Rape, by definition, is a type of sexual assault that involves intercourse against or without the consent of another person.
This leads the knowledgeable person to believe that of course, no means no, and yes means that someone won't call "rape" just because they regret a life decision.
Of course, rape does not stand as either black or white, but the answer of either yes or no does.
Claiming rape when you were not really raped takes emphasis away from someone who has actually experienced the tragedy of true rape. It is disgusting to know that there are still monsters out there that think it's okay to take advantage of anyone without their consent. However, if you claim that you were raped but you clearly gave consent, do not think that it's okay to say that you were taken advantage of sexually. The truth is, you don't know what it's like so stop grouping yourself into the horror that you don't want to be tied to.
If you feel uncomfortable after giving consent, then by all means, use that two letter word that everyone has put so much stress on. If after that word has been spoken and an action that you don't like is still being continued, then and only then do you have the right to claim rape. Until then, don't blame another person for a decision that you regret.
Rape is rape if you say no. Rape is not rape if you say yes and then regret it. Rape is rape if you say no halfway through. Rape is not rape if you give consent. Point blank, do not claim rape if it didn't actually happen.
Do not say that you have been raped based on false standards - possibly ones that you created yourself. How is that fair for true survivors? In addition, if you think that other person on the other side of your accusation doesn't matter, then maybe they should think that you don't matter either. Fair? Not really.
My heart goes out to the true survivors of what rape actually is. If you ever need support, please call the National Sexual Assualt Hotline ( 1-800-656-4673 ) or visit the online chat to get the help that you need and deserve.