"One year down with my baby and so many more to go! Thanks for putting up with me and my crazy self, I love you more than words could say."

You've all read it, maybe even typed it out. But when I read that, I don't hear love, I hear insecurity and a lack of confidence in worth and self value.

Girls, first of all, there's no need to thank a guy for standing beside you, loving you, and staying loyal. If he's your man, those things should be a given (as they should be for him too).

Secondly, do you genuinely believe your man is just "putting up with you?" That doesn't seem very fun, loving, or healthy. Girls you make yourselves sound weak or lesser than when you proclaim to the social media world that your boyfriend is "putting up with you."

I know we can be annoying, or we have bad moments, sassy moments, moments where we're crazy or obnoxious, but that's us as humans. We don't owe anyone a thank you for putting up with those imperfect moments or reactions. How about understanding us, knowing we'll fail or fall short, but loving us through it and then pushing us to be better? That's us knowing and making it known that we are human, but we have confidence that we're more than those downfalls and that no one has to "put up" with us.

If someone is "putting up" with you, they aren't challenging you, they aren't making you grow, they aren't demanding you interact, learn, or get involved. They're merely standing by as you continue to be just as you. It's stagnant, lazy, and shallow.

So let's either get rid of the "thanks for putting up with me" captions, or let's get rid of those who are merely "putting up with us."