To My Beautiful Friend Who Doesn't Think She Is Good Enough

To My Beautiful Friend Who Doesn't Think She Is Good Enough

When did we let what others think and what others want change who WE are?
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You are strong, perfect, intelligent, funny AND beautiful.

I am not sure when in time this started to happen. When women were brought down by other women and when women started changing themselves because men like it better "this way" and not "that way."

When did we let what others think and what others want change who WE are?

To my beautiful friend, you are the way you need to be.

God created each and every one of us to love the skin that is on our back and embrace our passions while staying true to who we really are.

How can we hold ourselves to a higher standard...and each other?

Let me tell you why I think you ARE enough.

You are fearless

I am not sure when or at what time society started being so eff#*% judgy towards women, but that makes us fearless. You are able to say "no more" and stand your ground. You were put on this earth not to be judged by your looks and the way you talk, but you were born to be a leader, be smart and share with the world what you are truly made of.

Being a woman means fearlessness. We are not scared of what our bodies can do; we embrace it. We are not scared of what people say; we change it. You are not afraid to reach out and be bold. Your personality so easily tells the world that it will be done this way because you know best. Why as women do we stop doing this? In a meeting, it is fearless to not apologize for having an idea; it is fearless to state your mind and stand tall.

You are smart

You are the smartest person I know. As women, not only do we juggle several different things, but we have to be street smart, be aware of our surroundings and be smart when it comes to going out, drinking too much, swearing too much, not wearing enough and behaving. How did this fall on us? You are good enough. You have always proven to the world that you work hard and play hard, and as women, that should be our motto.

God is with you

How do I know that you are enough? How do I know that you are meant to be the person I truly know you can be? Because HE made you. He is the reason behind all reasons. I know you are enough and I wish you could see the beauty and dignity that you hold, as I can. The way you light up a room and the way you speak of others is in God's hands. He may have tested your path, and maybe you feel not at ease or a little lost, but this is a part of the game of life. He is still here and so am I.

To my beautiful friend who does not think she is good enough,

I have been there, you have been there, and as women as a whole...I am sure we have all been there. We have all had trials and tribulations that have been judged and questioned. It is time that we stand as a whole and fight for the person who made us. He created you and me to be different but strong. Strong enough to own this life and our being in it. Your insides are golden and the rest of you is just as wonderful.

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I Am A Hopeless Romantic Living In A World Where One-Night Stands Are The Norm

It's the little things.

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In today's society, it can certainly start to feel like no one takes love seriously anymore.

Whether it's that one couple who has broken up and gotten back together more times than you can count, the two friends-with-benefits no one can figure out, your local womanizer, or just hookups in general, love and lust are a huge part of specifically college life and culture.

As a hopeless romantic, being part of a generation that "just wants to have fun" can be really frustrating, especially when you just want to find something real. It is so easy for people to put on a fake act just to get what they want and sometimes this can be extremely hard to see through. I'm sure we've all had some kind of incident with someone who played nice but had ulterior motives and the sad truth is that it can be impossible to recognize a person's artificiality.

I am a hopeless romantic.

I have always classified myself as such, and it has remained true. Sure, I can make the most of the freedoms I have as a single college woman, but deep down I just want to find my person.

I've had my fair share of letdowns, and I think we all have, but being a hopeless romantic makes it that much more difficult to get past the "what ifs" and fantasies that come along with starting something with someone new. We may already have our hearts set on a person when they decide they've gotten what they wanted and leave.

For me, I find myself caught up in the little things that someone does. I have always been someone who picks up on small details in situations, and sometimes this works against me.

I pick up on the small facial expressions that he may not even realize he is making; the ones that tell you when their guard has been let down, even just for a split second.

I pick up on the way he sits our two cellphones side by side on the nightstand, taking care to line them up perfectly as if that's just their spot.

I pick up on the short moments of laughter where he actually lets himself laugh and forgets about the act.

I pick up on things, and sometimes I end up hurting because of it.

When it comes down to it, though, I wouldn't change the way that I am. I wouldn't change the fact that I find myself in the search for more in a society that mostly only offers me less.

The trait that tends to hurt me most is also the one that I value most. Even if noticing all the little things is something that contributes to my own heartache, I love those moments. There is something beautiful about those tiny things shared by two people, even if the connection ends there.

Sure, it can be hard. But so can everything.

It's just a matter of finding the beauty.

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Dedicate Your Summer To Bettering Yourself For Yourself, Not Your Ex

Why waste energy on an ex who doesn't care about you anymore?

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I'm single for the summer (yet again, no shock there) but this summer there's something in the air that just feels different. It's the feeling of true acceptance of my single status.

Last summer I was single when I really didn't want to be. My heart with still holding out for a guy who wasn't interested in anything more than my friendship. It took me from late March all the way until Halloween to get over those feelings. However, while working through those tough feelings that summer, I came to enjoy my time on my own and not talking to anyone except my best friends. I didn't have to worry about when I'd get a text back, or if I'd be left on read, or who he'd be out with since I wasn't around. The only thing I needed to worry about was my paychecks and tan lines.

Sometimes after breaking things off with someone who you put so much effort into, whether it was a boyfriend, an almost relationship, or even a friend with benefits, it's easy to want to show off on social media and make them regret ever hurting you or ending things. Why? It's a nice little ego boost, sure, but after those few seconds of glee from the fact that you know they've seen and maybe even liked your picture or your tweet, or saw your story on Snapchat, do you still feel happy? No, you go right back to feeling like crap, whether you want to admit it or not. Stop making yourself all about them when that ship has sailed and start being all about you.

Your ex is off doing their own thing, maybe thinking about you, but obviously not enough to want you back in their life the way you used to be. They are probably out there finding a new person to take your spot because they don't have you at their beck and call anymore. If they're also showing off to show you how much better they are without you or to make you jealous...why are you still following them or still participating in this sick little game for attention? Grow up and block them so you don't have to keep seeing their posts, or be adult enough to stop if you're doing the same as well. If it's only you posting, chances are you just look stupid, so stop before you really embarrass yourself. I was that person, and I know first hand how embarrassed I am for acting the way I did.

Summer is synonymous for doing whatever the hell you want. Wear what you want, say what you want, and be the best version of yourself that only a high dose of Vitamin D can bring out. Your ex is an ex for many reasons. You have to set aside the summer for you and what benefits you only. Don't concern yourself with an ex who doesn't care in the least about you anymore. Coming from someone who posted thirst traps aimed at a specific person along with countless shady AF stories on Snap and Insta in the hopes that this one person and their friends would see it, just stop and save yourself the energy as well as regret.

We're all adults, it's time to stop the petty posts and photos. Post your thirst trap for yourself because you're a sexy queen who doesn't need anyone but herself. Once you start focusing on yourself this summer, instead of your ex, you'll realize just have great it feels to truly be free.

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