It Took Me Months To Admit I Had Been Ghosted, But Now That I Have, I Feel Better For It

It Took Me Months To Admit I Had Been Ghosted, But Now That I Have, I Feel Better For It

It's something that connects all women together.
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I was talking to a guy that I met on Tinder. It’s the typical story. We met up and dated for a while. I thought we had so much in common but we were different enough to really work. We texted all day. He called me when he needed me, just as I requested. I love feeling needed and special and I did with him. Everything was great and I was comfortable.

He warned me that he would become a lot busier and that he wouldn’t be available as much. I was okay with that and was willing to wait. Separation never bothered me. I would be able to make it work. After all, I had been single for so long and that was annoying, so anything would be better than that.

He did get busy and I couldn’t be mad; I knew it was coming. It wasn't ideal but it was totally fine and nothing felt wrong about it. We texted, called and did what we could, with short little meetups here and there.

That was until he never responded at all and left me wondering what happened.

I was patient, which is not something I’m typically good at. In the back of my mind, I had a creeping suspicion that I was being ghosted, which, for me, was new. I hadn’t ever put myself out there enough to reach that point. My heart is something I hold very close.

I had a hard time coming to terms with the fact that he ghosted me. It wasn’t like my pride was crushed, I’m not a prideful person. It was just such a foreign feeling to me. I knew he was busy, so I figured that was the problem.

It had been days of me saying to my friends, “He’ll respond." Days turned into weeks and the denial went away. He wasn’t going to and I was ghosted. I knew it in my heart, but something was preventing me from saying it aloud. I finally said the words I was afraid of and I felt so much better.

SEE ALSO: Ghosting Is Emotional Abuse And Our Generation Needs To Stop Doing It

Being ghosted sucks, there's no denying that. However, saying it aloud makes it official and it's refreshing to be able to identify with something so many girls I know have talked about. It's like when someone says they want their heart broken so that they know how to compare it to everything else. I never understood that until now.

It happens to all of us.

Honestly, being ghosted may be one of the things that connects all women together. There’s nothing wrong with us. There’s no flaw in the female system that makes us unable to be responded to.

It’s natural and it will keep happening until one day it just doesn’t.

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To The Ex Who Won’t Move On, It’s Time To Let Go

Moving on is hard, but it’s time for you to realize I’m gone.

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It's been a year. It's been 365 days since I left you. I was ready for a change. Our relationship was unhealthy and very toxic. We argued constantly. You were very controlling, and it was time to end it. You knew you were the issue in the relationship and you knew what needed to be fixed.

You couldn't change.

After figuring out I couldn't live the rest of my life unhappy, I left. It was hard no doubt. We had good memories, but the bad outweighed the good. You never appreciated me. You weren't loyal to me and I never understand why. You always made me feel as if I was never enough.

I finally left you. You couldn't accept the fact that I was done. I told you I discovered my self-worth and you were angry. You didn't want to see me go. You called and texted me for weeks.

I ignored you.

You were so mad because I was finally done. You had convinced yourself that I would come back but little did you know, I wouldn't. You called and texted daily. You even called my job. You didn't understand. I could no longer listen to ongoing insults and constant accusations. I had enough of it.

When I didn't respond to your calls and texts, you began using text apps and calling me from restricted. You wouldn't stop. When you found out I moved on, it got worse. I begged you to stop and you wouldn't. I finally stopped responding. You still continue to try to contact me.

I need you to move on. I want to put everything behind us. I want you to go out and find someone to make you happy. I need you to realize you and I are over. I want you to move on like I did. I am happy now and I don't need you ruining that. To my ex who is struggling to move on, it's time to let go and move on.

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11 Sneaky Signs Your Relationship Is Headed For A Breakup

Sometimes it just comes out of nowhere.

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When you think of a breakup, you may think of weeks of screaming at each other, cheating, lying, and pretty much every other obvious sign you aren't meant for each other.

Sometimes, these signs aren't even there. There may be underlying signs that have been there for a while until it all bubbles up and, BOOM, the breakup happens.

Here are 11 subtle signs your relationship is headed for a breakup:

1. When your S.O.'s name pops up on your phone you feel like groaning.

Throughout your relationship, you would get butterflies when your S.O's name came on your phone. You would be dying to talk to them and tell them all about your day. If it feels like a chore, it might be time to revaluate the relationship.

2. If you live together, you find yourself hoping they aren't home when you get there.

Coming home to your S.O. at the end of every day should be rewarding and exciting. You need to be comfortable in your own living space.

3. You stop wanting to spend time together.

You don't need to spend every waking moment together, but when it seems more like more of a task to take time out of your day that isn't okay.

4. FaceTimes and phone calls become nonexistent.

And if they are existent, the love isn't there and they seem distracted.

5. When you are hanging out, you are checking the time and figuring out when you should leave.

Before, time would fly by and you would be wishing you had more time.

6. Going out on a date seems like a hassle more than an actual treat.

Date nights are rare in busy lives, but when planning them isn't exciting anymore it usually isn't a good sign.

7. When you look into the future you don't see them in it.

You had all your kids names picked out and now you can't even see the relationship getting through the next month.

8. The time between talking to each other increases.

You find yourself forgetting that you haven't talked in a while. And it doesn't necessarily bother you.

9. They irritate you more.

Just their face could bring out anger you didn't know you had.

10. The quirks you once found endearing are now annoying.

Remember the way he'd easily fall asleep in your arms and how it made you feel all gooey inside? Yeah, now it's like he's never awake when you're around.

11. When they stop doing the little things that once put a smile on your face.

No more random "you're beautiful" comments or spontaneous trips to your favorite places in town.

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