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Take Note from Ari and Pete’s Breakup: You Can’t Rush Timing In Relationships

Sometimes in relationships, timing is everything.

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Take Note from Ari and Pete’s Breakup: You Can’t Rush Timing In Relationships

According to TMZ, Ariana Grande and Pete Davidson have officially split, and sadly I can't say that I didn't see this coming.

It seems as though ever since they announced their engagement in June, there has been a whirlwind of controversy surrounding their abrupt relationship. At first people were head over heels in love with the pairing because of Pete's big dick energy. Then things quickly went downhill not too long after his joke about the Manchester bombings at Ariana's concert last year resurfaced. I could easily talk about all the questionable things Pete has said or done that may have caused their breakup—but I think there's a more important lesson we could take into consideration from this. Sometimes in relationships, timing is everything.

Not much has been reported about their breakup other than the fact that it was supposedly "not the right time" for their relationship to continue, but can you blame them? Besides, it usually takes several months before you can truly say you know someone. Even then it's still hard to tell who a person truly is until you've been living with them for a while. Considering they practically got engaged within weeks of casually dating, I'd say that their relationship escalated pretty quickly. I can't judge their decision and say it was stupid, but part of me feels like maybe Ariana didn't truly know what she was getting herself into when they got engaged so fast.

For starters, she had already just gotten out of a long-term relationship with late Mac Miller which she described as a "toxic" relationship. Maybe she could have used more time to heal after that breakup. Also, maybe if she and Pete had waited a little longer before getting so serious then she would have reacted differently to some red flags of Pete's immature tendencies and very obscene humor. Part of me wants to give him the benefit of the doubt because he's a comedian and therefore most likely uses jokes as a way to cope with serious stuff. However, when it gets to the point that Ariana has a mental breakdown via Twitter after being publicly groped at a funeral by a pastor and not even a full week later has to deal with thousands of people blaming her for the death of her ex-boyfriend then that's when you know she needs a rock to lean for a boyfriend rather than a goofball.

But like I said before, this isn't one of those situations where we can go through a list of Pete's shortcomings and blame him for the downfall of the relationship. Relationships are a lot like flowers. Even when they seem like the most beautiful thing on earth, they still need a solid foundation to grow upon, and that solid foundation starts with ideal timing. If you truly want to find the one you're meant to be with, it's not something you can rush into.

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