15 Reasons You Shouldn't Be Afraid To Date The Old-Fashioned Girl

15 Reasons You Shouldn't Be Afraid To Date The Old-Fashioned Girl

Actually, you should be thrilled.

Most men, especially in today's dating scene, stray away from the "old-fashioned" girls, but other men might actually prefer them. Despite what you may be thinking, dating an old-fashioned kind of gal actually has many perks. Sure, we aren't always up to date on the latest trends and we may be a little quirky, but you'll learn to love us. In fact, just the other day, I asked my boyfriend of almost two years, "Hey, do you think I'm kind of old-fashioned?"

He responded, "Yes and I love it."

Are you contemplating dating an old-fashioned girl and need to know what it'll be like? Are you currently dating one? Are you not quite sure if you're dating one and want to find out? Are you a girl trying to figure out if you're considered "old-fashioned" in today's dating scene?

If you're dating an old-fashioned chick or just really want to know what it would be like to date one, there are 15 indisputable qualities that make old-fashioned ladies stand out from the rest:

1. She will be a fabulous cook.

Waffles in the morning? Sure. Spaghetti for dinner? No prob. Homemade pie for dessert? You got it.

2. She will respect herself.

You definitely won't see her posting revealing photos on Instagram. She's not a sloppy drunk. She doesn't have to be seen by everyone. She will only give her time to those who deserve it. She won't put up with any nonsense.

3. She will respect you.

Your life. Your friends. Your family. Your belongings. Your thoughts. All of it.

4. She will be simplistic.

She doesn't need a big fancy date. She doesn't need fancy gifts.

5. So, the little gestures are the ones that mean the most.

Just flowers and maybe a big smooch.

6. She'll have a cute, weird, kinda vintage wardrobe.

A paradoxical mixture of 1950's housewife and 1970's hippy. Kind of weird, but kind of perfect.

7. She will have high expectations for your relationship.

She will want you to be respectful, hardworking, and committed. But, she won't ask you to be anything she isn't. She'll be respectful, hardworking, and committed, too.

8. She will have the lamest jokes and use the weirdest words.

Nevertheless, she will be fabulous.

9. Family will mean everything to her.

So respect them and love them, too.

10. She doesn't need to be seen by everyone.

Just by you and the ones who matter.

11. She will have a genuine heart.

Compassion will be her thing.

12. She will be introspective.

She will be able to reflect on herself and your relationship with the greatest of ease. She's always thinking of ways she can improve.

13. She will keep her mind busy with healthy habits.

And that helps a healthy relationship blossom.

14. She won't give in to social norms.

She's not a cliché. And you shouldn't treat her like one.

15. She will have fun.

After all, old-fashioned doesn't mean boring.

Ya gotta love us old-fashioned gals.

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I Was Cheated On, But It Brought Me A Sense Of Relief

Don't get me wrong, I'm still heartbroken.

I dated him for over two years.

We did everything together.

I entered a different world when I laid in his arms, felt his touch, and kissed his electric lips.

It was amazing. It was beautiful. He was my first true love.

But…something always felt off.

From the day we started dating, I had a feeling that something wasn’t right, but I pushed it back, wayyyy back, because my love for him was stronger than I had ever felt before. But then, as time passed, although my love remained, that uneasy feeling grew. In fact, it grew so much, that I couldn’t push it back anymore.

A year ago was when I started realizing that I was becoming more unhappy. It just didn’t feel right sometimes, and I couldn’t figure out what exactly it was. There were magical days, but there were also devastating days. He would say things, and I would wonder, “Why would he say that to me?” but I brushed it off. I kept silent. I didn’t want to lose him and his love for me.

As college started, the feeling grew. I found myself more unhappy than I had ever been with him—I just didn’t want to admit it to myself. One day, I found myself lost and in tears. I prayed to God and I asked him for a sign, to show me if I should be in this relationship or not.

One hour later, I got a direct message from a girl. It said:

“I hate to be the one to tell you this, but I would want to know if my boyfriend cheated on me, so please text this number."

Want to know the craziest thing? Above and beyond feeling the immense pain, I felt a greater sense of relief, like a huge weight had been lifted off my shoulders.

It’s been 11 days since we have officially been broken up. And yes, It hurts. It hurts a lot. I wake up every day with a pit in my stomach, because for the first time in over two years, I am alone. Not completely alone of course, but my other half is missing.

I walk around campus constantly being reminded of him by the simplest of things. Where we used to eat, his favorite songs, what he used to say, wear, and do. Anything really, my mind finds a way to bring it back to him.

Heartbreak is exactly what it sounds like. I feel like my heart is shattered. I have little motivation to do my work and I cry, a lot. I'm not going to sugar coat it and say it's easy because it's not. Breaking up with him was probably the hardest thing I’ve ever done.

The thing is, yes, I feel sad, and yes, it hurts. But for the first time in forever, I am hopeful for the future. I am optimistic about my life and what will come from this monumental battle.

I still think of him every day, but I know one day I will wake up and he won’t be on my mind.

And when that day comes, a new journey begins.

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If You’re Grossed Out By Me And My Boyfriend Kissing Goodbye, You Need A Reality Check

We shouldn't be shut down for loving each other.

You see it all the time. A couple goes to give each other any form of affection and the crowd around them goes wild. Throwing phrases like, "gross," "I just threw up a little," "get a room," and more. These comments leave the couple feeling uncomfortable with their actions of just showing love for one another.

Why is this the natural response when two people in love are showcasing their love?

I do see certain points. The couples all over each other (making out, grabbing any part of the body they can reach, without even stopping for air) can get overwhelming and highly inappropriate. Those are the moments where I myself get grossed out.

There are moments and times for examples of affection. Where you become heavily attached to one another, that's more so for private places to be shared with just the two of you. If a couple decides to give each other a kiss goodbye as they part ways, they shouldn't feel reprimanded for doing so.

I kiss my family members on the cheek when I say hello, as well as when I say goodbye. Why is kissing my boyfriend goodbye any different?

Then comes the displays of affection that don't even involve any physical affection. As a writer, I enjoy writing about the experiences my boyfriend and I share.

I write about those experiences for quite a few reasons, some being to have another way of showcasing my appreciation for him, to give advice to other couples who share similar feelings/experiences, and to give hope to those who are still searching for that special someone and more.

Showing love for one another is something we all need to do more. This world is so filled with hatred and anger. Kindness and love, even in small attributes can go a long way.

I also know that the world can be a scary place. Things can change and anything can happen in the blink of an eye. While it isn't always the best way to think, I could lose him at any given time. I would much rather "be gross" and show as much affection to him as I can than not and regret not doing it more.

The jokes can be funny at times when coming from close friends. But there comes a time when it begins to bother the couple. They shouldn't have to feel anxious when it comes to showing their affection to one another just because other people are around. Give them a break and let them be in love.

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