I Asked 11 Men What Their Favorite Thing About Being In Love Was (Besides The Obvious)

I Asked 11 Men What Their Favorite Thing About Being In Love Was (Besides The Obvious)

11. Tom, 74 "'The intimacy of decades.'"
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Being in love is different for everyone. Different people have different expectations, different likes and dislikes, and different things that they look for in a partner. Everyone will also have a different favorite thing about being in love.

So, I decided to ask 10 guys, of all different ages, about what their favorite thing about being in love is...and let me just say that my inner romantic was happy crying the whole time.

1. Ryan, 17

"My favorite part about being in love is just knowing that I have a best friend that I can go to whenever I want with whatever needs I have. It is great to know that I can completely be myself without having to worry about what the one I love might think of me. In the loneliest of times, I know I am not alone because of her."

2. John, 75

"Having a special feeling like no other attraction to a person you want to live your life with and to show that love in procreation with a continued commitment to their marriage vows is what I love the most."

3. Kim, 41

"I have thought about all the gushy reasons why everyone ‘loves to be in love’. All true but what I always come back to is the word ASSURANCE. Odd, I know, but this is why. Love offers the ASSURANCE that you can always be yourself. Too often we have to hide/disguise our true emotions whether it is at work, out in public, or even with our closest friends. Although this does not always bode well for the one we love, we can at least be true and real. Love also allows for the ASSURANCE that you always have someone to lean on. Lean on for a question, an idea, an Atta boy, a hug, and a laugh. No judgments. Love gives you the ASSURANCE that at the end of the day you will always have some that have your back, whether they agree with you or not. Even when you are in a solo sport, you always need a team/coach behind you to make you stronger and successful. I cannot imagine surviving this world without Love, ASSURANCE."

4. Dan, 52

"You have a true best friend that you can share everything with. All your dreams and fears; your smiles and tears; the good and the bad — all that stuff. A partner who will always be by your side and be there to support you. Someone you can love and share life with."

5. Mason, 24

"I love being able to watch her succeed and reach all of those tiny milestones that lead to our future together."

6. Brandon, 19

"Yeah, the family is nice to have and all, but sometimes you just don't want to talk to them or you don't think they'd understand what you needed to talk about. Having your person to go to with anything and everything, knowing they will care, knowing they will help in any and every way that they can, knowing they won't judge you (unless it's playfully), that's amazing. Then on top of that, just having that one person you know you'd be happy doing anything with and enjoy being around every single day is definitley amazing."

7. John, 53

"There are a couple of things that are my favorite. First, is being with someone who you are always looking forward to sharing life and a laugh with. Life can be harsh at times, but knowing you are with someone who can change your outlook with a simple smile is priceless. Second, is the romance game that goes beyond what happens in the bedroom. It's more about the game of constantly wanting to win her affection, of course leading to a trip to the bedroom, when she is constantly changing the rules of the game or hiding the prize. After 30 years of marriage and 5 years of dating, I would say these are my favorite parts of being in love and they never get old."

8. Stephen, 20

"Being able to share and spend life with someone and have somebody always there for you - you are never alone."

9. Matt, 39

"My favorite part of being in love...... That is a hard question to answer, at this stage in life I would say it is the team stage. [My wife] fills all the voids that I create, I may go to work and make the money but she is the one who maintains it, spends it wisely, or saves it. That is only one example, another one is I may build something but she gives it life, what I am truly saying is she is the glue or mortar. Earlier in life, I loved her adventurous attitude, wanting to travel. At the root, she takes care of me and the kids and always tries to put God in all that she does. I look forward to spending the rest of my life with her and the stages along the way. It's everything that I love! "

10. Kyle, 16

"It gives you someone to go to for anything and makes you realize how blessed you are to have someone in your life that special."

11. Tom, 74

"'The intimacy of decades.'"

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PSA: Don't Text And Date, Do It Like Our Grandparents

Waiting for a text from a boy is like waiting for water to boil. Sometimes I think if I take a lap around my kitchen then the text will magically light up my phone.

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Texting in our relationships has become so prevalent that it has snuck its way into TV. shows and movies, as well as songs. This makes sense because it is such a large part of our lives. Texting boys can be great in some cases, especially in long distance relationships.

And don't get me wrong, it certainly can be exciting!

But I've realized is that it has the potential to be incredibly inefficient and waste a whole lot of everyone's time. The time that is wasted is a combination of the time spent texting in a conversation that leads absolutely nowhere, along with the time you spend thinking about when that next text is going to roll in. Not to mention all the time you spend screenshotting these texts and sending them to your friends and asking advice on how to craft a perfect reply and agonizing over the right wording, re-typing over and over again, having everyone from your best friend to your Mom weigh in on the perfect syntax.

For a generation that is obsessed with getting everything as fast as possible, why are we contacting each other so inefficiently? We think we will just send a quick text, but more often than not, it turns into a whole production.

Snapchat can be even worse. Taking time out of your day to take a well-lit selfie and send it to a boy just so he can send you a snap of his actual chin is just ridiculous.

We are talking to people constantly about absolutely nothing. And quite frankly, we all deserve more. Technology is great, but just because it is advanced doesn't mean it's advancing our communication skills. Boys, I think it might be time to pick up the phone again. Imagine if instead of spending countless hours in a Snapchat conversation grasping at straws to make a plan with the girl you like, you actually just picked up the phone. The call would take maybe two minutes to set up a plan instead of whittling away a whole day. It seems like just because we have the option to text or message someone, we forget that we have the alternative of a trusty phone call.

If our grandparents had dated the way that we did, would they have ever worked out? Would our parents ever have been born? Would we even exist?

As I am re-watching "Sex and The City," "Gilmore Girls" and "Friends" yet again, I am overcome with nostalgia about what dating was like during these times. I'd love to come home to a message on my machine.

Maybe you're reading this and you think I'm lame and old fashioned and you're absolutely right, but I think I have a point. In order to have better success in our romantic relationships, we need to work on actually saying something. Why are we claiming we are "talking" to someone when we have never talked to them in person? How did we end up in this reality of sulking when we have been left on read, or obsessively checking to see if someone has viewed our Snapchat story?

We've been given all these ways of pseudo-communicating and endless time to do it and absolutely no rule book of what is acceptable. When you really think about it, it's a recipe for disaster that could be destroying our relationships before they even start. We need an Emily Post of technology to teach us how to behave. We need to stop abusing the convenience of technology and start challenging ourselves to communicate better.

I challenge you if you're a single lady that the next time a boy asks for your Snapchat, tell them you'd prefer it if they called you to make plans.

Guys, just call a girl! It might really impress her! Everyone who tries this has full permission to call me and yell at me if the person who calls you/you call says you're a huge freak. But do me a favor and start leaving your ringer on when you're not in class. Let's talk.

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13 Reasons To Date An Aries Girl ASAP

Once she's in, she is in with her entire heart.

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It's my absolute favorite season: Aries season! As an Aries, I tend to flourish as my best self once Aries season rolls around. I'm here to lead the way into the new astrological year, and as a single Aries, I'm here to convince single guys why they should date an Aries girl like me ASAP.

1. She's adventurous

She's not content with humdrum dates, she needs action or she'll leave you out of boredom. She'll be down for something to get her adrenaline pumping and will keep you on your toes.

2. She's driven

She's a girl with goals. She's independent and doesn't need anyone holding her back from what she wants. Support her or get out of her way.

3. She's all in whole-heartedly

When she falls, she falls all at once with her entire being. This is a girl who is willing to put her heart on the line for love once she knows it's real. You'll never have to worry about her heart being anywhere else but with you.

4. She's very direct with her likes and dislikes

She isn't a sugar coater since she hates liars, so she'll be honest about everything. Whether you like it or not, you'll always get the truth from an Aries girl.

5. She's super passionate

Whatever it may be, an Aries will be passionate for what she loves. I am passionate about writing, and I never let anything get in the way of it. In a relationship, an Aries girl will bring the heat that comes with her passion for you.

6. She's not a clinger

She hates clingers SO MUCH. Over the top PDA or romantic things generally make an Aries cringe (maybe not all of us, but I know that's how it is for me). She loves getting attention, but being clingy is a major turnoff, and she isn't one herself. She's not going to beg to see you 24/7, she likes to lead her own life.

7. She's a great listener

She loves to talk, but something she's just as great at is listening. She'll ask you so many questions to get to know you and really listen to what you have to say when you answer them.

8. She's big on friends and family, they come first

She's a big proponent of valuing her friends and family above all else. She will likely go to them for advice about everything. Meeting them is more important to an Aries than many people realize. If you're big on family, she's the girl for you.

9. She's open to anything in the bedroom

Got a fantasy? She's game to indulge. She's adventurous and that extends to bedroom activities as well. The same old routine bores her, so don't be afraid to experiment and try new things.

10. She only uses the past as a means to learn

She's probably got a rough past she doesn't necessarily want to talk about. The past is the past and she tries to use this as a lesson. It takes a lot for her to open up about it. She tries to be optimistic and keep herself in the present, and this optimism may rub off on you eventually.

11. Her cuddle game is epic

You'll never want to leave bed once your Aries girl gets her hands on you. You'll be too comfortable to leave.

12. She loves fashion and wears trends well

She loves wearing what's in fashion and looking her very best. Her outfits may put yours to shame. She's the kind of woman you want on your arm while you're out on the town.

13. She'll be the woman you'll never forget

You may break up or drift apart, but she's the girl that will leave a permanent mark on your heart. She's unforgettable.

Get your Aries while you can, because if you don't scoop her up, someone else will.

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