I Asked 15 College Guys How They Lost Their Virginity And Here Are Their Dirty Details

I Asked 15 College Guys How They Lost Their Virginity And Here Are Their Dirty Details

The good, the bad, and the ugly of losing virginity stories, brought to you from college guys.
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I recently came across this article on Odyssey:

I Asked 15 College Girls How They Lost Their Virginity And Here Are The Dirty Details

So, I decided to reach out to guys and see what their own stories were on losing their virginity. I asked around at different colleges to guys who'd be willing to share with me their intimate stories (anonymously) of sticking it in for the first time, so here are their own dirty details.

Turns out, losing one's virginity is mostly just awkward all the way around, whether you're a guy or a girl.

1. A series of unfortunate events

"I was a freshman in high school and was downstairs at my girlfriend's house. We'd been dating a year, year and a half or so. We were watching 'Supernatural' and our make-out sesh went far enough for us to both finally have sex (I was a virgin, she wasn't). It felt awesome but when things are good, they can turn to shit real quick. I was using a condom that somehow managed to fall off inside her AND her father came downstairs only a minute or two into it. She hopped off (she was wearing a skirt), and I threw a pillow over my dick and legs. Her dad then sat with us for about 20 minutes."

2. Perfect time to do it

"It was the perfect time to do it. My family wasn't in town and we were at a good time in our relationship. We kept the lights on and started slow because she was moaning in half-pleasure and half-pain. At one point, I remember freaking out because there was a little bit of blood on the condom. Afterwards, we stayed in bed and cuddled for a bit then took a hot shower."

3. Not really an ideal moment

"I was 16. It was in the back of my car, an old Xterra, and in a Kohl's parking lot. She ended up sweating so much that it dripped off her nipples and onto my chest..."

4. Gotta catch 'em all

"We were hanging out at her parents' house in the basement and watching Pokémon. We ended up turning up the volume a bit and trying out sex for the first time."

5. That's one way to find out about an allergy...

"It happened during the summer when I was 20. I was at an internship at a different university where I met this girl. We became pretty good friends, but I had no clue she was interested in me. We were hanging out with some friends and two left then one stepped out to take a phone call and next thing I know she's making out with me.

We go up to my room and I scramble to find a box of condoms. Little did I know, I'm allergic to latex, and I start freaking out because I have no clue what's going on down there. While this was happening, I also realize my whole name sounds awkward when said during intercourse. But we had some pretty awesome sex."

6. A night under the stars

"It was probably the third week we had been dating. After we had dinner together, we drove to some public baseball fields to hang out and look at the stars. But once we got there, we started making out for a little while then she said we should move to the back seats of my car, and it quickly escalated from there."

7. Low-budget

"I don't remember super well, but it was in my sister's car. I just parked it on the side of the road in this rich neighborhood after I picked her up in the middle of the night. I had a condom I bought from a gas station bathroom. It was pretty low-budget, kinda sleazy, but super fun, and she had a great taste in music."

8. When an opportunity arises

"I was 18 and dating my girlfriend from high school. We'd just gotten back from a date one night, and my father was gone. It was both our first time, and it was terrible."

9. Not everybody's ready for their first time

"After my first football game in college, this girl invited me to watch 'Harry Potter and the Sorcerer's Stone' (an invitation that was near impossible to deny as I'm an avid fan). I signed in at the front desk of her all girls' dorm. We went upstairs, and I kept three feet between us on a small futon because I didn't know she was trying to get it on like Donkey Kong.

She invited me into her bed because “the top bunk and has a better vantage point of the TV." It was rational, so I complied. We began making out and that progressed into foreplay. This is when I realized she was out of my league but didn't want to stop anything going potentially well.

Suddenly I was inside of something warm, I wasn't sure what it meant, but I was worried I may have just had sex, so I panicked, jumped down from the top bunk, grabbed most of what I brought in and left the rest as collateral. I'll never forget the way it felt running through an all girl's dorm quarter naked."

10. Just like in the movies

"I was 15. We snuck into 'The House Bunny' at a movie theater, thinking it would be a pretty good movie, and the showing was empty. The whole experience was mediocre, and I hate the movie."

11. Pop punk, pop cherries

"It was super mundane my first time. Just two high-schoolers listening to pop punk and trying to figure out what goes where."

12. When waiting is worth it

"I had been dating this girl for a while, and she was a virgin, too. We had talked about having sex pretty early on in our relationship, and she wanted to wait. I was/am head over heels for this girl, so of course, I waited patiently. We grew together, alongside one another, and eventually decided to finally have sex. It was a lazy Sunday in bed and an amazing experience. I love this girl with all of my heart, and I'm glad I got to share that first time with her. She's amazing in the sack."

13. Alcohol-induced and trying to keep some privacy

"I was 14, and I had only kissed a girl. Her mom had been feeding me alcohol all day, and her parents left for a few hours. One of her friends passed out in the closet so the girl and I laid against the door and kept it closed while we had sex."

14. May have been bad, but he's a man now

"There was this girl in my Spanish class who was 18, and she'd flirt with me in class. She even sent me nudes, which was intimidating as hell as I was a 16-year-old virgin. We ended up meeting up at a lake one night. I drove 35 minutes to get there. It was dark and we walked around before getting back into the car.

She eventually got on top of me in the back of my four-door Honda Civic, and, to be honest, it was pretty bad, and I never even finished. But I felt like the fucking man when I left and called up my buddy and told him all the dirty details as I drove back home."

15. When the emotional response just isn't there

"I lost my virginity during my senior year of high school. I remember having questions of if I was a late bloomer or not, but my girlfriend at the time was a virgin, too, so I wasn't too worried that I hadn't entered manhood yet. We had been dating for roughly half a year, and one day she told me that she was ready. I don't remember too much about the day in particular, like what day of the week it was, what the weather was like, or if I was wearing my lucky underwear or not.

But I do remember that it was at her house, and I had a good time. While I enjoyed myself physically though, I don't remember having a huge emotional reaction that I had always expected to feel after my first time. That's probably when I first realized subconsciously that my girlfriend at the time was not the person I wanted to spend the rest of my life with."

Literally, so hot RN

Literally, so hot RN

11 Thoughts You Have While Losing Your Virginity

Oh my god, it's happening!

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Everyone has an idea of how they want the first time they have sex to be like. And while you might have this idea, and you might be prepared, you definitely aren't prepared for how awkward it can be. (Or for those awkward thoughts that are racing through your mind as it's happening.) So I surveyed former virgins about they were thinking about it when they had sex for the first time.

Here are all the thoughts they had when they lost their virginity:

1. "Is it over yet?"

OK, so this one was me. But it was so BORING. He laid there and didn't do anything, I was on top and I thought it was going to hurt but it didn't... I'll let you guys connect the dots. But anyway, I lied to him said that it hurt and asked if we could stop just so it would be over.

2. "I hope I'm doing OK."

Let's be real here though, this was probably everyone.

3. "This is happening. This is happening."

Probably everyones thoughts right when things start heating up.

4. "Well, this isn't what I expected. It's nothing like the movies."

Losing your virginity is nothing like "Fifty Shades of Grey." It's more like fifty shades of red from, embarrassment and putting in work.

5. "I hope it doesn't hurt—it hurts, when is this going to end."

I would bet that a lot of girls had this thought.

6. "He's not going anywhere."

I got a bunch of these comments.

7. "She's amazing."

Once again I got a bunch of these.

8. "This is happening fast."

It probably did, one minute you're putting on Netflix and the next you're naked...

9. "Do I really want this?"

If this is what you're thinking, just stop... yes even in the middle of it.

10. "I don't want this to end."

#CantRelate

11. "Will I look any different?"

I mean you don't look like your orgasm face, but no you won't look different.

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Contrary To Popular Belief, Friends With Benefits Can Work—But Only If You’re Willing To Take 'Friends' Out Of The Equation

The beauty of being friends with benefits is that if you find someone you trust, you can have that intimacy, without any expectations or jealousy.

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I was involved in a very toxic, controlling and jealousy-fueled relationship a few years back which was why, upon breaking off from it, I swore to myself that I will never ever commit into another relationship until I truly found The One.

After all, I'll be the one to admit—the college dating scene sucks. Every time I convince myself to try going out more and to start dating again, I end up instead going on one god-awful first date after another, relying on friends to set me up with guys, and being stampeded by that anxiety-inducing responsibility of having to text, call and snapchat a boy around the clock just to convince him that I'm into him.

I never actually considered having casual relationships or god forbid—even a friends with benefits situation with any guy I met. Maybe it's just my conservative upbringing in which my parents constantly drilled it into my head that I definitely shouldn't go around messing around with a different guy each week. Or maybe it was my reluctance to give it up to some random guy I just met and consequently come off as “easy."

But then this guy came along. And he completely transformed me, and how I viewed casual relationships.

Let's just call him "John."

But John is someone who I hit it off with from the moment we met and he's probably the only guy I've met who I had a physical attraction to, but not an emotional attraction to.

I have to admit that although he portrays this “bad boy" persona on the exterior, he does truly have a kind soul on the inside which I'm usually able to see right through. But this “bad boy" image is probably why I wouldn't consider dating him in a serious relationship. I mean, because if I brought a guy like him home, my dad would most likely flip shit and my mom would throw a plant at him.

On top of that, our interests and career paths are so different from each other that it's hard to find things to relate to or build mutual respect for each other. He's graduating in a few months, heading off to grad school or perhaps even starting a entry level corporate job, and I don't ever see myself trying to commit to someone like that when I'm still stuck in school with a gazillion responsibilities to keep track of.

But well I'll put it this way—we were extremely attracted to each other, and one thing led to another and we hooked up. And as we sat next to each other talking unanimously for probably an hour after doing the deed, we both decided that we weren't looking for a relationship but that we definitely didn't want this to be some kind of one-night stand.

So we decided to be friends with benefits.

Now, I think the reason why friends with benefits is so looked down upon in our generation is that it defines everything that's wrong with dating culture today. It takes away the conventional method of wooing someone, going on a few dates and then using intimacy as a way to express your love for one another. And also, many people don't like it because it's easy to catch feelings for someone, and that's it's nearly impossible for it to actually work out.

But contrary to popular belief, it actually works.

But here's the catch: friends with benefits is NOT a balancing act of being friends and being sex partners. Rather, you have to be willing to give up one side of the equation in order to successfully obtain the other.

And in the case between me and John, we gave up trying to be “friends" in order to maintain the “benefits" and as a result, it works out perfectly.

The beauty of being "friends with benefits" is that if you find someone you trust, you can have that intimacy, without any expectations or jealousy. And if you stop considering them to be your “friend," then you don't constantly have to think about them or try to make time to see them and you don't even need to freak out if you haven't heard from them for a few days.

But when you do get to see them and get to hang out, it's just this beautiful time you both can savor and really be in the moment without having to express all your emotional thoughts and feelings. Everything is stress-free between me and John, because of the lack of expectation of trying to either make this into an intimate relationship or trying to still be “friends" on top of it.

So here's my main piece of advice to anyone who wants friends with benefits without catching feelings: do not start texting each other all the time or try seeing each other too much. Because if you do, that's when you start catching feelings and try developing something more in the relationship.

If I had the choice, I probably wouldn't have followed John on Instagram (and I encourage you not to), just so I don't ever have to have that thought of whether he was watching my Insta Story or not, or who that girl was in his picture.

My other advice is to take try to take the notion of "friends" out of the equation. As mentioned above, I feel as if most of the time when "friends with benefits" doesn't work out, it's because you both are trying so hard to keep up the "friends" part of it that it begins to blur the lines together, which leads to confusion and heartbreak.

And if you find yourself still wanting to be his "friend" after enjoying the "benefits", I would recommend you to STOP what you're doing and have a conversation with him ASAP.

Be honest, be upfront and don't impose.

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