If You're A College Kid In Love And Ready For The Next Step, Talk About Your Finances
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Dating in college is exciting. While many are still in their "exploring" phase of dating and hookups, others are getting ready to settle down with that special someone. A big part of settling down with someone is getting over some pretty big marks in your relationship. Whether that's going to the bathroom while they brush their teeth or finally letting one rip in front of the other, you have to be comfortable with your significant other in order to take it to the next level.

There's many things you should go over when moving into a "serious" relationship. The most important one, is often shoved in the back of the closet because people don't want to talk about it— finances.

That's right. Finances. You need to be able to talk to your significant other about finances on both sides.

The stereotypical "don't tell people what you make" phrase, needs to get thrown out the window.

In order to start a life with someone, (a.k.a. living together) you need to be able to discuss finances together. You need to know what they make. They need to know what you make. Without the knowledge of finances, you won't be able to balance the payments needed of living together.

How to pay for groceries, how to pay the mortgage or rent, how to pay utilities, and everything else you can imagine.

When you're with someone and want to continue being with them for a long time, you need to be comfortable to talk about anything and everything. If you can't, your relationship really won't progress into a happy and healthy state. I understand if you've only been dating for a short time. But if you've been dating for a couple years and plan on living together or even getting married, you need to talk about it.

Neither of you should care if one makes more money than the other. It's no longer a one-way street. You two are becoming a team and you need to work like one. You have to combine forces and both of your knowledge and use it to your advantage. Without that necessary knowledge, you're going to go day by day wondering how things are going to get done.

I know it seems silly. But it's becoming real life. This is adulthood and a part of that is learning to tackle life on your own. The bright side is that, you don't have to do it alone.

So grab your partner, sit them down and pop the question.

"How much do you make? And how can we make life easier?"

Here are 5 tips for how to pop the finance question:

1. Pick a night where neither of you have anything planned.

You want to be able to sit down and talk about it without constantly looking at the clock.

2. Make sure it's just to the two of you.

Nobody needs to have their best friend or parents involved. Only you two.

3. Have examples ready.

When my boyfriend and I talked about finances, he was a little confused at first. I specified that one of us could take care of the mortgage payments, the other could take care of groceries/cable, etc. Having examples of how to split it up can be an eye opener.

4. Don't pry.

Yes, you should talk about your finances, but if it's still too early for them to talk about it, don't harass them. Let them know that it's something you two should think about and that for a well growing relationship, this will help. But if you pry at them you may push them away.

5. Remember: this is to make BOTH your lives easier.

If you're the one bringing up the conversation of finances, I can see how it can be nerve wracking to either sides. While it may seem like their trying to control your life, all you're doing is making life easier for the both of you. You are a team, nobody is in control of the other and that is the BIGGEST thing to remember!

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To The Man Who Gave Me The World And Never Stopped Trying To Do So

Even though I don't say it enough, you really do bring me sunshine every day.

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To the man who has given me the world,

I feel like I never truly do give you the appreciation you deserve. After full two years of dating someone that I look up to, you have shown me ways of life no one has before.

I know there are so many girls out there writing letters to their boyfriends online, and I might just be another one of those girls, but this is more of a thank you than a love letter.


Thank you for picking me back up when no one else would.

Through all the fake friends who have backstabbed me multiple times and for all the girls who I have lost as friends, you knew I was stuck in such a tough situation and you still continued to make it better. You were the one who put a smile back onto my face and you were the one who took me out and brought me out of my comfort zone so I can find a new meaning of happiness.

Thank you for understanding my anger.

Sometimes I get angry, and I get into bad moods that I can't control. For some reason you understand it, and you don't push me for answers. You know I will open up sooner or later and the time might not be now but it might be later and you understand that and you accept that. That is all I ever asked for, for someone to not push my buttons when I don't want them pushed.


Thank you for making me laugh when I feel like crying.

You always know when I'm upset, but you won't push me past my limit. You crack dumb jokes and do stupid things that will make me laugh till my stomach hurts, and it usually ends up working. Even through the hardest of times when I have to fight back tears and get rid of the choking feeling in my throat, you manage to get rid of it so fast by making me laugh so hard that the tears that do come out aren't from sadness.

Thank you for always taking care of me.

It feels good to know someone always has your back and will always take care of me. Even through my car accident and the injuries I got, you still took the time out of your day to take me to my doctor's appointments. You massaged my back, made me food, and gave me all the blankets I could possibly ever need. You will kiss me a million times no matter how sick I am. You do all of this to make sure I'm okay and I'm alive and I'm more than grateful for that.

Thank you for always putting me first.

You put my happiness before yours constantly. You will do anything for me. I wanted to go to college in Florida and you dropped everything and followed me, You left all of your best friends behind because you wanted to continue your life with me. You've skipped English class more times than I can count to take me to my physical therapy appointments, or my injection appointments, You've done more for me than you have for yourself.


Thank you for being my person.

Not sure how my life would be if I didn't have you in it. You've been in it for so long that it would be too hard to let you go. You know me more than I know myself. You know what makes me smile so hard. You know how eggs literally are so gross to me. You know how to make me fall asleep in seconds (a secret no one else knows). You know how my biggest pet peeve is horrible drivers. You know how lemonade is my favorite drink of all time. You know how I wait 3 weeks to do laundry. You know how I suck at saving money. You know what shows to put on to make me fall asleep at night. You know every little thing about me, and there is no one else in the world that knows so much about me. You are my person, my forever person.

Thank you for giving me the world and for continuing to do so. Thank you for being you.

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8 Reasons Dating A Girl With A Dog Will Make You Feel Like The Goodest Boy

Because a girl with dogs are a special type of person

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Having is dog can be compared to having a child, I mean, in more ways than one having a dog is waaaay better than having a child. They will love you no matter what, and will even try and kiss your face after you yelled at them. But girls with a dog, know how to love harder, better, than any normal, old girl.

People who don't like dogs are NOT to be trusted.

1. Girls with dogs make friends so much easier than girls without

Think about it, girls loving having things in common with other people (especially if it's another female in your life). So, once the word is out that your friend has a dog they will be able to have a full conversation instead of trying to make eye contact with you with their world famous "can we go" face.

Your girl will be busy taking about the tricks that little Roofus knows and you will be busy catching up with your "bros" and thinking about how amazing your girlfriend is.

2. They already have "mom instincts" 

Ok, this is the most amazing one. Because they are always taking care of their puppy dog, they are always aware of feeding time, when they have to go to the bathroom. And just like any mom, they are willing to DIE for their dog (I mean who wouldn't?).

So, what that means is that your girlfriend is PERFECT wifey material, she will be willing to make you lunch, and worry about if you are safe on your ride home.

She may even ask you if you need to use the bathroom, or if you have all day *wink*

3. Girls with dogs DEFINE loyalty 

Whether it's her dog is just a puppy or even one that she grew up with, the loyalty to actually have that dog for it's whole life is incomprehensible. I mean she already made a "life-long commitment" what have you done?

4. They are EXTREMELY forgiving people. 

Remember what I said about getting kisses after she would yell at a dog (you know, the opposite of what having a kid looks like)? Well, just as much as dogs are forgiving so is your girlfriend! Dogs can literally ruin your life while making you the happiest human ever.

Sounds weird right?

No, males cannot do the same things as dogs BUT good try though. Case in point, dogs can chew almost anything they can fit in their mouth, like new shoes, homework, the painting you worked on for hours and hours and guess what? In a few minutes, their pup will be loved like nothing ever happened.

Yes, sir, this could be you.

5. They love the outdoors 

I mean, where do dogs love to be?

OUTDOORS!

So, it's only right your boo loves it too! That means that easy picnic dates in the park are a MUST and frankly are easy to do. Just make sure that you bring treats for her #1.

No, I'm not talking about you, I'm talking about the dog. ;)

6. But, they are also "chill" with Netflix and Chill. 

Another place your lady loves to be?

Yep, you guessed it! HOME.

This is another simple date idea and a way that you can seriously win your ladies heart. They fear leaving their pup alone because I mean, it makes them sad. So, you can completely dodge that bullet and just choose to put on a movie, make some pasta and cuddle up with her.

But make sure you are leaving room for the pup.

(TIP: Always leave room for the pup.)

7. They are SO much easier to buy for. 

YES, I said it. They are NOT materialistic. Simply just make sure that you are buying a new sweater, or new treats for their doggo and you are SET.

Seriously, no really expensive diamonds or purses just treats.

8. They already know how to LOVE someone. 

Like really, really love someone. I mean they obviously already have a first love so they have been around the park or two. They know how to commit, build trust and just know how to be there for someone at all times.

You're #winning, bro.

So do yourself a favor, love a lady with a doggo.

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