He Gave Me A House Before A Ring And That's OK

He Gave Me A House Before A Ring And That's OK

You may not agree and that's fine but it works for us and that's what matters.
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Recently, my boyfriend and I moved in together. We've been living together for about three months now. Ever since then, I've had some negative comments and disapproving looks thrown my way, mainly from older adults, but even some from people my age. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion, and I respect that. When my boyfriend and I made this decision, we didn't expect everyone to agree, but then again we can't make decisions in our relationship based off trying to please everyone else.

Some of the negative things I have been told include, "Y'all are too young for that," "Y'all are rushing things," "That's not the Christian way of doing things," and "If you move in with a guy before he proposes, he will get comfortable and never pop the question."

Well first off, we are 20 and 22. I don't really think that's too young. I am a student and also have a job and my boyfriend has a full-time job. A good portion of the people I graduated with are engaged, married, have kids, or a combination, so we aren't the only ones making adult choices. Also, I don't believe we rushed things. We had been dating for almost a year when we moved in, and have now been dating more than a year. I have never believed in having a timeline for when things should happen in a relationship. Some people wait five years and that's great. Some wait three months, and that's great too.

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As far as not doing things the Christian way, I understand that we probably should have gotten married first. I'm aware that we didn't follow the bible, and that does bother me. I can promise you this though: I do pray about it, and we are very serious. We talk about marriage quite often and we know that this is it. Now, I know what you're thinking, that could always change. As of right now, though, we do have good intentions. Lastly, whoever came up with that old rule about a man getting comfortable and not proposing because you already live with him must have dealt with a crappy guy. Us moving in together has done nothing but strengthen our relationship, (yes, we had a little more fighting at first, but what doesn't break you makes you stronger and that's what it did), and made us more excited about getting married.

You see, I've always thought it was smart to live together before marriage. I can speak from experience now, and I can say that I have learned so much more about my boyfriend from living with him than I ever did before. Stuff that can make or break a relationship for some people. I mean if one person is a super clean freak and the other is a slob, that could cause issues right? Living together also adds stress to a relationship by adding a whole lot of extra responsibility. For instance, we bought a house, and with that comes bills, a lot to clean, cooking, property upkeep, groceries, a mortgage, etc, etc. It will sure test your relationship. You have to be a good team and work together and communicate. Some couples are great, they think, until a little stress is added and then they crumble.

So, think what you want about us living together before we get married. I respect that not everyone will agree with it. But this man I live with is the love of my life and we will get married. This step in our journey just happened to happen before that one.

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Sorry, But If You Propose On My Wedding Day, You're Getting Cut Off

There are 365 days in the year and you had to pick THAT one?

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I know this may sound ridiculous to some people, but I've wanted to get married since I was a little kid. I loved everything that it represented. Although I could never fully picture or dream up what my wedding would specifically look like (besides various Pinterest board ideas), I wanted that lifetime love and commitment more than anything.

It goes without saying that all of my closest friends know how important marriage is for me. Knowing my perspective on marriage is a key aspect of understanding who I am as a person. I've changed in a number of ways over the years, but that one quality has been unyielding.

Recently, I've seen countless videos on Instagram and Twitter of people proposing on someone else's wedding day. And every time I see them, I think the same thing.

There are 365 days in the year and you had to pick THAT one?

Kudos to the brides and grooms who were nice enough to allow that, but that kind of thing is not going to fly at my wedding.

All of the love and attention from friends and family should be directed towards the happy couple.

If you decide to propose on my wedding day, you: 1) never paid attention during the deep and personal conversations that we had, 2) don't know me well enough to know why it would hurt me so much, or 3) are just plain selfish. Regardless of the reason, it's an unforgivable offense.

Yes, the simple act of a proposal would ruin my wedding.

I'm only going to get married once. I only get one day for that. A day that I've been anticipating for over a decade and a half. A day that I'm going to spend thousands of dollars planning. A day that I've been hoping and praying would be perfect because I'm going to remember it for the rest of my life.

That's a pretty big deal, right?

I know that there could be meaning behind a proposal on a wedding day. The whole "wedding process" started with an engagement. The wedding is the grand finale. So by proposing on someone's wedding day, you're kind of rekindling the wedding process again. A circle of life — circle of love, so to speak.

But I don't think that's cute, ESPECIALLY if it goes against a bride's wishes. I would even call that tacky and thoughtless.

To put it simply, receiving a wedding invitation should feel like an honor. The bride and groom are allowing you to come to their ceremony. And by RSVPing, you're acknowledging that you'll show your full support and be on your best behavior.

So please show me enough respect to wait at least a day before getting on one knee.

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11 Cute Ways To Ask Your Bridesmaids To Be A Part Of Your Big Day

Because it's probably the most important decision that you'll make for your big day...

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Thanks to Instagram and Pinterest, Bridesmaids Proposals have become a big deal. How cute, original, and most importantly, Instagram-worthy you ask your bridesmaids to be apart of your big day is of the most importance. While simply asking her verbally may be the easy and practical way to go, an all-out proposal that requires more planning than the big day itself is necessary. No worries, these brides have you covered for the perfect way to ask your girls to be apart of the biggest day of your life:

1. Personalized bottles of wine and matching glass

Giving her a personalized bottle of wine is so simple, yet so cute. Plus, who doesn't love wine? There's no way she could say no to this!

2. Personalized jewelry

Something that your bridesmaid can cherish for years to come is always a good idea. A piece of jewelry that will always remind her of her special role in your big day will continue to keep the thoughtfulness of the proposal alive.

3. "Can't Tie The Knot Without You" bracelet

These may be everywhere lately, but there's a reason for that: they're so freaking cute! The symbol of the knot being tied and the simpleness the bracelet is perfect for any member of the bridal party, regardless of their age.

4. Ornaments

Christmastime proposal? Ornaments are the perfect way for you to pop your big question. Not only that, but the memory of your wedding will be proudly displayed on her tree every year.

6. Candles

Who wouldn't love a box full of their favorite scents? Learn what each girl's favorite scent and color is before hand and give her an extra-special box of goodies.

8. Travel essentials

Having a destination wedding? Give her all of the little odds and ends that she will need on the trip to get her excited and prepared well before the big day.

10.  Personalized picture frame

Not only would this look adorable in her room to serve as a memory, but it's extremely creative and customizable.

11.  Cookie cake

The handwritten lid and the yumminess of the cake: 10/10 recommend. Make sure to let her know that it's perfectly okay to eat this all in one sitting, too.

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