9 Things I Gained When My 34B Turned Into A 34-Free

9 Things I Gained When My 34B Turned Into A 34-Free

It’s crazy how ridiculous people act over a woman embracing being just that... a woman.
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I remember being in third grade when the first comment about my weight plummeted me into a pit of embarrassment. It was in the middle of class when we were discussing our ancestries and when my teacher mentioned whales, some kid blurred out, “Is that where Cassie’s from because she’s so fat?” The classroom erupted with laughter, so I ran out of the room and cried in the crusty bathroom stall.

I had always been overweight ever since I was young, and it wasn’t until middle school that the pounds finally seemed to start shedding off. I was starting to become a young woman, and it started to show — fast.

The chub eventually toned to curves, and all of a sudden I found myself needing to upgrade from a training bra to wearing an actual bra — the day I had been waiting for since I was a little girl.

For years following that transition I always felt as if I had to wear a bra or it wasn’t socially acceptable. To not wear a bra was seen as horrendous where I’m from, and so it wasn’t until I graduated high school that I stopped caring and wearing, and I haven’t had a regret since.

With losing the bra I have gained so much more, and here are a few of the greatest lessons I’ve learned since beginning my journey:

1. You will get stares, and many of them will be glares

It’s crazy how ridiculous people act over a woman embracing being just that... a woman.

2. IT’S SO COMFORTABLE

Once you get over the initial shock of freedom (in other words the awkward nipping and bouncing experienced) having to wear a bra will feel like a chore.

3. Anyone who has an issue with you going braless is not worth your time in the first place

They're a natural, beautiful part of a woman's body. Not to mention, your mother did not breastfeed you only for you to grow up and hate on boobs. C’mon now.

4. The see-through shirts will get you every time

At this point, I don’t even want to know the number of strangers that know the color of my nipples.

5. Bras are ridiculously expensive

Okay, not everyone is as materialistic as me and can probably find a bargain bra for under $10. BUT, if you’re like me and many other women I know, we like to buy branded bras like Victoria Secret or Calvin Klein, both of which carry a pretty price tag of sometimes over $50! Now think back to all of the bras you’ve purchased in your lifetime...I’ll let that one sink in.

6. Going braless is empowering AF

You have rebelled against the convention of needing to wear a bra, you can now do anything. Consider yourself a superhero. Extra badass points if yours are pierced.

7. It’s not always sunshine and rainbows

Just like with your hair, your boobs have bad days too. Some mornings you wake up and lefty is looking a little lopsided, or righty is looking a little rattled. We have all had our own days where we’ve needed a break, your girls are no different. Throw on a big hoodie and give ‘em the day off.

8. Your boobs are not the same size

Don’t freak! It’s completely normal to be asymmetrical and it’s nothing to be ashamed about. The bigger boob is just a bully and picks on the other one, making her feel small. It makes complete sense if you think about it.

9. BOOBIES ARE BEAUTIFUL JUST THE WAY THEY ARE

...which is exactly why yours don’t deserve to be hidden behind a bra. Let the ladies loose!

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What Country Hunk Is Your Soulmate Based On Your Zodiac Sign?

See what country superstar is the perfect match for you!

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Country music is full of good-looking men. It's okay, you can say it. In fact, I would venture to say that this genre of music has the most good-looking men out of all genres of music—there's just something about southern accents and cowboy boots. Besides, their voices are absolutely heavenly, which just adds to their appeal. Not to mention, their music is perfect to jam out to, cry your eyes out to or relax while listening to. Find out which one of those country hunks is your soulmate based on your zodiac sign below.

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How To Deal If You Don't Like Your Best Friend's S.O. (And Yeah, You Might Just Have To Deal)

All too often, friendships crumble amid the whirlwind of a new relationship. Don't let that be you.

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Sitting on your bed all alone on a Saturday night, endlessly bored and way too single. It's like you blinked and your sister from another Mr. is poof gone, off on some crazy adventure with her new boo, while you're on an adventure with Tony Stark and the rest of the Marvel crew... or whatever your Netflix show/movie of choice is.

It can be so difficult when your best friend gets into a relationship. And it can be even more difficult is it's a relationship that you don't approve of. In the end, it's their decision. Here's a quick guide to help you identify and move past all these aching feelings.

Recognize why

Before you can accept your BFF's relationship, you first have to identify why they bother you so much. Even if you think you know why, talk it out, write it down, be sure to fully hash out your issues with this person. You may realize it's simply a jealousy thing, or there could be a totally real problem at stake.

1. You might dislike their S.O.'s behavior towards you.

  • Maybe they have a bad attitude and don't know how to stay positive about anything other then you're BFF.
  • Do they ignore you when you're around? Nothing is worse than your best friend's S.O. not wanting to be best friends with you too.

2. You may disapprove of the relationship itself for some reason.

  • They aren't who you would pick for your best friend.
  • You feel that they are not good enough for your best friend - no one like a dead-beat.
  • You feel that they mistreat your best friend, and maybe they do... (hint: tell your BFF you feel this way asap; and maybe consult a trusted advisor, therapist, or parent for their advice on the issue beforehand)
  • Your best friend might complain about them to you—It's crazy how common this it, BFFs are constantly airing their dirty laundry and it's so easy for you to soak up their emotions. Since you're not there for the make-ups, those emotions might stick around for a little longer.

3. You may feel left out or envious.

  • You might not have a significant other yourself, and you kinda wish you did.
  • You feel like your friend no longer has time for you due to the relationship.

By understanding why you don't like your best friend's significant other, you can start to identify how to take the problem head-on and it will help you determine whether your feelings are warranted. You should always look out for your best friend, and that doesn't mean disliking their S.O. because you can't spend 48 hours together on the weekends anymore.

But if you are genuinely concerned about your best friend's well-being in a potentially abusive relationship, that's a different problem entirely. Pull her aside and talk to her about the situation, don't over-step but if she opens up and admits that she might be being abused, encourage her to leave the relationship and seek out help.

And like I said, maybe you simply feel jealous. It's easy to feel left out when your best friend, who usually spends her weekends with you, is now swooning over her new boyfriend. If that's the case, focus on yourself. Maybe even head out on your own date or two. Who knows, you might be double-dating with your BFF soon enough!

Get to know them, whether they like it or not

Even if you can't stand the sight of him or her, get past your initial hatred and try to get to know them. Plan some time to hang out with them either alone or with a group of friends. Maybe, you've only been seeing them when they're with your best friend so you may dislike them purely because of feeling like a 'third wheel.' But, what if you're feeling like they don't like you either? Offer up some group plans that they can't refuse, here are a few ideas:

1. Throw a Superbowl/World Series/Award Show/Bachelor watch party and personally invite both your BFF and their S.O

...and let them both know how much you'd appreciate their attendance. Get to know them while they're there, everyone has something in common. You've just got to find it.

2. Invite their S.O. camping with the rest of the friend group (if they're into it)

What better way to bond then getting down and dirty with the great outdoors? Come super prepared to swoop in with anything they need they may have forgotten (hint: bug spray, toilet paper, an extra blanket)

And if your best friend's S.O. is a private person, they might come off as unlikeable simply because they're quiet.

Take your time to get to know them. They may even learn to appreciate you even more because you didn't give up on them, just like your best friend didn't.

On the other hand, if her S.O. is outright rude to you, something's up. Talk to your best friend about the situation and let her know you're not comfortable. Try to work out a plan with your BFF that'll lighten the relationship between you and her S.O.

Remember your friend's happiness is most important

Even if you still don't see why your best friend is dating them, you should let your concerns subside if you see that your friend is truly happy. In the end, that's what matters the most. Focus on how her eyes sparkle when she sees a text from her S.O. or you see her smile when her S.O. comes into view. While it may suck, there's a point when you need to realize that ultimately, her happiness is your happiness.

And if your best friend's S.O. still bothers you that much, give them some space. You don't have to force yourself to spend time with them. After a while, the honeymoon period of their relationship will cool down, and by then it'll probably be so routine you won't mind them at all anymore.

But..... however, it's still a totally different situation entirely if you know that your friends S.O. isn't treating them right. Maybe you've heard some gossip, or you've seen a few suspicious text messages on his or her phone, or you make plans and she cancels because their S.O. is... what's the word, clingy? If you have reason to think that the SO might eventually hurt your best friend, is being manipulative or emotionally abusive/physically abusive, don't stand by. Find out more, and if you have reasonable cause, let your best friend know that something's up, and don't let her be naive about what abuse looks like. Tough love is true love, and she'll thank you in the long run.

Don't forget to preserve your friendship

All too often, friendships crumble amid the whirlwind of a new relationship - be careful not to let your friendship fizzle out.

Give them some space, but once the new relationship normalizes, schedule some girl-time and never make her feel like she needs to choose between you and her S.O. Make sure she knows that even though you are not spending as much time together, you are always there for her.

It can be hard to make a friendship work when a new S.O .comes into the picture, but make an effort to reach out to your friend and things will be all right.

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