If You're A College Kid In Love And Ready For The Next Step, Talk About Your Finances
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Dating in college is exciting. While many are still in their "exploring" phase of dating and hookups, others are getting ready to settle down with that special someone. A big part of settling down with someone is getting over some pretty big marks in your relationship. Whether that's going to the bathroom while they brush their teeth or finally letting one rip in front of the other, you have to be comfortable with your significant other in order to take it to the next level.

There's many things you should go over when moving into a "serious" relationship. The most important one, is often shoved in the back of the closet because people don't want to talk about it— finances.

That's right. Finances. You need to be able to talk to your significant other about finances on both sides.

The stereotypical "don't tell people what you make" phrase, needs to get thrown out the window.

In order to start a life with someone, (a.k.a. living together) you need to be able to discuss finances together. You need to know what they make. They need to know what you make. Without the knowledge of finances, you won't be able to balance the payments needed of living together.

How to pay for groceries, how to pay the mortgage or rent, how to pay utilities, and everything else you can imagine.

When you're with someone and want to continue being with them for a long time, you need to be comfortable to talk about anything and everything. If you can't, your relationship really won't progress into a happy and healthy state. I understand if you've only been dating for a short time. But if you've been dating for a couple years and plan on living together or even getting married, you need to talk about it.

Neither of you should care if one makes more money than the other. It's no longer a one-way street. You two are becoming a team and you need to work like one. You have to combine forces and both of your knowledge and use it to your advantage. Without that necessary knowledge, you're going to go day by day wondering how things are going to get done.

I know it seems silly. But it's becoming real life. This is adulthood and a part of that is learning to tackle life on your own. The bright side is that, you don't have to do it alone.

So grab your partner, sit them down and pop the question.

"How much do you make? And how can we make life easier?"

Here are 5 tips for how to pop the finance question:

1. Pick a night where neither of you have anything planned.

You want to be able to sit down and talk about it without constantly looking at the clock.

2. Make sure it's just to the two of you.

Nobody needs to have their best friend or parents involved. Only you two.

3. Have examples ready.

When my boyfriend and I talked about finances, he was a little confused at first. I specified that one of us could take care of the mortgage payments, the other could take care of groceries/cable, etc. Having examples of how to split it up can be an eye opener.

4. Don't pry.

Yes, you should talk about your finances, but if it's still too early for them to talk about it, don't harass them. Let them know that it's something you two should think about and that for a well growing relationship, this will help. But if you pry at them you may push them away.

5. Remember: this is to make BOTH your lives easier.

If you're the one bringing up the conversation of finances, I can see how it can be nerve wracking to either sides. While it may seem like their trying to control your life, all you're doing is making life easier for the both of you. You are a team, nobody is in control of the other and that is the BIGGEST thing to remember!

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11 Things The Man You Love Should Do For You, No Questions Asked

Sometimes it's just the simple things in life that mean a lot.

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Every girl feels special when the guy she's dating does simple things for her that not everyone thinks about. Here's a list of 10 things that every girl genuinely appreciates.

1. Open/Hold the door

I feel like this one is really simple because everyone has to walk through doors. Chivalry isn't dead, let him open the door for you. He's not trying to prove that you can't do it for yourself, but he's trying to be polite and show you that he cares for you.

2. Give you really big hugs

Everyone has bad days, and sometimes you just need a really big hug. Whether it be a bear hug or the hug where he picks you up and spins you around, it will make you feel better in the long run.

3. Buy you really small gifts

One of the best things my boyfriend has ever done for me is simply bringing me a Dr. Pepper when he knows I'm tired from a long hard day full of exams or work. Sonic slushes will also make my day in a heartbeat.

4. Text/Call you just to tell you he loves you

This is pretty simple. It takes less than 10 seconds to text, and only a few minutes to call. Sometimes you get these texts right at the perfect moment, and it makes you feel so much better.

5. Come see you when you're sick

Everyone hates being sick. But seeing your friends and family while you're sick can make you feel so much better. Having your boyfriend come to see you and possibly even take care of you just makes being sick that much easier.

6. Respect your decisions

You're not married yet, so your decisions are up to you! He should respect the decisions you make and support you, even if it's not what he thinks is the best decision. After all, you know yourself better than anyone else!

7. Give you a shoulder to cry on

We all have bad days, and sometimes you just can't stop the tears from coming. Even if he's not good with crying, he should give you hugs and love to help you get through it.

8. Compliment you

Even if you look horrible and know so, hopefully, he'll still tell you that you look good. Even if the clothes you're wearing aren't his style, he should still tell you that they look good on you and that you are beautiful each and every day.

9. Call you when you're away or he's away

If you're like me, I miss my boyfriend after being away for about three hours, so when we're apart for more than a couple days, I love getting random calls from him when he knows I'm not busy. It's definitely better than a text.

10. Deal with all your annoying quirks

So if you're anything like me, you enjoy screaming music as loudly and horribly as you can in the car and making a complete fool of yourself, but he should love you for that anyway. I also love to take really stupid pictures, and he should put up with that too. He shouldn't be annoyed by your quirks, he should love them and laugh along with you.

11. Love you no matter what

I honestly feel like this goes without saying, but I put it on here so that the girls who don't feel like they're being loved no matter what can realize. He should want to work out problems with you instead of calling it quits and holding a grudge. He should want you to be happy and support you in every decision you make in life. When he loves you unconditionally, he will do all of the above things and more.

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If You View Being In A Relationship As 'Losing Your Freedom,' You’re In The Wrong Relationship

Someone had to say it.

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Relationships are about being the best possible version of yourself separate and together. They're about growing with and doing life alongside your partner. They're fun, loving, and granted, they can sometimes be challenging.

Some challenges that frequently come up in relationships are disagreements (which are for sure gonna happen, because you're two individual people!), dealing with stress, and depending on where you're at in life, it could also be financial struggles. Of course, all relationships are going to have problems and everything won't always be “rainbows and butterflies" as Maroon 5 like to put it.

That being said though, one challenge that shouldn't ever be an issue in a relationship is the loss of freedom. Where did this idea come from?

I see it all the time, people talking about not wanting to get into a relationship because they don't want to "lose their freedom".

If you are in a relationship which causes you to lose your freedom, you are 100% in the wrong relationship.

Being in a relationship is not synonymous with not being able to be yourself or be able to do what you want. In a good relationship, you will be able to still have your alone time, be your own person, hang out with your friends, the list goes on and on. All of these things are so important. Relationships should never consume your life, they should complement it.

Why is this even a conversation we need to be having? Seriously.

Now obviously if you're referring to losing the option of getting with other people or dating around, then yes, you're right, you absolutely shouldn't get into a relationship... but that doesn't mean relationships mean losing your freedom.

If you are in a relationship with someone you love and respect, getting with other people isn't even going to be on your radar. It truly is that simple.

The trend of hating on relationships, for this reason, has gotten so out of hand in recent years, especially on social media. It's so frustrating, though, because it could not be any more inaccurate.

You should absolutely still have freedom in relationships. You can have it. I for one absolutely have it and do not view my relationship as the loss of freedom, at all. If you don't, maybe evaluate that relationship and realize it's not the best one to be in.

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