32 Date Ideas That Give Guys No Excuse To Say 'What Do You Want To Do?'

32 Date Ideas That Give Guys No Excuse To Say 'What Do You Want To Do?'

A little cheat sheet for your boyfriend.
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"What do you want to do?"

We have all heard it, probably more than once. As much as us girls like getting our way, we love it when guys put in the effort when courting us. So when they ask us what we want to do on a date, that they asked us on, we tend to feel a little deflated.

But luckily for all the guys out there, I made a list of some great, inexpensive, and fun date ideas to do. Now, they don't have an excuse to use, and they can use this as a cheat sheet. And of course, it starts with building a blanket fort (because what girl doesn't want to go on a cute blanket fort date?).

1. Build a fort with pillows and blankets, and watch a serial killer marathon while eating pizza rolls.

2. Go to a bookstore and leave notes to future readers in copies of your favorite books.

3. In the middle of the night, go to your towns best sunrise watching area so you get to see the sunrise. Bring your favorite breakfast food to eat.

4. Go thrifting and find the most ridiculous and cutest outfits for each other. Buy either one and wear it out to dinner.

5. Do goat yoga with each other.

6. Go to your local farmers market, buy fresh produce and flowers, and go home and make dinner with the ingredients you bought.

7. Buy the biggest puzzle you can find at Goodwill and spend the day putting it together.

8. Go to a museum.

9. Go on a coffee hop around your city and find the best place to get a latte.

10. Go to different places around town, putting googly eyes on different things.

11. If you have journals, pull them out and read them to each other.

12. Go camping in the backyard. Roast marshmallows, eat takeout, and tell ghost stories (or watch a horror movie).

13. Wash the car together.

14. Watch a documentary together.

15. Give each other $5 and see who can find the coolest thing in a thrift store, and then buy it.

16. Go to Target together and browse through all the aisles.

17. Go paint pottery together, then exchange them.

18. Go on a bike ride together.

19. Dress up and go to a musical you've never heard of/never seen before.

20. Buy canvases and paint each other a picture.

21. Go to the zoo.

22. Ride the light rail and get off at a random stop and pick out your date place according to where you are.

23. Go to a bookstore and pick out a book for each other. Cozy up and read them in each other's presence.

24. Go to the rich neighborhoods and look at all the pretty houses, creating your own dream home.

25. Grab a penny and get in the car. Choose a number between 10-20, which will be the number of times you flip the penny. Get on the road and flip the coin. Heads is right, tails is left. Every time you come to an intersection flip the penny and turn that way. Once you get to the number, stop, and make a date where you are.

26. Blindly scroll through Pinterest for a dinner idea and whatever you stop on, you have to try to make.

27. Road trip to a weird tourist spot in your town/city/state. Make each other playlists with songs that remind you each of each other.

28. Go on a double date with the best friend and significant other.

29. Take old, unwanted books, and make black out poetry together. It can be serious, sad, funny, weird, etc.

30. Go hiking and have a picnic.

31. Volunteer at an animal shelter.

32. Go fruit picking.

Cover Image Credit: Clem Onojeghuo

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An Open Letter To The Girl In A Toxic Relationship Who Doesn't See The Signs To Let Go

"it took letting go to realize that I was holding onto nothing" -R.H Sin

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Dear you,

I hope you're doing well. I once thought I was too. I once thought that if he would just change, for me, everything would work. However, my sweet girl, you should not have to change people, you should not have to push people to be better, for you. You cannot help anyone, that does not want to help themselves.

In the movies, we learn to love a bad boy that needs changing. However, it isn't always your job to be boys saving grace. However, his shaming and emotional abuse is not just something you should put up with so that you can love him. That is not loving.

Love is not a constant competition of who could belittle the other one first. Love is not asking for a hug and being told no. Love does not make you feel stupid for bringing up things that hurt your feelings.

Love does not grow angry because you talk to your mom about your feelings. Love does not body shame. Love does not constantly change the passcode to their phone.

Love does not laugh when you find out they're unfaithful. Love does not tell you that you are not smart enough to accomplish anything. Love does not force their hand up your thigh when the words "no" slip out of your mouth.

Love is the warmth of a hand on your cheek when you get anxious. Love is getting your backpack out the car for you. Love is turning around when you need them. Love compromises.

Love is encouraging. Love is proud. Love is forgiving. Love sees you for who you are. Love knows you are worthy.

God is your Father and you are His daughter, so do not believe for one second that this abuse is the love you think you deserve.

Love will not always be easy. Love will be challenging and a constant prayer to not anger so quickly.

However, do not mix up challenging with the abuse. If you are losing the good pieces of yourself, then it isn't love. I know that you put a lot of time and effort into this relationship, but it is no good, you are holding on to someone whose heart is not in the right place to love you.

I connected with a poem from R. H. Sin, once I left my toxic relationship which reads, "it took letting go to realize that I was holding onto nothing."

Darling girl, you are so loved by so many people, do not let this relationship hold you back or make you feel less worthy than you are. I have always been the girl with her nose stuck up in the air smelling for smoke, to follow the trail to a burning house to find a boy that needed saving, but it is more than likely a boy that lit the fire in the first place and needs changing.

So, do not be me, be better. Be the girl that lights her own world on fire, for her work, for her family, for God. You are you and you are amazing, so do not fear being without him.

You will feel as if you have come up for air after drowning in an ocean that you had no idea you were swimming in.

The emotional abuse that this boy has put you through and maybe even physical abuse will leave you building walls around your heart. It will make other relationships hard, but you are so so strong.

You will meet someone that makes you so happy and feel so easy to love, you will never understand how you stuck around with the one that hurt you for so long.

You deserve to grow from this, and I promise you will.

Let go.

xoxo,

The girl who learned from a toxic relationship

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Being Far Away From My Boyfriend Actually Strengthened Our Relationship Instead Of Forcing It Apart

While we were apart, we became closer.

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Before I really start this article, I just want to say that my relationship isn't truly a long distance relationship. We are both college students at the same university eight months out of the year, but the other four months we live quite a distance apart. Even during those four months, we are only about 150 miles from each other as the bird flies, but really about three hours from each other.

Being in a relationship where I'm not able to see my boyfriend every day or even every week has been a real challenge. But it's been a good challenge. It hasn't been a challenge because I've felt unfaithful or fallen out of love with him in any way. It's challenging because I miss him. We both work jobs and our schedules aren't the same and oftentimes we aren't able to talk to each other unless it's early in the morning or late at night. There are times when all I want to do is talk to him and tell him about how my day went and get a big bear hug from him. Unfortunately, I'm not really able to do this.

I firmly believe that being apart from each other for days, weeks, or even months have brought us closer than we could've ever imagined. We knew that this would be difficult, and we knew that there would be bad days, but we decided to power through it. It has made each time that we are able to see each other so much more special and meaningful.

Seeing each other has become more of spending time with each other than just laying around on the couch playing around on our phones. It's become really getting to know each other better and catching up on all the things we had missed. It's become a time for us to simply be in each other's presence and enjoy being able to talk face to face without a phone in the middle of us. We go on more adventurous dates, we take more pictures, and I think we would both easily say that we fall more and more in love with each other after each opportunity we have to spend time together.

Spending time together is no longer a daily activity, but it has become a right to be earned through hard work and several paychecks as travel can become expensive. We no longer take opportunities to see each other for granted, and it has made us grow closer because we aren't able to spend time together often. We look forward to the days when we won't have to worry about being apart but know that this is only a stepping stone in our relationship.

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