I Asked 11 Men What Their Favorite Thing About Being In Love Was (Besides The Obvious)

I Asked 11 Men What Their Favorite Thing About Being In Love Was (Besides The Obvious)

11. Tom, 74 "'The intimacy of decades.'"

Being in love is different for everyone. Different people have different expectations, different likes and dislikes, and different things that they look for in a partner. Everyone will also have a different favorite thing about being in love.

So, I decided to ask 10 guys, of all different ages, about what their favorite thing about being in love is...and let me just say that my inner romantic was happy crying the whole time.

1. Ryan, 17

"My favorite part about being in love is just knowing that I have a best friend that I can go to whenever I want with whatever needs I have. It is great to know that I can completely be myself without having to worry about what the one I love might think of me. In the loneliest of times, I know I am not alone because of her."

2. John, 75

"Having a special feeling like no other attraction to a person you want to live your life with and to show that love in procreation with a continued commitment to their marriage vows is what I love the most."

3. Kim, 41

"I have thought about all the gushy reasons why everyone ‘loves to be in love’. All true but what I always come back to is the word ASSURANCE. Odd, I know, but this is why. Love offers the ASSURANCE that you can always be yourself. Too often we have to hide/disguise our true emotions whether it is at work, out in public, or even with our closest friends. Although this does not always bode well for the one we love, we can at least be true and real. Love also allows for the ASSURANCE that you always have someone to lean on. Lean on for a question, an idea, an Atta boy, a hug, and a laugh. No judgments. Love gives you the ASSURANCE that at the end of the day you will always have some that have your back, whether they agree with you or not. Even when you are in a solo sport, you always need a team/coach behind you to make you stronger and successful. I cannot imagine surviving this world without Love, ASSURANCE."

4. Dan, 52

"You have a true best friend that you can share everything with. All your dreams and fears; your smiles and tears; the good and the bad — all that stuff. A partner who will always be by your side and be there to support you. Someone you can love and share life with."

5. Mason, 24

"I love being able to watch her succeed and reach all of those tiny milestones that lead to our future together."

6. Brandon, 19

"Yeah, the family is nice to have and all, but sometimes you just don't want to talk to them or you don't think they'd understand what you needed to talk about. Having your person to go to with anything and everything, knowing they will care, knowing they will help in any and every way that they can, knowing they won't judge you (unless it's playfully), that's amazing. Then on top of that, just having that one person you know you'd be happy doing anything with and enjoy being around every single day is definitley amazing."

7. John, 53

"There are a couple of things that are my favorite. First, is being with someone who you are always looking forward to sharing life and a laugh with. Life can be harsh at times, but knowing you are with someone who can change your outlook with a simple smile is priceless. Second, is the romance game that goes beyond what happens in the bedroom. It's more about the game of constantly wanting to win her affection, of course leading to a trip to the bedroom, when she is constantly changing the rules of the game or hiding the prize. After 30 years of marriage and 5 years of dating, I would say these are my favorite parts of being in love and they never get old."

8. Stephen, 20

"Being able to share and spend life with someone and have somebody always there for you - you are never alone."

9. Matt, 39

"My favorite part of being in love...... That is a hard question to answer, at this stage in life I would say it is the team stage. [My wife] fills all the voids that I create, I may go to work and make the money but she is the one who maintains it, spends it wisely, or saves it. That is only one example, another one is I may build something but she gives it life, what I am truly saying is she is the glue or mortar. Earlier in life, I loved her adventurous attitude, wanting to travel. At the root, she takes care of me and the kids and always tries to put God in all that she does. I look forward to spending the rest of my life with her and the stages along the way. It's everything that I love! "

10. Kyle, 16

"It gives you someone to go to for anything and makes you realize how blessed you are to have someone in your life that special."

11. Tom, 74

"'The intimacy of decades.'"

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An Open Letter To The Girl In A Toxic Relationship Who Doesn't See The Signs To Let Go

"it took letting go to realize that I was holding onto nothing" -R.H Sin


Dear you,

I hope you're doing well. I once thought I was too. I once thought that if he would just change, for me, everything would work. However, my sweet girl, you should not have to change people, you should not have to push people to be better, for you. You cannot help anyone, that does not want to help themselves.

In the movies, we learn to love a bad boy that needs changing. However, it isn't always your job to be boys saving grace. However, his shaming and emotional abuse is not just something you should put up with so that you can love him. That is not loving.

Love is not a constant competition of who could belittle the other one first. Love is not asking for a hug and being told no. Love does not make you feel stupid for bringing up things that hurt your feelings.

Love does not grow angry because you talk to your mom about your feelings. Love does not body shame. Love does not constantly change the passcode to their phone.

Love does not laugh when you find out they're unfaithful. Love does not tell you that you are not smart enough to accomplish anything. Love does not force their hand up your thigh when the words "no" slip out of your mouth.

Love is the warmth of a hand on your cheek when you get anxious. Love is getting your backpack out the car for you. Love is turning around when you need them. Love compromises.

Love is encouraging. Love is proud. Love is forgiving. Love sees you for who you are. Love knows you are worthy.

God is your Father and you are His daughter, so do not believe for one second that this abuse is the love you think you deserve.

Love will not always be easy. Love will be challenging and a constant prayer to not anger so quickly.

However, do not mix up challenging with the abuse. If you are losing the good pieces of yourself, then it isn't love. I know that you put a lot of time and effort into this relationship, but it is no good, you are holding on to someone whose heart is not in the right place to love you.

I connected with a poem from R. H. Sin, once I left my toxic relationship which reads, "it took letting go to realize that I was holding onto nothing."

Darling girl, you are so loved by so many people, do not let this relationship hold you back or make you feel less worthy than you are. I have always been the girl with her nose stuck up in the air smelling for smoke, to follow the trail to a burning house to find a boy that needed saving, but it is more than likely a boy that lit the fire in the first place and needs changing.

So, do not be me, be better. Be the girl that lights her own world on fire, for her work, for her family, for God. You are you and you are amazing, so do not fear being without him.

You will feel as if you have come up for air after drowning in an ocean that you had no idea you were swimming in.

The emotional abuse that this boy has put you through and maybe even physical abuse will leave you building walls around your heart. It will make other relationships hard, but you are so so strong.

You will meet someone that makes you so happy and feel so easy to love, you will never understand how you stuck around with the one that hurt you for so long.

You deserve to grow from this, and I promise you will.

Let go.


The girl who learned from a toxic relationship

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Being Far Away From My Boyfriend Actually Strengthened Our Relationship Instead Of Forcing It Apart

While we were apart, we became closer.


Before I really start this article, I just want to say that my relationship isn't truly a long distance relationship. We are both college students at the same university eight months out of the year, but the other four months we live quite a distance apart. Even during those four months, we are only about 150 miles from each other as the bird flies, but really about three hours from each other.

Being in a relationship where I'm not able to see my boyfriend every day or even every week has been a real challenge. But it's been a good challenge. It hasn't been a challenge because I've felt unfaithful or fallen out of love with him in any way. It's challenging because I miss him. We both work jobs and our schedules aren't the same and oftentimes we aren't able to talk to each other unless it's early in the morning or late at night. There are times when all I want to do is talk to him and tell him about how my day went and get a big bear hug from him. Unfortunately, I'm not really able to do this.

I firmly believe that being apart from each other for days, weeks, or even months have brought us closer than we could've ever imagined. We knew that this would be difficult, and we knew that there would be bad days, but we decided to power through it. It has made each time that we are able to see each other so much more special and meaningful.

Seeing each other has become more of spending time with each other than just laying around on the couch playing around on our phones. It's become really getting to know each other better and catching up on all the things we had missed. It's become a time for us to simply be in each other's presence and enjoy being able to talk face to face without a phone in the middle of us. We go on more adventurous dates, we take more pictures, and I think we would both easily say that we fall more and more in love with each other after each opportunity we have to spend time together.

Spending time together is no longer a daily activity, but it has become a right to be earned through hard work and several paychecks as travel can become expensive. We no longer take opportunities to see each other for granted, and it has made us grow closer because we aren't able to spend time together often. We look forward to the days when we won't have to worry about being apart but know that this is only a stepping stone in our relationship.

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