I Met My Boyfriend Playing Video Games And He Drove 2,000 Miles To Come See Me In Person
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I have always been a hopeless romantic.

I found love in the weirdest most unexpected way. I never thought I would find love on a video game, and if someone told me a year ago that I would meet my best friend and lover on a game I would have laughed at them. But it happened and I soon found myself in a long distance relationship.

I met my boyfriend playing Fortnite, I would randomly play with random people online when I was bored and to pass time. When playing with random people one day I ran into someone I soon could not imagine ever losing. The only problem was he lived In Arizona and I live in Michigan so that means he is 2,000 miles away from me...

It started out as a friendship.

We would play many hours every day together, learning new things as we both played a game together we enjoyed. We became best friends and began telling each other everything. After a month of playing every day together, we started FaceTiming and having long conversations on the phone.

I fought the feelings for a couple of weeks knowing that the distance was just too much and it seemed like a childish thought to think that anything could possibly work.

What I did not know was that the boy I was secretly crushing on 2,000 miles away, felt the same exact way I did. One night on the phone he told me he had feelings for me and it was so much more than a friendship to him. The news excited me but also scared me because that number of miles in between was always going to be there.

Even though I was scared I knew that it felt so right and I could not hold myself back like I have many times before in the past. One late night he told me he was going to come visit me. Within a couple of weeks he was on a plane to meet me for the first time.

I have never felt nerves like I felt the night he flew into the Detroit Airport. I woke up early that morning and tried on ten different outfits running around my apartment like a lunatic. I could not even believe it was happening. The plan was that he was going to stay for a week and we were not going to force anything but just enjoy each others company.

The night I picked him up from the airport he called me and told me he was walking out the terminal to where the cars were parked. I looked out of my best friends car window and saw him walking towards the car and my heart dropped. This is the moment I have thought about countless times for the past month and a half and it was finally coming true. I quickly got out of the vehicle and ran towards him. Immediately hugging him. It honestly felt like I was in a scene like I have seen in the movies as a little girl.

His first trip out here ended up turning out amazing! After a week of going on many dates and getting to know each other more, we soon came to realize that our feelings for each other were just too much to ignore. He was only supposed to stay a week but ended up staying almost two whole weeks extending his stay because he just simply did not want to go home.

We ended the trip on a good note and decided that even though there was going to be a distance between us we wanted to make it work and be in a relationship. I was scared because this was going to be my first relationship where distance was a huge factor but I knew that he was the one I wanted to be with.

Not even two weeks after him leaving he texted me one day and told me he couldn't do the distance and he was going to move here. He packed up his car that night and headed back to Michigan. He drove all through the night only stopping once in Texas and was quickly back knocking on my apartment door.

He has been living with me for four months now and things could not be better. Every day is a journey and this love story has been one of the craziest journeys in my life so far.

But it continues to challenge and excite me every day.

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An Open Letter To The Girl In A Toxic Relationship Who Doesn't See The Signs To Let Go

"it took letting go to realize that I was holding onto nothing" -R.H Sin

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Dear you,

I hope you're doing well. I once thought I was too. I once thought that if he would just change, for me, everything would work. However, my sweet girl, you should not have to change people, you should not have to push people to be better, for you. You cannot help anyone, that does not want to help themselves.

In the movies, we learn to love a bad boy that needs changing. However, it isn't always your job to be boys saving grace. However, his shaming and emotional abuse is not just something you should put up with so that you can love him. That is not loving.

Love is not a constant competition of who could belittle the other one first. Love is not asking for a hug and being told no. Love does not make you feel stupid for bringing up things that hurt your feelings.

Love does not grow angry because you talk to your mom about your feelings. Love does not body shame. Love does not constantly change the passcode to their phone.

Love does not laugh when you find out they're unfaithful. Love does not tell you that you are not smart enough to accomplish anything. Love does not force their hand up your thigh when the words "no" slip out of your mouth.

Love is the warmth of a hand on your cheek when you get anxious. Love is getting your backpack out the car for you. Love is turning around when you need them. Love compromises.

Love is encouraging. Love is proud. Love is forgiving. Love sees you for who you are. Love knows you are worthy.

God is your Father and you are His daughter, so do not believe for one second that this abuse is the love you think you deserve.

Love will not always be easy. Love will be challenging and a constant prayer to not anger so quickly.

However, do not mix up challenging with the abuse. If you are losing the good pieces of yourself, then it isn't love. I know that you put a lot of time and effort into this relationship, but it is no good, you are holding on to someone whose heart is not in the right place to love you.

I connected with a poem from R. H. Sin, once I left my toxic relationship which reads, "it took letting go to realize that I was holding onto nothing."

Darling girl, you are so loved by so many people, do not let this relationship hold you back or make you feel less worthy than you are. I have always been the girl with her nose stuck up in the air smelling for smoke, to follow the trail to a burning house to find a boy that needed saving, but it is more than likely a boy that lit the fire in the first place and needs changing.

So, do not be me, be better. Be the girl that lights her own world on fire, for her work, for her family, for God. You are you and you are amazing, so do not fear being without him.

You will feel as if you have come up for air after drowning in an ocean that you had no idea you were swimming in.

The emotional abuse that this boy has put you through and maybe even physical abuse will leave you building walls around your heart. It will make other relationships hard, but you are so so strong.

You will meet someone that makes you so happy and feel so easy to love, you will never understand how you stuck around with the one that hurt you for so long.

You deserve to grow from this, and I promise you will.

Let go.

xoxo,

The girl who learned from a toxic relationship

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Being Far Away From My Boyfriend Actually Strengthened Our Relationship Instead Of Forcing It Apart

While we were apart, we became closer.

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Before I really start this article, I just want to say that my relationship isn't truly a long distance relationship. We are both college students at the same university eight months out of the year, but the other four months we live quite a distance apart. Even during those four months, we are only about 150 miles from each other as the bird flies, but really about three hours from each other.

Being in a relationship where I'm not able to see my boyfriend every day or even every week has been a real challenge. But it's been a good challenge. It hasn't been a challenge because I've felt unfaithful or fallen out of love with him in any way. It's challenging because I miss him. We both work jobs and our schedules aren't the same and oftentimes we aren't able to talk to each other unless it's early in the morning or late at night. There are times when all I want to do is talk to him and tell him about how my day went and get a big bear hug from him. Unfortunately, I'm not really able to do this.

I firmly believe that being apart from each other for days, weeks, or even months have brought us closer than we could've ever imagined. We knew that this would be difficult, and we knew that there would be bad days, but we decided to power through it. It has made each time that we are able to see each other so much more special and meaningful.

Seeing each other has become more of spending time with each other than just laying around on the couch playing around on our phones. It's become really getting to know each other better and catching up on all the things we had missed. It's become a time for us to simply be in each other's presence and enjoy being able to talk face to face without a phone in the middle of us. We go on more adventurous dates, we take more pictures, and I think we would both easily say that we fall more and more in love with each other after each opportunity we have to spend time together.

Spending time together is no longer a daily activity, but it has become a right to be earned through hard work and several paychecks as travel can become expensive. We no longer take opportunities to see each other for granted, and it has made us grow closer because we aren't able to spend time together often. We look forward to the days when we won't have to worry about being apart but know that this is only a stepping stone in our relationship.

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