The 25 Rules Of Love Every College Girl Needs To Follow According To Every Hallmark Christmas Movie
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Hallmark movies are a classic staple for the Christmas season. What better movies to watch as they make gingerbread with their friends? There is something so innocent and beautiful about these happy and predictable movies. I love the pure endings and how everyone always seems to get engaged or married after three days of knowing each other.

Nobody knows how to do Christmas movies as Hallmark does and thanks to them, there are a few lessons of love to take from each cheesy line and cringe-worthy exchange.

1. Communication is key. 

Communication

Every single problem that happens in a Hallmark movie is due to the lack of communication. Either someone doesn't say what they need to, someone keeps a secret, or someone walks away during a fight and doesn't let the other explain. This creates so much unnecessary drama and if the characters would have just been honest and upfront in the first place, none of this would have happened. So rule of thumb: just communicate. It's not too hard. It will save you time and energy if you just say it then and there.

2. Your one true love is always the one you least expect. 

A Christmas Prince

Every Hallmark movie has the main character go after what she thinks she wants, and have her end up with the person she least expected in the end. It really makes you think about how maybe your one true love is so close to you, you just aren't looking in the right place.

So all business women go look for your country, small-town boy, and country girls, go after those CEO's in crisp suits. Waitresses go find your princes, and writer's struggling in New York to make ends meet, go find love from the dog walker next door.

Love is in all sorts of corners and places and all you have to do is open your mind and look up from your phone.

3. You can't find love looking down on your phone. 

Cell Phone

Let's face it, the majority of Hallmark movies portray protagonists without their phones. Sure, you will see the casual phone call to their mother or best friend, but they aren't sitting in a coffee shop scrolling through Instagram. They are out doing things with their head up high and running into guys and spilling coffee on themselves, one scene at a time.

This Christmas put your phone down and be present in the moment. Decorate the tree with your family, bake cookies, drink hot chocolate, and build a snowman. Photographs can't replace beautiful memories.

4. Baking solves any type of heartbreak. 

Hallmark Channel

Mad, because you just found out your fiancé is laundering money and cheating on you with your ex-best friend and it all came out right as you were about to get married on Christmas Eve? Well, baking solves it all. Bake some gingerbread, sugar cookies, and a fruitcake. Eventually, the flour will soak up all your tears and you'll be good to go find your REAL prince charming. He's probably waiting for you next door with mistletoe and a cute puppy dog to push you two together.

Who knows, maybe he will join you in the kitchen too and you can have cute little food fights.

5. Money doesn't matter. 

Snowball Fight

Just because he can afford dinner at the top of the highest point in New York City and buys you jewelry doesn't mean he's the catch you think he is. This goes the other way around too: just because you have a fantastic job in the city and own a penthouse on the upper east side, doesn't mean you're better than anyone else. All that matters is your heart. Luckily, according to every Hallmark movie ever, every frozen heart can be thawed.

So put away your checkbook, and focus on spending time with the ones you love. Whether that be a snowball fight, cookie making, or snuggling by the fire, it's a gift that cannot be bought.

6. If he cooks a home-cooked meal for you, don't let him go. 

Cooking

Have you ever met a Hallmark guy that didn't cook? Neither have I. It's the true way of knowing who the Hallmark hero is and more often than not, will be the breeding ground for the love to spark between the two characters. Double points if he feeds her the food.

7. Never say no when he offers you his coat. 

Coat

Does this point need further explanation?

8. If you can't be your goofiest self around him, then it's a no. 

Goofy

Relationships shouldn't be serious and boring. Make sure the guy is bringing out the best in you and makes you smile more than you frown. You shouldn't be afraid to show your goofy side with him.

9. How he decorates a tree determines how he treats relationships. 

Christmas Decorating

Does he just throw some ornaments up and walk away, calling it good? Or, does he carefully put each one on the tree, laughing with you as you celebrate Christmas together? How a guy decorates a tree determines how he treats a relationship so watch carefully. In fact, watch multiple Hallmark movies and judge how each character decorates a Christmas tree; the results will be astounding.

10. It's okay to be a little clumsy. 

Clumsy

We have all been there. Whether you tripped on the last stair or you accidentally knocked over a priceless vase... it's all the same. Luckily for you, it's not a total deal breaker and some guys even find it endearing. Just... stay away from the expensive vase's.

11. Never assume things are the way they seem. 

What

I know, it's hard to not immediately form your own opinion about someone based on what you've seen or heard. However, we should never take anything higher than face value, because sometimes, it can be false or misunderstood.

12. Family is everything. 

Family

Family is always #1 so if your significant other can't deal with them, and want you to choose, ditch him and pick your family. Boyfriends come and go but family is forever. I'm not even talking biological family. If your boyfriend can't deal with the people you love then he isn't the one you are supposed to be with. Hallmark Christmas movies are the first to point this out in almost every movie they show and emphasize on family importance.

13. Cherish love when you have it. 

Cherish

Don't take love for granted. Treat it right or else it will slip from your fingertips.

14. Everyone deserves a second chance.

Elf

Okay, this may be a stretch to say everyone, but in terms of Hallmark men, they show time and time again that second chances exist for a reason. We are all human and aren't perfect. Therefore, it's good to forgive and give someone another chance.

15. Never doubt the magic of a Christmas carol. 

Christmas

Even a simple Christmas song can stop a fight, bring two people together, or be the perfect background to a mistletoe kiss!

16. You can't find your happiness from being in a relationship. 

Elf

Love yourself and where you are at before you enter into a relationship. Having a boyfriend won't fix your life or give you happiness.

17. Don't compare him to your ex. 

Comparison

This never ends well; comparison has no room in a relationship. Get to know him for him and choose to not subject him to the standards of the last guy you dated.

18. It's the little things that matter.

Flower

Remember little things such as their favorite drink or hobby, pick a flower for them from a garden, show up at their work to say hi, etc. Even a text or phone call could change their day dramatically.

19. Have the tough conversations.

Touch Conversations

It can be uncomfortable, but they are much needed for a healthy relationship.

20. Early declarations of love are perfectly fine.

Love

Everyone is different. Saying 'I love you' after a week of dating? May be a little sudden for some people, but for others, it's the perfect timing.

21. Opposites attract. 

Opposites Attract

Christmas haters match with Christmas lovers, small-town girls match with CEO's, and it goes on. You never know who you might be best with!

22.Trust the old man to give you love advice. 

Grandpa

We may not understand them sometimes, and they may not understand us, but when push comes to shove they give out the best advice for all areas of life.

23. Don't hold grudges against exes. 

Grudges

Have you ever heard the phrase 'forgive and forget'? You will feel a lot better going through life if you are free of anger and resentment. You don't have to necessarily forgive them, but moving on with life will make you feel free.

24. When it's all said and done... dogs are better than people. 

Dogs

Who needs love when you have a dog?

25. Don't take love advice from Hallmark Christmas movies.

Hallmark Christmas Movies

While we all probably wish we lived in a Hallmark movie around the holidays, the truth is, most likely it won't happen. Real life is filled with more awkward moments, miscommunication, and cringe-worthy dates. You probably won't find your true love on a ski trip with your family in Canada. On the bright side though, we have these movies to watch over and over and fall in love with as we sip hot chocolate by the fire.

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An Open Letter To The Girl In A Toxic Relationship Who Doesn't See The Signs To Let Go

"it took letting go to realize that I was holding onto nothing" -R.H Sin

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Dear you,

I hope you're doing well. I once thought I was too. I once thought that if he would just change, for me, everything would work. However, my sweet girl, you should not have to change people, you should not have to push people to be better, for you. You cannot help anyone, that does not want to help themselves.

In the movies, we learn to love a bad boy that needs changing. However, it isn't always your job to be boys saving grace. However, his shaming and emotional abuse is not just something you should put up with so that you can love him. That is not loving.

Love is not a constant competition of who could belittle the other one first. Love is not asking for a hug and being told no. Love does not make you feel stupid for bringing up things that hurt your feelings.

Love does not grow angry because you talk to your mom about your feelings. Love does not body shame. Love does not constantly change the passcode to their phone.

Love does not laugh when you find out they're unfaithful. Love does not tell you that you are not smart enough to accomplish anything. Love does not force their hand up your thigh when the words "no" slip out of your mouth.

Love is the warmth of a hand on your cheek when you get anxious. Love is getting your backpack out the car for you. Love is turning around when you need them. Love compromises.

Love is encouraging. Love is proud. Love is forgiving. Love sees you for who you are. Love knows you are worthy.

God is your Father and you are His daughter, so do not believe for one second that this abuse is the love you think you deserve.

Love will not always be easy. Love will be challenging and a constant prayer to not anger so quickly.

However, do not mix up challenging with the abuse. If you are losing the good pieces of yourself, then it isn't love. I know that you put a lot of time and effort into this relationship, but it is no good, you are holding on to someone whose heart is not in the right place to love you.

I connected with a poem from R. H. Sin, once I left my toxic relationship which reads, "it took letting go to realize that I was holding onto nothing."

Darling girl, you are so loved by so many people, do not let this relationship hold you back or make you feel less worthy than you are. I have always been the girl with her nose stuck up in the air smelling for smoke, to follow the trail to a burning house to find a boy that needed saving, but it is more than likely a boy that lit the fire in the first place and needs changing.

So, do not be me, be better. Be the girl that lights her own world on fire, for her work, for her family, for God. You are you and you are amazing, so do not fear being without him.

You will feel as if you have come up for air after drowning in an ocean that you had no idea you were swimming in.

The emotional abuse that this boy has put you through and maybe even physical abuse will leave you building walls around your heart. It will make other relationships hard, but you are so so strong.

You will meet someone that makes you so happy and feel so easy to love, you will never understand how you stuck around with the one that hurt you for so long.

You deserve to grow from this, and I promise you will.

Let go.

xoxo,

The girl who learned from a toxic relationship

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Being Far Away From My Boyfriend Actually Strengthened Our Relationship Instead Of Forcing It Apart

While we were apart, we became closer.

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Before I really start this article, I just want to say that my relationship isn't truly a long distance relationship. We are both college students at the same university eight months out of the year, but the other four months we live quite a distance apart. Even during those four months, we are only about 150 miles from each other as the bird flies, but really about three hours from each other.

Being in a relationship where I'm not able to see my boyfriend every day or even every week has been a real challenge. But it's been a good challenge. It hasn't been a challenge because I've felt unfaithful or fallen out of love with him in any way. It's challenging because I miss him. We both work jobs and our schedules aren't the same and oftentimes we aren't able to talk to each other unless it's early in the morning or late at night. There are times when all I want to do is talk to him and tell him about how my day went and get a big bear hug from him. Unfortunately, I'm not really able to do this.

I firmly believe that being apart from each other for days, weeks, or even months have brought us closer than we could've ever imagined. We knew that this would be difficult, and we knew that there would be bad days, but we decided to power through it. It has made each time that we are able to see each other so much more special and meaningful.

Seeing each other has become more of spending time with each other than just laying around on the couch playing around on our phones. It's become really getting to know each other better and catching up on all the things we had missed. It's become a time for us to simply be in each other's presence and enjoy being able to talk face to face without a phone in the middle of us. We go on more adventurous dates, we take more pictures, and I think we would both easily say that we fall more and more in love with each other after each opportunity we have to spend time together.

Spending time together is no longer a daily activity, but it has become a right to be earned through hard work and several paychecks as travel can become expensive. We no longer take opportunities to see each other for granted, and it has made us grow closer because we aren't able to spend time together often. We look forward to the days when we won't have to worry about being apart but know that this is only a stepping stone in our relationship.

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