6 Questions To Ask Yourself If You're Wondering If They're 'The One'

6 Questions To Ask Yourself If You're Wondering If They're 'The One'

"Home isn't a place on the map, its a place in someone's heart."
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What do you look for in someone? Really think about it. What kind of person makes you and happy and makes you want to be with them?

These are tough questions to ask ourselves. Some of us might start with the physical stuff, others might say a great personality, a great attitude. But think about it—do we know about all these things before we meet someone?

We fall in love with people for who they are. We keep falling in love with our significant other for who they are, but what we forget to fall in love with is the relationship. The relationship itself can bring you so much joy and excitement. You need to fall in love with not only the person but the relationship. Allow yourself to fall in love with both things and you’ll be so happy.

Here are a few things to think about when falling in love with the relationship and your S.O.:

1. Does it make you happy?

Truly happy. The kind of happy you can’t make force yourself to be. The kind of happy that makes you smile when you see their name on your phone. The happy that makes you glow. Happy that makes you feel like your high. Get high off the happy in the relationship.

2. Do you miss him when he’s not around?

Truly miss him. The kind of miss that makes your heart hurt. The missing you have as soon as you leave them. The feeling when you always want to be with that person and no amount of time can satisfy the need to be with them. The moments you miss that person so much you just want to cry. This is the missing you want to experience in a relationship.

3. Is your boyfriend the first person you want to call when you get news?

No matter what type of news. Good. Bad. Ugly. The feeling of needing to talk to your boyfriend when you get your dream job or the feeling of calling him as soon as you hear your grandfather died. In a relationship, your significant other should be your go-to person. You should want to share everything with them first.

4. Does he support you?

The kind of support your mom gives you. The moments when you don’t even believe in yourself, he is there to pick you up and tell you he believes. The type of support to motivate you to do the absolute best you can. The support to let you follow your dreams even if it isn’t the most ideal situation, even if it takes you both hours apart.

5. Do you see a future with him?

The dreaming of getting married to him and having a family together. The dreams of sitting on a front porch swing at age 60 holding hands. The feeling of always wanting to go on an adventure with him by your side. Think about sharing your life with each other, seeing each other sick and being the dr. The future of seeing each other at their bests and their worsts and still being in love with that person.

6. Does he make you feel like home?

When home becomes a person and not a place you know its real. The feeling of being safe and that nothing could hurt you. When you feel that no matter where you are its home. Being in his arms is the best feeling in the world and it truly makes you happy. When home goes from being a place on a map to a very special person, this is when you know the relationship is the best for you. This feeling is something you will know when you feel it. A feeling that you can’t make up and once you feel it will want to feel it every day.


Falling in love with your boyfriend and your relationship is really important. Make sure that your relationship is something that truly makes you a better person. It truly makes you happy. You can see a clear future with that person. Let home go for a place, to a place in someone’s heart.

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I Asked 10 Brides What They Wish They Had Done Differently While Wedding Planning And Their Responses Ring True

When the engagement celebration sets in and the wedding planning begins, 10 brides give their advice on how to plan a kick-ass wedding.

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Maybe it's just me, but I was almost in a state of denial after our engagement. I was on this cloud and I didn't want to start thinking about what's next. But a week later we started thinking about possible dates, venues, and budgets and that when the stress began— which wasn't fun.

It's hard not comparing one's wedding and planning processes to those of the movies and other friends. But every wedding is as different as the couple themselves are; that's what makes a wedding spectacular and amazing! So with wedding planning, I have found some of the best advice I have received has been from first-hand experience. These 10 Brides have something to say when asked the question, "What is one thing you wish you hadn't stressed so much when planning your wedding?"

1. Too much pressure on the event.

"Putting too much emphasis on the event, rather than the reason for being there. Make a commitment to God and each other to make it through the good and the bad times. That's what really matters!" Denise, married December 24th, 1994

2. Take in the moment and live it!

"About the wedding day being perfect, it's gonna go how it's gonna go. Don't stress about it, just take in the moment and live it. Oh and don't be a bridezilla. Ruins the day and the mood." Kayla, married December 9th, 2016

3. Do only what you want to do!

"Worrying about everyone else! It's YOUR DAY! Do only what you want to do!" Ashleigh, June 7th, 2017

4. Don't stress the small stuff!

" Planning wasn't that stressful for me! But when it came to the actual day, there were so many things that I was like, 'this literally doesn't matter.' Such as the flowers or decorations or the little details. Of course they were all great and everything looked amazing. But little details you don't even notice on your wedding day. For me, the day went by SOOO fast! Everything was so fast paced and so I didn't even have time to glance at the decorations table or card table. Don't stress the small stuff! Because on your actual day, it'll be the last thing on your mind! Because you'll just wanna see your groom so bad that nothing else matters!" Kelsie, married August 19th, 2018

5. Too many little details that nobody else cared about.

"Too many little details that nobody else cared about that I cared about too much! So much time went into it which I loved, but it's more about spending time with all the people that you love in your life! They don't care how much money you spend on the day or if everything goes perfectly. They just want you to have a good day and they want to celebrate you and your love and marriage!" Savannah, married October 1st, 2017

6. It's about you and your spouse.

"How much other people thought things are important to them. Dang this is my day and what's important to me and my spouse is what matters. It's about us." Denise, married July 28th, 2007.

7. Having the "perfect picture" like everyone else in my mind had.

"Definitely all the details that you don't really notice, like the seating chart at the reception. Don't stress about getting things done the week of the wedding, if it doesn't get done then it doesn't get done. You're going to get married regardless and no one will even notice it. I also had to keep reminding myself, it's about the marriage, not the wedding. Pictures/video were a big thing I stressed about because I wanted it all to be "perfect" pictures like everyone else in my mind had...I spent so much time finding pictures and trying to match those pictures that I didn't enjoy the picture finding process. I would also say that the night before the wedding don't stress too much about all the details that you hadn't gotten to because it's going to be beautiful and you need sleep, especially if you are going on your honeymoon right away because then you wind up sick...
One big one I stressed about a lot was how well all the pinks in my wedding matched (I'm OCD) Cloth napkins, table runners, the bridesmaid dresses, to the decorations." Presley, married August 18th, 2018

8. The guest list

"Honestly I stressed about the guest list the most and still do even now. Since my fiance and I are both from a small town and both have big families, it took us quite a while to get the guest list figured out. Our wedding budget was also a factor in determining how many people we wanted to have as well. At the wedding you want people there that are an influence on your life and it's hard looking back thinking of all the people that have been a part of it over the last many years. Once that was figured out it was a big relief, but it has also been fun planning everything. Even the guest list." -Morgan, getting married in June of 2019.

9. Thinking too much about making it different or comparable to other weddings.

"I'm a people-pleaser by nature. And because we are young I worried about people looking at our wedding and judging based on what we didn't have. I compared it too much to my other friends' weddings, YouTuber's weddings, and the stuff you see in the movies. And finances were a big stress in the early stages as well. But once we took a step back to just process what our wedding meant to us as a couple and what we want our marriage to be, we were able to lighten up a lot and have more fun! Yes, we had to refocus our finances and savings, but really we just kept reminding one another that this was one day to the rest of our lives together as husband and wife. The best is yet to come. - Megan (Me) Getting married in September of 2019!


It's easy to get into the mindset that your wedding has to be "perfect" and it has to look like weddings in the movies or in the pictures of other people. But that's what's amazing about weddings. They are uniquely yours. If you have a hard time getting out of this mindset like I do a lot of the time, just think about your fiance. Remember that you are committing forever to the one you love. Marriage is more than just one day.

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Your Bachelor Party Is Not An Excuse To Cheat

You're still in a long-term, committed relationship.

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I've always thought the stereotypical portrayal and concept of bachelor parties are idiotic. Getting married changes your life forever, so of course "one last night with the guys" makes sense, but where I draw the line is where a night of guys spending time together transforms into strippers and strip clubs.

Sorry boys, but your bachelor party isn't your "last night of freedom," so there's no point in you trying to come up with an excuse to validate cheating or other acts that would potentially harm your relationship before you even get married.

The way bachelor parties are treated in today's day and age makes it seem like your fiancé getting a drunken lap dance from some girl his buddies hired totally OK. That it's OK for him to get blackout drunk, make mistakes, and promise as a group of guys to never tell you what happened that night.

Well, it's not. It's a damn good way to get your wedding canceled, though.

It's still cheating.

Guys, you know without a shadow of a doubt in your mind that on any other day, your bride-to-be would lose her mind if you so much as had another girl's ass in your face, and rightfully so. The night before your wedding should be a time where you and your best guy friends all hang out, drink some beers at the bar, and have a good time. It shouldn't be a time where your best friends try to sabotage your relationship and you go along with it.

You're still in a relationship. If you're about to get married, odds are it's a pretty serious and long-term one. You didn't drop all that money on a ring just to luge beer out of a stripper's breasts right before your fiancée walks down the aisle.

You should care more about your relationship than to be OK with throwing it all away for one night. This isn't "The Hangover," you're not Bradley Cooper, so don't think you have to have one last crazy night where shit hits the fan.

You and your guy friends are still going to be friends after you have a ring on your finger. Getting married doesn't mean your wife is going to throw you down into a cellar and lock you away, never letting you have fun ever again. It's a loving, committed partnership.

You don't want to start off a marriage with regret, so don't be an idiot at your bachelor party. Your best friends should know better than to try and ruin your relationship right before the biggest milestone in it occurs. If they really try to screw you over by threatening your relationship, they're not really your friends. You don't have to stick dollar bills in a stripper's thong to have a good time together as guys, and you definitely shouldn't be doing that if you're in a committed relationship, no matter the occasion.

You're an individual with free will, but you're not a single man. Don't act like one unless you want to be one.

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