I've Been The Other Girl, And I've Been Cheated On— Both SUCK, Trust Me
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I've been the girl that got cheated on and the other woman. When I was cheated on, I didn't believe it. I didn't believe her. I thought that he could NEVER do that to me. I thought that she HAS to be lying. Maybe she wants to be with him so she made up this crazy story. He loves me. How could you do that to someone you love?

I never would have imagined I would have been cheated on. I've always thought that if I or my partner are not happy in the relationship or have wandering eyes, it would have ended.

I never would have imagined I would be the other woman. For months, he was my friend. He would constantly bash on his girlfriend. Always tell everyone everything she did that was shitty; she cheated, she never answered him, always spent all his money, they were always arguing. He would always say he was waiting for her to break up with him, but she never did.

That night I asked if they broke up yet, still no. We went out for drinks, having so much fun! Talking, dancing, getting to hang out as friends. I was having so much fun! We were talking more recently and it was nice to hang out!

Then, his hand was wondering. His dancing was turning into grinding. I turned around and we kissed. I liked it, I was having so much fun. I didn't even think about his girlfriend.

We went back to my place. I still wasn't thinking about his girlfriend, until we were having sex.

"SHIT. You have a girlfriend!"

"Yeah but she's done it to me a bunch of times before so it's OK."

Then he went back to telling me how beautiful I am, how he couldn't believe this was happening, how he was planning it.

I was shocked by the planning it one. I didn't expect that, I thought we were going out as friends. We were friends for a while, he had a girlfriend. I wasn't expecting anything but to have some friendly fun.

It turned into too friendly.

I was okay with it, until the next morning.

Then I remembered how I felt when my boyfriend cheated on me. How I didn't find out until three months later. How I felt devastated. How I felt like I couldn't trust him ever again. How I felt so lost and confused. I was already with him for so long, he said it didn't matter. It was months ago. So I stayed with him. And honestly, it was one of my bigger mistakes.

I had to tell her, so I found her on Insta and told her.

I'm glad she broke up with him. Something I couldn't do.

I'm sad our friendship ended because you did a stupid thing. You set this up, you lied for months about your girlfriend. You said you didn't want to be with her, but the day after you were telling a much different story.

Yes it takes two to tango, but I didn't have a partner when we were together, you did.

Cheating emotionally and physically is the most fucked up thing you could do.

Emotionally cheating is still cheating. You're giving someone a part of you. Something only your partner should have. You shouldn't be calling other people "attractive," "hot," "sexy," or saying inappropriate things to them like "I want to fuck you," "show me ____" when you have a partner. These are what people who are single can say, not if you are taken.

Physically cheating is simple. Just don't touch a person in an inappropriate spot. Children understand this. If you're in a relationship, you should be able to too.

Talking bad on your current partner is just fucked up. What is the point of being with them if all you do is talk shit behind their back? That's simply disrespectful. If you're not respecting your partner what are you doing? Why be with them?

Break up with them before you cheat. There's no point to cheating. If you cheat emotionally or physically you should not be with your significant other. You obviously don't love them. You can't.

To the people who stay with their partner who cheated: I get it. But you need to know you're so much better than that. You deserve so much better than that. You think you won't be happy without them, but you will be. It takes time.

To the people who break up with their cheating partner: I admire you. I'm so proud of you. You know your worth and you make sure everyone else does. You have so much strength, so much power. I wish I had that back then.

To those who are "the other person," I get it. That person is unattainable, and when they want you it's so hot. It's like getting something you never thought you could have before. Just remember that the other person

To the cheater: You're a piece of shit. End of story. You should have broken up with them before you cheated. That will haunt the person for the rest of their life, and make them think "Why was I not enough?"

Cheating is a terrible thing to do to someone. I hope you never get cheated on and I hope you never cheat.

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As Much As You May Want To, You'll Never Get Over Your First Love

You never forget your first

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Your first love is just that: the first person you've ever truly loved (besides your family and friends). Maybe you've kissed a few people before, but with this person it's different. They mean something to you that no other person ever has before. Maybe you met this person when you were younger in high school or met them a little later in life as I did at the end of my first year of college. Meeting my first love transformed me, both for the good and the bad, and as much as I may want to, I'll never get over my first love and neither will you.

When we met, we didn't meet in some fantastical way, we met on Tinder right after a surprise breakup of mine. We had instant chemistry, and I didn't get to kiss him for weeks because I ended up getting mono right after the breakup (haha whoops). He was the first person I've ever kissed who I didn't want to stop kissing- ever. Yes, second semester freshman year me was super extra when it came to him, but being with him was so different than anyone else. Things progressed through the summer as we talked every single day, even though we never got to meet up because we were both busy, and at the beginning of my sophomore year, I lost my virginity to him. That was a big step for someone who thought she'd wait until she was married. He made sure I was fine and didn't push me to do anything I wasn't comfortable with. I'll treasure that forever.

He was someone I loved with all of my being, to the point where it was physically hurting me in the end because I knew what I felt wasn't going to ever be reciprocated the way I wanted it to be. That's when I had to end it, which was one of the hardest things I've ever done. To me, he was a boyfriend, but to him, I was a friend with benefits. I wanted something more and he wanted less, and I didn't want to accept that. I wasn't his first love but he was mine, which he doesn't know and probably never will. I have had moments where I thought I was over him, but then all the emotions flood right back. In hard moments of hurt is when I miss him the most, but also in moments of joy too. If I see a nice car I think of him, or of other little things, like a french bulldog or The Fast and The Furious.

Your first love leaves such a monumental effect on you as a person. They have seen parts of you others have not. You will always remember your firsts more than anything else, which is why your first love never leaves you. As roughly as things ended between he and I, he's always going to have a piece of me that no one else will ever have. The relationship we had wasn't what you'd expect from someone you call your first love, but his mark on me is what helped shape me into who I am today for better or for worse.

Don't let any negativity remain when it comes to your first love (if there is any). Let it go and remember the good. They will be a part of you forever, so you can never truly get over you.

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Why You Keep Falling In Love With People Who Don’t Love You Back In Your 20s

It's embedded in our human psychology to always desire deeper connections and meaningful relationships with the people we hold close to our heart, even if the feeling aren't necessarily mutual.

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Can love truly be both beautiful and heartbreaking?

It's a question I silently asked myself, sitting shotgun in a car next to someone I considered my friend.

A "friend" seemed to be the right label to define our relationship. To him, I was just a friend—who just happened to be a girl, a girl he texts regularly, jokes around, and can grab a drink with. And we loved each other as friends, because we both trusted each other, we had fun together and each had our own independent lives which would connect occasionally in a complete, non-questionable platonic way.

But slowly, for me, he was becoming everything I've ever wanted in a guy, standing right in front of me. But he wasn't mine to have.

And imagine being so close to someone you want except you can't have him because it might just ruin everything you've already shared together. Because what if you scare him away? What if he replies by telling you "No"?

That's the simple nature of falling in love with someone you can't be with.

In our early part of our lives—particularly in our 20s and during our college years, we all experience this type of heartbreak.

To name a few: A high school boyfriend who lives halfway across the country now. The hot guy you sit next to in lecture who already has a girlfriend. The casual hookup who you just can't manage to stop thinking about as you endlessly toss and turn at night. The platonic friend who doesn't quite see you as being something more.

We all at one point in our thoughts have imagined "coupling" or sharing a life with a guy who we can't seem to have for ourselves. We've always dreamt how things could actually work out if you actually shared your feelings with him except the closest we'll ever reach to it is in our dreams, not reality.

And to examine the logic behind why this happens, we have to first admit how we always want what we can't have.

Because it's embedded in our human psychology to always desire deeper connections and meaningful relationships with the people we hold close to our heart, even if the feeling aren't necessarily mutual.

So, it's not really this case of the whole Romeo and Juliet "star-crossed lovers" BS but rather, it's purely a one sided love which can most definitely be beautiful and heartbreaking at the same time. Beautiful because there's always a connection you feel which makes you all warm and bubbly inside but heartbreaking because you know this connection is merely flowing in a one way track.

So then, why do we tend to maintain our connections with these people who hurt us?

One reason is because you're afraid to lose him altogether. Perhaps you think he's going to go on full freak-out mode after you spill the beans to him. My piece of advice in this scenario would be to just suck it up and take the chance. Talk to him about how you feel because honestly, what's there to lose? Unless you're not reciting some sappy, over-the-top love story about how many kids you plan to have with him, you're fine.

But perhaps, the most common reason is because we assume he might eventually fall in love with us, too.

And if this pertains to you, gear up because I can write on for days about why this is a big no-no. Heck, I can probably teach a class or lecture to all of you about my elaborative theory of why you will definitely know whether a boy truly loves you or not. It's plain and simple—if he loves you, he'll make sure you know.

And you can't force someone to fall in love with you. Even if you pay them a million bucks, you can get them to pretend to love you or force them to be with you—but it's never going to be true love. Because true, unrequited love is effortless. It comes naturally. The fiery passion will be shared mutually and you won't ever have to question whether or not you belong with him.

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