Because I Don't Thank My Best Friend Enough

Because I Don't Thank My Best Friend Enough

For all the things I should thank my BFF for but never do.

We all have that best friend that has been there for us no matter what we are going through, and we know that they will never leave our side. Chances are, though, you haven't thanked them in a while for being the absolute greatest best friend in the world. So here's a couple of things we could probably all thank our best friend for.

1. Thank You For Always Being Down To Get Food

This one may not seem serious, but it definitely is. There's comfort in the fact that you know you won't be the only one going to get food late at night, a.k.a. getting fat. That's what best friends are for, though, so thanks BFF for those late night T-Bell runs.

2. Thank You For Having Jam Sessions With Me In The Car

I know that every time we get in the car together, it's going down. Whether it is jamming to T. Swift, Justin Bieber, Jana Kramer, or really anything, we are going to scream at the top of our lungs and pull out our best dance moves. Honestly, I couldn't imagine a car ride without one of our famous "concerts."

3. Thank You For Listening To My Stories

Even though you've probably heard the same story five times, you still sit there laughing and smiling like this is the first time you heard it.

4. Thank You For Believing In Me

I know my insecurities tend to get the best of me, knowing that not matter what you've got my back and you know I can do it means the world. Even when I don't believe in myself, you believe in me so much that I don't really have to. You give me the confidence I need when I need it the most and you don't know how much it means to me.

5. Thank You For Telling Me That Guy Isn't Good Enough

Even though half the time I don't believe you, knowing that you believe he isn't good enough and that there is someone better out there gives me hope. You make sure I have the best guy standing by my side, and I know that will never change. Eventually (I hope) there will be a guy that meets the standards you have set for him, and I know he'll basically be the one because no guy has been good enough yet.

6. Thank You For Crying/Laughing/Hating Life/Being Weird With Me

No matter what mood I'm in you either understand or in that same mood as well. If I'm super upset and have no clue what to do with my life, I know I can just come sit on your bed and cry it out. If I want to cry at proposal videos I definitely know you'll be down because we love love. When I can't stop laughing at the dumbest things, it's okay because you're probably laughing that hard too. If I hate life or people, you're hating the same things. And when we're together, it's always weird and people judge. But do we care? Heck no.

7. Thank You For Being My Person

Sometimes I don't even know how I'm feeling or what to say, but I know I can just give you a look and you totally know what I'm saying without saying it. You know all my secrets, all my fears, all my joys, the things I love most, the things I can't stand, know it all. And even though you know it all you don't judge or leave me. You have stayed by my side and continued being my person. Actually, you knowing all these things about me has made us closer.

8. Thank You For Loving Me

No matter how the day goes, what we say to each other, how long it's been since we've last talked — I know that we'll end the day still loving each other. I know there isn't really anything that can stop us from being best friends. So, thanks for loving me. Thanks for being there. Thanks for everything you do.

I know I don't tell you thank you as much as I should. But know that even when I don't say it, I'm thinking it. I wouldn't trade our friendship for the world and I am glad you're my best friend. Thank you for staying by my side.

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The Friend You Like Romantically Doesn't Owe You Anything

The friend-zone can be escaped, but not in the way you might want

We've all heard the story of the "friend-zone." Boy is in love with his best friend, she dates all the wrong guys and fails to notice how perfect he is, then eventually realizes how wrong she was and they live happily ever after.

I used to think that the friend-zone was a myth that lonely men created to feel better about themselves. But then I got friend-zoned myself.

Yes, it sucked, but the second I realized I had feelings for a friend (that I knew had no such feelings for me), I decided to suppress the feelings. When that wasn't enough, I cut them off for a bit, then, slowly, I felt OK. I could communicate with them without having unwanted romantic feelings pop up. I had escaped the friend-zone.

Having gone through that, I had more sympathy for someone I had to friend-zone a little while later. I had been friends with this guy for a few months. I didn't have many college friends yet and I was really lonely, so having his company really meant a lot at the time.

This caused me to not be able to see what should have been clear: he had a crush on me. When I finally made the realization, I immediately let him know that I didn't feel that way about him. He said it was OK, but I could tell it wasn't.

We didn't talk at all over the summer and when we came back for the fall semester, he would barely look at me. I had started dating his friend, which caused an even bigger rift between us.

Though I understand where he's coming from, I was also really mad at him for a long time.

It was as if he was only nice to me because he wanted romance in return. But people are not vending machines. You can't put in your "nice guy" coins and expect love, sex, or whatever the hell it is you want in return.

It hurt me to know that he only wanted romance and once that was off the table, he no longer wanted anything to do with me.

But then I thought back to the friend that had friend-zoned me. Unrequited affections really suck, especially when they're for someone that you spend a lot of time with. But the key is to work to escape it.

Yes, liking someone you're friends with and them not liking you back is a real thing, but people tend to treat the friend-zone like this mythic hell dimension that can never be escaped. But you can escape. Just maybe not in the way you'd like to.

Now there are three ways you can escape the friend-zone:

The first option is to confess your feelings and try to win them over. Now, this isn't completely unheard of. I've had friends that have dated people who had previously friend-zoned them, but it's extremely rare and risky. You have to risk your entire friendship in order to do this. If it doesn't work out, it could strain the friendship or sometimes break it beyond repair.

You can also do what my ex-friend did and completely cut the person off. If you're being a love-zombie and only doing nice things for the friend because you expect romance in return, leaving the situation might be the most healthy decision for you. I understand now that my friend might have stopped talking to me out of self-preservation. But it still hurts the people involved.

The third and final option is to just get over it. It's harsh, but it's real. Why try something you know is going to fail and cause pain to both sides? Yes, getting over crushes can be really difficult, but getting a normal friendship back rather than being stuck a love-zombie for them is worth the pain.

Whichever one you choose, just remember this: Your friends do not owe you any romantic affection. The work you put into making them happy should just come out of the goodness of your own heart. If you expect romance in return, you're not being a good friend to them. If you really care about them, don't put that kind of pressure on them. They don't want a mindless love-zombie that does their bidding for the hope that they'll get a tiny love kernel out of it. They just want a friend.

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Guys Are A Girl's Best Friend, Boy Friends and Boyfriends Are Not The Same Thing

But, can guys and girls really be friends?

I am as straight as can be and I love boys! Always have and can definitively say I always will. Not to say that I don't have girlfriends, but, for me, it's easier to connect with guys. I know that they aren't out to judge me, talk behind my back, secretly hate it when something good happens to meyeah, I have had some bad experiences with girls.

But, can guys and girls really be friends? Heterosexual individuals to be clear.

"Point to the jealousy that plagues many rational people when a significant other befriends someone of the opposite sex. Boil it down to the inherent differences between the sexes."

I mean, why not? Their sexual needs will cause too much tension between them?

Listen, I talk about sex all the time and I completely understand that both women and men yearn for sexual relationships. However, this doesn't mean that a male and a female are incapable of being platonic friends! As long as both partners understand that no romantic feelings are present, then these two individuals have all the strength to enjoy one another's time without pouncing on one another!

I like to say, romantic partners are friends but with sex; hence, heterosexual relations are just friends without sex (excluding "friends with benefits" relationships).

Personally, I have a lot of boy friends. No, not boyfriends. We are not dating, we do not plan on dating, and, although we may flirt for fun, we do not act upon sexual excitement.

We are mature enough to control what's in our pants: it's not all about sex.

If you don't believe me, take it from the experts who've concluded, "Though it may be tricky, men and women can successfully become close friends. What's more, there are good reasons for them to do so."

I love all my friends. I love my guy friends even if they are males since "platonic love does exist." They are respectful and supportive, and I couldn't ask for anything more. I don't care if some of my guys don't understand my "girl-talk," they give me the inside scoop on "boy-talk."

Guys don't judge me for the things girls would. Guys don't text their friends about my personal life as I'm crying to them about the stress I'm going through. Guys don't dare let anyone step on me.

Simply, guys are a girl's best friend.

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