My boyfriend (Chris) and I have been together for a little over three years now. I'm a sophomore in college and he's a freshman. Last year at Kent State was pretty rough for me. I was miserable and hated my living arrangement. Being away from my boyfriend made things that much harder. When I decided to transfer to the University of Kentucky, I knew I did not want to live in a dorm again. When Chris decided to come to Kentucky too, we joked and said: "wouldn't it be cool if we lived together?"
At the time it was just a thought, but it quickly turned into "we should live together!"
We discussed it a lot, to the point where it felt like it was already set in stone. We then decided it was time to tell our parents. I knew they were going to have a lot of questions and Chris and I were both fully prepared since we had talked about it so much. I insisted that we get a two bedroom apartment because I know we're both stubborn and would kill one another having to share a room. On top of that, we live different lifestyles and it just made sense to have our own space. Because of this, our parents said yes after many questions and a nice family meeting with both of our parents.
It was weird that this was actually happening. It felt too good to be true at times and there was a lot of planning and shopping that went into this transition. Fast forward many months later. We've been living together for almost three months now. Let us just say it has been interesting. We thought we spent a lot of time together before, but now it's 24/7. The "honeymoon phase" quickly went away. With worrying about school work and learning a new campus, plus being almost three hours away from home. We had other things to worry about than "oh my god, we're living together!"
People say you think you know a person until you live with them or money is involved and boy, are they right. We've always been very close and communicated relatively well throughout our relationship, but living together brings out new details in a person you did not know.
For instance, I'm a neat and a germ freak when it comes to living at college. Him, not so much. Therefore, I have to ask multiple times before something gets done. My parents would tell me this is karma because I used to be the same way. He also leaves his clothes everywhere! It drives me crazy. We also fight about things we've never fought or worried about before. Like doing the dishes or whose turn it is to cook dinner. Instead of constantly trying to find time for each other like in the past, we have started to appreciate being home and having our alone time a little more.
Overall, it has been a roller coaster ride, but I wouldn't have it any other way. After coming off such a horrible year, it is really nice having my favorite person to constantly lean on and experience life with. In the end, it'll either bring us closer together and make our relationship stronger or we'll kill each other. Stay tuned!