Yes, I am still a virgin in college, and let me tell you, it is not easy.
Granted, in comparison to most other people, I'm a "late bloomer" when it comes to the relationship scene, since I didn't even have my first kiss until I was 18 and in my second semester as a freshman in college.
Now, I should clarify the reason that I am still a virgin. It's not for religious reasons, although I am Christian. I have chosen not to have sex yet because I want to wait until I find the right person. When I tell people this, I often get asked, "Well how do you know if someone is the right person or not?" And basically, it would be if I was in a secure, trusting, deep and meaningful relationship and decided to take my relationship with that person to the next level.
I haven't found anyone who I have been that comfortable with, so that's why I haven't had sex yet.
Don't get me wrong, I want to! Lemme tell you, it is an uphill battle with this decision. I'm always tempted, and it's not that I don't want to have sex. I'm still a human! But I've been able to exercise enough self-control to not have sex yet. And honestly, I am so happy with my decision.
There have been plenty of instances where I looked back and have been so immensely relieved I didn't give it up to certain guys because I know they would have broken my heart.
That's another reason I'm, for lack of a better word, protective, of my virginity. Because I know there are way too many guys who will turn around and dip out after you give them what they want. Because of this, it's been pretty hard to find a guy who is interested in a relationship. Practically impossible, actually. But I know that if I can find someone who respects me and my choice to wait, then I've found the right person.
I know this route isn't for everybody, but if you're like me and you're waiting for the right person to come around, then just know you are not the only one!
Trust your instincts, and when that special person comes your way, you'll know. But until then, stay strong, my friend!
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