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What You and Your Partner's After-Sex Activity Says About Your Relationship

We talk a lot about the sex itself, but what about after the fact?

Olivia Gemarro
Jun 12, 2018
Ohio University
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What You and Your Partner's After-Sex Activity Says About Your Relationship
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So there's quite a lot to be said about how your sex life can be representative of how healthy and happy your relationship is. But rarely do we consider how our after-sex activities might factor in to this as well.

The following list contains the most common after-sex shenanigans—see what you and your sweetie identify with most... and maybe get some new ideas for the future. ;)


1. Catching some Z's

Lovemaking can be absolutely draining, and there's no better way to recharge than by napping or getting a head-start on a good night's sleep. You are comfortable enough with your lover to drift off in their arms, leaving yourself completely vulnerable and in their care. And your sweetheart feels the same exact way about you.

2. Staying in bed to cuddle

So you're both tired, but neither of you are quite ready to call it a night— cuddling is the simple solution to this predicament. Your partner wants you to know that they aren't going anywhere anytime soon and it's safe to say that your relationship is largely built on affection and sweet, loving gestures to show how much you care.

3. Showering together


After getting hot and steamy between the sheets, you and your partner move your romantic rendezvous to the shower to get clean (or even dirtier). You both care about each other's well-being and crave even more physical intimacy to satisfy your desires, making what is typically a private activity a sensual, purifying experience for you to cherish always.

4. Pillow talking

In your euphoric, post-sex haze, you and your lover are swept away by talk of your love for each other and for your relationship. Communication between you two is undoubtedly very strong and makes your connection that much more special. There isn't an unspoken word between either of you when it comes to your thoughts and feelings.

5. Grabbing a snack

You and your significant other expend a lot of energy making each other feel good. That being said, refueling, once the deed is done, is an absolute necessity. Whether it's a microwave pizza, ice cream, or a quick meal out, your love for snacks is only surpassed by your love for each other. At its best, your relationship is very relaxed and comes so naturally that snacking after sex isn't the least bit unusual.

6. Watching Netflix

Quiet time after sex is invaluable. You and your partner need a moment to recharge before you're ready to return to the real world, so you delve deep into one that's televised for a while. Whether it's a reality series, a sitcom, or a horror flick, your favorite movies and shows are best enjoyed together (and with plenty of cuddles).

7. Gearing up for Round Two ;)

Perhaps you're in a new relationship or you've always had limitless sexual energy. Whatever the case may be, your eagerness to please one another and your excitement in the bedroom is unmatched by that of most couples you know. You and your partner are open about what you both enjoy and make communication about desires and needs a priority when it comes to being intimate.

8. Giving each other massages

Just when your partner thought they couldn't handle anymore stimulation…you're right there to give them a sweet, sensual massage as they catch their breath. Your relationship is focused on nurturing one another and making sure that you both feel good whenever you're together.

9. Giving each other some space

You can understand each other's needs and respect each other's boundaries enough to know when either of you needs some time alone. After an intense make-out or lovemaking session, you or your partner might find that you need to take a breather to regain your energy—and that's totally okay. Whatever works for you both is definitely what you should do.

10. Lying there naked for a while

Even at your most vulnerable, you are so comfortable with your sweetheart that lying in their bed and in their arms without any clothes on feels so right and so natural. Your relationship is built upon a very sturdy foundation of trust and safety. For both of you to be fully exposed takes a lot of courage, but you've never felt more secure than you do right now.

11. Joking around

It's a wonder you both stayed serious during sex…or maybe you couldn't control yourselves and you snuck in a few laughs here and there. But the silliness doesn't take away from the sincerity of your love—it makes it even stronger. Having someone to laugh with even in awkward situations is critical to making the worst moments at least a little better.

12. Getting dressed right away

Maybe you've always been shy about disrobing in front of others, or maybe you're in a new relationship and need to get used to your partner's company before they see you completely naked before or after sex. Putting on clothes as soon as you're done having sex doesn't make your relationship any less strong, though—it's just a matter of personal preference and has nothing to do with how much you love each other. You also could just have things to do in public or around the house that require you to be clothed.

Keep calm and love on, my dears.

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