6 Questions To Ask Yourself If You're Wondering If They're 'The One'

6 Questions To Ask Yourself If You're Wondering If They're 'The One'

"Home isn't a place on the map, its a place in someone's heart."

What do you look for in someone? Really think about it. What kind of person makes you and happy and makes you want to be with them?

These are tough questions to ask ourselves. Some of us might start with the physical stuff, others might say a great personality, a great attitude. But think about it—do we know about all these things before we meet someone?

We fall in love with people for who they are. We keep falling in love with our significant other for who they are, but what we forget to fall in love with is the relationship. The relationship itself can bring you so much joy and excitement. You need to fall in love with not only the person but the relationship. Allow yourself to fall in love with both things and you’ll be so happy.

Here are a few things to think about when falling in love with the relationship and your S.O.:

1. Does it make you happy?

Truly happy. The kind of happy you can’t make force yourself to be. The kind of happy that makes you smile when you see their name on your phone. The happy that makes you glow. Happy that makes you feel like your high. Get high off the happy in the relationship.

2. Do you miss him when he’s not around?

Truly miss him. The kind of miss that makes your heart hurt. The missing you have as soon as you leave them. The feeling when you always want to be with that person and no amount of time can satisfy the need to be with them. The moments you miss that person so much you just want to cry. This is the missing you want to experience in a relationship.

3. Is your boyfriend the first person you want to call when you get news?

No matter what type of news. Good. Bad. Ugly. The feeling of needing to talk to your boyfriend when you get your dream job or the feeling of calling him as soon as you hear your grandfather died. In a relationship, your significant other should be your go-to person. You should want to share everything with them first.

4. Does he support you?

The kind of support your mom gives you. The moments when you don’t even believe in yourself, he is there to pick you up and tell you he believes. The type of support to motivate you to do the absolute best you can. The support to let you follow your dreams even if it isn’t the most ideal situation, even if it takes you both hours apart.

5. Do you see a future with him?

The dreaming of getting married to him and having a family together. The dreams of sitting on a front porch swing at age 60 holding hands. The feeling of always wanting to go on an adventure with him by your side. Think about sharing your life with each other, seeing each other sick and being the dr. The future of seeing each other at their bests and their worsts and still being in love with that person.

6. Does he make you feel like home?

When home becomes a person and not a place you know its real. The feeling of being safe and that nothing could hurt you. When you feel that no matter where you are its home. Being in his arms is the best feeling in the world and it truly makes you happy. When home goes from being a place on a map to a very special person, this is when you know the relationship is the best for you. This feeling is something you will know when you feel it. A feeling that you can’t make up and once you feel it will want to feel it every day.

Falling in love with your boyfriend and your relationship is really important. Make sure that your relationship is something that truly makes you a better person. It truly makes you happy. You can see a clear future with that person. Let home go for a place, to a place in someone’s heart.

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I’m The Girl Who Never Dreams Of Her Wedding, Because Getting Married Is Not A Career

I have others dreams in life that are much bigger than marriage.


Ever since we were little girls, the idea of a dream wedding has always been built up around us.

Everyone has one, everyone knows what season they want to get married in, what their dress looks like, what flowers they want, and so on.

But I've never had that. I've never had a time in my life where I knew what kind of wedding I wanted or what kind of dress I'm going to walk down the aisle in or what kind of flowers I want. I've never been the kind of person to dream of a prince charming sweeping me off my feet and taking me away to my happily ever after.

Growing up, my idea of a "perfect life" was being a working, single mom with one child that I'll adopt, and living in a decent, upper-middle-class apartment. I have never thought of myself with a significant other. I've never thought of myself as someone that would get married, much less someone that would dream of a wedding.

And the fact is: that's okay. It's perfectly acceptable for a woman to want to focus on her career.

It's perfectly acceptable for a woman, or person for that matter, to not want to get married. It is perfectly acceptable, in this day and age, for me to be a single woman and not want or dream of a wedding.

No, there's nothing wrong with that.

No, it doesn't mean I won't ever get married (don't stress, mom). No, it doesn't mean I'll be a bad parent because I want to do it on my own. No, it doesn't mean I'm "crazy."

Yes, it is terrible for people to look down on others because they do not want the "norm."

Yes, it is rude to assume that I'll become an old cat lady. Yes, it is rude to assume that being a cat lady is a "bad thing." And yes, your opinion of my future does not matter to me.

Part of the good thing about this day and age is the fact that we have a chance to choose. We can choose a career, family, or both. And if someone chooses differently than you or the "norm," that's OK, too.

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Before You Get Married To Him, Ask Yourself These Things

Marriage isn't just a decision you make for yourself, it's a decision you make for your future children, too.


Maybe you're engaged and the happiest human ever, filled to the brim with excitement and business towards wedding planning. Maybe you're on year one of dating, but you've discussed the future and know this is who you want to spend the rest of your life with. I've been there. Both of those places. And I want to remind you to ponder a couple of things.

First, I want you to check yourself and make sure your love isn't based on feeling. I also want you to make sure your love isn't based on status. And I say this because my first college relationship was fun and it made me feel like I was the "in crowd" or I looked cool walking around campus hand in hand with him. Needless to say, that didn't last...probably cause status and feelings fade.

Next, I want you to imagine a couple years down the road, financially your budget is tight, you're struggling to make ends meet, he's frustrated and you two get into a fight. Do you genuinely see it resolving quickly? Will you be able to hug it out and choose him above it all? Will he take responsibility as the man of the house and work to make things better? Because these things are REAL. They're not "young love happiness and butterflies 24/7" and they're more real than any petty arguments you may be having now about how he didn't text you back.

Then I want you to ask yourself the last time he apologized. Drawing a blank? That's not good. Life is messy, miscommunication is inevitable, and humility is required for strength and growth in a relationship. If he can't instantly and genuinely apologizes when he hurts you in the slightest, then I'd be concerned.

Lastly, picture your family. Will he spend time with his kids after work or go straight to the sofa and TV? Will he prioritize you STILL? Does he prioritize you now? Will he lead always and fall on his knees often? Right now, is he a model for your future son? Marriage isn't just a decision you make for yourself, it's a decision you make for your future children, too.

I only want you to stop and ask yourself these questions because the divorce rate is so high right now and I don't want you to add to it. I want you to understand the weight, depth, and length marriage is supposed to hold and I want you to be happy beyond today. So before you marry him, stop and ask yourself these questions.

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