Relationships can be tricky, difficult, and time-consuming. However, if you and your significant other are willing to put in the time and effort, your relationship can truly blossom and become a beautiful thing. Relationships in the real world are difficult enough, but they can prove to be more difficult in college. You're both focused on school, you have separate priorities, and you both may have busy schedules. Between school, work, internships, and extracurriculars, it might be hard to find the time to dedicate to your relationship.
Here are 45 questions to ask yourself if a serious relationship in college is truly worth it.
1. Is this person going to support my pursuit of education?
Make sure your priorities align.
2. Is this person going to support my career goals?
If the answer is "no," then it might be good to reconsider.
3. Is this person going to distract me from my goals?
4. Do we have the same goals in life?
6. Am I able to commit enough time to this person?
Life is hectic enough between school, work, internships, and extracurriculars.
7. Will we always fight to make our relationship work?
8. Will we be able to talk about our differences and arguments?
10. Are they good at time-management?
Especially if you're both busy college students with jobs.
11. Would I ever be willing to do long-distance if necessary?
There's the chance that upon graduating, you might find jobs and opportunities in different cities, if not states.
12. Do they respect me?
13. Do I respect them?
14. Are they understanding of my busy schedule?
16. Do they add value to my life?
17. Do I actually want a relationship or am I just lonely?
18. Are we both willing to delete dating apps?
19. Does the relationship bring out the best in both of us?
20. What do I want out of this relationship?
21. Are we both looking for something long-term?
22. Would I be comfortable introducing this person to my family?
23. Do they get along with my friends and family?
24. Will they take the time to listen to me and not jump to conclusions?
25. Do they add stress to my life?
Your partner should be someone who is there to hold you, make you feel better, and be sympathetic to what you're going through. If all they do is bring stress and pain into your life, maybe they aren't the right person for you.
26. Are they trying to change me?
Be yourself, and if that's not good enough, then the relationship isn't worth it.
27. Am I trying to change them?
If they accept you as you are, then you need to accept them as they are too.
29. Are we both willing to compromise?
30. Am I going to quit when things get tough?
31. Are they going to quit when things get tough?
32. Will this relationship hold me back?
33. Am I willing to think about my partner's feelings?
34. Is my partner willing to consider my feelings?
35. Is it worth the time and effort?
If you think you're too busy or you don't care enough to try, a serious relationship is not for you.
36. Would I be able to live with this person?
A serious relationship often means thinking long-term and thinking about the future.
37. Do they take care of me when I need them to?
38. Do they build my self-esteem?
39. Are they willing to defend me?
40. Will they get upset if I need some alone time?
41. Am I able to speak my mind?
42. Are they able to tell it like it is?
You want your partner to tell you the truth, no matter how hard it may be.
43. Are they the type of person to hold grudges?
If you aren't able to let things go and work things out, maybe college is not the time for you to have a serious relationship.
45. Are they only looking for sex?
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