ahead.

Are you ready to throw the wedding of a lifetime on a college budget? Here are five simple ways to make walking down the aisle in college into a fun and affordable event.

Round Up Your Campus Friends



The beauty of planning a wedding in college is having the added convenience of being in contact with all of your closest campus friends. Inviting past roommates and college buddies can be difficult after graduating, especially when everyone returns to their hometowns or moves to another state for a new line of work. When you plan a wedding in college, you have all your friends readily available — which makes enlisting a few sets of helping hands so much more convenient!

Campuses are overflowing with personalities, so why not take advantage of it? Getting acquainted with that excellent guitar player in your music class could easily save you thousands of dollars on music and entertainment at your wedding.

Enlist the help of creative family and friends who can help provide you with different photography services, entertainment, and musical performances for discounted prices or free.

Skip the Fancier Details





Let's face it — most of your guests won’t care if you forgo adding caviar to your dinner reception's menu. In fact, we're betting most of your college friends will thank you for choosing a tastier alternative instead.

While serving extravagant foods is nice on paper, luxury meals are hardly worth the added price you’ll need for your wedding venue. Make a list of your favorite budget-friendly meals instead. Enlist the help of your family’s best cooks and cut the cost of your wedding drastically.

If you still would prefer to have something catered – we get it. Consider a buffet over a plated and served meal. Though considered “tacky” by someone like your Great Aunt Tilly – buffets are almost always more affordable, can provide a greater variety to your guests, and your hungry guests will be able to enjoy their food significantly faster than a formal plated meal.







Swap out a Three-Tiered Cake for a Candy Bar



Did you know the average price of a wedding cake can run as high as $1,500, not including taxes? And who really enjoys fondant anyway? No thank you!

A candy bar is the ideal dessert option for any wedding reception because it allows your guests to choose their desired sweets based on their taste preference, can act as a wedding favor, and will save you loads of cash. Plus – they are super fun! Choose from an array of chocolates, mints and candy melts for fruit-dipping. Candy bars conveniently provide the perfect Instagram-worthy set-ups for a bonus. A chocolate cake may be delicious, but a table full of your favorite sweets is even better.

Remember Something Borrowed Can be Better than Something New



One of the best ways to plan a fulfilling wedding is to break all the rules and release the pressure of upholding expectations in the process. That means you don't have to wear all white or adorn yourself in the most expensive jewelry. You can make use of the very accessories lining your own — and your loved ones’ — closets instead!

Consider using a dress your family has passed down from generation to generation. You'll not only have a unique outfit, but it will also have an added value of sentiment relative to you. The same rule applies to wedding bands. If there are heirlooms or wedding accessories your family has saved for this moment, why not take advantage and save some money while creating beautiful memories?

Be Your Own Wedding Designer

Hiring a wedding planner can be expensive. In fact, it can be among the top costs at your wedding. You already have a vision in your head of how you want this eventful night to unfold, so why not put it into practice by ensuring no detail is skipped or misunderstood? Enlist a trusted friend or two to help when you’re feeling stressed – but foregoing a professional planner can save you some serious cash.

Make Memories





There’s never a better time to get married than when you most feel like proclaiming your everlasting love. If you’re in college, then so be it! There is no correlation between the amount of money you spend and the success of a picture-perfect day.

Remember, it doesn't cost a single penny to create the memories that will last you a lifetime.

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Mia Khalifa Got Engaged Before You Did — Another Reminder That Nice Girls Always Finish Last

"Well-behaved women seldom make history," right?

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On Thursday, March 14th, the infamous adult industry star and sports commentator, Mia Khalifa, and her long-time boyfriend, Robert Sandberg, got engaged over a fancy dinner in Chicago. As soon as I saw the picture on her Twitter page, I was ecstatic because I love engagement announcements. Besides, there's always something encouraging about seeing two people who are in love take an even deeper step in their relationship to ultimately reach their end goal. But of course, when you're a public figure, people take it upon themselves to add their two cents. While I usually roll my eyes at unsolicited comments from randoms on the internet, I couldn't help agree with one thread of comments in particular.


Seeing tweets like this make sense to me because I've always been a firm believer that being a non-traditional woman doesn't make you exempt from being wifey material. When I saw that Mia got engaged, the first thing that came out of my mouth was "good for her" and I meant that genuinely. Her career in pornography has been controversial especially due to her Lebanese heritage. In an interview with Newsweek, Khalifa admitted that her own parents don't even speak with her.

After leaving the porn industry within three months, she became a successful entrepreneur. People wondered how she could make the transition despite her past, but she went on a become successful businesswoman, juggling between being a co-host for sports commentary channels, posting live streams for Twitch, and selling merchandise through Patreon. I personally don't think these amazing qualities should be overshadowed by the stigma of working in adult film.

And the stigma behind bad girls didn't just start recently. Most of this can be explained by the Madonna-Whore Dichotomy (MWD), popularized by Sigmund Freud. Simply put, good girls are associated with purity while the bad girls are associated with promiscuity. While many of Freud's theories surrounding sexuality are laughable at best in the psychology world, the MWD still holds weight today and both women and men suffer from this ideology. Even certain reactions to Mia's engagement compare her sexual reputation as a contrast with what a "good girl" or "wife" should be.



With that said, let me explain why non-traditional women like Mia Khalifa are worthy of everything they desire. There's underlying strength behind bad girls because they tend to live a fearless life. A bad girl doesn't make her decisions based on what people think of her or what seems like the easy route to go by. A bad girl is fully aware of how she may be perceived, but that doesn't stop her from conquering her goal. A bad girl receives the fullest out of life because she doesn't get what she deserves per se, but gets what she negotiates. When she actively gets what she wants on her own terms, it's often a display of her confidence and power and that alone is ten times more alluring than being basic.

So when people ask the questions “Why would a man want to marry someone like that?" I would tell them that many qualities that are considering wifey material are outdated. In the 1950s, the main aspect that constituted what it meant to be a wife was a woman who fulfilled the traditional gender role. In 2019, women have more space to live their lives in a way that isn't solely an audition to become a wife even if they still get judged for it at times.

Now, the concept of what wifey material is has changed. It's not only about a woman's ability to cook and clean and preference to stay in rather than going out. A study conducted every year by the University of Iowa since the 1930s gave insight to the qualities that men look for in a long-term partner and the top traits were financial stability, emotional stability, attractiveness, intelligence, dependability, and ambition.

Independence is one word that can sum up most of traits and it describes women like Khalifa perfectly. She even stated in an interview for Playboy that when it comes to whatever direction she goes in life and career, unless she does it on her terms, she'll never be happy. It takes a lot of confidence, independence and intelligence to be able to flourish while doing what you want on your own terms.

Aside from Khalifa, there are many examples where non-traditional women have reigned supreme. Take Chrissy Teigen for example. She isn't the kind of woman who dulls herself down for the sake of a relationship. She's outspoken and never shies away from addressing topics that other women are thinking of but don't say out loud. She has also revealed that she and John Legend slept together the first night they met, and they're happily married to this day.

The same compartmentalization applies to Nicole (Snooki) LaValle who was once deemed “one of the most un-wifeable celebrities" due to her party image in "Jersey Shore." She is now currently going strong with her husband, Jionni, and they have two kids.

Meghan Markle, Duchess Of Sussex, also faced scrutiny as she hasn't always been seen as the proper fit for Prince Harry because she never lived a “quiet" life before him and lived her previous life in the public eye through acting. Despite reservations on their relationship, Markle and Prince Harry have been successful and will welcome their first child later this spring.

To put this in a more realistic context, a lot of us will never know what it's like to live the kind of life with the stigma of being a woman in the adult entertainment industry or the minimization of our career due to our marriage with a famous husband. However, many of us do know what it's like with the stigma of not being a traditional woman. We know what it's like to grow up learning that we have to dumb ourselves down in order to make boys like us more. We know what it's like to hear "the fastest way to a man's heart is through his stomach" followed by stern advice to make sure we know how to cook in order to keep a man. We're well acquainted with the feeling of discouragement of being talked out of many things because it isn't considered ladylike.

So if you're a woman who is reading this and you don't have the most conventional style, personality, or career path, continue doing you. Don't live your life constantly wondering what people will say about the way you live your life. You are free to be as loud, confident or unorthodox as you want. Being wifey material should not be at odds with feminine sexual expression or anything else that goes against the status quo that women have to be docile and submissive in order to obtain a husband. Keep shaking the tables and breaking down barriers because one day, the world will be yours.

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Stop Referring To Your Boyfriend As Your Future Husband

Why it's dangerous to get ahead of yourself in a relationship.

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I am by no means a relationship expert.

I am three months into my first relationship ever, which is going quite well, but still, I do not know much about relationships in general.

All couples are different. They move at different paces, have different issues, and different quirks. However, one thing that I believe should apply to all couples, is how you should speak about marriage.

Couples that are just dating should not talk about their future marriage as if it is a given.

Don't get me wrong, I absolutely believe in dating to marry. When looking at potential dating partners, I always think way far ahead into the future. I can not hang out with a guy without analyzing how his traits would translate into our future together. Every one of his quirks, opinions, and actions are compared with what I want in a future husband, father to my kids, and my forever BFF. Kind of weird and intense, but I can't help it.

Anyways, it can be hard to find the right person for you to date.

So, once you do find that one you can see yourself ending up with, it's pretty exciting! You want to spend all of your time with that person! And talk about them all the time! And dream about your future with them.

But, just because you do find the chosen one that you could see yourself marrying, does not mean you need to tell them that.

Saying things like "when we get married" and "once we're married" only sets you guys up for hurt.

Every time you talk about your marriage as if it's already set in stone, you are making a promise to your person. A promise that you will be getting married, and have this hypothetical life together.

But until there is a ring on someone's finger, a formal promise in the form of engagement, your hypothetical life together is just that, hypothetical.

Making plans about when that person is your husband is dangerous because you do not know whether he will actually be your husband or not. If you guys break up, you are not only losing your boyfriend but the husband that he was in your head.

So, if you are confident that the person you are dating is going to be your spouse, go ahead and get engaged. And if you are not ready for an engagement, you are not ready to talk about that person as if you are already a married couple.

So, hold off and keep those wedding bells in your head.

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