15 Things Boyfriends Will Never Understand, Even With Color-Coded Diagrams And Detailed Instructions

15 Things Boyfriends Will Never Understand, Even With Color-Coded Diagrams And Detailed Instructions

12. Why we need to wear glitter even though it just gets everywhere.

So as I was writing this at 2:00 a.m. and talking with my boyfriend, we were trying to brainstorm ideas of what I should write about. We began debating back and forth about something stupid and this topic became the resolution of this silly bickering: there are just some things your boyfriend (or at least mine) will probably, most likely never really understand about you.

We compiled a list of 15 things boyfriends will just never understand.

1. Emotional attachment to your clothes (and/or boyfriends clothes).

Sometimes, it's just necessary to wear that shirt two days in a row because you just love it that much. Maybe you just really have to have his sweatpants even though you have probably 10 pairs of your own, but it's just not the same, you know?

What is your weird obsession with that bra? Tbh I don't really know either... Oh, by the way, you're never getting that sweatshirt back, sorry!!!

2. Importance of calendar dates.

Why do you know that December 21st, 2013 is the day you got your braces out? Or that October 16th is National Boss's Day?

Did you know you texted me for the first time on October 31st, 2013?? Well, you did.

3. Our spiritual connection to and utter obsession with dogs and other fluffy animals.

I really don't think I need to explain this one. Who the heck doesn't like fluffy little creatures that just love forever?? No one, that's who.

4. Yes, heels look so good, but they hurt so bad.

Why would you spend THAT much on a pair of shoes that you end up taking off 30 minutes in?? Where's the logic? Beauty is pain, I guess. Right?

5. What it's like to put on/take off makeup.

Want to watch yourself go from a solid 4 to a possible 7? Just paint your face real quick!! Want to go back to a 4? Just take it all off real fast.

6. Why we shed (we really don't know either).

I mean it just kinda happens. It's still a mystery, and forever will be.

7. Why we are always late.

Are we absolutely positive we're feeling this outfit right now? Why does my hair look like I just woke up? I was supposed to leave 5 minutes ago but I just have to change this shirt really quick. It'll be fine.

*shows up 45 minutes late*

8. We secretly like Fortnite, too.

It really isn't that horrible. If you play just one time, you'll most likely be addicted too, believe me. Just trust the system.

9. What it's like to friggin' bleed out of your crotch for a week.

Horrible, miserable, exhausting, awful, terrible, very very bad. I think that covers the gist of it.

10. Why we feel the need to scream every song that comes on the radio.

You like this song? Great, I don't but I'll definitely scream it as obnoxiously as I possibly can to

1. make myself laugh because I'm just THAT funny and

2. Annoy the living crap out of you. So really it's a win-win here, right?

11. Why we must ALWAYS take a picture of our food before we eat it.

It's just so satisfying that you have to take a photo to show the world this magnificent concoction you're about to devour in the next 30 seconds. It's basically free advertising for the company too!!

12. Why we need to wear glitter even though it just gets everywhere.

It's friggin' GLITTER. What do you mean, "why?"

13. How we will argue every fact ever even though we know we're wrong.

Okay, but why would I let you win? That honestly does not makes sense. I'll pull facts out of thin air if it means I'll win.

14. Every time we do win, you'll never hear the end of it.

Well I mean we did win, which means you lost. Which also means you have to be reminded just in case I lose next time because remember that one time when I won?

15. Why we post things on social media.

Honestly, I don't even know but it's fun and slightly competitive so why the heck not?

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8 Qualities That Still Hold Up When Looking For The 'Perfect Guy' In 2019

He hasn't come along yet, but I'll know him when I see him.


Ah, the mythical "perfect guy." Technically, he doesn't exist.

But there are guys that seem perfect to the people who love them despite their flaws. Over the years, I've compiled a mental list of things I look for in a guy. The list has changed over the years as different things became important to me. It's probably as complex and comprehensive now as it'll ever get, but I can't be sure.

The following are in order of importance, at least for me. Here are the best qualities to look for in a man in 2019:

1. Having strong faith.

This is crucial! I'm Christian, so for me, that means if he's not a Christian, it's a dealbreaker. My morals and beliefs are very strongly linked to my faith in God, and I just can't be with someone who doesn't share that conviction. I wouldn't marry a man who's not a Christian, so why even bother dating one?

"Imagine a man so focused on God that the only reason he looked up to see you is because he heard God say, 'That's her.'"

2. Kind

This is also very important! I've liked guys in the past who had some of the other qualities I looked for I but weren't kind. A relationship without kindness is toxic. Everyone deserves someone who treats them well, but that person should treat everyone well. They shouldn't discriminate with their kindness.

3. Funny

I need a guy who can make me laugh! He also needs to be able to understand my sense of humor, which is mostly sarcasm. I find a lot of things funny: jokes, puns, memes, no matter how seemingly stupid. If you've got those, you're golden.

4. Smart

Intelligence is attractive. It's true. I want a guy who's smart but isn't conceited. He knows he knows a lot but he doesn't think he's better than everyone else. He doesn't have to be a genius. He could be really smart in one subject, or kind of smart in many subjects. I just want him to know a thing or two about a thing or two.

5. Hardworking

My guy needs to be ambitious. He needs to have goals that he works toward. He can't be lazy. I believe that it is primarily the man's duty to financially support his woman. This is most applicable in marriage, but it works in dating relationships, too. I don't want someone who is unable to provide for me. In order to do that, he needs to be able to provide for himself.

6. Cute

You knew I'd get to this! I'm not blind, after all. Trust me, I think it's important for a guy to be attractive. But it's not as important as everything listed above this. I've been told I have weird taste in guys in terms of looks. What I see as cute doesn't always line up with society's definition. The important thing is that I'm attracted to him. Physical attraction is important in a relationship. To be picky: I don't like facial hair or too much muscle. I do like chest hair and back muscles.

7. Creative

This can mean a lot of different things. He could draw, paint, write, sing, play an instrument, etc. As long as it shows that he's inclined to use the right side of his brain. I'm a writer, so I'm naturally more drawn to people who prefer creativity over logic.

8. Interested in Me

Despite being last, this is extremely important! Without this, none of the other things matter. It's just like every other crush I've ever had. Nothing different. Nothing special. While I've been able to find guys who exhibit the first seven qualities, the eighth has been much harder to come by. I've never been in a relationship, so I imagine it will be really wonderful when I eventually find someone who reciprocates my feelings.

Some people may think my standards are too high, but I refuse to lower them. I believe that God has someone out there for me who lives up to these standards and even exceeds them. I just have to be patient and trust His timing.

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The Friend You Like Romantically Doesn't Owe You Anything

The friend-zone can be escaped, but not in the way you might want

We've all heard the story of the "friend-zone." Boy is in love with his best friend, she dates all the wrong guys and fails to notice how perfect he is, then eventually realizes how wrong she was and they live happily ever after.

I used to think that the friend-zone was a myth that lonely men created to feel better about themselves. But then I got friend-zoned myself.

Yes, it sucked, but the second I realized I had feelings for a friend (that I knew had no such feelings for me), I decided to suppress the feelings. When that wasn't enough, I cut them off for a bit, then, slowly, I felt OK. I could communicate with them without having unwanted romantic feelings pop up. I had escaped the friend-zone.

Having gone through that, I had more sympathy for someone I had to friend-zone a little while later. I had been friends with this guy for a few months. I didn't have many college friends yet and I was really lonely, so having his company really meant a lot at the time.

This caused me to not be able to see what should have been clear: he had a crush on me. When I finally made the realization, I immediately let him know that I didn't feel that way about him. He said it was OK, but I could tell it wasn't.

We didn't talk at all over the summer and when we came back for the fall semester, he would barely look at me. I had started dating his friend, which caused an even bigger rift between us.

Though I understand where he's coming from, I was also really mad at him for a long time.

It was as if he was only nice to me because he wanted romance in return. But people are not vending machines. You can't put in your "nice guy" coins and expect love, sex, or whatever the hell it is you want in return.

It hurt me to know that he only wanted romance and once that was off the table, he no longer wanted anything to do with me.

But then I thought back to the friend that had friend-zoned me. Unrequited affections really suck, especially when they're for someone that you spend a lot of time with. But the key is to work to escape it.

Yes, liking someone you're friends with and them not liking you back is a real thing, but people tend to treat the friend-zone like this mythic hell dimension that can never be escaped. But you can escape. Just maybe not in the way you'd like to.

Now there are three ways you can escape the friend-zone:

The first option is to confess your feelings and try to win them over. Now, this isn't completely unheard of. I've had friends that have dated people who had previously friend-zoned them, but it's extremely rare and risky. You have to risk your entire friendship in order to do this. If it doesn't work out, it could strain the friendship or sometimes break it beyond repair.

You can also do what my ex-friend did and completely cut the person off. If you're being a love-zombie and only doing nice things for the friend because you expect romance in return, leaving the situation might be the most healthy decision for you. I understand now that my friend might have stopped talking to me out of self-preservation. But it still hurts the people involved.

The third and final option is to just get over it. It's harsh, but it's real. Why try something you know is going to fail and cause pain to both sides? Yes, getting over crushes can be really difficult, but getting a normal friendship back rather than being stuck a love-zombie for them is worth the pain.

Whichever one you choose, just remember this: Your friends do not owe you any romantic affection. The work you put into making them happy should just come out of the goodness of your own heart. If you expect romance in return, you're not being a good friend to them. If you really care about them, don't put that kind of pressure on them. They don't want a mindless love-zombie that does their bidding for the hope that they'll get a tiny love kernel out of it. They just want a friend.

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