Nearly Half Of All College Students Say They'd Be Embarrassed To Meet Their Partner On A Dating App
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In 2018, it's not uncommon to hear that a friend went on a date with someone from Bumble, or see YouTube Tinder horror story videos all over the internet (yes, I'm talking about you, Gabbie Hanna). Clearly, the world now is different than what our parents and grandparents experienced. Whenever I ask older people about how they met their husband/wife, they always go into elaborate detail about meeting them through a family member, at the park, etc. With consistency like that, it's hard not to wonder if online dating is ruining romance for us. So I surveyed 21 people about their opinions on the matter.

First off, I asked these 21 people if they had ever used/were currently using online dating. Of those surveyed, 18 participants admitted to using online dating at one time or another, and three said that they had never used it before. Among the online daters, the most used app was Tinder, with Bumble following closely behind.

I then asked these same people if they would be embarrassed to tell people that they met their significant other online. Surprisingly, the group was practically split in half, with 10 saying they would be embarrassed, and 11 saying that they wouldn't be. I found that result ironic because, believe it or not, 12 of the 21 people surveyed asked to be kept anonymous. And of those 12, six claimed that they wouldn't be embarrassed to admit that they met their S.O. online. If that were the case, then why keep your name private? I would argue that's contradictory.

It seems as though people might be more embarrassed than they like to admit.

The last question that I asked everyone was: Do you think online dating is making our generation's love stories less romantic? This was when people started giving lengthier responses. There were lots of different opinions. For the most part, it seems as though our generation is open to online dating and finding a lifetime partner that way, but there's still a stigma that we can't completely shake off. Check out the highlights below.

1. "Online dating just makes it easier to meet another person"

"I don't think it's less romantic. My friend met his current S.O. over an online video game, and now they're very close with each other. They still participate in behavior that would be considered very romantic and all. Online dating just makes it easier to meet another person but also ignore matches, and if you don't ignore a match then I think people are still ready to dedicate themselves to their partner."

-Anonymous, 21

2. "Yes! Where are the meet-cutes?"

-Kat, 20

3. "Meeting online seems to be more normal than we think"

"Sort of, I also understand that nowadays people are so busy and the world is so high-tech that meeting online seems to be more normal than we think. I am guilty of telling people a different story on how I met my boyfriend though."

-Deb, 21

4. "You still have to meet them in person and win them over"

"In this day and age? I think it's an alright way to meet people and see if you can hold an actual convo with them. You still have to meet them in person and win them over and stuff."

-Georgette, 21

5. "No, we had still met in person prior, but this just connected us."

-Maggie, 21

6. "You can still be pretty romantic"

"Yes and no. Like it takes away from the cute 'this is how we met' story, but your relationship can still be pretty romantic even if you did meet online."

-Sarah, 21

7. "There's a level of distrust behind phones"

"For the most part, yes. I'd prefer to meet someone in person (ex: at a bar or through mutual friends) because I feel like there's a level of distrust behind phones. You can edit your profile to be a little deceiving. In person, you get exactly what you see. But I wouldn't be embarrassed if my next boyfriend were from social media."

-Anonymous, 21

8. "It all started with him saying 'Wanna see a meme?'"

"I think it's a different type of romance which is something we have to accept. The person I'm talking to now and I met on Tinder and it all started with him saying 'Wanna see a meme?' And we've been seeing each other for almost two months now!"

-Briana, 20

9. "I'm not opposed to online dating"

"Honestly, yes. I strongly believe in organically meeting and connecting with others. But I'm not opposed to online dating, it's worked for me in the past!"

-Grace, 19

10. "You get judged for extra as a girl"

"Yes, mostly because of the stigma/embarrassment associated with it and because people aren't public about saying that they met through apps. If more people said it it would become a lot more normalized, but since it doesn't the assumption seems to be that you were on the app for hookups (which you get judged for extra as a girl)."

-Anonymous, 19

11. "Nope! I found the love of my life online."

-Anonymous, 21

12. "The romance is what comes after that"

"Not at all. You meet through apps the way you used to meet through friends, but the romance is what comes after that."

-Beth, 21

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Cuffing Season May Have Ended But That Doesn't Mean My Shot At Love Has Gone With It

Hurt leads to happiness, never stop looking for it

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This time last month, I thought I'd met a guy who would put an end to my vacant cuffing season. He checked off every box on my list and created new ones to add to it. I was in a daze and things went fast and I was perfectly fine with that. Voices in one ear said be careful, while voices in another said go for it. I let my guard down, and I got played, it's as simple as that. He got what he was after. It stung and it still does. He took a part of me with him through the door, and I don't think I'll ever get that back.

I am still coping, but I'm better than I was when it happened just two weeks ago. I'm ready to get back up on my horse and ride the trail of single life confidently again. Some may say cuffing season is over, but I have to disagree. I refuse to give up on the search for a relationship and neither should you.

Some people find their person earlier than others, and while I am jealous of that, I have to remember to remind myself that there's someone out there for everyone. He's probably figuring out life, just like I am, maybe wondering where the girl of his dreams is. I'll never know what he's up to, but I'm sure he's probably going through or has gone through similar issues. If I give up, and consume myself with the fact that I always end up single and will be forever, I'll never get anywhere in life. I know my worth and the right person will see that and snatch me up. In the meantime, there is no need to just sit around and wait for him to show up.

I'm a work in progress waiting for the mechanic to oil me up and set me free. I'm free, but I want someone to be free with if that makes sense. Yes, I'm struggling with some self-image issues at the moment, but everyone has their struggles. I'm at peace with the woman I am and am proud of how far I've come in my almost twenty-one years I've been on this Earth. You and I, we don't need to be with anyone who's anything less than what we want.

You deserve the moon and the stars and everything that lies beyond. You are priceless, and don't let anyone make you feel differently. Relationships are meant to develop as their destined to, so forcing anything won't work in anyone's favor. That being said, be open and honest with who you talk to, and let yourself be hurt. Hurt leads to happiness, whether we see it that way at the moment or not.

I've had my moments of hoping that boy will message me again, professing how sorry he is, and asking for another chance. I'm a forgiving person, so I try and hear everyone out, even if it's against my better judgment. I know that this trial is just leading on to someone better, and I refuse to let myself give up because a few busybodies think cuffing season is over.

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Having A 'Talking Stage' Proves Why Millennials Just Suck At Dating

Because who actually "commits" in 2019?

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As a millennial who is currently in college, I've noticed that dating isn't how it used to be like back in 1995. We are the generation that can't live without our phones, are tech-savvy, and sadly, the ones who suck at dating.

This is not another bitter article because I "don't have a man," or I'm "jealous of what people have." In fact, I am actually in a good place and I am speaking on behalf of what I've seen. I'm tired of my friends coming up to me crying because their "man-who-isn't-really-their-man" isn't acting right.

I've seen more friends with benefits and flings rather than relationships.

Maybe I'm different, but I can't imagine just being around someone only to have sex. After a while, that gets extremely boring and if you have nothing else to offer, you just get "ghosted" instead of telling that person how you really feel.

See, in my opinion, that's the problem with this generation. Sex is considered meaningless now and it is basically easy to get. With all of these dating apps swirling around, it's almost impossible to avoid it. People would rather have meaningless sex than get to know a person and commit. It's like every time the word "commitment" or "relationship" is brought up, that person runs away. But they're so comfortable to have sex.

What really irritates me is that after two weeks, a lot of guys, in particular, get mad when a girl asks him to get rid of his "hoes" or "other girls he's talking to," but still expect a girl to drop their pants after talking to them for two hours.

That's another thing too. Let's talk about the "talking stage." So basically, by INFORMAL definition, the "talking stage" is basically when two people just TALK before dating. Did you make a face yet? Because that exists now. But seriously, talking about WHAT honestly? Don't you do that when you're I don't know, DATING? And even during the talking stage, people still have sex, which makes no sense to me. You guys aren't dating but you're not dealing with anyone else. In fact, they'll get mad when you're hooking up with someone else. And when you start to catch feelings, it ends with "Oh, I'm not ready for a relationship right now."

So what exactly are we doing then?

Wasting my time?

Imagine filling out a relationship status on a ballot or something and the options are; "single," "married," "widowed," or "we're talking." And no, that's not what "it's complicated" is for.

It's sad because I feel as if this generation forgot how to love again. There are many people who are currently in relationships who are lucky. But for the rest of this generation, people would rather bang it out then talk it out. And people would rather "talk" than "date." I mean, what's wrong with both? If you're happy with what you are doing, then do what ever you want girl! If you are in this situation and you're unhappy, then what exactly do you want? Attention is nice, but after a while, if that person isn't really fulfilling your needs, what's the point of being with them then?

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