23 Millennial Couples Confess What Their Biggest Disagreements Are

23 Millennial Couples Confess What Their Biggest Disagreements Are

Know when to draw the line, know when to kiss and make up.

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The "honeymoon phase" doesn't last forever. Any relationship has disagreements, but sometimes they can be much bigger than a simple miscommunication. Sometimes they can end everything.

Whether your significant other is close to home or long distance, whether you've been dating for a couple months or several years, odds are there has been trouble in paradise.

I asked 23 millennial couples to answer three simple questions about what the biggest disagreements in their relationships were about.

1. What are the biggest disagreements you and your significant other have?

1. Him hiding which of my friends he had slept with in the past, me demanding consistent communication

2. Not talking enough

3. About how to handle conflict with others

4. Money and lack of time together due to our jobs

5. His idiot friend

6. Jealousy

7. Who gets the final say

8. Throw pillows

9. Time management and how often to see each other

10. The frequency of communication and intimacy, emotional closeness

11. Time balance, budgets, and life goals

12. Driving

13. Money, sex, health

14. He doesn't have time for me, won't make time for me

15. Drinking too much

16. Caring more about her friends than she does me

17. Social media

18. Him skipping school, him not thinking forward, sex

19. Money and time spent with others (until the VERY late hours of the night)

20. Politics

21. To have kids or not

22. Females he sees as friends but that I know are more interested in him

23. Religious ideas

Are there any reoccurring disagreements? If so, what are they about?

1. Same as above

2. My spending habits and how they are not his business, but how they still affect our relationship

3. Just about being passive and not dealing directly with the issue

4. Typically we are fighting about the way money gets spent, but also we are both overworked and stressed out when we have these arguments

5. His idiot friend

6. Certain friends

7. Many disagreements

8. Nope

9. Same as above

10. When my S.O. is disrespectful or mean, when we aren't able to spend enough time together or starting to spend too much time together, texting vs calling

11. Yes... all of the above, not initiating in the relationship and not feeling loved and cared about in the way I want

12. The balance of time together vs friends/family

13. Driving

14. Money, sex, health

15. He doesn't give me enough time because he's so focused on everything else

16. Personal motivation

17. Social media

18. Him skipping school, because I want to be with someone who is motivated

19. Yes, politics. I am left wing and he is right wing, we don't discuss politics now and we almost never argue anymore

20. To have kids or not

21. No

22. His "best friend." Who completely ignores my existence even though we've been dating for six months. She makes sure she's next to him in all group pictures, still invites him as her plus one to things, etc. But he doesn't see it as weird. "She's just awkward" is what he says when I bring up her not talking to me

23. Communication issues, trust/jealousy issues

Have you ever ended a relationship based on a disagreement? If so, what was it?

1. No

2. Yes, because of a lack of equal effort in a long distance relationship

3. I ended a relationship because the other was not taking it as seriously as I was. We had been together for about six months and still most of the time, he just wanted to hook up and he was very sketchy about some things. I told him that I was at the point of my life where (I was 21) I was ready to find someone who wanted to settle down and do life with me., not just hook up. He didn't agree, I left.

4. I have, and I will again to maintain my connection to The Boy. All else is secondary to Him

5. Yes, religious and moral differences

6. I end relationships if/when I'm not interested in being in it anymore. Sometimes that's the other person treating me poorly or sometimes when I don't want to lead the other person on

7. Never

8. Yes, my ex was still accepting his brother who was a pedophile, and I refused

9. Nope

10. Yes, for keeping around people because they are backups for if we broke up

Do any of these sound familiar? A disagreement can be about something minor or major. How the two of you choose to respond or not, though, is what dictates how it affects your relationship.

A little bump in the road is nothing new to any of us, and odds are we'll always encounter them. Know when to draw the line, know when to kiss and make up.

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To The Woman Who Needs To Be Wanted, Don’t Let Men Be Your Vice

It will only make you begin to despise yourself.
Cai Parks
Cai Parks
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By definition, a vice is a habitual or trivial defect... a shortcoming. Everyone has a vice.

Mine was men.

I always felt abandoned by the men in my life. I always clung to the opinions and attention of the boys around me...fighting for it in any way I could.

When I was younger, it was easy to get the attention of the boys my age by just dressing cute and having a bubbly personality.

As I got older though, I noticed that I was having to work harder and harder for their attention. Eventually, it turned into me feeling like I had to give myself to them in any way they asked to get their attention.

So that’s what I did.

I used my body as a way to fill some kind of void that I thought could be filled with the love of a man.

As the years went on, I felt myself clinging to not their love, but their lust.

I no longer cared about their love.

I just wanted to hear them call me hot, sexy, or beautiful. I knew they were using me.

I didn’t care.

I needed them to want me.

I needed them to beg.

I needed to feel needed.

For any woman who might feel as though a man’s lust for you can fill that deep void in your heart, take a step back. Trivial, temporary things like that will only make your heart heavier.

It will only make you begin to despise yourself.

There’s nothing wrong with living life the way you want or with who you want, but don’t use that lifestyle simply as a way to make you feel wanted.

Because my Prince Charming came into my life and I no longer needed any other man.

I finally felt truly loved and he helped me to learn that even without him, I would be more than a body.

He helped me see that I was a body, face, brain, smile, laugh, personality, and everything in between.

I am a strong woman now that I know my worth.

You are a strong woman.

Show your strength.

Know your worth.

Cover Image Credit: @thersagrant/Instagram
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Everything You Should Know Before Dating A Fitness Instructor

Sex, weights, cheat meal dates.

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As a fitness trainer, I know how much we love our job. How much we love the people we help and encourage. How much we never want to stop doing what we do. Yet, it's not all sunshine and rainbows. My boyfriend has to put up with some things that probably, kinda sorta are unconventional. But, he's living his dream (his words).

No matter what they teach, personal training, yoga, pilates, barre, HIIT, I could go on and on, but either way, they are passionate about the people they work with. This fire follows them throughout their life and will most definitely influence you.

1. Constant practicing

Don't be alarmed if you wake up to find her up and about practicing her routines for a class/client.

2. Gushing about a client who has been killing it 

No matter how much of a tough cookie we are, clients touch our hearts.

3. She's flexible

You. Are. Welcome. My best friends always introduce me to guys with, "She's really flexible ;)"

4. There's a routine, stick to it

We may be flexible, but don't come between her and her schedule. She is supported by her routine.

5. You are now a fitness class guinea pig

She needs you to help her rehearse. Approach her practice tests with enthusiasm and just have fun.

6. She'll never judge you

Don't ever feel pressured or intimidated. We love you for you. And, news flash, we are not perfect.

7. Always learning

Learning never ends. Learning new routines, learning new people, learning new emotions, learning new approaches to life.

8. And always eating

Teaching a few classes a day is tough on the body. We need our snacks. All. The. Time.

9. Stretches before bed... every night

No matter how tiring and long the day was, she will make sure to fit it a quick bend and no break.

10. The funny things that happened during class

Story time: One time I taught and my pants ripped. Only made the class more fun!

11. Shaker bottle vases

There's no need for vases, when shaker bottles do you justice. The first time my boyfriend brought home roses, I didn't have a vase so we improvised and used a shaker bottle. Now, that's the only vase we will ever need.

12. Free personal training

It's your dream come true. Fitness is at your right hand at all times. Plus, we will be pumped to start talking to you about our passion.

13. She talks endlessly about how well/not well your class went

Sometimes we kill it and sometimes... we fall a little short.

14.  Chugging water

We need to stay hydrated! Plus, she'll be your water tracker as she bugs you to drink with her. Shots! Shots! Shots (of water)!

15. Team work makes the dream work

There is no "I" in team and fitness instructors know the strength of collaboration and support. No one can go through journey a journey alone.

16. She wakes you up early to go on a run

Let's take a jog to the beach and watch the sunrise!

17. Protein, protein, and more protein

She doesn't have to be a weight lifter to assure that she nourishes her body with enough protein (from any source you prefer). My cupboard is always stocked with lentils and chickpeas.

18. Watching her watch fitness videos to get ideas

While you're reading the news, scrolling through Instagram, or just chilling out, she'll be watching workout videos or saving posts from fitness accounts.

19. Goes to bed super early

We need at least eight hours of beauty sleep and, let's be real, we are grandpas.

20.  She lives off of Spotify playlists

Wait, do you hear that song? What's it called, I need to add it to my workout playlist. Plus, she loves to sing (even if she isn't that good).

21.  Pulse 2, 3, 4

While she does chores, she'll start reciting her catchphrases and mantras.

22.  She's your forever cheerleader

Getting out of bed? If you don't squeeze it, no one else will! Washing the dishes? Let's go, you've got this! Running to the bathroom? One more minute! 30 more seconds! Mowing the lawn? You better feel it tomorrow!

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