Enjoy Your Bar Tab, My Boyfriend And I Can Afford To Stay In Because We Actually Like Each Other
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Enjoy Your Bar Tab, My Boyfriend And I Can Afford To Stay In Because We Actually Like Each Other

I think we just reach a certain point in our lives where we stop living to please other people, and instead live to please ourselves.

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Enjoy Your Bar Tab, My Boyfriend And I Can Afford To Stay In Because We Actually Like Each Other
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I've always been the "stay at home" girl. I enjoy nothing more than to have my drink of choice to my left, and my boyfriend to my right, and us playing video games or binge-watching our show of the month. To me, that's my perfect Friday night, and I take pride in that.

"They don't do anything"

"They're boring"

"They stay in their house at all times"

Damn. Freaking. Right. We. Do.

We aren't trying to be rude by staying home and not going out with our friends, but one of the things my boyfriend and I have in common is basking in the fact we don't like to do much outside of our busy work schedules.

To us, nothing makes us more excited than counting down the days when we can sit down, have a full-on spaghetti dinner with a bottle of wine, and binge-watch the previous weeks of "Walking Dead" that we missed.

What we choose to not do:

Spend our money that we worked so hard for during the week on bar tabs.

What we choose to do:

Live in the house that we work really hard to have.

You see, both he and I take a certain sense of pride out of the fact we do not harp on our friends for how they choose to spend their money. It's a short life, and if you want to blow it on drugs, booze, and partying-power to ya.

But for us? We just chose a different route. The kind of route that doesn't involve late nights unless we get carried away with Tasty recipes we're hoping to make the next day.

But part of me, thinks this is more normal than a lot of our friends let on. When you start to become so close to a certain person, they start to be all you really care to spend your time with. However, this does not mean I NEVER want to be with anyone else—that would be unhealthy. It just means there's a certain level of understanding with your mind and body when one person becomes the source of your happiness.

You spend less time doing things other people want you to do, and more time doing the things that make you genuinely happy.

Our friends sometimes joke with us because when we do finally leave our house, it's for very random things, like:

A. Going to trampoline parks because we like to prove to one another that we can, in fact, jump higher than the other.

B. Going out to eat at a new place because we (like several other couples) adore the flipping flip out of new foods and atmospheres.

C. Going shopping at flea markets or anywhere we're able to get a deal because we're like an old little couple at this point in our lives.

D. Finding someplace to volunteer at that has to do with dogs because dogs are our lives and for whatever reason, we feel like we owe them more than we owe our friends.

I think we just reach a certain point in our lives where we stop living to please other people and instead live to please ourselves.

I started asking myself (and my boyfriend), if you could choose to do something right now, what would it be?

Of course, he will list all of these things we couldn't possibly do, like go on a cruise or buy a freaking Ferrari—the list never ends.

Then he finally says, "well I'd love to play these video games with you and make a nice dinner that we saved off of Tasty" and the light clicks on then, and I'm like, YESSS CHILD.

This is what I'm talking about! We need to start living for you and I—not everyone else.

The sooner we came to that realization and started doing things him and I loved whole-heartily, the quicker our relationship started to reflect pure love, and not pure "do it because we have to".

We started to say "no" to everyone else and began saying "yes" more often to one another.

Now we have a much easier time admitting to everyone else (not just ourselves) that we are okay with staying home, we are in fact "boring" (to those who have different interests than us) and we are okay with it.

My life isn't going to revolve around my friends. That doesn't mean I don't love them, and it surely doesn't mean I never intend on spending a good amount of time with them, it just means I would rather choose to please the man I love, and luckily for us, pleasing one is pleasing another.

I'll take that any day.

So call us boring, call us "old," call us whatever the hell you want.

We take such great pride in that, and will for as long as our lazy hearts intend on.

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